boltnrun

And this is the man who was going to "ruin" your life. What a pathetic little man. I hope he leaves you alone and you can get your divorce quickly.

If you're going into this expecting or hoping she will "change", that is an exercise in futility. If you want a daily texter you will probably do better with someone else.

I'm a newbie, apparently. But that doesn't bother me. I can't tell you how many times I got accused of being "bitter" based on my post count lol!

That's good news. So is he not allowed to come to the house?

Take the job prospects but get your own place. See if you can do a 6 month lease or month to month. Then take those 6 months to really get to know him. If it's meant to be, waiting another 6 months to live together won't damage the relationship.

You're keeping yourself connected to her. That's why you can't connect with anyone else. How about you forgive yourself? Maybe you made mistakes in the relationship but you don't deserve a life sentence.

You actually said this to her?? After that, I'm surprised she wants you at her party. I wouldn't go. What if she's there with a date?

You know when you want a day to go by quickly but it just dragggsssss!!! My dear friend who I haven't seen since Fall 2019 and his spouse are on their way to visit my town. I am working today then taking tomorrow off but I want this work day to end already!! And it's just crawling. Boo!

You can forgive her. But why try yet again to get back together? Clearly this is not the right woman for you. And certainly there are other lovely young women you could date. Tell your ego to hop in the back seat and tell your competitive side to ride back there as well. You don't need to "win" her.

I'm happy for you that the job is going well.

A man at work was dating a woman at work and someone told him she had cheated on him. So he walked off the job in the middle of shift (he was an assistant manager who was running the shift that night) and went home and called his sister and told her he was going to kill himself. She was concerned and called 911 (she lived several states away so she couldn't go to him immediately) and he was picked up and placed on a 72 hour hold. We all knew about it because gossip. So that is an extreme example of workplace dating going very, very bad. Another couple got written up because they just could not stop pawing at each other on the production floor. It was cringey. Not shockingly, the young woman became pregnant soon afterward. A third couple was actually engaging in an affair. They both got fired for making out inside a freight trailer during work hours. Also both assistant managers. I have many more horror stories! I presume there are some nice stories out there too, though.

I was 19 and my boyfriend was 20. He was a virgin. We just did it when we felt like it. He was delighted! Please do curb the drinking, however. It's a crutch. Plus, you want him to remember his first time, right?

It's a choice you have to make. Either you accept that he will never be able to make plans or organize things the way you want him to, or you don't accept it. My friend accepted that her husband will never be able to have a job. She couldn't leave the kids with him until they were older. He can't plan things. He struggles to walk so hiking and theme parks are out. He can't fix things around the house. She knew all this going in and married him anyway, accepting him as he is. Now, she is not a saint. She does sometimes become frustrated and frazzled. It's natural to do so. But she does the best she can to not unload on him because again, she knew what she was signing up for. Next time you find yourself getting frustrated, angry or impatient with him because he didn't do something the way you thought he should, try to step away and take a breather. It's not good for either of you to be wound up and have your blood pressure rising.

For all you know she could be thinking about you but just doesn't see the need to send you a text telling you.

I had suggested he hire a professional to help him with the process but he said he didn't want to pay for it. So he ended up getting scammed. He's going to try again and again won't hire a professional. I can't help him when he's determined to keep making the same bad decision. He didn't ask for my help anyway. But he will complain and unload to me!