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So I ended up pursuing that girl that said "No" after the first date. Yes, I know that shouldnt have done that and its way out of my comfort zone. I dont do that stuff ever, I dont overreach beyond just to be with somebody. Yet, this one was kinda special. Pretty nice girl, kinda snobish(old family name here in my town, overbearing mother that kinda wants to marry her good(read "for the rich guy")), has good job, at weekends she does specialization in her field etc. Now I am not that bad myself, have a decent freelancer gig, maybe in a few months start to work in my field of education so would have 2 sources of income, my family name is good also and even have a nice hous…

Hello. It has been a while since I posted and well just about 5 months ago I lost my supposed friend who claimed I was one of three friends he could count on, but after what happened I think the guy is not who he turned out to be. We were friends for about 10 years and was a integral part of my life. For the past six years his daughter would call my wife my mother and well this happened every time my wife would see her (She would only see them 2 to 3 times a year at most). My wife would blow it off as I would and I would even correct her that it is not correct and that she is my wife. Well finally my wife got to a point where she was so upset that I decided to talk to my …

Hi everyone! I am reaching out to get some outside advice about a problem I'm having with a friend of mine. I have a small group of friends and one of them I have known for almost 10 years. All the years I have known her, she has dated men who do not stick around for long. She gives them something that they want/need for the moment (in many more ways than what we are all thinking!) and then they leave her in the dust. Despite us warning her of red flags we might see, she always pins us as the bad guys and then something happens and we are stuck in a "We told you so." position. She has been with a new guy for maybe 6 months. We met him a few times and he seemed …

me and my friend both are 18 year old. i was saying not so nice things to my friend( i know i shouldn't have done that) then he goes home without saying anything then he sends me a song, writing down the lyrics : Long before we each said goodbye All our fights would make hate appear I don't know why those are the days I hold dear You taught me how to be so fearless Always pushing me further each day Saying You can overcome it all and find happiness along the way if you try ( sounded like he was sad/upset because of me or having a bad day) i asked him did i do something to upset you. he says shut up. you have been calling me something i didnt like. he once …

I've been living in a new place for 4 years and still haven't made any new friends here. Tried bumble for friends, had a nice chat with a few girls from the area who supposedly are looking for new friends but they never suggest to meet up. Tried suggesting it myself but didn't work. Sometimes wondering of they really are on the app to meet new people as it certainly doesn't seem like it. Met with 2 girls on 2 different occasions and we had a nice time but then they stopped replying to my messages. Recently tried bumble again and met with one girl. Again, we had a really nice time but the she ghosted me and even unmatched. That's really depressing, is…

During college I (M33) was pretty close to a couple of buddies (M34/M35) - we lived together, hung out together, the usual stuff. We kept in touch on and off after college but they stayed in the same city and state and met wives, had kids and settled down. I was best man at one of their weddings. While they were doing this, I lived and worked overseas and stayed single. I've since returned back to the same city/state as them but travel overseas a lot with work. I live downtown in an apartment and they live outside in smaller satellite towns with their families. For some time now, I've been struggling with the friendship. I feel like our lives have moved in diffe…

It's a regular friday night and I feel like venting so here we go! At school I'm quite sociable. I talk to many people and have a large amount of friends. Even to my acquaintances I'll wave and talk to them if they're lonely and will always include them in conversations but no one seems to do the same for me. When the teacher says to partner up, no one comes up to me first and I end up being picked if there's no one else left. When I had recess back in elementary school I'd always walk around so people could think I wasn't lonely. I only got asked to play with people a handful of times. I never got asked to have a playdate with my other classmates and the last time I…

So this is feels a bit dumb tbh, but I just wanna rant somewhere. I've not made long lasting friendships in school and that seemed ok because I was a stay-alone kind of kid. In college, I made pretty good friends though, we are like-minded and I admire them for who they are. However, these two years, since quarantine, it's just affected our friendships the same way it did the rest of our lives. I tried to bridge the gap through texting or video calling. But I feel like I would sometimes love to see someone ping me up first, or at least, reply or agree to a video call when I approach them first. It's hard to stay positive all the time, but I'm trying to. Ho…

Ok so I had built a trust between me and this person I knew online and we talked and chilled. We felt eachother as friends. Then we have a falling out recently. I told somebody to throw a harmless insult at him for reaction. Then he jumped the gun saying i leaked our dm logs out(I didnt) i then felt extremely guilty on my conscious after we fell out and it was like something grabbing my heart anytime i thought about it Now i messaged him yesterday on an alt account with a paragraph explanation and apology. He said he forgave me but when i asked him to unblock me he said "I didn't say we could be friends" Any thoughts? And thoughts how we can rebuild this b…

I (M26) am depressed and having bad thoughts. My friend (M26) is the only thing that has kept me alive over the last year. Background: he saved my life last summer and I have spent a significant amount of time with him lifting weights, gaming, etc. We talked to each other every single day through text from August 2020-April 2021. in recent weeks we have grown more distant after I reacted poorly to some very bad news that I received earlier this month. The living situation in my house has become untenable and I am having bad thoughts again. Spending time with this friend is the only thing that give me solace and I desperately have been wanting if it is ok to mo…

Its been a pretty rough year for me these past 12 months. Firstly my Father passed away last April due to Covid-19. I was at his bedside and watched him take his last breath. I couldn't stay in the place I had been living in at the time (long story) but had the resources to purchase a house of my own but meant that I ended up living many miles from friends and family and a 3hr commute to work every day. My Sister took my Dad's death very badly and was suffering from depression. She called me several times and talked about ending her life. My own health went into decline with a recurring back condition which saw me in hospital in January and again recently in April. This c…

Hey guyyssss! You guys were so helpful on my last post, I just wanted to seek some advice on another situation. Most would say this is a very petty situation lol but I’m just an overthinker. So my friend (of 6 years) revealed to me recently that her and this guy is becoming serious and she possibly wants to be with him permanently. Great right?! Well, the guy in question is someone I went to school with a long time ago (middle school) and we were in a relationship. It was obviously nothing serious but he has private messaged me on social media a few times over the years but again, nothing serious. We haven’t really talked in a couple of years. I know some of y…

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Last year I was in a strict COVID lockdown for about eight months. In May-June of 2020 the lockdown was briefly eased off when COVID briefly went away/improved. I was really lonely and looking to meet new people. I'm bisexual and I met a man online who was also bisexual and we had quite a few things in common. I didn't really want to date him because he's polyamorous and I'm not and he also had two tween/teen daughters and had a vasectomy and didn't want kids. He was also married but separated from his ex wife. I want marriage and kids. I was open to friendship or something casual though. I do actually have some friends I met from online dating and I especially want to ma…

I am finding from experience that being there for friends and even guys I'm dating causes them to take everything for granted. The more favors and time listening to their issues, the more I get disrespected or dumped by men. What is it about human nature that causes this? Is it an ingrained tendency! A friend I knew for many years started treating me poorly for no reason. Ignoring messages, criticizing my clothes, interrupting or plain old not responding to what you say about your day that happened. No fights, disagreements either. I was always there to help. I almost feel like avoiding friendships or dating men. I am always disappointed. Perhaps I …

Hi all, I'm a little confused, was talking to someone and annoyed her (misunderstanding) so blocked me on both Facebook and messenger, I never deleted the chat and can still see when she's active, last active, if I'm blocked why do I still see this? I can't message as it states user not available on messenger! Also if she wanted to unblock me can she still do this as I still have the old chat open? Many thanks I'm new to FB

So I went to college for a year, with the pandemic I transferred home. I am now transferring back to a college nearby my old one and posted about this move on my instagram. I won't be back in that town (that is about 6hrs away) until august. A girl that I went to the first school with reached out to me on instagram and told me that she thought that I was very cute and was excited that I was coming back to town. I am somewhat torn as she is very smart and pretty but just not really my type. I messaged back and said thank you and we said that we should get food once I'm back in town. initially I thought I wouldn't really mind a short relationship or just a few nights togeth…

Hi, I have a friend that’s a lot older than me but we get along pretty well. We met through work. I’m female and he’s male. I’m in a happy loving relationship where my partner is fully aware that we talk. Now we’ve been texting for about a year now and it’s kinda gotten to a point where we talk every day. Well that he texts me everyday. It usually about something emotionally heavy like his child has serious mental issues that require hospitalization so he talks to me about that. So I’d feel really bad no replying or something. Never anything inappropriate. Though he did recently follow me on social media. He’s married with kids. So my question is: is he j…

I'm not sure if I'm looking for advice as such, but any advice or comments are very welcome. I guess I just like writing here to get things off my chest. So it's now been about a month since I ended my friendship with Rachael* and I've been spending a lot more time on my own. It's really weird but I am actually missing Rachael's friendship because the past 1-1.5 years we talked a lot and hung out reasonably often. But that was actually how long I was friends with her overall and just in that short time there were a lot of issues. I won't discuss that part of it anymore because I do have other posts about it that I made. I'm feeling sad and alone as of late and…

I will try to summarize so that it isn't too long and boring. I am a 23 year old female and I never dated a guy in my life. I started talking to a guy and instantly felt attracted to him. I have social anxiety so when I told him I wanted to meet him I organized a meeting with my friends so that we wouldnt have to be alone. Among my friends was my best friend who is also 23 years old. The thing is. This guy told me to hang out again and drink some tea and again I asked him to bring my best friend (my bad) because I talked to him about my anxiety. He was fine with it. The thing is I started noticing attitudes from my friend that I didnt like. Things such as her talking a lo…

Hi, I’m female and in my mid to early twenties. I have been friends with this girl for about a decade. She’s about 5 years older than me. So she’s kinda like a sister. Someone I go to when times are tough. Shes usually a tough love kinda person and tells it how it is. I really appreciate that but recently she’s been overly critical of my life choices. Such as comparing my relationship to hers insinuating that hers is better or saying how I don’t know what I’m doing with my life. It’s gotten to a point where I don’t really want to talk to her because it brings out a bad side of me because every conversation feels super passive aggressive and I believe that’s complete…

My best friend (23, F) of 3 years blocked me on Snapchat, Twitter, Instagram, and even Tiktok. Let’s call her Abby. Abby blocked my fiancé and our other best friend , Natalie, as well. This occurred a couple days ago on Tuesday night. However, I found out the next day when I tried to send her a message on Snapchat. And it stated I needed to add her, then her thread disappeared (indicating she blocked me). However, before I realized she blocked us, she sent our friend group chat a message apologizing for not replying back to us and that she had a horrible breakdown the night before. Including that she cut everyone off but that she was “back and good now.” My other friend (…

I've been friends with these people for a while now and they've done nothing but embarrass me, make me feel horrible, and make me feel uncomfortable. One of them, let's call him Two, has been making jokes about dating me and having s*x with me. Each time he makes those jokes I feel myself crumple in on myself with complete distraught and disgust. I've always tried to distance them from any of my other friends since I'm scared that other people will hate me for being friends with them They constantly say the r-slur, make homophobic jokes at times, and tend to make jokes that they label "dark humor." They are the epitome of edgy teenage boys. Rece…

Hey everyone, I'm just posting this for general advice and to see what everyone's take is on cyber-stalking/monitoring/social media friends order. Most of us are aware it exists to some degree, but is it possible for people we rarely-to-never interact with on social media to appear as our top online friends? I realise many social media platforms never disclose the analytics of who has viewed our profiles, but has anyone ever felt something suspicious was going on regarding the order of online friends? For instance, a person appears as the first online friend on the messaging app, but, even though they're on your friends list, you've never spoken to that person. …

I became friend with my friends when I was a freshmen, I am currently a junior. Before covid, me and my friends were close, we would talk and hang out at school, but it was rather hard to hang out outside/ after school. Since we stared online learning, some of the only texted me when school started again (August 2020) and none of them have contacted me since then. I think like 1 or 2 of them texted me for a class or something. I've seen a couple of them at stores, and we've greeted each other, but other than that we've had no contact. And I am not the type to contact people first, I'm rather shy, quiet, and introverted. I've been thinking if they really were my friends or…