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I'm going to try and sum up the background on this. My friend Melissa is super passionate about her views on a particular political topic and has talked about it some throughout our friendship. I myself did not know much about it but didn't enjoy hearing about it from her because some of the stuff she would say sounded a bit extreme. Regardless, I never said anything until recently. Melissa was going on one of her rants and starting to say things that were really upsetting me. Just stuff that didn't sit right with my spirit. I finally told her I couldn't really talk about it anymore with her because I didn't think we would agree on it and it was best to just move on. I tr…

I thought afater a year of being apart we could be friends.. The relationship was toxic but we did have some good times over the years ..{ known him 26 years } And yes we have been back and forth ..We have a lot of history together and recently his mum was diagnosed with dementia and its getting worse so we stayed in touch mainly because of this but have kept our distance otherwise, im still bitter towards him cos of what he did in the past and this still comes up when we talk sometimes.. Anyway i went on holiday 2 weeks ago and he didnt say have a safe or nice holiday so when i returned we chatted and he had a go at me because i didnt ask about his mum or as he put it wh…

So he’s my second bff. We’ve known each other for 4 years(We’re 17 btw). So when he got to know me I was sure he had no romantic feelings because I looked like a little boy and I was a bit unattractive. But since he met me he’s literally admired me , he always talks about me ( that’s what all of his friends tell me at least ). bc he loved my personality from the start.. he has told me plenty of times that I’m his favorite person ,how he loves me more than anyone and that he wouldn’t even want to live without me. He has told me absolutely everything about him and at first he used to talk to me about his crushes too. But then he fell for my best friend and didn’t tell me . …

I have been friends with a neighbor for almost 4 months since they moved to the neighborhood. They have 2 young daughters. At first they had no pets but last week they brought 2 Billy goats home who are outside in their backyard a lot. These girls love to run and play with the goats. Problem I have is these goats are squeezing through the fence into our yard and eating our flowers and shrubbery. One is quite aggressive and actually charged at me as I was watering some plants. I talked to the neighbor and she became all huffy to me, suggesting it was my problem. I asked that the goats be kept away from my shrubbery. She seemed pissed off that I asked and said …

I've known my friend for 6 yrs. She has always been down on her luck but I've always been there to help. I tried to be a good friend by listening to her problems. She does have a husband but frankly he's as lazy man. He won't have even pack up their Xmas tree from last year? It's still up with all the decorations!! House is a pig stie , lawn is never mowed and they have never shampooed the carpets. She called late one night to discuss her sex life such as how she gives herself amazing orgasms (?). It's totally gross! Then she asked what about me? I just said it's not important to me. It is but it's none of her frigging business. She asked me to rent a hau…

Hi everyone. I’m here seeking opinions on a situation between my friend, my ex, and myself that happened over the last 2 years and is still affecting us today. To make it simple, I suspect my friend was falling hard for my ex girlfriend, but ultimately bailed out and is currently holding resentment towards me. Let me explain how things went down. Background: My ex and I broke up 2 years ago around May. Prior to breaking up, I had a talk with my friend (Let’s call him Sam) about being too touchy with my girlfriend (let’s call her Angie). Sam’s original response was defensive. He asked why I haven’t told him to stop sooner. I was taken aback from his answer, but deci…

I have a friend who I have known for about 10 years now. She has always been pretty happy, kind, upbeat, and fun to be around. About 3 years ago, she and her husband separated and are now divorced. It's been a really, really rough time for her. For the first year, she was a wreck as I'm sure anyone that heart broken would be. She has been receiving counseling weekly since then but I have been very worried and concerned about her as time goes on as she seems to be regressing. She perseverates on her ex, has admitted stalking him and things have become physical between the two in the past. She was even arrested because she showed up at his house and there was another woman …

Hi all So I've bagged my dream job in the USA and am super excited about the move. The only thing is that as a French national living in the UK, most if not all my friends are based in Europe. I have very solid friendships spanning between 44 and 4 years respectively - most are not local, a couple are 5 minutes down the road from me, for context. I'm very good at maintaining my friendships in general so I'm not overly concerned about this aspect. I'd like to be able to form my own little social bubble as soon as possible on arrival - my new accommodation is in a community and I already have plans to get to know my neighbours (I know all my neighbours here, we ge…

Reconnected with my niece after a long time. We went hiking, swimming, movies, lunches, and had lots of fun! There's quite an age gap (30 yrs) but we had fun and talked alot. I was quite open and am always interested in her life. On FB we added each other as friends. I saw all her friends and posts, as she mine. I logged in today and see I'm still her friend but her friends list is blocked from me. I'm wondering if this is an indication that something has changed in the way she feels about me in her life. I also noticed the last time I invited her out, she wrote back a vague reply, not committing to anything. I suggested a day the following week,…

My best friend recently got out of a long relationship and she has had a boy best friend as well who isn't a mutual friend of ours but right after her break up she hooked up with her boy best friend because she wanted some sort of breakup hook up. Her past relations haven't been great and she has never really been alone, she has always either dated someone or been at the talking stage with someone and I really don't think it's a healthy way to cope with anything because it just adds to the baggage she already has. She has hooked up with her best friend at least two or three times now and it has been frustrating for me to see her keep doing things that affect her mental h…

Hi all, I think I have reached the end of the road with this "work friend" I befriended at a former job roughly 3/4 years ago. She's always had low confidence and is a bit awkward, but didn't seem to have social anxiety. The biggest issue is that whenever we chat whether in person or via text, she'll just ask me "How are you" in passing as a polite greeting, but starts talking about herself right away. We went out a few times and every single time, it was literally 3 hours of her talking about herself and how much she dislikes her job. We've kept in touch during the pandemic and every single time, it's the same story. She texts "Hi, how are you?" then doesn't…

I have a best friend who I have known for over 10 years. She is like my sister to me. We have grown up together hanging out multiple days in the week. She always relied on me to hang out and be there so sometimes I would cancel plans with other people just to be with her or if I was out with other people I would have to lie because she would become controlling and want to hang out with me. I always had a boyfriend over the years and she has not had luck finding a romantic partner so that also created an issue with her having more available time than me and me splitting up my time to be with her and my boyfriend equally. Overall we look at friendships differently. She…

Hi guys, caraviolin here. I’ve posted about this friend of mine before, so you can look at my past threads about it. She’s very sensitive in general and friendships are very important to her. Friday morning we hung out together and had a nice time. I told her I’d call her later that day. However lots of stuff came up and I sent her a text that evening apologizing for not calling her but I’d talk to her later in the weekend. She blew up at me the next time we spoke, telling me I lied to her and that I broke the trust in the relationship we had, and that she’ll have a hard time trusting me in the future. She said she has a right to have me follow through on what I …

My friend officially broke up with her BF. I have always liked him but kept my distance for obvious reasons. Her ex & I are dating. We were both at a market shopping when my friend saw us. She came over and said in an accusatory way that we were probably more than friends a long time ago. She turned and walked away. She basically won't associate with me anymore, which I think is childish. We've known each other since middle school. I'm quite angry at her attitude and disappointed our friendship has ended. Is there anything I can do to mend this?

m struggling on how to break up with a childhood friend. We have known eachother since we were bbabies and our moms know each other well. We used to party but I outgrew that lifestyle over 4 years ago and she has not. She visited my boyfriend and I and we visited her and both trips were wastes of our time and money and she just got wasted the whole time . We live in different states so I’ve distances myself with her over time we text sometimes. Fast forward to today I am in our hometown taking care of my mom who had surgery and helping with my elderly grandma. This friend is also here and constantly trying to hang out and I just have no desire to, she even offered that I …

Words of wisdom worth sharing: 1.) You can be a friend to someone (phone them, message them, plan outings, etc, but if they're not a friend to you (reciprocating all of those things), then that's not your friend. That's you being a friend to them, but it's not being reciprocated. One way relationship, but not an actual friendship. Those that don't make efforts back, or don't treat you as well as you do them, just let them go. Find actual friends, not one way relationships. 2.) Tolerance in a group, or with an individual, does not mean friendship. They may be polite to you (even friendly), they may tolerate you, but that doesn't make you friends. There is a world…

So I'm 36 and I know this woman who is also 36. I first met her about 11 years ago and I was friends with her but not exactly close/best friend and not long. At the time she was best friends and later lived with this guy I was seeing that I was really in love with but he was just using me. I was seeing him on and off for a couple of years and friends with this woman R for the same amount of time back in 2010-2011. When I completely cut the guy off I actually also cut her off because she was his best friend and also lived with him and I really needed to move on from him. I found her a bit annoying at times but she did tell me that she has a learning disability. I didn…

I feel very alone and lonely lately. I miss going out with friends to restaurants, pubs, just doing things with people and not having to get a corona nose swab test anytime I want to go anywhere. I feel this past year or so really affected socializing combined with working from home lots. I just want to know if this is a normal thing during the pandemic? If it is, then I can at least look forward to once everything opens back up again..

Me and one of my close friends have been talking about renting an apartment together and just last week, we actually did narrow down some complexes that we'd like to live in. We've got everything figured out in terms of our income and what we can manage to pay every month, but we've recently hit a snag in that we're in a big argument over my claims that he may have stolen something of mine. Back in 2017 was the pandemonium surrounding McDonald's releasing their Szechuan sauce. Me and many other people (my close friends included) wanted to get our hands on it because it was mentioned in Rick and Morty and me being a big fan of the show, I had to get my hands on that s…

I keep having the overwhelming feeling I need to pull away from my good friends that are couples. I just can't handle it anymore. I can't be the lonely male friend that can never find a girlfriend. I can't be around them they all have had relationships that have lasted many plus years and I'm growing bitter towards them.

I've posted about K and her boyfriend before (the charming fellow that sexually assaulted me and cheated on her). They're still together. She refuses to leave him and he's basically a hoarder and she's become one too. They both have mental health issues but before they were together her apartment was always so nice. Now there are dirty dishes all over the floor, boxes, trash, and who knows what. I don't even want to wash my hands there because the sink is covered in slime. I want to take her by the shoulders and shake her, and tell her to get out. This girl is family, and she's my rock, and it kills me that she is so unhappy but afraid to leave. She's gained so much weigh…

My cousin as and I were out of touch for a few years until recently. She popped up on FB saying she was thinking of me. I replied to her message. She replied saying she was on a Zoom call with BF at the time & replied sparsely. Fast forward several weeks, she wants to meet up. I hear she broke up with BF, is lonely and has no one to talk to I'm wondering how to handle this friend. It seems like she got in contact to fill a void. Should I be cautious about getting used to her company? It feels like when she meets someone knew, I may be put on the back burner. I hate being put aside and left out in the cold by people. My heart shatters into a…

Last night I was hanging out with a friend, my boyfriend and her boyfriend at her boyfriends house. We had been drinking and smoking then I got sick in his bathroom. I was very intoxicated and missed the toilet slightly. I heard them talking through the door and panicked. In my drunken state I couldn’t find any cleaning products and just hurried to leave with my boyfriend. I was embarrassed and left without saying anything about getting sick. We ended up sleeping in my boyfriend’s car we were both so effected. I wake up to an angry text from my friend about leaving the bathroom the way I did. Of course I feel awful and completely embarrassed. I apologized profusely and as…

I met her on a FB group. We started reacting to each other and all that stuff. For the past 2 months we speak(Me, her and 2-3 other people) on a daily basis on a Discord channel. Only like 10% of our chats are about serious stuff. I've only seen one pic from her, her profile pic, but I really like her. Anyway, is it okay if I just add her now? Would that be weird? Please note, that wouldn't be a "sneak add". I know her FB and shes knows mine. As I said, we speak on a daily basis. I don't want her to think I'm a creepy guy, I don't want her to block me Edit: She lives in another city

Hello! I'm wanting to share something that happened on Saturday because I'm conflicted with how to handle this and quite honestly, I don't know who I can talk to about it, aside from my fiancé. Quick back story, my fiancé (Male) and I (Female) (29 and 28) moved to home this spring in the country. We've hosted quite a few little gatherings since moving in and have had a lot of great times with friends and family. So it's very typical that people reach out wanting to know what we are doing, in hopes for an invite over, which is how this issue came about. My best friend of nearly 15 years texted me on Saturday asking what I was up to. I told her that my fian…