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So my boyfriend and I were just chilling and watching movies. All of a sudden he asks “hey, do you want to spend the rest of your life with me?” He really caught me off guard, so I sort of paused after the question. Also, I didn’t want to answer a question that serious right off the bat. We’ve been together for two years so Yes, I’ve given it some thought before but he and I have been through some tough situations and we argue and fight over the smallest things sometimes and it happens pretty often. So naturally, I wanted to think about all the variables before giving him an answer. But before I could respond, he yells “NEVERMIND!” and storms out of the room. He slept in …

Hi, Im Catherine and I’m in an 1 and a half year relationship with an amazing person. My boyfriend is kind , caring and very loving. We make plans together and this seems to be going great. But, in my two past relationships I was the one being cheated on and that did really break my heart. I’m trying not to bring this to surface because I know he ain’t like the previous two and I seem to manage it. Except some very rare moments when those thoughts come into my mind and I wonder whether I should trust that man with eyes closed or if I will be hurt for one more time! Should I trust him?? He’s so good to lose all that and I don’t want to be disappointed, esp…

I met my boyfriend when I was 18 and he was 23, recently my boyfriend and I got new jobs around the same time. Our usual routine is seeing talking on the phone every night at 9 pm and then seeing each other once a week on Saturday. We are both full-time students so now that our new jobs have been thrown into the mix it's become much harder to find time for each other, I still tried to keep our phone call routine but he told me he didn't want to talk to me every night anymore because of the stress from work. Upon hearing that I was feeling kind of hurt because I felt as though we would eventually start to drift apart. A few days ago an old short-lived flame messaged m…

Let me start by saying my ex and i broke up on decent terms on my end. There wasn’t any yelling or screaming. So we are still friends. We actually went out to a bar together this weekend. Had a few drinks and we both went home. An hour after we left the bar he FaceTimed me. I answered and he’s like “what are you doing” so i tell him I’m on the way to bed and he then asks me who’s over there. So I’m looking puzzled and i said “no one” then he says “I’m coming over and then he asked me did i ever get my tire changed” (i had a bad tire a few weeks ago that he helped me change) so i said “yes” then he said “I’ll be over in a little bit” He hung up on me he never c…

I’ve been talking to this guy at my age for a while now and he's already given me reassurance, flexed me on his social media accounts, introduced me to his parents and pals, and shown affection beyond what I expected it to be (he doesn’t believe in courtship). He wanted to meet my parents too, but I would never permit that to happen because we have a whole different lifestyle. I grew up in a strict family where boyfriends aren't allowed until we graduate from college and get a stable job. I find it weird because we’ve only known each other for a while; it hasn’t even lasted a year. Although he’s a soft nice guy and I’ll admit that I kinda have feelings for him too, but I …

I have been with my boyfriend for about 9 months. This is the happiest I have been, but something consistently bothers me. The friend who set my boyfriend and I up told me (after we had been on 4-5 dates) that he had actually asked about a mutual friend of ours first, and only asked about me after finding out our mutual friend already had a boyfriend. This knowledge has haunted me in almost every aspect of our relationship. I feel so less than and undesirable, no matter what he says. Do I tell him? I know it's not his fault, so it feels wrong (and like a crazy girlfriend) to bring it up. Do I try to move on? If so, how? Thank you!!

Hello, I’m new here and quite nervous. Me and my boyfriend have been exclusive for just over two months now. We were seeing eachother for atleast a few months. He told me he liked me about a year prior but I told him no as I was currently in a 4 year relationship that I had been in since I was 15 (I am now 20) We remained friends, until something happened with my ex boyfriend. He was very abusive and controlling to me and had been for 2-3 years. Long story short, he hit me with a car & I sustained injury’s so bad I couldn’t walk or sleep & bathe comfortably for the best part of 2 months. When this happened, my current boyfriend (who I was friends with …

story: we have been together for almost 4 years, we have a very nice relationship and quite frankly we argue very little. Last summer we had a big fallout, mostly due to me, and ended up cutting contact for like a month. During that month, he spoke to a friend ( girl) who he has been friends since before we met, and she is also a friend of his sisters. I never really liked her, and believed she had a thing for him, but nothing every happened between them. During this month, she initiated conversation and they talked everyday. Eventhough nothing physical happened, it hurt me a lot, however, after a month separated, he came back to me and we worked things through. Sinc…

I've been dating this guy for 8 months now. Everything had been really good, I even moved an hour to be closer to him. Now that I've moved I haven't seen him in 9 weeks (we live 20 minutes apart), there's always some excuse that our plans get cancelled. This last time I misunderstood him and thought we were hanging out Sunday so when he said he wouldn't be coming over I got really upset. I miss him, so the next day was the day he was supposed to come over and told me he wasn't coming because of my fit the night before. My fit? Cause I want to see the person I'm involved with.......anyway. So I went out with my friend and had 2 drinks, the entire time he's texting me telli…

I have been with my girlfriend for 3 years now. Due to my selfishness and issues that haven’t been properly dealt with our relationship is on the brink. She tells me that I don’t show that I care. I don’t know what to do. I never know what to do. I don’t want to lose her but she’s absolutely fed up with me. She tells me that I also need to show her that I care. But I do and I don’t know how I can properly show her.

I'm still young (24) but I am so confused on what to do. I got married to my husband when I was 20. We lived a fine life where I realized my feelings for him weren't as genuine as I thought. We do not have a lot in common other than liking to go out together. It's not that I don't love him, I just don't love him the way I think spouses should love each other. He paid more attention to other things and left me to the side. One thing led to another and we separated around 2 years later. During the next two years I fell in love with someone. Someone who had so much in common with me except the desire to go out. I felt I could be myself around him. After about a year and a fe…

Hello all, I'm new on here and I really just want to vent as I feel nobody understands my pain and my fears except my father... I have a son from a previous long-term relationship with a toxic and manipulative woman. Long story short, following our separation, she voluntarily moved away with my son to over 4 hours drive away from where we lived and where I worked full-time, when we had verbally agreed that in case of separation we would both live close enough to each other for my son's well-being (and various options were available to do so but she refused). She is acting like the victim and painting me as an evil alcoholic who mis-treated her and …

I apologise to how stupid and immature this post is, but I am looking for some guidance if possible. I also recognise that I am an easily influenced person, and this is something I am trying to work on. I started working at a company about two years ago, and about a year in I met a coworker (F24) (I will call her Emily for this) and we became good friends. For some background information, I am in a heterosexual, long term relationship with my partner, and she is in a similar situation. For the past few years I have been questioning my sexuality, but I haven't told anyone about it due to shame and fear, and also because I am in a relationship with a man. My parents a…

I am 46, divorced after 25 yrs and finally had been with/known a man for the last year and 3 months. We started out great, communication was wonderful, physical attraction and attention was great, he always flirted with me, he always showed me and my kids how he cared. That lasted 2 months. Then he started disappearing and not communicating so I ended it. He came back a month or so later asking if I would give him a chance to just be friends and let him work on himself be the man I deserve. That he was using our relationship as a bandaid for his issues and I deserve more. Since coming back he has been 100% consistent and nonstop communication even when not together…

Okay so same guy but now seems to keep taking about me leaving him or breaking up. Driving me crazy and I told him so. Then he says I love you so this morning he sends this Have a good day at work, and stay out of trouble! It took me 10 years to find you…..don’t want to have a long term relationship (but I would with you if needed 😘) with you while you are on a rig 😂😂. What the hell is going on with this guy. Is he giving me hints on wanting to leave as I have repeatedly told him I’m not going anywhere. Then he will say he is not leaving me he wants to marry me. What do you guys think

My ex-boyfriend and I were together for about a year and things were going really well. About 4 months ago, life happened and it led to him saying that he couldn't be in a relationship because of the uncertainty of what lies ahead. He told a friend of ours some other concerns and they were all more "what if" things, which every day has "what if" possibilities. "What if it doesn't work out" "What if her expectations can't be met", stuff like that. We still talk and I can see his indecision. There are days where he falls back into being affectionate and days where he is distant. I've tried very hard not to read into things because I don't want to fool myself into think…

I have had covid since the 21st I’ve been in and out of the emergency room 4 times for difficulty breathing and heart complications etc.. I am now on a heart monitor and I feel like I’m not getting the support I need from my BF of 3yrs who I live with . I will be struggling for breath in the bathroom to find he’s then just passed out like he doesn’t care and when his family asks him how’s life going the only thing he mentions about me is “she’s not feeling well” I’ll be home expressing fear of death and he won’t say one word . I don’t care if he’s not good with words he could at least hold my hand . And he has complained or just deny my request to simply go to the store f…

I F(18) have been dating my current boyfriend M(19) for about 6 months. We met at our old jobs and instantly clicked. I finally felt like I have met my other half. We both have had a toxic relationship before each other. We both ended up getting cheated on. Some things from the past are ending up in our relationship. We both think we met each other for a reason. That we both are finally in a healthy loving relationship. He truly makes me feel loved and I do love him with my whole heart but there has been some problems. I have the same problems with him and small things I ask for. It constantly feels like I'm repeating myself asking for the same thing. His communicati…

2 years back I met a guy at work and we started dating. We have cultural differences (we are from a place where some parents are too particular about culture), so in the beginning itself I told him "if you feel our cultural differences becomes a hurdle in case if we want to take it further in future, it's better to stop dating right now". He said it won't be a problem. 5 months after we started dating, pandemic started so we moved to our respective hometowns. Then it became a distant relationship but we are in touch all the time. We never had any huge arguments it's all going fine for an year. Then oneday he said if this pandemic continues and we have to stay part fo…

Hi, I'm 24 now. When I was 14 one of my classmates brought a love proposal to me(say x). I rejected him, later in time we continued being friends . At present, I've been in a relationship with other guy(say y) since an year. y is a nice guy but he is not sure about taking the relationship forward. Last week x proposed me again (this time marriage proposal) after 10 years saying that he never felt like that with anyone and it doesn't matter how much time it is but his love will be same for me. There are many differences between us, he said we can work on those things. He deserves yes as an answer. relationship with him seems long-lasting. But I rejected him again because I…

Six months ago I began dating a 30 year old woman. She is an aspiring pop singer who supports herself by being a DJ. I used to work as a music manager and producer, and in fact, worked with the top recording artist from her native Russia. I began helping her with her music with us at first being friends and then I fell in love with her and she says she fell in love with me. We spend many hours a week together, working together and having fun together. I spend several nights a week at her place, in part because she does not have a car (nor know how to drive) and in part because we record at her studio apartment. She tells me her Mom is flying in from Moscow to v…

My boyfriend has been separated but still legally married for 4 years now. I've asked him about getting a divorce over the course of these 4 years and he always says it's an easy thing but he never did anything about it. This July he told me that he'd have the talk with her but he never did. He always says I'm going to call her and tell her and then the day ends and nothing ends up happening. He's had ample opportunity to have this talk and get the proceedings going. So today he talked to his wife who had been trying to obtain citizenship for a friend but the friend got denied so my boyfriend suggested to her that they divorce so that she could marry the friend and h…

My boyfriend goes through periods of depression and is currently pushing me away. He says he's been like this ever since he was a kid and goes through phases. He has medication but he doesn't take it. He says this doesn't affect his feelings for me, that his feelings are still the same and that his behaviour has nothing to do with me. I have been trying to keep myself upbeat but despite the fact that I am quite an independent person, I can't help feeling hurt when he doesn't communicate the way he used to. It's been really hard. I love him. He's an amazing guy, we have a very strong connection and he has so many qualities I adore, I'm not going to just give up…

My boyfriend and I technically started dating in March 2020 but broke up in May 2020 for one month. The first few months we dated, I always felt like something was off. Like one foot was out the door the whole time for him. When we broke up, I found out via social media that he hung out with his ex the weekend after he broke it off with me. I always felt like he still had feelings for her. They were engaged and had broken up in 2016 so it had been awhile. She cheated on him several times while they were dating snd it was an overall very unhealthy relationship which I do believe my boyfriend probably played a role in. We ended up reconnecting in June 2020 and I gave …

Hi there. Apologies for the length of this post. My boyfriend and I (early 30s) have been together 2 years and live together. We have discussed a serious future together including marriage and kids. Initially we had a very good sex life (at least twice a week) but I’d say over the past year or so, things have been dwindling. I think I have a higher sex drive than him, and often if I try to initiate sex - I often get turned down and he will say he is too tired. He often has long shifts and early starts but sometimes this is even the case on his days off. I’d say sometimes we have sex once every 2-weeks. I’m finding this difficult as I would like to have more sexual intimac…