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boltnrun

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  1. That is bizarre. Relying on a romantic partner to keep you from feeling lonely is an awfully huge burden to expect someone to carry.
  2. I think some people use the word "nice" when they're trying to let someone down. As in "You're a really nice guy, but I'm not feeling a 'spark'." And unfortunately that can add a negative connotation to the term "nice", as though being nice is a bad thing! A.woman who likes you and wants to get closer to you will not regard being "nice" as a negative.
  3. Thank you. I got back from my after work walk and literally five minutes later it started thundering and absolutely pouring. I was going to walk for ten minutes longer but now I'm glad I didn't. I wasn't even wearing a jacket. Just capri joggers and a short sleeved t-shirt. Still feeling lousy. Still can't figure out why.
  4. The point I forgot to make when I mentioned fantasizing about actors is it didn't mean I didn't truly love the man I was in a relationship with, or that I didn't find him extremely attractive. In fact, my most recent ex and I had a very strong physical attraction to one another. But both of us still noticed other attractive humans. And our strong physical attraction to one another didn't mean either of us was obligated to immediately be ready for sex at all times when the other one was present (undressed, dressed in lingerie, or whatever).
  5. I fantasize about a few TV and movie actors, all of whom are married. It doesn't mean I don't respect them or their wives or their marriages. It's just a fantasy. And I am 100% certain their wives are neither angry nor threatened by me or any other fans fantasizing about their husbands. When I was married there was a woman who worked with my husband (who also happened to be married) who I felt was flirting blatantly with him in front of me AND her husband. I mentioned it to my husband but it was more of a funny thing than me feeling he might find her more attractive than me. I didn't immediately put on lingerie when we got home and then check him for an erection. It never would have occurred to me to do something like that. Yes, it's your insecurity causing these totally made up issues.
  6. Denied health care in the US because they're single? Humph. Not true. I've been single going on 20+ years now and I have never been denied healthcare due to my relationship or marital status. I don't feel unsafe being unmarried and I live in a major metropolitan area.
  7. She was a great friend before that. But yes, she had (and has) a lot of issues.
  8. We were both in our mid 30s.
  9. Why can't you just be happy he loves you and is attracted to you? Why are you creating all this chaos inside your mind? If you're looking for a way out of this relationship all you need to do is tell him it's not working out and you're ending the relationship. No need to go through all this mental rigmarole. And if you love him and want to stay in the relationship, then work with a therapist to stop all these obsessive looping repetitive thoughts.
  10. You can't fight for a relationship if the other person isn't on board. Or, you can try but it'll be an exercise in futility. Ask him for clarification. Is he saying he doesn't want to continue, or is he just saying he's hesitant to continue because you have a child? If he's hesitant ask him specifically what his concerns are.
  11. You don't get to decide what arouses him and what doesn't.
  12. I had the opposite happen. I was the one who got into a relationship. I wanted to continue my friendships but one friend immediately stopped answering or returning my calls. There was one activity we used to do together but I was going to these events with my boyfriend because he was a participant (semi pro athlete). But other than that one activity I wanted to see my friend as frequently as always. But again, she refused to answer or return my calls because she was mad (and jealous) I had a boyfriend. We never spoke again, which was a shame but she was being immature. And this had been a very, very close friend.
  13. Day ten of my cold. Or whatever it is.
  14. Some religious cults tell the children they won't get into heaven (or whatever their heaven equivalent is) if they don't do exactly as they're told. They're told that "God" will be angry with them if they disobey. When I was sent to a religious school one of the things that bothered me the most (other than the blatant money grabbing) was the leaders of this church telling tiny little five year olds they were sinners who would go to hell if they even had a "wicked" thought. That thoughts were just as bad as deeds. Seeing the terrified looks on the faces of those small children really pissed me off. There's no need to frighten children like that.
  15. I feel bad when I see adults using their children to recruit new cult members I mean new "church" members. I never understand why any so-called religion would need to recruit.
  16. Well, she would have to endure a lot more unpleasantness if it turned out she did have breast cancer and it wasn't detected before it became serious.
  17. Do you want to be "right" or do you want a close, loving relationship with your grandchildren and your daughter? Do you prioritize "Joe" over anyone and everything else?
  18. ? No, that isn't what I wrote. Rainbow said he made a "mistake" and I was asking for clarification of what the mistake was.
  19. This is interesting to me. Do you think he accidentally sent you the sext? Or was his mistake in thinking you would like it and would do the same back to him? What I would wonder is if he would have apologized and blamed it on stress if you had enthusiastically responded.
  20. The pandemic did a number on my mental health (as it did with millions of others). I didn't have problems from the shutdowns but rather from people who ignored regulations and therefore needlessly exposed others. THAT was what got me all screwed up. I haven't been the same since. I'm glad your son is doing better.
  21. His go to for dealing with stress is to be sexually inappropriate? Wonder what he might do if you two are in a relationship and he feels "stressed". If it were me...I would not go out with him again. If I did it would be giving him tacit approval to behave this way again. But perhaps you find it intriguing?
  22. So she still has strong feelings for her ex and definitely is not in any place to be considering dating. I'm really glad you didn't send her that painfully obvious fawning message.
  23. My brother! He just turned 60 and he hadn't gone for a routine physical in about ten years. He told me he believes going to the doctor makes you sick, i.e., you believe you are fine and then the doctor finds something that needs attention. He prefers to operate under blissful ignorance. This is the guy who went an entire year with a massive abdominal hernia because he 1) believed his soreness was due to having weak abdominal muscles and the solution was to work out even harder to strengthen them and 2) thought it would go away on its own when working out extra hard didn't take the pain away. His surgery ended up having to be extra invasive because he waited until he'd fainted at a work function to see a doctor. Whenever I'm feeling unwell he advises me to do "burpees" in my living room to get stronger 🙄 He's another one who thinks because he's slim that means he's healthy. He definitely equates weight with health, although ironically he isn't attracted to slim women! His all-time favorite actress looks-wise is Sophia Loren, who he calls "the most beautiful woman in the world" and she was no Skinny Minnie. He also likes Sofia Vergara but liked her better before she lost a lot of weight. He loves curves, on women that is!
  24. Ugh, concussions are no fun. I've had two and both times the headaches were awful. I hope she's feeling better soon.
  25. Understood. I read it as a response to what I'd written about the actors I listed and how they don't adhere to that old, tired Hollywood trope that a woman must be a size 2 or size 0 in order to be considered attractive or healthy. I hope being more realistically sized becomes more acceptable to the world. Particularly in the US.
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