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  1. I never thought I would see such a day in my country. I pray for peace, compromise, and unity. I am not trying to start a political discussion, I am just so disheartened by everything.
    8 points
  2. Here's wishing everyone a safe and Merry Christmas! 🎅 ⛸️ ⛄
    8 points
  3. Girl. Warning. Tough love ahead, but with kindness and respect: 1) What the heck were you thinking having a baby with a guy you'd never even lived with? You both put the cart way before the horse there, and I am wondering what your thought process was. Did you just want a baby really badly, or? 2) What the heck are you thinking drinking with him at all? You know he is an alcoholic. Why are you enabling his intake by having drinks with him? 3) Don't let him drive your car anymore. It's only a matter of time before he gets into an accident or arrested for drunk driving. And what
    7 points
  4. I hope you all have a great Christmas.
    7 points
  5. Our Christmas is going to consist of us three Covidites. But that's OK. We will see our kids when it's safe to do so, probably in a week. Happiest of Holidays and Merry Christmas to all.
    7 points
  6. I just keep saying what I was saying.
    6 points
  7. Phew, my test is negative. Longest 3 days ever.
    6 points
  8. We don't. We aren't there. But the fact that she's acknowledging things is a great sign. I don't think we are that good., lol I think her therapist has helped get this far. Maybe we participated in a little push she needed. That's all. My experience is so similar. I was an abusive marriage. Going to therapy with a great therapist, but at the same time participating in an emotional abuse forum and hearing womens stories so similar to mine gave me the reinforcement I needed. I remember telling my therapist I was mad at him for not coming right out and telling me. He point
    6 points
  9. No porn? This smacks of someone who's been doing way too much porn and is now so desensitised, physically and mentally, that they can't get off at all unless their partner is acting out the scenes they've viewed. Sex is supposed to be about pleasure. There's no pleasure in something that makes you retch and tear up. Why are you allowing yourself to be abused like this?
    6 points
  10. Please. Yes, he does. He just wants you to do it anyway. Tell him you're game if he'll deep-throat a large cucumber that you control, every time he expects you to do this. Actually, you know what? I'd be so turned off by him and his attitude about all of this, I'd leave him to deep-throat the cucumber to his heart's content while I found a man who actually respected me.
    6 points
  11. talk to a therapist for your unhealthy attachment towards a person who doesnt care about you. if you dont set up some standards for yourself all these bozos will keep creepin into your life and mess with your health. This is only a wake up call, your self worth and esteem is at a very low, get that confidence back by getting involved in some positive stuff like setting some new goals for yourself, learning a new skill , taking good care of yourself & family and one day just like that you will be free from all this.
    6 points
  12. Wishing a Merry Christmas to all! 🎄🎅
    6 points
  13. You gave away all your hearts and I did not get even one?! I adjusted the limits.
    6 points
  14. I mean.....he told you what you don't want to hear - in person he didn't feel any chemistry or not enough to pursue things. Basically, what you have here is a typical OLD situation where on paper you should be a good match - common interests, you both seem cute on camera, you get along talking or playing board games. However, in real life, that essential click, that chemistry just wasn't there and that's that. Seems also that the lack of that click in real life was rather mutual. What you are mourning is more the potential on paper than reality. Above aside, I think you need to
    5 points
  15. Antidepressants are notorious for adding weight and making it hard to lose it. I would however swap out the boyfriend he doesn’t sound like a keeper. He sounds like Mr. whenever everything‘s perfect.
    5 points
  16. It took me almost a month to finally test negative after contracting Covid in early December. So glad you will be seeing your kids! I will be seeing mine tomorrow 🙂
    5 points
  17. Long time. I live and work near there. It’s devastating.
    5 points
  18. Okay I want you to take my advice from a man that has a disabled child. I learned early on that I was making decisions for other people in regards to dating me. By that I mean I would decide for them if they wanted to date me instead of being open and honest about my situation with my son and allowing them to decide for themselves. You are doing the exact same thing with this guy. You do not think you have the time to devote to any relationship so you stop yourself from having one. This is totally wrong. Give this man the gift of making his own choice with all the information. If
    5 points
  19. From what you've written you're being neither mean nor leading him on. You've been very clear with him about where you're at right now: not interested in dating him, and not feeling that friendship is something you two can authentically share. It takes a lot of mojo to be that clear with someone, just it takes a lot of mojo to walk the path you walked in processing the breakup. Unfortunately, he has shown you that he is not in a place where he can respect the clarity you've shown. He is focused on one thing and one thing only: himself, his feelings, in ways that are bordering on "mean and
    5 points
  20. He said this so that you waste more of your future with him. He knows he's using you and wasting your time. A GOOD man who loves actively plans your futures together with you!!! Because he wants what's best for you both.
    5 points
  21. From 3000 it changed to 15000. Several times a year there is a major search update at google which changes traffic patterns. Overall, ENA is very stable but of course the internet is a dynamic ever expanding platform where new forums pop up every day. So market share changes and evolves to. I am personally not very concerned about any of that, it much more to me than a business as I believe it has a role and mission.
    5 points
  22. Do you perhaps have codependent tendencies? I ask this because codependent people will do anything, even inconvenience themselves and even put themselves into financial distress in order to try to keep a friend or family member happy because they fear abandonment. You allowed her to take over your party because you were trying to make her happy, for example. I would ask myself, why do I want to remain friends with a person who treats me the way she does? Why do I feel that some small scraps of niceness are worth all the things I have to put up with?
    5 points
  23. Does he watch a lot of porn, by any chance? It's disturbing that he only seems to respond when you're choking and essentially suffocating during oral sex. You should never just submit yourself to something so painful and uncomfortable, OP.
    5 points
  24. If someone were to tell me that he saw no future with me, I'd thank him for his honesty, and I'd walk away with my dignity. Zero 'confusion'. Zero analysis. There is no amount of 'help'--of any kind--that will force someone to want what they don't want. Most people are NOT a good match for us. All the pretzeling in the world won't change that--it's natural odds, and it's a level playing field for all of us. Whenever someone doesn't own the capacity to view you through the right lens, that speaks of their limits rather than of any deficiency in you. A good match will own the vis
    5 points
  25. SHANDA arrived early last night, we took a walk around my neighborhood with no balking about the hilly terrain. Ten minutes in, she took my arm and held my hand. I gave her a kiss on a scenic overlook and she clearly liked it. Back home, I gave her flowers and she surprisingly gave me a perfect gift I didn't expect: a vegan cookbook that featured classic soul/jazz/hiphop song pairings. She kinda nailed it with that one. For dinner viewing, I gave her the choice between two classic Xmas movies but offhandedly mentioned an offbeat hard-science-fiction 70s flick in passing. She immediat
    5 points
  26. 🌎🎅🦌🦌🦌🦌🦌🎄🎁☃ Track Santa https://www.noradsanta.org/
    5 points
  27. Conjunction of Jupiter and Saturn.
    5 points
  28. How much can you realistically respect from someone who shows up late and wasted to spend two days having sex with a stranger? This isn't some moral finger wag, it's practical. If you are looking for a relationship, then learn how to tell the difference between people who consider themselves to be relationship material--and those who do NOT.
    5 points
  29. As some of you know I've been going through separation and divorce in the past year and a global pandemic on top of that has forced me to rethink or restructure a lot of my life in different ways. I moved, bought a new place, taken up new hobbies and found new support networks that have carried me through. It appears the pandemic has been one of other reasons for the changes I've made and I see those changes complementing one another so I don't find things disharmonious oddly but very in sync with the type of life I've been wanting for awhile now - to live in peace and relative solitude.
    4 points
  30. Thank you everyone for you amazing support. I really appreciate it!
    4 points
  31. Brice, Welcome to ENA, You surely are not alone in what you are going through. If you searched this forum you would find hundreds of stories just like yours. So back in the days of in real life meeting people and dating you were exposed to possibly one person a month that you could MAYBE strike up a conversation with in hopes of it going somewhere. With OLD you can view easily a hundred a day and try and talk to lets say 10 that you find interesting. So in one day you could almost try and make a connection with the same number of women you could in real life back in the day.
    4 points
  32. This nightmare is being referred to as a covid super spreader event. Heck if they had sheets over thier heads like the rest of thier ilk that could at least have been better than viking costumes.
    4 points
  33. Your conversation enlightened him and made him realize that he was way too emotionally invested in her... that it would be considered as inappropriate. ....he thought if you were doing this with some male flatmate how would he feel about it. Basically he put himself in your shoes and had a real understanding of your feelings. I say this is a good thing. Now you know that for the long haul, you both need to communicate if you want to sustain a healthy relationship.
    4 points
  34. *smacking* lol got to love spell check.
    4 points
  35. My head is spinning. On top of this atrocity, did anyone else notice this violent mob were not wearing masks and dressed in bizarre costumes?🤠🤖👹 Why do people gather for protests in a time of covid?😕
    4 points
  36. You sound like you may be clinically depressed. I started suffering from severe anxiety and depression last summer. I consulted a doctor and started on medication and talk therapy. I also got a physical and see a psychiatrist for the meds. It's helped me tremendously. This is what I'd recommend; no need for you to continue to suffer alone.
    4 points
  37. My ex went back to the woman who cheated on him with his friend and burned his house down. He also kept seeing a previous ex who also cheated on him with another friend and tried to burn his house down. He hit both of them and destroyed their personal property. They are still together as far as I know. My ex is addicted to the extreme highs and lows of a drama relationship. He found me boring because I never did any of those things. He told me I must not really love him since I didn't do anything like that. Please, for your own sanity, stay away. Change your number if you have to. An
    4 points
  38. Cara, I think that's what is at the heart of the matter. Why you are drawn to this useless type of individual. You need (as other posters have said) to be single for at least a year, during which you take charge of yourself, become your own woman, and then find a healthy relationship. Of course, he is "happy" you are in his life!! Who wouldn't be happy to have a driver, maid-servant, cook, masseuse and all the rest, and better still, free of charge!! To him you are just an object, with the same status as a couple of good domestic appliances. I don't know or see what "life" h
    4 points
  39. Bringing a child into the world with this sort of man would be cruel to the child. Sorry if your life plan won't come to fruition because you're not in the optimum circumstances to make those wishes come true. Keep an open mind to alternative solutions of being a parent to someone who is not your biological child if you can raise one solo or find a good man when you're a bit older. I had a friend who also made decisions in a panic because her biological clock was ticking. She became impregnated by a far younger guy whose brain wasn't fully developed to know what the hell he was doing. He,
    4 points
  40. Right...unless he gets another spontaneous call from a friend. Rather than stoop to his level by listening to his lines of BS, I'd walk away without a word. He's not worth your time.
    4 points
  41. Agree with the sentiments expressed above. If you'd like a guy who will consider you on important occasions—or consider your feelings about important occasions to be as valid as his own—then he is doing a very good job of showing you that he's not that guy, not with you. Generous view here is that he's just a kind of an inconsiderate dunce. Less generous view is that he's trying—and succeeding—in giving you the impression that he's in a serious relationship while also maintaining some version of a single life. In your shoes, however, I wouldn't really be keen on exploring either of
    4 points
  42. I'm sorry for the loss of your dad, and for what you are feeling and going through now. I can speak from experience so I will tell you that what you are experiencing is normal. Yes, it sucks but you are in disbelief and shock. I was married for 29 years and I was blinded sided when he said he wanted a divorce. My world, as you can imagine, fell apart and I felt such despair, grief and heartache. I didn't think I could get through it. You have to process your loss, plain and simple. Easier said than done but it's something that you must go through because you loved him. You are hu
    4 points
  43. All the advice has been great and much needed. I definitely feel like we both have a wall up, so going into this new year that needs to change b/c he’s showed me he cares about me and I’ve done the same. I reached out to him and he responded almost immediately with a long paragraph that was heartfelt and sincere. I think this has helped me to be more open with him
    4 points
  44. Merry Christmas!!! ⛄⛄🎅🤶❤️
    4 points
  45. ⭐ Merry Christmas to all! ⭐
    4 points
  46. I can guarantee she does this all the time. She was able to get you to buy her wine, food and to take care of her yard, all for free! Plus you buy things from her. I wouldn't expect this to turn into a relationship. You may hear from her the next time she wants free stuff. It's up to you if you want to be used like this.
    4 points
  47. I got my first shot recently. I will let you guys know how I feel. My arm hurts a little but no big deal, I've gotten worse shots. I'm already signed up for my 2nd shot. Was I nervous getting it? Yeah, a bit, but this type of vaccine actually has been made before for other viruses so it's not like it's 100% new. At this point, I'm in "f it" mode. I have very little to lose. This pandemic has isolated me so much. I hate video chat and I live alone. I want to get things back to normal in my life. I doubt anything will happen but that's the chance I was willing to take. Bolt,
    4 points
  48. Thank you everyone. My chest still hurts some but everything else is gradually getting a bit better each day. My brother is feeling better too. I think my nephew is getting retested tomorrow. Hoping he's in the clear.
    4 points
  49. It's interesting that you say that you want to learn to be more assertive in a healthy way and your first example is the definition of healthy assertiveness. Saying "no" and then staying silent as he carried on was the correct and intelligent response. You couldn't have handled that better if you tried. One simply doesn't argue with a holes, you just smile and nod and ...... hang up/walk away once you can. The assertive part was blocking him. It was literally a perfect way to handle that situation and the part that you need to work is that you don't seem to realize how well you handled that. I
    4 points
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