For Military Family Appreciation Day
A personal reflection :
Feeling much more calm this morning and slept well. I woke up with no headache or anxiety this morning. Might be the beginning of settling into our new home. Still a lot to do but the anxiety is lifting.
Being a military family is hard. You have to upend your life on the military’s schedule . Leave family and friends and people behind. It is a tough life for all concerned. When I was a child and a very young adult it is not something I would have considered. I knew I had a deep love for Canada as the best place on Earth. I had travelled the country so widely as a child. I knew my family’s connections with the military.
It didn’t become a consideration until I met R in the late 80’s. The military was the love of his life, his reason for happiness and acceptance and where he could thrive. I saw how civilian life didn’t really work for him. He needed the structure the military provided and it was everything he had always dreamed of. We had/ have spent months and months and years apart . When we only had letters it was so lonely. It was better with advances in technology but of course not the same as when we were together .
Our son grew up without his dad as a big part of his life from the age of 8 until he was 15. They missed so much together. Thankfully their relationship rebounded and now is tight.
Having your partner gone for the better part of 5 or more years but for some weekends isn’t good for marriages . We clung to each other and muddled through.
It is getting close to 33 years with this man as a gf and later a wife. Since I was 22 the military has been a feature in our life . The next 7 years ( or more if he chooses to extend which he seems happy to do)of being a military family are unknown to us, but here’s to hoping they are good and Canada remembers the sacrifice of its military and their families.