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Hi, Im Catherine and I’m in an 1 and a half year relationship with an amazing person. My boyfriend is kind , caring and very loving. We make plans together and this seems to be going great. But, in my two past relationships I was the one being cheated on and that did really break my heart. I’m trying not to bring this to surface because I know he ain’t like the previous two and I seem to manage it. Except some very rare moments when those thoughts come into my mind and I wonder whether I should trust that man with eyes closed or if I will be hurt for one more time! Should I trust him?? He’s so good to lose all that and I don’t want to be disappointed, esp…

To start off this long explanation, I feel it's ideal to provide a bit of background context. Hi, I'm a 25 year old female. A week ago I broke up with my (now ex) boyfriend whom I was with for an entire 4 years. I have to make it clear that we were long distance all that time, but we had a fantastic run. I learnt a lot from him, but most importantly I discovered a lot about myself and how to be intimate with someone, since being close to someone sexually was a deep seated issue of mine. I can confidently say I am a completely different person to who I was 4 years when I got together with him. But even though "doing the deed" was hard for me to even do (and we never ended …

I am having my first date tomorrow since my fiancé passed away last year. I was so excited… until i wasn’t. I know I need to do this because my fiancé isn’t coming back. I really just needed somewhere to say these thoughts. My friends have been encouraging me to date again and I think they’ll be disappointed that I’m scared, nervous, really unsure of myself. thanks for reading.

I started seeing this guy and it’s been pretty good from the start! We were consistently texting and seeing each other about 2x a week for the last month. During that time, we had established that we both liked for this to continue and we stopped talking to other people. Ive met his friends and he’s even told his mom about me, which I thought was a bit fast but we both felt similar so I went with it. Before he left on vacation, he asked if we were exclusive (mentioned bf/gf but I can’t remember exactly how the convo went) and said he wanted to know if “we were really doing this” before we both left for vacation. I said yes and left the date feeling happy but confused—are …

I've been told before more than once by others, that I have that. I am in an exclusive relationship with a woman I am in love with, but I feel guilty because when we have sex, in order to get aroused, I have to imagine someone else who would be more promiscuous, or just more dirty. I don't know why I am more sexually aroused by that, then my own, non-promiscuous gf, but for some reasom, that's what I have to do in order to get sexually aroused. I mean, I guess some guys need to get aroused by certain fetishes, like outfits, etc, so maybe this is just a thing I need to get aroused, like a fetish, and I shouldn't feel too bad about it therefore? But at time same…

I went on a very impressive first date about a month ago. Like ridiculously romantic - invitation to the beach to watch sunset with a bottle of wine and drinks afterwards. He gave me the most beautiful kiss just as the red sun disappeared from view. Due to me having to travel and him having to travel and deal with a complicated death in the family, our second date was only last Saturday. We kept in-touch a bit (through texts) while away and he mentioned he would like to meet up for dinner once we both returned. Also, I bumped into him at a local restaurant the day before he texted me for date #2. When he texted me to meet up last week, I literally started to shak…

So my boyfriend and I were just chilling and watching movies. All of a sudden he asks “hey, do you want to spend the rest of your life with me?” He really caught me off guard, so I sort of paused after the question. Also, I didn’t want to answer a question that serious right off the bat. We’ve been together for two years so Yes, I’ve given it some thought before but he and I have been through some tough situations and we argue and fight over the smallest things sometimes and it happens pretty often. So naturally, I wanted to think about all the variables before giving him an answer. But before I could respond, he yells “NEVERMIND!” and storms out of the room. He slept in …

Hello everybody. Lets begin by saying that last 3 weeks were happiest but also saddest in my life. Everything started when I met this girl at the party, we chated on instagram before and had an opportunity to meet up. At that party we vibed a lot and she told me that really she likes me. I said the same and we basically were extremely happy for the rest of the party which ended in 3 days. The problem was that she had a boyfriend and their relationship wasn’t that good. We decided to meet next day and talk sober. The next day I woke up and thought about it a lot and realized that what she was doing wasn’t right and againts my ideals ( when I think about i…

I met my boyfriend when I was 18 and he was 23, recently my boyfriend and I got new jobs around the same time. Our usual routine is seeing talking on the phone every night at 9 pm and then seeing each other once a week on Saturday. We are both full-time students so now that our new jobs have been thrown into the mix it's become much harder to find time for each other, I still tried to keep our phone call routine but he told me he didn't want to talk to me every night anymore because of the stress from work. Upon hearing that I was feeling kind of hurt because I felt as though we would eventually start to drift apart. A few days ago an old short-lived flame messaged m…

5 years together, 4 years married, 2 daughters. Lots of issues along the way, never an easy ride. We are 100% incompatible, but our daughters and physical chemistry kept us together. We had been talking about divorce for a while but our apt lease is up for renewal and she asked if I wanted to stay and renew it. I thought it would be a great opportunity to try counseling (again). We both admitted to have feelings for each other. Last Saturday she returned from a work trip, very tired and slept the whole day. Didn't even say hello to our girls. She also did not communicate the night before and I found it suspicious. Today I checked her phone and found concrete evidence…

I thought afater a year of being apart we could be friends.. The relationship was toxic but we did have some good times over the years ..{ known him 26 years } And yes we have been back and forth ..We have a lot of history together and recently his mum was diagnosed with dementia and its getting worse so we stayed in touch mainly because of this but have kept our distance otherwise, im still bitter towards him cos of what he did in the past and this still comes up when we talk sometimes.. Anyway i went on holiday 2 weeks ago and he didnt say have a safe or nice holiday so when i returned we chatted and he had a go at me because i didnt ask about his mum or as he put it wh…

Let me start by saying my ex and i broke up on decent terms on my end. There wasn’t any yelling or screaming. So we are still friends. We actually went out to a bar together this weekend. Had a few drinks and we both went home. An hour after we left the bar he FaceTimed me. I answered and he’s like “what are you doing” so i tell him I’m on the way to bed and he then asks me who’s over there. So I’m looking puzzled and i said “no one” then he says “I’m coming over and then he asked me did i ever get my tire changed” (i had a bad tire a few weeks ago that he helped me change) so i said “yes” then he said “I’ll be over in a little bit” He hung up on me he never c…

We will be making 4 years together next month but, ultimately, I don't think he is good for me although I still love him. A little bit of context is in order. This relationship has drained me out and, although I still love him, I can't put up with his way of being anymore. The sense of entitlement, in his own words "what applies to other people doesn't apply to me"; the bothering comments in the likes of "if I had a gay kid I would give him to a shelter and I would have no son anymore", " I didn't kill anyone yet because no one ever offered to pay me to do it", "I hate black people because they act and look like monkeys"; the heavy negativity exacerbated by the …

about a year ago while on a trip I met a guy and i didn't really want anything serious I didn't took things too seriously , I thought is just someone I met for fun and maybe never going to see eachother again, I came back to my hometown and we kept contact , things keep getting better and better and we saw each other in person 2 more times, and we fall for eachother ,the issues is that when we first I met him I lied about my age and for some stupid reason and my insecurities I told him I was 28 years but I was actually 30years old ,and he was 29 years old , since than I felt really bad about it and at the beginning I kept telling my self that this relation is long dis…

Heyho, I've (F18) recently met this guy (M23) when I was on vacation like 6h away from my home. I developed a crush on him and responded to his Instagram story. He answered pretty quickly for a few times (we were chatting via Instagram direct messages) and then he just stopped and didn't answer for like two days. I was bummed. But then, he replied to my Instagram story and asked me something about it, he complimented the drawings I upload on my insta and he even commented something on an old drawing of mine. Then I texted him back - he saw the message pretty quickly but hasn't responded for around five hours now. He's just giving me mixed signs, leaving me on …

Hello, I need some advice. My boyfriend (24) and I (25) have been together for 3 and a half years now. He is very loving, thoughtful, and caring. He pays for everything and treats me well. However, the one thing that does bother me, is that he talks about having a threesome often when we have sex. When we do it, he would some storytelling, where he brings up my sister and other female friends. I would play along because it is in the moment, but deep down inside, I am bothered by it. He says he wants both of us to do sexual things with them. We have sex 3x a week. He would bring them up 2 out of 3 times a week. Is it normal? I have low self esteem and I brought it up to h…

From childhood I have doubt in my gender , at first I thought it's temporary , I have always treated like a boy thanks to my dad , I won't blame him but he was the reason I have a question mark infront of my gender , forcing me to address my gender as a boy and think like a boy , I think he wanted me to be more confident but it just made things worse Now I am stuck in between being a girl and a boy , I have no interest in girly things and act like a girl ,at first I thought I am just a Tom boy but this desire of changing my gender end me up in several depressing episodes , I recently cut my hair and I liked it . But here is the thing I like boys ! If I am a bo…

I’ve been talking to this guy at my age for a while now and he's already given me reassurance, flexed me on his social media accounts, introduced me to his parents and pals, and shown affection beyond what I expected it to be (he doesn’t believe in courtship). He wanted to meet my parents too, but I would never permit that to happen because we have a whole different lifestyle. I grew up in a strict family where boyfriends aren't allowed until we graduate from college and get a stable job. I find it weird because we’ve only known each other for a while; it hasn’t even lasted a year. Although he’s a soft nice guy and I’ll admit that I kinda have feelings for him too, but I …

I don't exactly get affected by it so much anymore, as I just see that I still have a hold of him. However, we broke up almost a year ago. Was a hard break-up, we admitted that we still like each other and that we miss each other all the time, and we both have mentioned to each other that if we ever did talk about our relationship again - it's once we've moved on from the hurt, so I don't think it's a 100% final break up where you never want anything to do with them again. I think because I still to this day felt like we broke up over very odd things and he thought the grass was going to be greener. Sometimes the texts will stop and he'll find a way to contact me weeks or…

My girlfriend of 4 years dumped me 5 weeks ago. When we met she had recently gotten out of a long relationship with a guy she was engaged with. He cheated on her and she dumped him. 3 months after dumping him she met me (I was probably a rebound). I fell in love with her after the first date and I pursued her relentlessly for 5 months until she finally told me that she loved me and we officially became a couple. After 7 months of dating we moved in together in a rented apartment. About a year after that we bought and apartment together, where we still live. She is kind, compassionate, adventerous, spontaneous and she never judges anyone. My family and friends a…

So I am a divorced mom of 2, and only just recently got my feet wet in the dating world. I refuse to do online dating, and have been living with the mindset that if the universe has a man in store for me, I’m going to let it happen organically. A few weeks ago, I got a DM on Instagram from a dude with a private profile and no picture. I figured what the hell and responded. I NEVER respond to dms so for whatever reason I decided to reply to this guy. Turns out he’s smoking hot.. Tall, amazing body, great hair. He sent some pics and I thought I had won the lottery. He text me everyday, multiple times a day for a week, and drove 3 hours to meet me for dinner. We meet a…

Hi folks I've read a lot of "experts" advise to "be the best version of yourself" to make "an ex miss you." Just remember you can do all of the work and improve every single thing about yourself- but ask yourself have they? If they haven't or even accepted any blame at all don't bother. Do it for yourself but not for them Imagine someone who has been manipulated in a relationship until the dumper became bored/got other interest and ended it. The Dumper fails in rebound/s as nobody else will put up with their controlling behavior. When no options are left. Then it's "Come back the Prince/Princess of Doormats all is forgiven!" The All New Improved Door…

Do we still have the option for that ? I was looking through things and can’t find it .

I have been with my boyfriend for about 9 months. This is the happiest I have been, but something consistently bothers me. The friend who set my boyfriend and I up told me (after we had been on 4-5 dates) that he had actually asked about a mutual friend of ours first, and only asked about me after finding out our mutual friend already had a boyfriend. This knowledge has haunted me in almost every aspect of our relationship. I feel so less than and undesirable, no matter what he says. Do I tell him? I know it's not his fault, so it feels wrong (and like a crazy girlfriend) to bring it up. Do I try to move on? If so, how? Thank you!!

Hello, I have been seeing a girl for a while and things seem ok. However, my penis size is below average. The foreplay is great, and the sex is mind blowing, but, when she gets a bit drunk, she tells me that my penis is the smallest she’s ever had. When we have penetrative sex, she wants “more” but I physically don’t have enough! She tells me she’s sorry the next day, but I feel very emasculated as I know some of the people she has had sex with in the past, which plays on my mind as I know that their “equipment” is bigger then mine. What do I do?