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So my ex and I split up almost a year ago after a 3 year long distance relationship. Although it ended due to not seeing eye to eye on certain things and the distance, it was still a very beautiful relationship and I would like to say I have never formed an emotional connection like that, despite us being quite different people on paper. Fast forward to this summer I have been seeing this guy for about 3 months and we’ve been on maybe 8 dates but haven’t been intimate and initially I was really into it cause we seem to be a good match, but in between our dates I don’t feel a very deep connection when we are apart and speaking on the phone. A part of me feels maybe i…

only been talking for a month. somehow the subject of kids came up. if it matters, shes 22, im 32. she wants kids, i do not. we never know our future, anything can happen. but i cannot promise her i will want kids some day. so she knows she has to make a decision. ive tried to talk to her about it, but i dont think she likes that i bring it up. she asks why do i remind her. i feel like i need her to decide before she develops any feelings. but i cant force her, or make the decision for her. im not expecting, or asking her to give up having children to be with me. were only a month in, we barely know each other. i dont want to invest in someone who might lea…

have been seeing a guy for 2 months we got along so good we are perfect together but he doesn't want a relationship with me he has told me from the start he just got out of a 20-year relationship which he cheated on her for 20 years because he says he did it because she was not intimate with him but he tells me that he has changed that he never wants to hurt any other women as he hurt her, I don't trust him 100 percent we care about each other a lot but he said we need to split up so that he can get over his ex and that I also need to work on myself. I understand that he needs to get over his ex. But I am ready to be in a relationship I have been single for 7 years I do…

We live about 3 hours away from each other. We met over a year ago, had a great time for 3 months then she ghosted me. Well in July she got back in touch out of no where and said she missed me and apologized for ghosting me. Told me she was going through some tough times and did not mean to ghost me but could not put any effort towards me and that she regretted doing that as she really likes me a lot and has thought about me all this time. So we start back up communications, things are really good, like before. Great rapport, get along great. I unfortunately can't go visit her then due to lots o things going on and could not get away, …

There is a guy I'm dating since 3-4 months. We see each other regularly and we are already intimate. However there is one issue. He says that I need to be more open and I have to talk more with him. When we see each other we talk about a lot of things but they are all stuff that happened to me or him during the time that we hadn't been together. He is saying that we need to be having deeper conversations and I totally agree with that. He always asks me if there is anything bothering me and if I have any issues. He wants me to share anything that is bothering me about our relationship without him having to ask. I'm honestly trying to do that but it lo…

So I am in need of advice as I have felt very low about this boy that I briefly dated. We met on tinder and after a few weeks of talking online we met up and slept together. At this point when I met him I wasn't looking for anything specific including a relationship and was very open to casual fun but I have practically fell in love on first sight. I was not expecting for a guy that I met on my tinder to be exactly my type in every way possible and the way he made me feel when I was him was not something I have felt in a very long time. After we met to my surprise he continued to text me everyday all day. I guess because I have met a lot of guys from tinder I jus…

I recently transferred to a state school near the beach. I really miss being in a relationship and would love to have someone close especially because I don't have many friends at the moment. I just found out a week or so ago that a girl from my hometown is living just about a block away from me. She goes to a different school about 15 minutes away however lives with another girl from my hometown In a house about 2 minutes from my apartment. We've gone to school together since pre K and have always been acquaintances. Ive always thought that she is a very pretty girl but we have never really talked much and nothing has ever happened. I have seen her on dating apps on and …

I met my gf my 2nd year in college. I’ll admit, I had a pretty sheltered childhood, so when I went off to college, I tried to have as much fun as I could. My 2nd year was when I made a lot of my friends and went out often. I drank pretty regularly and could occasionally be an *** when I drank too much. I completely understand that and owned up to it. I started to lighten up on the drinking when I heard from my gf how much it bothered her. In present day, I’ve made some major changes in my life. I have a full time job at a large company now that I’m out of college, so I drink very rarely because I’m constantly busy and don’t really think about it. I usually only d…

I met one of the most special and interesting girls, we had a pretty much the perfect day and we overall seemed to fit together really well, but in the last moment she sounded like she didn't want to meet again. As a disclaimer, I haven't had a girlfriend or any dates yet. I just haven't felt like knowing the right one. But luckily I met someone very special recently. She isn't only extremely interesting for me and I think we would work together very well, but she also had quite healthy impacts on me, so I feel like there is a lot of potential. The reason why I am writing to this forum is that there were some little things that got me very confused about how s…

I’ve been seeing this guy only twice but he intimated both times so i told him i would like to see him again and all he said was “okay” is it my responsibility to to ask when he’s free or what time i wanna meet? I don’t know how to respond to just okay … i think that’s a bad sign

Hi, I seem to be in a pattern of having what I feel like are great first dates (sometimes I've likely read it wrong) however I'm finding a big trend in people thinking it's OK to just ghost instead of just telling me how it is after, which is really feeding into my anxiety levels to the point where I now expect to get ghosted or fizzled on even if I feel like it's been a great date. I don't want to be feeling that way. I will be in a state of 'when shall I text to try and organise a second date' 'should I text on the same night to say I would like to see her again' 'should I hold back so she doesn't think I'm too keen/coming on too strong' I'm fed up of it. The …

I had been dating this woman for a little over a month that was super impatient. She would freak out completely whenever I cancelled our dates. She'd become really upset and impatient. Over the weekend she did a meal prep for me and cooked a lot of food. She seemed a little upset that I wasn't available to get it. I told her that she could come over after 10pm and bring it and she refused. She said she didn't want to come over that late to avoid getting caught up in a bootycall. She said she'd bring the food in the morning. I agreed. I spoke with another woman I hookup with sometimes and she agreed to come over around 1am to hookup. She ended up staying the night. So…

There's this guy who has kind of been casually in my life for the past 2 or so years. At first he was pursuing me but I was kind of mentally elsewhere so wasn't giving him much attention. We hung out a few times and he kissed me once and it was very sweet but then he went away for a while and covid happened so I didn't see him for several months. During covid we would go for walks together and sit outside often. I started having feelings for him but was existing another relationship so it was confusing. However it was kind of perfect in that we weren't at all physically involved (pandemic) but I could spend a lot of time with him while also figuring out my other relations…

This month marks 6 years since my last proper relationship (which was only a few months anyhow). Just wondering if anyone else has been this unfortunate? 😔

Hello everyone, I’ve recently reconnected with my ex girlfriend after 15 years. I broke up with her when I was 17, because it was really hard to see her due to her overbearing father. I really want to be with her and start a family. She still looks at me differently than any other woman on earth. She turns into a little girl when we are together. I can truly tell she loves me, but she won’t admit it or deny it. and I believe that it’s because she hasn’t been with a man in 10 years. She told me today that me asking her to be with me was adding a lot of pressure in her life, and that I don’t know her anymore because she has changed. I told her that the pressure was be…

Hi, I am a 17 year old guy. Since ninth grade, I have been in love with this amazing beautiful girl who is way out of my league. I met her by chance and we became friends. She is really nice to me and we used to talk everyday for a couple of minutes since we didn't really get many opportunities to talk(she is always hanging with her friends and never alone) and she used to wave me goodbye everyday. She knew I loved her but she didn't really say anything about whether she liked me of not. I guess I was okay with it cuz uncertainty is better than rejection. So last year during the pandemic, we were just chatting on a zoom class when she confessed my love for me and said she…

So I met a guy on a dating site and we have been talking for about a month. He lives almost 2hours away from me. He and I have asked many questions and I feel we know a good amount about one another. We have had 2 dates and he has driven to where I am for them. On the second date he asked if he could kiss me so I said yes. The kiss was not a french kiss. I kept it simple. However a couple days later we had a conversation and he thought we were boyfriend and girlfriend he stated because he had kissed me. I am used to a guy asking a girl not just assuming based off a kiss. I did notice on the first date he brought up stuff he went through and why he and his ex divorced (10…

I was dating this guy (exclusively) for about 4 months now. Everything was good with us up until a few weeks ago. He went out of town for a few days too a bachelor party. It was during my bday so we both agreed to see each other when he got back. However, I have not seen him since. We always see each other once a week, usually on Friday and sometimes we see each other on Saturday as well. The first weekend he came back from his trip, we were supposed to meet up but h said he was feeling really sick and cancelled saying that he needed to get a cover test. So we didn't see each other that week and planned to see each other the following week. The next week he calls me …

Hi all. This might seem a bit of a strange one...just stated dating someone, been a few weeks. I will openly admit I'm not the best looking guy in the world. I'm 53, 6' tall, bald but in my favour I do go to the gym a lot so for my age I am reasonably fit (physically). The woman I've stated dating is a few years younger than me. She I'd also absolutely stunning. So how do I build my confidence and accept she wants to be dating me as I seem to be in denial just now.

I’m a mixed white, Asian, half black male from the northern Midwest. I am passing white for many. My girlfriend of 9 months is white from the south. About a month ago while driving I asked her not to play her music that used the N-word because it offended me. Only when I asked I accidentally slipped and used the full N-word with the ‘ er ‘ending. She went ballistic. And despite my repeated apologies for saying the word, and offending her, she remained pissed. She said my use of the word was a ‘blatant display of the ignorance of that version of the word’. I attempted to explain that I had long ugly history of being called that exact word- fights in HS, c…

I recently started seeing a girl who is in an open relationship for the past 3 weeks. I was okay with her situation (and surprisingly preferred it) as I am really into her personality and mannerisms. In the beginning we were constantly texting and snapping. When we would see eachother, it was intimate and fun. However recently, she's been uncharacteristically distant and unresponsive. I know she's busy at work cause of the season and on the weekends because of her family. And when I try to make plans, she usually has something else planned. So I've been giving her some space. I saw her last night at a group event, and we talked alone for a bit. She was her nor…

My boyfriend honestly tell me he had a fling before. He gave me some details about it but not so much. I don't know what to think about this fling so I tried to forget it because it brings my mood down. But then, he unconsciously bring the topic where he said some details about their sex, and I told him to stop cause I don't like it. So after that he never mention about the girl, but suddenly I became curious. I don't know what to do, I want to know the whole story about them and I want to know how they ended to an argument but I was kind of afraid to asked. I want to know the girl's name but knowing him I think he wouldn't tell me. I wanted to asked him but I don't…

Hi everyone! My story is little bit complicated so maybe i am searching for advice ... We started online before the pandemic. At first I was not interested but he was so “addicted” to me. After 3 months he wanted to come to my country but he could not because of covid. During quarantine we became closer. Texting, calling every day for hours, gift exchange -3,4 times, cooking, watching movies, eating, laughing together. We continued with all that for days, months, more than year… and one day I realized i love this person. When we had argue for the first time he said that he usually blocks the person because he is sure that the same fight will happen again. Every time w…

I’ve fallen in love with the idea of my office crush for almost two years now and I want to get over her so I can move on. She’s a beautiful Latina with light skin, long black hair and a noticeable accent. I have spoken to her very little and other than the obvious all I know is she likes dogs. I need help getting over this fantasy and please don’t tell me to distance myself because when the pandemic first broke out I barely worked with her which was like a year a half and just fantasized more and more about her. This obsession with this fantasy is terrible. I know it isn’t true love and the crushing is all one sided. When I said hello how are you today all she responded …

This woman's intentions confuse me. Here is what she was doing - in May-July, she came out to the bars in my hometown with her friends, Christina and Becky. At the bars, she followed me around, would walk past me and say my ecig smells good, and run away. She would walk past me, kick my foot, and run away. She would come up to me, introduce herself, say she forgot my name and run away, telling other people I do not love her enough. She would hide her keys to approach me. When talking to her, she made herself difficult and unavailable. She was on the other hand giving me extended eye glances. She was then fired from her job and her friend Christina gets in a serious car ac…