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Words of wisdom worth sharing: 1.) You can be a friend to someone (phone them, message them, plan outings, etc, but if they're not a friend to you (reciprocating all of those things), then that's not your friend. That's you being a friend to them, but it's not being reciprocated. One way relationship, but not an actual friendship. Those that don't make efforts back, or don't treat you as well as you do them, just let them go. Find actual friends, not one way relationships. 2.) Tolerance in a group, or with an individual, does not mean friendship. They may be polite to you (even friendly), they may tolerate you, but that doesn't make you friends. There is a world…

Has anyone else here lived alone for over a decade? If so, how did you cope?

Back story: Dear friend, female, who lives far away. She's in her 40s. Long time complicated relationship with food and has had BED -binge eating disorder -for last number of years. She is herself a therapist and she attends support groups, does her best. Husband, three kids under 10, mom lives with them but she is um a handful. One month ago husband was diagnosed with late stage cancer. He just started chemo, he will be needing surgery, I think. (Her Mom is helpful to supervise kids if they need to go somewhere especially now -chemo treatments require an hour trip each way, mobility services might not be available right now due to covid). She told me today…

A man lives next door. We can each other's balconies. Sometimes I see him peeking at me when you I'm watering my plants outside. I live alone and not dating at the moment. He uses a walker. I ran into him a couple of times and his personality seemed a bit harsh. I'm very soft spoken and gentle. One day there was a knock at my door. It was him in the hall with his walker. He started complaining he's having various problems, including how large his electricity bill is. I was flabbergasted. I only stood there for 2 minutes and said I had to go. I have a history of getting involved with men who are not good for me. I'm too nice, I'm told. I don't wa…

She's going camping with her friend and won't be back until next week. She came over earlier for half hour just to say goodbye etc... but I think I acted too needy and now I'm beating myself up. I told her I'd miss her and I didn't have much planned this weekend (probably came across I was sulking) even though we've only been dating 3-4 weeks now I'm so crazy about her, but it's so hard not to come across too full on. I also said I was going to the cinema next Wednesday but was willing to drop it if it meant seeing her a day earlier. She insisted I go to the cinema and we can see each other the day after. I don't want to push her away by seeming too needy and I even said …

So I got a text out of the blue last week from a girl I had flirted with at this party 3 weeks ago. After 2-3 exchanges I set a date and we went out last Wednesday. Thought it went quite well, good laugh, good conversations, banter, etc... and then 30 mins when I got home I got a text from her thanking me for the great evening and hoping I enjoyed it too. Honestly, nothing made it seem she would fall off the face of the world. A couple days or so later (yesterday) I sent her a text asking when she was likely to be free next week... no answer. I haven't sent anything else. I guess I completely misundertood this.

What do you do if your messages have been consistently seen zoned? I stopped sending message to this a certain guy and act chill even though he is ignoring me. I stopped for self-respect. I even uninstalled my Messenger. But honestly, it hurts inside. I have been crying only for this. Am I being childish ? I tried to keep myself per-occupied at work to move on but it really hurts. I don’t know why I feel fragile lately. Sorry, I really feel sad and I don’t feel opening up this to my friends and family. They are always busy. I want to move on. I believe that I have not done something wrong. Perhaps, it’s definitely better to distance myself from hi…

Well I have stopped drinking for a while after failing at moderation. I admit it sucks and i am really struggling right now. Was trying to persuade my husband to let me try moderating again and also trying to persuade myself 'it will be different this time'. I am getting help but feel sometimes it is not enough. I have a lovely daughter and husband so why risk it all just for a bottle? I try to tell myself i am not experiencing psychological cravings but know I am. I do not have any physical ones I just pray this gets easier. Even with help it is a struggle 😞

So my ex boyfriend and I broke up a year ago. I don't know how he handled it but I cried, went no contact, and tried replying his messages as late as I could. However we ended up becoming friends 4 months ago and really good ones at that. What bothers me is that I still love him and he too told me a week ago that he's always been in love with me but has been trying to hold himself. Problem is none of us wants to get back into the relationship cus both of us attest to the fact that it was hard. Yet we are still so intimate as friends as though we were together. We always spend time together, touch, give intimate hugs and even mistakenly kissed once. Do I cut…

A little background: during the whole pandemic I ended up meeting someone through a bunch of church zoom calls last year that I got to know through text and phone calls. I'll finally get to meet her in person soon at a church convention and I am not sure how to approach the situation. I really like her and I want to get to know her on a higher level. I know we haven't met in person yet so it may be a little premature but I want to let her know that my intention to meeting her is to see if there is mutual interest. I tried testing the waters by messaging her that I was looking forward to finally meeting her and she replied by saying that she's looking forward to seeing…

Hi Everyone, I am a 30 year old guy, in a relationship with a girl the same age as me. We have been together for 3 years now. Everything is great and we are currently looking at buying a house together. I'm worried that we have differing opinions about marriage. I have never wanted to get married. I have always made this clear. She has always been kind of wishy-washy about it and I didn't think it was a big deal, until a couple of times recently that she has made comments about wanting to get married. I've explained to her that I don't really understand the concept of a marriage. IMO, I don't see the point in spending tens of thousands on a wedding …

hello everyone, I need your help my facebook account was hacked and figured out that facebook has no chat support or email of anything. I have tried to report the hacked account but the hacker changed my email settings. I cant recuperate password by phone and email. Do you have any idea how to recuperate my account. Please help I am really getting frustrated...

Hi, I've dated SO for a year and a half, friends six months before that. He has never given me reason to doubt him before, but lately he's been so preoccupied with work issues (mainly due to COVID), his mom sick with worsening dementia, and school (college online). He's 38 IDK if that helps. I live on the east coast; he lives on the west coast. It's been over a month since he's visited, and he got angry the last time i asked for specific dates because he said i should empathize with how ill his mother is and how I shouldn't doubt that he would come if he could. Today I told him that he should focus on his work, school, and mother, and forget about all our plans such as hi…

So, I have been going back and forth in my head for almost 2 months about this. I have built this up to be quite scary.. and it kinda was.. But I did it. ( Giving myself a slight pat on the back for my bravery..go me! ) But I am still feeling a lot of emotions. Back story: Two men ( me 41 and him 39 ). Started dating in February of this year. He had just had his newborn baby girl born via surrogacy, 2 months prior. I had come back to Canada because of the pandemic, after living in Asia for 5 years. I never intended to stay in Canada permanently, but got stuck here due to Covid. And then we met... In the beginning it was like one big happy family. …

So I'm 36 and I know this woman who is also 36. I first met her about 11 years ago and I was friends with her but not exactly close/best friend and not long. At the time she was best friends and later lived with this guy I was seeing that I was really in love with but he was just using me. I was seeing him on and off for a couple of years and friends with this woman R for the same amount of time back in 2010-2011. When I completely cut the guy off I actually also cut her off because she was his best friend and also lived with him and I really needed to move on from him. I found her a bit annoying at times but she did tell me that she has a learning disability. I didn…

Hey there.. Wishing everyone well and thank you so much in advance for any reply! So how do I start.. 3,5 years ago I started dating a guy but we broke 1,5 years ago because of the fights. I was hurt but he kept saying that if we stop fighting then we might have a chance again. It was humiliating but since then that's what I've been trying to do - be a good girl and fight less because I was still in love with him and wanted to get back together. But no matter how little we fought, whenever I came to him asking to take me back it never was good enough, he wanted no fighting whatsoever, so each time I got hurt and snapped and it started all over again. But for some mo…

I will do my best to explain the events that lead up to everything, I met this girl on a dating app, we started to date, it's been a year now. everything was amazing. She had her issues without a doubt, trust issues, due to her father cheating on her mom, it was rather controlling she wouldn't trust me, but I did everything to prove I would never do anything to her this caused her to wall up a lot, and I would have to fight to get that wall down. Well, 4 months ago she found out that her dad had cancer, and it's not looking good. I did my best to be there for her, but I didn't fully know how to be there. I was very stressed out during this time, and to say the least I was…

I've been with my girlfriend for almost 3 years now. We have an amazing connection, have lots of fun, talk, are best friends, and just love each other very much. She told me on our 2nd date that she was diagnosed Bipolar 1, and had episodes in her past (about 3) and doing ECT. After about 8 months, she stopped the ECT and went off her meds. She still saw a therapist and her psychiatrist regularly. Things were still going well, she's naturally extroverted and very outgoing so sometimes it's harder to make the distinction of when her mood is elevated. About a month ago, while I was out of town, she had an episode and was hospitalized for 4 days. Since then, I'm real…

I just bumped into the partner of a person I worked with a couple of years ago, who ended up being reprehensibly awful to me. Thinking about that lead to me thinking about how so much time has past I’m not angry like I was. Then I remembered how that job was the last minute job on top of many other jobs that meant I was really worked off my feet at that point in time and not giving my rats much attention and not getting done this tedious administrative task that a client kept asking for (that I had already done once and posted and the useless post system lost my mail instead of delivering it). Lead to me remembering that within a very close time frame from the encounter w…

So he kept saying I’m going to marry you one day. Then last night he says I didn’t mean really marry you just that is to show you I’m really committed. Mentions that why would we get married at this age 50 again. Holy mixed up now

So, I decided I’d come on here and just get some advice on how to deal with my gfs mood swings. Most of the time I can deal with her and I just give her space for a couple days, her mood swings vary month by month, example last month she was okay and still the same bubbly personality great! But this month she completely different, dosent want to talk at all, I told her if someone was up she could talk to me.. she didn’t want to which is fine by me. I just want some advice or just some confirmation I’m doing the right thing? I know us men don’t fully grasp women’s mood swings and struggle to know why they even happen. Any comments are appreciated.

I joined this forum in April 2011 when my wife requested separation and it ended up with her coming back and forth over the best part of a year. She would come back home and say everything was OK and we would go about trying to fix the hurt, then at a moments notice I would come home and she would be gone. It happened repeatedly and it was nothing less than pure psychological trauma. I haven't been on this forum since we got back together, which is bad on my part, but I didn't want to upset the apple-cart if she found out I was here and I happened to have a very nasty vertigo attack which has led to me having permanent neurological trauma - so, I'm permanently dizz…

Hi all! I've recently reconnected with a girl I'd had couple of dates with several years ago (things ended nowhere then because of her being just broken up with and still living with her bf at the time). I had a 2-year relationship in the meantime which ended couple of months ago. Initially she seemed surprised to hear from me but after a little bit of texting back and forth we agreed on a date at a restaurant for Sunday evening. 1st date went great. We talked (70-80% of the talking was hers) and laughed a lot. We both seemed to enjoy each other's company and mentioned that we should see each other for a little hike in the mountain sometime soon. I texted her the nex…

So, three weeks ago, I ordered a product from Amazon and forget to change the shipping address, so my product was shipped to my daughter's address (she lives 3 1/2 hours away). I called her that morning and explained the situation. I asked her if she could ship my package to my home and I would reimburse her for shipping costs. She happily agreed and told me it wasn't a problem. As our conversation continued and she told me that she would be going to court to obtain full custody of her daughter. Then she asked me if I could come and be with her for support. I told her to let me know when it is and I would be there if it was possible. I actually said, "I will do my best." …

Hello ENA people, I feel the need to ask this here because I'm sure some of you can help me figure out this minor problem. Our dog is a small breed, some kind of terrier mix, he is adorable and very very sweet - good with all our kids, thinks our baby is his baby. I thought a smaller dog would have more anxiety with kids, but it doesn't seem to be that bad. Sometimes he does shake when around our daughter, but I think it's because they've had bad experiences as per below: I seem to suck at training him not to jump on the couch too fast. I want him to be able to sit there with all of us, but I don't allow him to anymore because he can't seem to slow dow…