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I(20,M) am here because my relationship is beginning to go sideways with my girlfriend(20F) of two years. We are trying to figure what was going wrong but we failed to do so. She wanted to break up with me one night saying that she feels in her gut that this relationship is wrong. On asking her if my behavior or actions have had something to do with this, she denied. She says that she loves me but if this feeling in her gut doesn't go away, we will have to break it off. She says that she gets anxious and restless thinking about this relationship and while talking to me. We have also established that our relationship is very healthy and stable. It's just that she feels anx…

Husband doesn't care we don't sleep togeather due to his snoring.it has been 2.5 years since i married him. He doesn't show effort or care to fix it much he tired some snore strips but they didnt work. But he hasnt tried anything else. He is waited he said to go to profeessionals aboard because it cheaper. But due to covid we havent and since then we havents slept togeather. Its starting to bother me his lack of effort.

Hi all, My partner and I have been together a few years. He has one child , a daughter, who is 23. I do not have any children. Christmas day this year my Partner will be working. I will see him when he gets home from work. His daughter is going to her mums for Xmas day dinner. We had planned to see all my partners family, including his daughter, boxing day at his mums house. However, his daughter has just told him she wants to have boxing day at her house and invite all the family round- this includes his ex and all his exs family. Whilst I have absolutely no problems with his ex, I don't particularly want to spend boxing day with her and her fami…

I am sorry this is long. I am 23 and dated my ex-partner who is 27 for a year. Our relationship was not perfect, but we had a strong foundation, shared the same values and had so much in common. Although we had not been dating for long, he talked to me about wanting to getting married, having children etc, which made me very excited about the future. He tried to be a good partner, but there was always so much pressure on as he is in his final year of completing his PhD and has been dealing with personal issues. I was always understanding of his situation, compromised, was supportive and tried my best to be a good partner until the very end. Plans kept getting cancelled, I…

I’ve been with my Ex for 5 years. We had a child together who is 8 months. The relationship has been rocky since last weeks of my pregnancy. Couple of days before I gave birth we got into a huge argument and I packed my things and left. Fast forward to the day I gave birth he was there. When we came home with the baby things started to get rough again, arguing, him abusing me mentally and emotionally. When my daughter was 5 months we got into a physical fight where he put his hands on me ( 1st time ) ACS got involved because me and baby had to go to hospital. I love my daughter’s father and I don’t ever think we’ll get back together. Idk how to heal and move on I keep rep…

My ex and I were together for just under a year. A lot of deep care for each other. While we never said the 'I love you' and I think when I asked if he loved me when we broke up, I think he said he didn't think so but I could be wrong. He has never loved anyone before, I think as a result of his dysfunctional upbringing. However, he often has said since the break-up that I'm very special to him. Is that basically a derivative of love?

First time poster so be gentle! Been in this relationship for just under 4 years and we were committed to each other bought a fixer-upper house 6 months ago, moved closer to his parents and attended his sister's wedding as a couple. We have been talking marriage and engagement rings and had even started looking at where we'd like to settle down in the next 5 years Days after the wedding he gets FOMO of the travelling that people a couple of years older then him have done and how he feels like he is unhappy in life and trapped in the situation. Also distressed over personal issues - friends and family illness. We talk and make steps to travel more and complete the hou…

It started off asking me my age, personal stuff like where I lived before and how I like it here now and today what was my astrological sign.. Also before this she asked me if I was going to this food festival I told her maybe but I ended up going and showing her the pictures the next day. So now her thing is I should hang out and go out to eat with her and her friend (he's a male friend) I'm starting to wonder if he's just not going to show up that one day. since they meet every so often to hang out. Oh and she offered to make a bring coffee to me for work in the morning, She asked me to send her a picture to her that I took of a location which I did she ende…

My ex and I broke up in April after 3 years and went no contact pretty much until now. He has contacted my friends just to say hello on a few occasions which I thought was strange. We are in our 30s. I sent an email several months ago and he just replied back to me about 3 weeks ago. He ended his email saying he wants to be friendly and hopes I will update him about our dog. In my response back mostly wishing him well and clarifying a few things, I asked if he was open to potentially reconciling in the future as we have both worked on ourselves and asked if he saw a future for us. I did emphasize if he wanted to just end things and didn’t see a future, to please be honest…

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 months now and everything's been more than perfect. He treats me super well, gives me all the needed love and affection. However, recently I found his tumblr account. Turns out he often reblogs and likes explicit content, and nudes of other girls. Of course this made me super uncomfortable. I'd say our sex life is pretty good, we have sex a lot and I often send him nudes myself, so it's not like I don't satisfy him. I decided instead of confronting him about it, to test if he'd lie to me. So I waited for a good moment and started a convo about how I find it super disrespectful when a guy likes other girl's "sexy" photo…

It's time to actually make a journal and stick to it. Even if no one but me reads this, it's the cathartic properties of actually expressing my emotions that I aim for. Well, here we go. Day one. Today I had no real plans other than to do some gardening. After my morning routine of rolling out of bed, I got a call from my sister to ask if i could pick up my niece as she was unwell at school and my sister couldn't make it there to get her. I dropped her off at my mums house, had a chat with her and then headed home to get started on my front yard. I moved into a rental about 6 months ago, and it was a mess. The previous renter left junk everywhe…

So I'll just keep things brief and get to the point: I've recently met this girl that I really like, but I just learned that she's only 19 years old. That honestly seems problematic to me, a 25 year old who's 26th birthday is less than a month away. I'm not so much concerned about the actual age gap as I am the differing ages themselves. I believe that a 7 year age gap isn't too much of a problem depending on the actual ages, (34 and 27 years old, for example, doesn't seem bad to me) but 26 and 19 does understandably come off as a bit eyebrow-raising, in my opinion. What do you think?

My husband and I got married 3 weeks ago and 2 weeks before the wedding I caught him speaking to a girl, totally out of character and absolutely broke my heart. I only saw a small amount of the conversations on his iPad, I had gone onto his iPad as mine was dead to watch Netflix in the bath, and it asked me to log in his iMessage, so he had switched it off. It then showed brief snippets of a couple of messages, nothing that extreme but we went out for a date night and she was meant to be going to the restaurant too but didn’t and he said something along the lines of ‘oh what a shame I could’ve met you by the toilets’. I confronted him and it’s a girl in his work and …

My (24f) boyfriend (23m) broke up with me almost a week ago after a random couple days of being off with me. We have had our share of issues and arguments and I have been making efforts to amend my part in our issues. He originally told me out of the blue that he needed space and time to think about what he wanted so I said I understood but told him that I wanted to work on things. He then was cancelling plans we had made for that week so that he felt like he had longer to think without any pressure or deadline. That night he texted me saying that he just doesn't think it's going to work, that he deserves better and so do I. I was really hurt at the way he handled everyth…

Hi all, So I came on here last week to see how I should ask out a girl that Ive been acquainted with since childhood but never really knew. I ended up texting her and asking if she would be interested in getting some smoothie bowls and eating them on the beach while we caught up. She accepted and it went super well, we sat and talked on the beach for 2ish hours before I dropped her off. I think Ive made it clear that Im into her and she has dropped signs that she is into me as well(sitting very close, lots of exclamation points and smiley faces in text.) I just don't want to take things too fast and have her get scared. So after our first "date" she texted and said h…

I'm sorry that I'm posting another gym story, but I just need some advice. I have had multiple crushes and guys I was interested in the gym, but usually their personality is quite different whenever there has been any kind of interaction. It usually turns me off and I keep it moving. I have been going to this gym in the last few years, and I have noticed this guy for a couple years now. Lets just call him Jay. Initially when I first noticed Jay, I was not interested (at least not in that way). He seemed kind of a tool and I recall being irritated with him because he was on a machine that I wanted to get on while talking to a buddy of his. That situation was 2 and half yea…

I've been dating this Turkish girl for a month. At the beginning she was very communicative initiating most of the texts, keeping the conversation going and calling me dear and darling and talking a lot about future plans etc. And on our first few dates the time just seemed to fly by and we fell into a rhythm of eating, drinking, talking, walking and a lot of kissing. It felt very natural like we'd known each other a long time. She went on holiday for a week and a half back to her country. But instead of a drop off in communication she stepped it up photobombing me with photos from her trip and texting me every day and very much leading the conversation. I was flatt…

My gf and I have been in a relationship for 10 months. I’m at the point where I’ve thought about marriage even buying a ring, however I find myself questioning things more and more. A lot of things stem from my issues I brought into the relationship. In the beginning, my gf told me she didn’t watch me to ever watch ***** and gave me the option to exit the relationship if it was to be a problem. I said it wouldn’t, however I did keep watching *****. I have a very hyper active sex drive and mind. I like watching ***** because it’s enjoyable and gives the feeling of something different, even though my gf and I have sex frequently and I do love her. It’s just the fact th…

My bf (30) and I (23) have been together for 1.5 years. We’ve had a rocky past 3 months, recently broke up for about a month, and in the past 2 weeks we have been entertaining the idea of getting back together. Things have been going great (or so I thought) between us and I was so happy that we were sharing our lives with each other again, until 2 nights ago he started acting all cold on me and withdrew his love and affection. The reason for this is because he claims I am not “down” for him. He is established in his career as a nurse and says he “needs” a baby ideally within 1 year, but he is saying he will make an exception and push it to 2-3 years for me. I, on the othe…

I don't want to have kids. I've never been comfortable around children and I don't care to have the responsibility. But it's definitely hard to find a partner that doesn't want kids. If you don't want kids, has it been difficult for you finding someone who doesn't as well? And how has your life been without children? Do you feel it was the right decision?

Hi all, how do you truly reflect on yourself and whether you’re truly happy? I don’t mean a front I mean happy with who YOU are. Ive come to realise self love is important for many aspects of life. I know it’s not possible to be happy 24/7 though it’s letting go of insecurities that we have. how do people do this? I know the usual advice ‘take time for yourself’ ‘sit with your feelings’ ‘meditate’ ultimately you have to be happy being by yourself/alone especially before seeking a relationship. I just find the concept of ‘being truly happy’ riddled with confusion and uncertainty. do people have stories about how they turned themselves…

We both were in a very healthy long distance relationship but all of a sudden my girl friend broke up with me. She is a divorcee and currently preparing for judicial magistrate examination. I was supportive too but I just wanted some time to talk to her. We have planned our future together, we discussed about the situations may occur marrying a divorcee woman and I am ready to face any challenges just because I love her very much. I know she has gone through a lot or still going through alot. But my one mistake has ruiend our relationship. Now she broke up with me stating her focus is now only on her career. Its been more than a month she is ghosting me. She blocked me ev…

My 23 year old younger sister passed away this weekend. She had gone down a rough path after dating this garbage guy, inevitably ending mine and hers relationship because he was scary and she would defend anything he did. So, needless to say we hadn't had much of a relationship for the past couple of years. Anyways, Sunday we found out out had overdosed and never woke up. This week has just been a blur. I feel like everyone around me is devastated and I literally cannot feel anything. Its beyond awful that this happened and it makes me wish I had reached out more. But I most definitely feel like I'm not having an appropriate emotional response to this? Or mayb…

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 4 years.. the problem here is that i always have to be checking up on him whay he does. Last time i saw he was texting his friend and his friend told him to take a picture of a girls ass because he was at college. and well they were texting each other about girls and how thick they were. That made me uncomfortable but i didn’t know if he took a picture of the girls ass but i confronted him about it and he said he didn’t. he goes to college so every time he goes he always texts his friend and that friend is kind of a ***boy and kind of a man ***. I then went to check his snapchat again to see if he has taken a picture and he …

I met a guy couple months ago, first time I saw him, I really liked him, he was good looking, great hair. I had this good image about him. So the second time I saw him, I was really hyped. But when I saw him (morning time lots of light), I was kinda disappointed, I felt like he was not that good looking, he had bad skin, messy hair (the first time I met him at night I didn't really look at that), he does not have a good style(maybe just the second time didn't dress well). Just overall I was not super into him. He has a great personality and super nice though. Based on how he looked the second time I don't really like him. Is it ok to believe that you can change …