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  1. So basically I’ve been chasing this guy who is 16 years older than me and has a rock band for like 7 months. We met in August then I haven’t seen him till October. In October I went to his cafe so many times and I also went to the bars he performed but never got the chance to talk to him and he never talked me. Then one day I think it was in December he came to me at his cafe and talked to me. After that day we always talk whenever we see each other. I flirted with him couple of times.(not too obviously). He even flirted me a little. We follow each other on instagram. Last month I went to another city just to go the bar he performed.(He doesn’t know that I changed the city for him). Even there he hugged me tight. He came he to me immediately after he saw me. That was the last time I saw him. But the problem is we only talk when we see each other. Like if I stop going to the bars and the cafe we would never talk again. I don’t know how to get closer to him. I don’t want to be too predictable. I want him to think about me. And I think that if I be more unpredictable, I can seduce him and make him write to me on instagram. Please give me some advice. He has so many girls my age around him but I don’t want to be one of those girls I want a real relationship with him.
  2. After a second date with a girl we went back to my place. I was drunk and she agreed to kiss. It got pretty confusing not too long after, though, because as we were making out, she seemed to be enjoying it. So I (happily) continued, and she quietly said "no." I got really confused, but continued making out. We then paused but I talked her into making out again. She then kissed me and we started kissing again but also quietly said "no" every now and again, which continued to confuse me immensely. She then stopped again, mentioned she had a boyfriend and left my place. We went for a walk after but did not talk about the situation, and when talking along the way she seemed happy to be with me and there was no tension whatsoever, but when saying goodbye she offered me a handshake but I hugged her instead. In hindsight I should have apologized during our conversation but since there was no tension and she didn't seem upset with me or bring up the situation and my intentions, I thought everything was okay. I followed up the next morning by sending her a good morning text with a couple of love heart emoji's maybe as a way of letting her know I wasn't just looking for sex, she read it but didn't respond. I didn't get the chance to apologize and I didn't want to leave the situation up in the air, of course, so some days after, I sent her two messages days apart saying along the lines of "Are you okay?", she didn't respond. I'd never been in a situation like this before, and in the past when I'm with a girl, she either gave me clear signals to proceed or else clear signals to stop. I really wasn't sure how to handle it, and I think I made my first mistake there. I continued kissing her and talked her into kissing again after she stopped. I think that if I had a chance to do this again, I'd just stop and ask outright for clarity on the situation before I either proceeded or stopped, but I suppose hindsight is 20/20. Instead, I continued making out with her. Eventually I asked if she wanted to just make out (implying no sex) and she very emphatically said "NO!" After she didn't read or respond to my texts, I sent a text apologizing that I didn't mean to make her feel uncomfortable but she never read it. I felt (and continue to feel) terrible about how badly I misread the situation. The conversation remained light the whole way before saying "good night." I started writing this post to ask the community if they feel there is any way to salvage the situation? I know I blew it since she ghosted me, but after a few months has past, maybe the unfavorable impression of how the night ended has subsided and she would be willing to hear or read my apology. Would it be better if I pick up the phone and call her to see whether she's interested in getting back to the way things were? In the meantime, I suppose I learned some lessons about making sure I'm reading the signals correctly, and asking for clarification when I get mixed messages. I suppose now the real reason I'm writing this up is just to get it off my chest, so that I can (hopefully) stop replaying my misstep in my head and just learn from my mistakes and move on. And if you're still reading at this point, I sincerely thank you for sticking with it! Now I just have to trust that things will work out however they're meant to, whether that means a reunion or that I'll never see this woman ever again.
  3. Hello, I have been dating a guy (28 years old) for 3 months, he asked me to be his gf recently. He is treating me very well but he constantly follows new naked insta models. These girls are people that he cant meet obviously but the problem is I find the fact that he is following and constantly seeking out naked woman very disrespectful. Also, the fact that he told me he will only have eyes for me and I will see with time that I can trust him, but despite saying these, him following these accounts doesnt look good to me at all. I am conflicted. On one side: - I know that guys and girls can look at other people and find otehrs attractive while in relationship too. I follows celebrities and footballers that I find attractive. But I wouldnt follow D... pictures on social media especially when I was in a relationship. It would be disrespectful to my bf and I am sure he would be worried if he saw my social media activity following bunch of accounts with d... pics. I find him following naked insta models on insta totally disrespectful. And He appears as a thirsty guy in my eyes now, who is constantly seeking out naked woman (but again I dont know if this is normal for men). - Indeed, before meeting him i've always wondered how my friends or other girls put up with such disrespectful treatment. I always told myself I would never be with someone who disrespects me like that. (Plz correct me if I am being so harsh). - So, since it has been only 3 months, I am considering to end the relationship by saying something like "we are not compatible" and continue dating and choose to be with someone who wont do that. Because I think that if I try to talk to him about his social media activity, I might appear as a controling person. Also, I dont want to tell him what to do. If he is happy following these women, he should. I shouldnt be preventing him. It shouldnt be a forced decison, it should come naturally from him. Perhaps he is not done exploring? On the other hand: - I am thinking about keeping it very simple and telling him: "I know its normal for both man and woman to look at other man and woman and find others attractive but following these accounts and constantly seeking out naked woman is disrespectful." I will also tell him that I always told myself I would never put up with such activity in a relationship and see what he will say and take it from there. -- I dont know which option is better. I feel that this relationship has a potential if we could get past the insta issue. Also, the reason why I posted here is, I want to get more opinions. Perhaps, I am overreacting and being overly jealous? Perhaps I should change the way I think about the whole thing? For instance, some people might say he is a men and men are visual, so if he is loving and caring and making me feel beautiful, loved etc, I shouldnt worry about social media. But on the other hand, his social media activity is not making me feel respected. Also is it really healthy to lust over others when in a relationship with someone you claim you care about? I would appreciate your opinions, what should I do?
  4. Sometimes it gets the best of me and I find it very hard to not compare. Advice? I'm seeing a really lovely guy atm and can't complain. However, whenever he follows someone mildly attractive I do get a bit jealous and find myself comparing. Any tips?
  5. I thought I would give a go at this journaling thing. My friends do not partake in online dating and I don't really get feedback from anyone that does. Mostly my friends shake their heads and ask `why?' I've been out of a relationship since May '14 and without rehashing all that has transpired I will say that online dating has changed considerably in the past 3 years. I've taken several breaks, mostly after meeting men looking for casual sex and men who are too afraid to put themselves out there and seem to put me in the drivers seat to pursue them and breath life into the situation. Neither of which I am comfortable with. I am a young (as so I am told) 50 something yr old professional with a rich social life, so I am definitely not lonely. If I sense there is no momentum in a man that I meet I am quick to let it go seeing that I don't have a lot of free time and being with my friends is often a much better option. After my last fail .. well I can't really call it a failed attempt, maybe a valuable lesson with dating someone I mentioned here in previous posts, that I had dated earlier this year and he made a return visit in Oct. He is clearly not ready for a relationship but I am very taken by him and we have amazing chemistry. With that being said he is dating others and at some point these things run their course and I opted out, not wanting to be part of the `rotation' and finding myself engaging in an intimate relationship with someone I did not have a commitment with. Mind you this is the first time in my life I tried to do this and much like I already knew I am not cut out for it. He still texts once in a while and says he misses me, but it messes with my emotions so the more distance I get the better. I wish things were different . . but it is what it is. To keep my sanity during that time I continued to date others (not intimately) and the pace was wearing on me and creating all sorts of unneeded anxiety. During the holidays I pulled my profile but continued to communicate with one person who's schedule is opposite of mine for the time being so meeting was a challenge. During my time off during the holidays we met for breakfast and as much as I really didn't want to go, I was pleasantly surprised. Now 3 dates later my current challenge is to see if this man can open up and let me in. Apparently I make him very nervous and at times he shuts down. I tried dating someone like him sometime ago and I thought in time he might let me in. After several weeks I realized it was never going to happen. What I do like about my new friend is that he has some old school values much like mine, maybe a little more conservative. He noticed I pulled my profile (only for a break) and pulled his as well saying he typically only dates on person at a time to see where it goes. It's nice to not have to interpret someone's intentions and refreshing to know I am not part of someone rotation. We haven't so much as held hands yet which builds up that anticipation part that seems to be so fun and he's a good `dater'. I have met so many men who don't know how to date. .funny as that sounds, but true. I am enjoying this. He is showing me that he does have sense of humor and enjoys giving me a hard time (playfully) I am optimistic that there is someone that I am able to connect with behind the shyness. He has assured me that he is typically not this way and has promised to open up. I still have another friend I will see tonight. T and I have been dating for about 3 months now and as much as I like and I am attracted to him I just don't think we are relationship material. He's gone most weekends to see his son 8 hours away. He's so sweet and endearing but not very active, pretty much a couch kinda guy, very Christian and not much of a social drinker. (my social circle is!) He has a very naïve almost immature quality to him but I feel safe and cared for with him. I often wish I could see him as someone more than a friend but that certain quality is lacking. I don't see him often and have opted out a couple times lately, but I am looking forward to catching up tonight. So this it. . at least for now. I see my shy friend this weekend. M has invited me for a day trip to the local mountains and I am looking forward to it. For now my profile is down . .tomorrow who knows!?
  6. So this is an interesting story. I went on a forum last year because I was struggling with loneliness and depression. I just expected to talk to people and help them with their problems. What I didn't expect was to find a true friend! We became buddies over the course of our messages and we genuinely care about each other. I've even met him on Zoom so I know he's legit. He's the kind of person I know I can depend on even though we live in totally different states. Originally, he found me attractive. While I was flattered because I had never gotten male attention like that before, I knew I didn't feel the same way in return so we've just stayed friends. That hasn't changed for me, but I want to know, do you have a friend that finds you attractive but you don't feel the same about them? Are you still friends? And how do you deal with not reciprocating the feelings? Sometimes, I feel a little guilty, especially because he's a great person and I think he'd make a great partner. But I'm also glad I don't because I wouldn't want to lose my friend if a romantic relationship didn't work out.
  7. Hello everyone. First of all, I hope I don't sound too crazy, I really need to at least write this somewhere as it has been a bit of a problem for me lately. I'm a 22 years old guy, and I have never been very social, I do enjoy my personal time a lot as I have enough hobbies and responsibilities to stay busy. However it has been around 4 years that I've Had someone I constantly socialize with, my aunt. I moved here a few Years back and the only family is my aunt (35) she's also busy a lot, and I've been living with her since I was around 18, we Basically Share expenses and stuff like that and live in the same apartment, this is so we have an easier time with life. My problem isn't really financial or anything, in fact we have a very friendly relationship and we often have long talks which are super fun. She's like my only friend and likes me for what I am, the problem is either she is too affectionate and nice and I'm Confusing this as something else, or she actually likes me. You see, she's very affectionate with me, she treats me like a very close person, I'm very introverted, so I almost never initiate anything, she's always Trying to initiate things then. She Calls me cute names or gives me hugs and compliments, obviously As a family member right? But I'm so confused, I analyze her and it seems she does it out of that character, she's very touchy feely, Way more than me. She writes me long texts and is very supportive towards me, I'd be lying If some of her texts aren't a bit too cute for our relationship. From some time now, I think I have developed feelings for her, like, I'm attracted to her in a boyfriend / girlfriend way but I haven't said anything, and to be honest, I may also be attracted in a sexual way, but I feel so bad for this, it's Kinda disgusting. We have a comfortable zone but sometimes she's a bit too comfy, I'm the complete opposite of her regarding That, for example she often uses very light clothing (hot weather) or even walks by in underwear, where as I'm ashamed to even show some skin like arms or even being seen without shirt makes me feel uncomfortable. I've accidentally seen her body because she's literally so careless, me walking to do something and stumbling across her, and I just say I'm sorry and rush to somewhere Else, she just shrugs It off as something "That just happens". I'm very sorry for this, but she even leaves used underwear around, probably from when she's in a rush. And I once had thoughts About sniffing that, but I wasn't able to bring myself to do that. I love her as a lovely friend, but sometimes my body or bad side if my brain tells me otherwise. If anyone has any ideas on how to deal with this it would Be hugely appreciated, as I do not like any of this, I want to remain a sane person. Thank you in advance.
  8. My girlfriend and I have been together now for a little over 2 years. I can honestly say we have only really argued like 3 times in the past 2 years. Lately her best friend broke up with her b/f whom she had dated for about the same length as us. Well her friend started talking about how much fun it is being single again and my g/f wants to take a brek because of this. This is not the first time either, she also has another friend that cannot do much more than mess around with guys that has also tried persuaying her to "take a break" from me. How can I convince my g/f that its not a great idea? Also she seems to have a problem not knowing if other guys find her attractive, why this matters, i dont know, but I tell her all the time she is beautiful.
  9. hello. there is this girl i like.. we both go to different schools.. but were good friends because were on track team together and from elementury. Ive known her since 6 but i started really likeing her in grade 7 or 8. Our parents are also good friends so weve gone on trips together. But its hard to tell if she likes me because sometimes ill go to sit next to her or something and shell just leave, but then other times shell ask/tell me that i should come do something with her. She laughs at most my jokes (i think there funny) and shes funny too. any help would be great. thanks.
  10. say i like this girl but am not close to her at all, but my best fried is closer to her, so say in one of there classes he says tto her, you know he ( me) thinks your really cute, would you ever concider goin out with him one time? and say nothing more then that and then id take care of the rest im wondering if this will turn the girl off more then if i did it all but i figured it would be simpler this way so can you help me out do u think a teen girl would think of this as a turn off
  11. For a quick reference, here is my original post: link removed She called last night and it was definitely a friendly and decent call. She told me about all of the work she is doing and she is truly busy. Her father comes in next weekend, and she has all of next week off. At one point, I finally decided to ask her straight up, "are you still interested in me?" And without hesitation, she responded, "yes". She said if the roles were reversed it would have driven her crazy all week and she would have asked sooner. She did say that while she is interested in me, its not where her focus is right now. I respect that and told her. She really appreciated that. But one thing is that she did admit that she is still talking to another guy and has met him once. I didn't react, as we have been over this before and told her well given the uncertainty of my position, I am also keeping my options open. She said she understood. She told me that it was the same situation with him, not being able to keep in contact as much because of being busy. We are supposed to get together next week. It still bugs me though. She says she is looking for a committed relationship, says she likes me a lot and enjoys spending time with me, but wants to keep things open. I know its been only a month and she probably isn't sure about me yet, but for me, you meet someone, you like them, you give them a chance. You don't play the field. My plan? Continue to keep my options open, despite the fact that I really do like her. Don't put too much energy into this until she is able to reciprocate fully. And I won't sleep with her again unless we become exclusive. I also will see how I am feeling about things next week. If it is still a problem with me, I'll tell her. She could lose out big time. Because I am the real deal!
  12. I'm inlove with a guy who is a good friend and he is also married. we have so much in common, and we get along good together. I dont see him as often as I used to because we dont work together anymore, I transferred out of his division because I didnt want complications like him finding out how i felt. We live in the same town and occasionally see each other shopping. I miss his smile and his easy going style, I miss being close to him. its been over a year since we worked together and I still have feelings for him what do I do??
  13. Hey everyone: This pass year, this girl be starring at me. She starred at me for like 1 year, so after that year, I ask her for her email address. Yes we be emailing each other alot. Everytime when we meet in person, or pass by the hallway, we usually look at our eyes before we say hi or talk. Last week, over instant messenger, one of my friend found out that I like her; so he told her over instant messenger that I like her. He told me that she said good stuff about me (like i'm nice, smart, funny, cool, etc...). I really don't know what to do next? Should I ask her out? Does she likes me? Thank you...
  14. I just met a girl online and I thought her personality was awesome and we got along really well and clicked in my mind. I met up with her in person the other day and she was cute but I wouldn't say I was totally physically attracted to her. I guess no one can really answer this, but down the road in a relationship how important is physical attraction? I don't want to seem shallow but I guess it matters a little bit to me, maybe she will begin to look more attractive over time as I get to know her personality more. I wasn't totally unattracted to her, I kinda think she was just really shy around me and I feel confused about how I feel about her, because before I definitely liked her. I don't know, any help? I feel really shallow for posting this but I'm wondering.
  15. Hey, all, umm...I haven't really talked much about this girl...surprisingly b/c I'm like 99.9% sure she really likes me hah...but I still have a problem. Her and I hung out a few days ago, and had a pretty good time...now she was kinda sick, but not contagious...heh, but yea, I just kinda kept her company I guess you could say and watched some movies with her. Now the problem is....I'm pretty sure I can pick up on signals that maybe she'd want to kiss or something like that.....but the problem is....I've never kissed...yea....and she's much more experienced. So how do I....how can I..god I don't even know how to ask this...what's she gonna think??? It's not really my idea to care exactly what she thinks of me, but more like....how do I let her know I'm inexperienced w/o saying that I've never been kissed? Cuz I seriously dont know...what to do if it came to that....b/c I don't know if I want to say that. Thanks all...I guess what I'm asking is what do girls think about this really...or guys that have been in this position.
  16. Well two things here. one which i've asked mates but dont really understand. 1) my ex recently has been talking to me a lot more. boefore it would be me starting themsn convo's and stuff but recently shes been doing it a lot. and when the conversation died she randomly said 'guess what, i bought a hat'. so i thought i must be back in again as we are goin to the same college next year(we currently goto diffrent schools and live 15 miles apart). then she tells me she has a bf.(thats the first one since we split up 5 months ago) ah even since then she has contiuned talking to me more. this really confuzzled me. like i said ive asked mates(inc one who is like her best friend) but they just said that she wants 2 b friends. but we never really talked before so why has she started now? also i sent her a letter sayin how i felt basically and im not sure if she got it but if she did then she's ignored it becasue we've talked since but she didnt say anything. 2) there is also one of her friends who ive been texting quite a lot (about 100 msgs in about a week ) and from that i got the impression she like me. but ive never actully met her so on sunday we went up to london with a few of her mates, one of which i know and she is trying to set us up(she didnt it to me last time with the my ex above), but when we were wondering around(shopping for dresses) we didnt really talk much. i've been told shes shy but she didnt seem that shy really. so what should i think? is it because we were out with her friends maybe? i'm gonna try and see if we could go out togehter. i did before and she said yes but her mum wouldnt let her cos she had work to do. so what to do? i think(hope) that im gonna start goin out with the second girl and see how things go. but i dunno wot to do about the first one cos im still in love with her.
  17. If you could please read an earlier post of mine you could get some more background. Called "This guy at my work" in attraction and flirting forum. Anyways I go to work in a couple of hours and I'm going to be working with "J" my coworker/friend that I like at work, later on in the day for three hours. This is the only day I will see him for this week and I want to ask him to Sadies. Sadies is a dance on March 11 where the girl is suppose to ask a guy. He doesnt go to my high school although his younger brother does. A couple of cashiers at work already know I like him so I cant back out. Two set backs would be that I was told he broke up with his girlfriend by one of the cashiers but I'm not sure if thats true, and I know he plays soccer so he might have a game on a friday night. There is also another girl at my work that likes him but I have to put that aside. I work at a grocery store and want to know how I should ask him to go with me. Should I write it out, pull him aside and ask him, or do something like call the service desk when he is standing there cause he always runs to be the one to answer the phone and ask him? Any other ideas, suggestions, opinions would be great. Today would be the day to ask him otherwise I would have to call or come in and ask, I need to find out cause the dance is next Friday. I've only been to one other dance in HS and that was Homecoming with some of my girl friends. I've never had a boyfriend or asked a guy to do something with me. I'm really nervous! Please, any advice would be appreciated...
  18. hey y'all.. i created a topic recently called how to know if a girl that's staring at you likes you.. whoever gave me feedback on that, i appreciate it.. one person made a good point about how i should get to know her first before askin her out b/c i might get shot down doin it that way.. my usual approach is say like if she's in a class i have and i've never talked to her, i'd say somethin like "so, how'd you do on that test?" then we'd exchange names, talk for a few, then i'd say, "hey, would u be cool with maybe gettin together sometime?" but i've had no luck, even with girls that looked like they were starin at me. it'd be one thing if i was like "yo, u wanna go on a date", but i figure that if the girl likes me, then the way i been doin it should be alright. some people i know have said that i should ask if i can call her sometime, but no matter how you slice it, the result turns out the same. do you guys, especially the girls, think that the way i've been askin is ok? thanks a lot..
  19. We've been pretty good friends for a while, and ever since october or so we've started to get really really close. Like close to best friends. I thought I may have envisioned it going further so I asked her what she thought and she said she felt that way too and thought that in a while she'd want to be with me. So I waited and was patient. About two weeks later we started talking about it again and what she said was really weird. She said that she realized that she was wrong and that she could never go out with me because her good friend was my ex gf. Also, she said she just doesnt like me in that way. But see in those 2 weeks, things just got even better. It was better than it ever was before and I'm sure she felt that way too. So i got kind of upset for a little bit, but I didn't go off on her or anything. Then about two weeks ago her and this kid started going out. Now he's kind of my friend I guess, but he rarely talks. I would say he's good looking, and he's sort of like this cult hero lol, like everyone says he's so cool as a half joke (he actually is cool though). I was really upset when she told me. She told me before that she wasn't sure if he liked her for the right reasons so she wasn't sure if she wanted to go out with him. She told me that if I didn't want her to then she wouldn't for me, but even though I didn't, I said that I was ok with it because it would make her happy. Since then things have been horrible. I've basically ignored her and haven't made any attempt to talk to her. But, for some reason today I gave her an amazing bday present that she really loved. I almost didn;t want to give it to her for some reason. So 2 weeks ago she said she'd ask me if I wanted her to break up with him and if I did then she would. She's going to ask me soon and I don't know what to say. I don't even understand what is really wrong with our friendship. If I say no, I don't want you to break up, then I'm afraid our friendship will keep being horrible and I won't be able to talk to her. But, if I say yes I do, then I'm afraid she would hold it against me and I would take away someone that really makes her happy from her. She's said I mean so much to her, more than her bf, and she would do anything for me if it meant keeping our friendship... It is a predicament nonetheless..
  20. ok heres whats happened, my mate told me 2 make a profile on 1 of these online sites, so i did , and ive had tons of adds from ppl on it, and alot from my hometown, some i kno, some i dont got the msn of 1 in particular as she seemed a nice person weve talked on msn for a wile now, and i dunno, shes a year younger than me, and we met online, so i find that kinda weird. just want to know what your opinions on it are. we dont really have a 'relationship' , she knows i kind of like her, and i ko she kind of likes me, she lives about 15 mins walking from my house. should i pursue this as a potential girlfriend, or just a friend. and what would be the best way of meeting her, as ive had a problem with this once, we both went to the same gig last sunday, and i said id come say hi if i saw her, which i didnt. later on msn she said she saw me, but was 2 shy 2 come over! what does this mean? if anything thanx,
  21. How much does a marriage depend on sex??? any married people want to help out with this??? ok you want to know the truth why?? There are two girls that really like me... and they both have different things about them that i find attractive... there is one with a very good body and good personality... but then there is the other with not such a good body... but a personality like no other... i dont know... i have a long time before i get married... but i was still just wondering how much marriage depends on sex... Thx for any help...
  22. Ok so now I'm TRYING to play hard to get, same guy as before, just now he knows I like him, it's up to him right?.. So yesterday we had our course, the other girl (who we're both friends with) asked if we'd like to go for a quick drink (we tend to do this after the course sometimes).. and "he" was standing next to her.. and I said, "Yeah... are you guys going?..." and looked at them both.. and then "actually no I'd better not.. i'm meeting my best friend..see you next week thought." So his reaction was a bit weird. Like a very short "ok. bye.".. like he was almost annoyed, maybe surprised is more the case? A few minutes later, he turns back to me and says, "do yuo need a lift to the station?" it was late at night and he's quite chivalrous, he always walks me when i have no one else to walk with.. but this time there's a whole grp of us.. and they'd already offered to drop me at the station.. so I said, no it's ok.. Should i take these as positive reactions to my playing hard to get? A) He shows concern, b) he's a bit surprised when I do say no.. Also he asked me A LOT of questions last night.. about my uni stuff that's stressing me out, he always asks me about things that i am stressing about, and tries to kinda reassure me.. Am I reading too much into it AGAIN? QM
  23. Ok this is a follow up to my last post so you may have to read my last post to understand this one. Yesterday my friend that i talked about was over at my house. we played basketball and talked a lot about everything. we are very open with eachother and talk about anything that is on our minds. when we were talking we were talking about how it's funny how people think we are going out. then she put her hand on my leg and i put my arm around her and held her and she put head on me. she was also rubbing my leg and touching my arm as well. and we both had no problem with it. so we sat there like this and we talked and had a great time. do you think these are signs that she likes me as more than a friend, she is one of my good friends so it could be friendly. also next time we are alone together should i try and kiss her? i do like my friend a lot and i just want to know if she is feeling the same way and if i should make a move.
  24. Ok this girl i had her in my class and i am really shy but i would look at her and she would be looking at me and would turn away quickly. Now i dont have her in my class but when we pass each other in the hallway she sees me looking at her shes then turns the other way and runs her hand through her hair. then this one time there is this glass window and when we passed i seen her through that glass looking at me. Does she like me and if she does i think she wants me to approch her. but i dont know how to without sounding dumb with what i say. So can i get some help?
  25. K thx 4 coming i need yalls help I know this girl for 2 years now. I really like here.We been good aquaintance friends and i enjoy being with her and i think she enjoys being with me.The other day she tells be she thinks im the funniest guy she knows.This is good but she is kinda shy and i dont do the whole flirting thing and i dont think she does either. Every girl ive ever asked out has always said no.Always something... Not to mention there is this guy trying to get with her.He is constantly around her and hes pissin me off.Because hes probly decreasing my chances.But i am the funny one. I wanna ask her out but i dont know if i should. 1 of my friends asked about 3 months ago if she liked me and she said no.Thats all i know.I dont know if her feelings changed or what.I know her pretty well. and we hav gone out to the movies with friends before AS FRIENDS. so what should i do? ask her out? Need help thx Update: Im gonna ask her out but now i dont know how or when.I know that i am going to.but im going with her to the movies this sunday with a few friends and the day after im gonna ask her out.But i was gonna ask her out to the movies!i dont know what i should say now.I dont want to ask her to go to the movies when we just went "as friends"!
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