robowarrior

Well, first things first, you have to give yourself time to heal, and pick up the broken pieces of your heart and glue them back together. Then you have to replace your ex gf with a new gf. Its over with the old ,in with the new. Stand up for your future , and go for gold in your life. First take care of yourself before you go back into the whole dating scene. Stop treating yourself so horribly. Focus on progress, and being the best possible man you can be.

You aren't being honest against yourself or to these 2 guys. Sometimes both choices are bad , and this is where it is the case that neither guys are good for you. You don't love the guy that you are currently with. And you can't have a long term relationship or future with the guy that you do love. So leave both of them, and find a guy that can have a long term future with you, and who you love to pieces.

Buy her a promising ring, in which you promise you will marry her one day. It doesn't matter wether it will work out in the future or not, it matters that you give her a clear signal about you two HAVING a future instead of not, or in other words. Secure her insecurities.

Only involve yourself with a partner that you love.

Ask him out directly in his face, guys don't understand subtle signals, your wasting your time if you don't ask directly (who knows how many years it would take if you never take the initiative) and its a win win situation for you, if you ask him out and he says no, then you can move on with your life, if he says yes you got a date.

Look , its out of your hands. Wether he wants to stay with you or not is his decision. He accepted you for who you are,and if he doesn't , bad luck for him. But if he does , then you have to accept that he accepts you. Stop hesitating and go for gold in your life.

Don't care about the age gap, if you two are compatible then don't layer your love for eachother with all kinds of conditions. Its hard to find someone who you are on equal terms with, as i see it , she is it, so don't turn back and just go for gold in your life.

Or in other words , they like you for your looks and not for who you are as a person, which is bad news to say the least. This because that means they are people who are layering a person with conditions before they love them. Although its very rare to find someone who unconditionally loves you, its just important that you understand the shallowness that goes along with it. That one guy that dumped you on valentines is not even worth wasting your breathe on, this because anyone who dumps you on a special occasional day, is just a horrible individual. They do this , because they know it will extra hurt you. Keep on going for gold in your life, however be like a castle gate, close yourself to bad people/things/events and only open yourself to good people/things/events.

Look, in both cases its NOT your fault. You are simply the victim of other people's bad and selfish behaviour. If i was your friend and broke the thing, i would say to myself ' yep, i broke it unfortunately but i'll pay it back' And that guy, it doesn't matter how much he is ripped or how handsome he is. Its about the person that is inside that counts, and to me he was very sketchy about the whole thing. If one thing partners should be honest to eachother, and have nothing to hide. The only reason he wouldn't tell, is because he has something to hide, namely that he's also going out with another girl. And that is not so suprising , having so many girls drewling all over you, he's taking the situation into his own hands, and you already saw how much he liked to have things in control. So basically you are all depressed and sad for no reason, why? because your friend isn't a real friend, and that guy isn't suitable for dating. The whole friends w/benefit things is useless and even more meaningless. You need to be like a castle gate, close yourself to bad people/things/events, and open yourself up to good people/things/events, if your letting in bad people in your life like you have, then its like allowing the enemy into your own castle, it will only bring havoc and your castle to ruins. So be carefull with whom you let yourself involved next time. There is no failure except in no longer trying. There is no defeat except from within, no really insurmountable barrier save our inherent weakness of purpose. So keep on going for gold in your life, it was wrong to expect things to work out, always keep in mind that stuff might not work out, but that doesn't mean you need to stop trying. The person who takes the initiative , wins!!!

Are you so easily influenced by a friend that puts an idea in your head? Its seems that he made you realise that you should be angry on your girlfriend, but since you are unable to be angry at her, you became angry at yourself because you defended her bad behaviour, because she led you to believe she was trustworthy, now that the bubble has popped it all became an explosive situation. You dealt with the situation, but your friend triggered the explosives that where piled up in your head. You are long beyond the stage that within the relationship dismay/anger displayed would have had an effect, bad or good effect not sure but getting angry now is just absurd. Why? Because you know its over, and in a possible future relationship, you will always have to be at least 1% sceptical about the situation, that door of distrust a little bit open so that you won't be completely blinded by love next time when you commence a relationship.

You should value it if she is completely honest with you, and if she was lying ,well you wouldn't want to be in a relationship with a liar anyway. So either way it was the best thing for both of you. Although i know you want to be with her, it has to go both ways. And if she doesn't have time to invest into the relationship between you two due to stress reasons, then it wouldn't been healthy to step into a relationship at all.

Couples are supposed to make eachother happy, so only bring love and light into eachothers lives. If you want excitement back you two should go out and do fun stuff together. Being bored is also a valid reason to step out of the relationship, its not nice if you aren't amused at all in the relationship. So from time to time you have to do something creative and entertaining to recandle the fire in the relationship.

To prevent lonelyness, you have to step towards the people. Act like a castle gate only let good people/things/events into your life, and prevent bad people/things/events from coming into your life. Reality is that people won't step in your life just because you exist. All the people who stay indoors will never meet eachother, all the people who go to a club/bar/disco will meet eachother. So the reason that you don't find your kind isn't because they don't exist, its because they also shut themselves out from other people. And if no one is going to enter your life out of their own movement, then you have to take action to meet new friends. (good friends that is, and not the ones who'd get you into drugs,acohol,or smoking)

*speaks illigaly on behalf of Enotalone) Thank you =) lol

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Woman change their minds like the weather, so just let her go since she has free will to do whatever she wants, however don't wait on her and date other people.

Take him back with you to Canada, ask him if he's interested in migrating and marrying you.

Don't make your heart a murder hole, come here to vent every now and then.This because your anonymous here,so there's no need for embarresment in posting.

You need to bring your life into calmer waters. Like a farmer, if you put too much hay on your fork the load becomes to heavy and you will fall. Every situation in life is only temporarily, one day you will move out, one day you will be in a relationship and one day you will finish college. So eventually your life will swing into another direction, however you have to make choices to go into the right direction. So there is the list you mentioned that provides you with pressure. -School -Weight -Relationships If you imagine you where walking on a 50 mile journey on the same road, in a straight line. then at 32 miles you'd say, nothing changed, its still the same road,and the end does not seem in sight. However you and i know that once those 50 miles have been walked you will come at a crossroad for your life, taking you into new directions. So hang on, even tho its hard. These are investments for your future, blow off steam in the weekends to release some pressure, however don't get into any trouble. If you aren't allowed to go out, do yoga and meditation. Come to ease with yourself , and those couple of hours where you can let go of all of your worries, will be very important to you, which you should stimulate on a continues basis for as long as you live. About your weight, its actually not about your weight. Its about you who are dissatisfied with yourself no matter what weight you would have, you do this because you don't love yourself. If you did you could stand in front of the mirror and say ' Im satisfied with who i am' So you definitly need to learn to love yourself, and you know school, its just a formality. Getting good grades and leaving school with a diploma, not because your parents want it or your teacher want it. In the FULL knowledge that your investing into your own life, and that its for your own good, and for your own future you goto school. Every time you feel pressurized say to yourself 'im doing this for myself and not for anyone else' That way you come to the realisation that your life is your responsibility, and not anyone elses. We can only offer a helping hand, but you are the one who needs to climb out of the pit. Just keep looking up to the see the light. Keep working on your grades, delay the relationship and be satisfied with who you are.

The situation is unhealthy and disturbing to say the least. Your sister is in a unhealthy and disfunction relationship which she immediately needs to leave. The guy that she current is with is only for replacement sake in order not to make her feel lonely, of course it couldn't replace her original husband no matter how hard he tried. Worse then that by abusing her its making her mental state into even more chaos then it already is. What your sister needs is not a relationship, she needs a psychiater,and admittance to some mental institution. And you need to leave this to medical professionals instead of trying to solve this for yourself. The mess that your sister is in is just too deep, and that you want to help and support your sister is great, but not if you destroy yourself in the process. The psychiater needs to make your sister realise that its over between her and her husband and that she needs to take a new (yet healthy) route to go on for her life.

Its probably just inexperience, with some practise im sure you'll get the hang of it.

What helps is raising your voice, continue to speak asif they aren't talking and get your message thru. By the way people who are rude/mean to you aren't friends.

She's your ex, what do you have to worry about what they are doing? Let it go, and move on with your life and find a new significant person in your life.

You made your decision, you don't want to be with her. Don't rip up open wounds and initiate contact again. If you don't want her in your life block her out 1000%

Anyone who dumps you on a special occasion like christmas,valentines,new years eve is a horrible individual and not worth wasting your breathe on. You see these kind of people dump you on a special occasion because they know it will hurt you extra hard. In any case its his loss, and although its ok if you will keep on loving him forever, its important for you to understand that that relationship was at a dead end road, and that you can only turn your car around and head back to the mainway of life, and find yourself a new road and a new person who does consider you as their nr.1 in life. To who you can give and receive love back from.