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We have always used your login name/username to log you into the website. But that is now really a secure way of doing it as your username is a public information. The new forum allows us to use stricter and more reliable security protocols which we will enable and start using from January 2022. What this really means is that instead of your username you will need to enter your email affiliated with your ena account and password. So please do make sure you know what email address you used here. Additionally we are now also able to provide you with Two Factor Authentication which can be found in your account settings here https://www.enotalone.com/settings/account…

And I know it. I had a painful breakup about 6mos ago. It took a long time to get over and get back out there. I went through the motions and finally, a few weeks ago connected online with a girl who I really liked. At first we started texting a lot. She was very engaged as was I. We agreed to meet up. We went out for brunch, and hit it off so well we spent 6hrs together. We progressed to holding hands, kissing, and cuddling. It was like we knew each other. We would text here and there for a week, and we went out again this past Tuesday. I took her hiking. We went on a beautiful hike. We had the best time. At the top, overlooking a picturesque view, I surprised …

Hi my fellow ENAers. I thought I’d make a post and update those who followed my previous thread, and also to get a little encouragement. the past 2 years have been really tough. I tried so hard and wanted so much for things between my husband and I to work. At first I just kept telling myself, “if we can just find our footing, our rhythm, get through a few months without a misunderstanding or being triggered by something, then we will finally have an opportunity to keep space open to develop our feelings and relationship.” But it was so hard to be on my end of the equation - the one who wasn’t loved, who was barely tolerated. It felt like my husband would resent me f…

hi all, a quick history: 3 months ago we met online, different states, 6 hours away. we had a wonderful weekend away for our first date and things moved really fast after that. She was very quick to say I love you and plan a future together and while visiting me during month 2, she announced to my family that she would be moving here, buying us a house, and having my babies. she ingratiated herself with my family saying that she really wanted to be apart of this family. All red flags I know, I get it, but I got caught up in the whirlwind and reciprocated her affection, but never initiated. sounds like love bombing right? So here we are in month three, she w…

I (22 M) was out last night at the bar and I saw my ex-girlfriend (22F) making out with a guy at the bar. What I am very confused about was the fact that she said she wanted to get back together at some point. She told me the reason if anything did not work out between us would not be because of another guy, but solely between us. I feel very devastated and alone at this moment. I have not been able to sleep much at all since last night and this is all that is on my mind. Any advice ?

Hi, Everyone! In the next few months, I would like to start an advice-column-like business. The way my 'product' would differ, is that instead of it being a more public forum (think: Dear Abby, etc), it would be a private 1:1 email exchange addressing the asker's question/concern. I have no idea (yet!) how to get this started, but wanted to ask your thoughts on a few of my wonderings below. My experience giving good advice comes comes as a result of my own counseling and therapy to resolve childhood traumas, healing through a divorce, mindfully co-parenting, and generally giving good advice (source: my friends- ha!). In other words, I'm not a professional, ho…

Hard to say but I am going lose another father . 😞😞😢😞😢😞😢😞😞

So there are three different girls in my life whom I interested in asking out and I feel pretty good about them saying yes. All three are co-workers and while most people would say not to date co-workers, I'm planning on putting in my notice and leaving for a new job very soon. Girl A is a new hire at this job and in my opinion, she's the most physically attractive of the three. We make conversation when we can and she always goes out of her way to talk to me. I honestly don't know a ton about her outside of phsyical attraction, but that's obviously why I'd want to ask her out, to get to know her better. She ultimately gets points for being super model levels of good…

Well it's our Turkey day here in America. As a country we will eat too much and watch a lot a football... which if you know any Americans or have ever been to America is almost the same as a regular Thursday. LOL! I think there are more games and the meal is more standard, so it is a little different!😄

Want to come on here just to let off some steam! I applied for a job mid last week. I was one of the first round of candidates interviewed. The interview consisted of a group activity, independent speaking section and an individual panel interview. I knew that they were interviewing for candidates this week also (as I got to choose the day I went to my interview and there were slots available this week), and they are recruiting for multiple positions (although I don't know exactly how many). I really want this job, I felt confident having left the interview, and the recruiters told me that I would hear either way in up to 10 days time. I understood that there would …

I’m talking to a guy and he is an EMT and volunteer firefighter. He is also a veteran. To be honest, I’m trying to find a man with a pretty good paying job because I live in the most expensive state and I’d like to get married and buy a house in the next few years. I know EMT’s make very low hourly pay. I made more than an EMT even as a cashier. So my question is…do volunteer firefighters make any money? He seems to devote a lot of his time to be a volunteer firefighter…I think that’s wonderful but does this make him any money…? Because if not, I wonder why he isn’t trying to be more ambitious to find better work with higher pay on his time off. I feel like EMT wo…

I look on this forum a lot to see if there are any new stories about people getting back together with their ex's. I do it just so that I can have some hope, and I really hope someday I can post my story on here to give others confidence that having hope pays off. In the meantime, I am going to make a list of actual stories of people I know that broke up and got back together. Please post your stories here too and we can put a little bit of cheer into this forum. 1. My friend was dumped by his girlfriend of 4 years. They were broken up for a year and a half and he tried everything to get her back. One day he was with his friend talking about her and she called him righ…

Sooo I’ve met this guy like 3 months ago, we started talking and we really clicked. We talked everyday and he complimented me a lot. He always said I was beautiful and that he liked me. (He once even said ily, omg haha) So he asked me to meet up with him a couple of times, but I always said no because I was scared haha. (I'm shy, okay) After a while, he was like ‘now we’re gonna meet or I’m coming to your house!’ hahaha so I met him while we were going out. We went on a walk and we talked and kissed and it was really fun. The day after, he said he had a lot of fun so things were going really well. After that, we continued to text everyday and we met up a couple times (a…

How do I get over this breakup? It's Saturday night and I stayed in and cried the whole night. Am I supposed to force myself to go out and socialize? I dont really have a large support group so its difficult. I have joined the gym, that helps a little. I mainly get the blues at night.

Just looking for unbiased opinions over an argument that I've just had this morning, I'm honestly unsure whether I'm in the wrong, and it's playing on my mind as the argument really escalated. Sorry in advance if it's a little lengthy. I'm going to use Person A and person B, just in an attempt to get opinions that are as unbiased as possible. So here's the scenario: There's this present that contains wires person A bought for a friend, hadn't opened the package, as to wrap it and give it later today. Person A goes into the bathroom and person B goes into person A's room and asks what inside the package, A responds saying its a gift. Person B th…

Hi, I have posted previously about a break up and getting back together etc and am struggling to let it all go and move on with my life. I ended a year long relationship back in May and was struggling to accept it and move on. And we were on/off for a while as per my previous post, but even when we were spending time together again i would have a feeling that it just wasn't right or if i was truly ready for being settled and not have complete freedom. Freedom to travel on my own and explore the world on my terms. Anyway, i was struggling with moving on and posted around a month ago about it and whether i should get back in to something with her or not. As …

Hi all, just want to ask for general tip for the workplace - is it better to be serious and formal OR warm and friendly, assuming you are competent? Just asking because a friend said not to smile and show you are super motivated but be very serious, that this is more North American style. I’m working in Europe where it tends to be more formal and serious (like Germany and Switzerland). I think it’s good if people are hardworking yet warm and friendly, but sense here people will assume you are naive, insincere, stupid, gullible, and not professional... Any thoughts?

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Had been talking to a guy for a few months on Instagram and we slowly built up the courage to meet. He had messaged me first quite a few times before I had responded. I then realised it was a few months and I hadn't responded so I messaged him. We spoke for probably a whole month before the meeting. He has offered breakfast/study dates before too. We ended up going out for dinner. Had very good chats, seems like a really lovely guy and nothing sexual. The odd compliment, but in good taste. Some cute messages to each other, like him sending me photos of what he does for work and him telling me that he often thinks about me. He told me he was a bit nervous before picking me…

I'm curious what's everyone's take on this. This man is 15 years older than me. He has a school aged child. Mother passed away some years ago. He lives with his two parents. Stable employment, very fit, hobbies, all that. Personally, I don't have an issue with this. I think it's reasonable, given the circumstances (and nannies are insanely expensive, anyway). I'm finding it though, that my friends are judgy about it.

Hi, so I was searching where can I find an advice about my “problem” and google brought me here. I hope that someone can help me or tell me what to do. So, here it goes.. There’s this girl that I have a crush on, I see her almost everyday as we work on the same place. At first I wasn’t talking to her of course as I’m a very shy person. Days, weeks and months passed by and we became friends. I’m so good at hiding my feelings, and also I found out that she’s in a relationship. I felt sad and hopeless but I said to myself, at least I became friends with her so it was okay. Most of the time I get to look at her, as our shops are in front of each other. And it makes …

We've been dating for year and a half. It never was perfect but now I feel like I'm suffocating. My gf's jealousy is killing me. Back when I trusted her, I told her that I had porn addiction when I was 14 but haven't watched porn for almost 5 years since. Worst mistake. Now she constantly says that I haven't changed, that porn addiction can't go away, that I still want to watch it (I do not), that my mind is changed forever. And she's not saint, when she was a teen she liked yaoi manga and anime, BDSM. I never bring it up, never call her pornsick or a cheater, why do I get called a pervert and a liar? I don't get it. In the beginning of our relationship she aske…

The other night I met this girl in a bar. To be honest, I’m sort of at a low point in my life right now. I recently got fired from a better paying job in which, I wasn’t doing so well in but fortunately my old company was willing to accept me back on. Im not really going to get into the details of what exactly happened since it was petty stuff (he said, she said...). But I’m here now and trying making the best of it. So on the first night we just talked for most of the night, she was really chill but I noticed that when I tried to get close she sort of kept her distance from me. And when I asked her for her number she said she has a 3 meeting rule. That she need…

Hi all, I think I have reached the end of the road with this "work friend" I befriended at a former job roughly 3/4 years ago. She's always had low confidence and is a bit awkward, but didn't seem to have social anxiety. The biggest issue is that whenever we chat whether in person or via text, she'll just ask me "How are you" in passing as a polite greeting, but starts talking about herself right away. We went out a few times and every single time, it was literally 3 hours of her talking about herself and how much she dislikes her job. We've kept in touch during the pandemic and every single time, it's the same story. She texts "Hi, how are you?" then doesn't…

So i have an annonymous account on youtube, so i can engage while being anonymous. my friends dosent even know this youtube account only me. i have a couple of weird videos i put up on it years ago just to test the upload process on youtube. and suddenly i got comments on those videos that knows my exact name, my address and my 5month old son's name that isnt even in social media yet. there were a couple of accounts that commented the same thing like spam. i am getting worried did i bump into the wrong people? feels like a threat