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hi all, a quick history: 3 months ago we met online, different states, 6 hours away. we had a wonderful weekend away for our first date and things moved really fast after that. She was very quick to say I love you and plan a future together and while visiting me during month 2, she announced to my family that she would be moving here, buying us a house, and having my babies. she ingratiated herself with my family saying that she really wanted to be apart of this family. All red flags I know, I get it, but I got caught up in the whirlwind and reciprocated her affection, but never initiated. sounds like love bombing right? So here we are in month three, she w…

Hi my fellow ENAers. I thought I’d make a post and update those who followed my previous thread, and also to get a little encouragement. the past 2 years have been really tough. I tried so hard and wanted so much for things between my husband and I to work. At first I just kept telling myself, “if we can just find our footing, our rhythm, get through a few months without a misunderstanding or being triggered by something, then we will finally have an opportunity to keep space open to develop our feelings and relationship.” But it was so hard to be on my end of the equation - the one who wasn’t loved, who was barely tolerated. It felt like my husband would resent me f…

Hi, I have posted previously about a break up and getting back together etc and am struggling to let it all go and move on with my life. I ended a year long relationship back in May and was struggling to accept it and move on. And we were on/off for a while as per my previous post, but even when we were spending time together again i would have a feeling that it just wasn't right or if i was truly ready for being settled and not have complete freedom. Freedom to travel on my own and explore the world on my terms. Anyway, i was struggling with moving on and posted around a month ago about it and whether i should get back in to something with her or not. As …

My GF of 10 months and I broke up a month ago. During that time I've accepted that we are not a good match and the way we are we should not be together. We had an amazing time and all, but our values do not align and things took a toxic turn and trust was broken. Now she keeps texting me and telling me she loves me and wants to be with me. She is refusing to move on. She has a list of mental health problems and she is stuck in time on a pathological level. In the sense that she hasn't washed her sheets since I last slept in them, she hasn't slept in her bed but on the couch for a month, she has done absolutely nothing that she enjoys that we used to do together. Her …

So I was with this girl for two years and she broke up with me claiming out relationship felt more like a friendship. Fair point I suppose because we still hadn't had sex, she'd never been over to my apartment, and she never met my parents. I was hurt, cried a bit, and got over it after about four days. A month later she hit's me up and says she misses me. She tells me I was her rock and her safe place and that she never wanted to break up with me. She said she was under a ton of stress from work (trauma nurse), that she nearly checked herself into psych, and to top it all off she felt as if she wasn't included in my life however, she wanted to give it another shot. I obl…

This is a bit of a story, but any advice or input would help me so much. my boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years, and in the beginning me and his sister got along fine. We weren’t super close but got along good. After about 6 months (summer) she wanted to go to the beach and do things with me, and I was super excited cuz all my past relationships have been toxic and I was excited to finally have an in law. I started a new job and wasn’t available as much, and one day she just stopped asking me to hang out. after a couple of months of only seeing her around the property, we ended up going to a local bar with other friends. When we were alone; she t…

Our relationship now i think is friendship just. She is 24 y.o. and I am 20 y.o. When i was 16 we started to live together with my granny. From this time we spent together to much time and she started to be touchy with me, even she walked near me half-naked. She tried to be with me whole day. When i played games she came and played with me, started to read my books, tried to dress same as me(Really:)). She really flirted me and I didn't understand that, because my social skill was not good and I never been in relationship with any girl. One day suddenly i touched to her back, and she rubbed me her back and smiled. But i was shy and I didnt reacted to it. I liked it becaus…

• Disregard for right and wrong • Does this by knowing she should not do something but does it • Persistent lying or deceit to exploit others • She will promise things and immedidatly break that promise • Being callous, cynical and disrespectful of others • Consistantly laughs when im upset and does not give me her attention • Using charm or wit to manipulate others for personal gain or personal pleasure • Shell give me the affection ive been wanting after I refuse to do something or give her something but only if she cant find a way around it by getting said thing somewhere else or having someone els do it despite knowing im doing it becau…

So I'm dating this guy and I've always had problems with his texting style. Some days he just wouldnt text me which is weird because I've never been in a relationship where we go days without texting. We talked about it and he said he would try to improve. Anyways, Monday I didnt hear from him and I texted him and complained. He didn't respond so I sent him a long text saying he needs to communicate more and if he can't then maybe we should just end it. Tuesday came and he still didn't respond and I then deleted him off social media. I regret deleting him. It was impulsive because I was hurt. I want this to work out more than anything. I don't know what to do. I tri…

I've been dating this wonderful girl for over ~3.5 years now. We met as causal friends with benefits and neither of us thought the relationship would last, or get as serious as it did. Actually when we first met, I was going through a very dark period of life and just wanted any GF. I thought she probably didn't meet my criteria for a wife but I didn't care cause we both agreed it was just a casual relationship and I wasn't looking for a life partner. But over the years, we got comfortable and grew into each other. Especially during the quarantine, we got so close and spent so much time together. And now I'm not sure. We've reached a critical point of our relationshi…

I hope this post isn't too long. Kevin and I grew up together, though didn't start hanging out a lot until 15 years ago, we are 50 now. A few years ago the friendship dwindled to practically nothing and I'd like others opinions on how to handle it. We started hanging out a lot because we had a lot in common, both single, liked watching sports and movies and drinking. At first it was great, though around 2010 I started having to deal with family more because my father passed away. Around that time I started researching certain behaviors and realized I'd grown up with a couple narcissists in the family. I sort of took the narcissistic traits for granted, ie, well so …

So I was with my girlfriend for about 2 years starting early 2016, although I loved her deeply she had issues like bipolar and depression which caused us to fight a lot and ultimately breakup which was very hard for me but I had to deal with since it was more her decision while I was willing to work on things. I've never felt this terrible after a breakup and even started seeing a therapist just to help me get through it because I sincerely felt like this girl was the one for me. After a few months she started seeing someone, which also tore me up inside, and they pretty much dated for 2 years as well. I was heartbroken and casually dated but was only sexual with 1 o…

I've been dating my boyfriend for 8 months now. We're both 26 years young, & since the beginning, we both have always discussed that we're moderate drinkers and non smokers. We immediately clicked because our lifestyles seemed to match effortlessly, and even on our dates I've always noticed he's always very composed, drinks very little and is pretty responsible with alcohol. His family and my family love us together, I love his family as well. So as you can see, we seem to be in a very happy relationship. For work, he works with his bestfriend, when I first met him.. the bestfriend HAD a girlfriend but they ended 1 mo after we had just begun. The bestfrien…

It all started when her father got a perforated ulcer while having covid and is struggling now on a respirator. Im so sad about it and i really want to give her all the support i have. Because of covid we couldnt see each other this week. Every day we went onto voice calls and chatted for a lot. In 90% of those chats and calls i constantly was emotionally supporting and fully trying to make some positivity get through to her. She is utterly depressed and has so much negativity it is killing me inside. Im generally a positive dude, i dont like negativity and i love spreading positivity and i just love seeing people smile. Seeing my girlfriend like that, depressed…

Hi, I need help as too many thoughts are running through my mind. I met someone online and we instantly hit it off, constant communications, things moved fast. She lives in the US and I in the UK. After a horrible breakup with my ex, I explained to her that I find it hard to trust again etc, this was until I met her, she changed everything, we became a couple having a long distance relationship with plans being made for us to be together. Everything was amazing, we was both so happy, constant communications, videos etc, making plans, via video I met her daughter, she met my daughters. She would tell me how much she misses me, likes me, wants me and we …

Never thought I would fall for someone at work. I am in my late 20s and he’s in his early 40s. He was the VP of our department and recently got promoted to the C-suite. He’s married with kids. Earlier this year my parent passed away two months after I joined the new company. Mentally I wasn’t in a good place and I had to travel overseas for funeral and took care of the aftermaths. I gave no notice and turned in my resignation letter. To my surprise, he was the one who reached out to me.He was very understanding and shared some very personal things with me. I was vulnerable and I opened up to him.. He told me even though my parent has passed, the memories would never…

Hi everyone, Most of my family hates my boyfriend especially my mum, Sister and my Aunt and I don't know why they hate him as he hasn't done anything wrong - They don't want me talking to him, Meeting up with him or being friends with him! (They don't want me to have any contact with him at all)! I love him and he loves me and I want to tell my family how much he means to me but I know for a fact that they won't listen to me! The only time I get to see him and talk to him is when I’m at a day group called OFLAC (Oak Farm Leaning and Activity Club) and it's a group for adults with any Learning disabilities! We're still together but behind my family’s ba…

I have been in a relationship with the most wonderful man for the past 6 months. When I met him he had been separated from his ex for about 18 months. Neither of us were expecting it but when we met we just clicked from the start and decided to go with it. We’ve always been very open with each other. I was aware that it wasn’t long since his ex left him and always wanted to be sure that he was ready for something new so we have always talked about it. He asked me to be his girlfriend after a couple of months and our relationship has been incredible. We have met each other’s families, spent weekends away together and our relationship has been progressing well. He treat…

Hi! Please, nice comments only. I just want to know if anyone has been in a similar situation or has any advice. My (24f) boyfriend (25m) and I have been together about 2 years, and up until last winter, his ex-girlfriend was still in love with him. They had a messy break-up and, even while me and my boyfriend were together, she was constantly texting him and posting about him on insta, twitter and facebook (in a platonic way, but it seemed like a lot to me). He admitted to me that they they were co-dependent in their relationship, and she placed a lot of pressure on him, twisting his arm in many situations. During the pandemic, my boyfriend and I moved across the co…

Hi friends, so i've been struggling with my husband's hygiene ever since I met him 7 years ago. He thinks it's okay to not brush his teeth or shower in the morning and then tries to initiate intimacy, which I obviously shut down. I tell him why and either he gets annoyed and drags himself to the shower or just rolls over and falls asleep, leaving me unsatisfied. Thankfully, it's gotten a bit better so now he knows to brush his teeth without me nagging him, but he won't shower every morning. His argument is "well I just showered last night" (it would be the next afternoon) and I would smell a bit of B.O. I'm at the point where I don't know if what i'm asking for is unreaso…

Why do I constantly think about my own mistakes and doubt myself after exiting an abusive relationship? More often than not I find myself ruminating about my own negative behavior instead of his, despite what I did to him was nothing compared to what he was doing to me, as stated by my closest friends and family.

Things haven't been going great with me and my boyfriend lately. We have been together for 3 years and I have never been this worried about our relationship. I accidentally caught him a few months ago chatting with random people on the internet when I used his pc. He was there, and immediately deleted everything and admitted later there were flirty texts among them. He is very insecure and said that is why he enjoyed those conversations for validation and that he never had long talks or a connection with these people. I felt heartbroken when I found out but didn't want to throw away our relationship so I eventually forgave him. I have my insecurities too so since that mom…

Is this considered an abusive boyfriend? - Pushing til partner falls down -Pinning partner to ground despite them crying - Manipulating partner into sexual acts they don’t want to do by saying things like “you should be doing this since we are together” or “I feel like you dont love me if you don’t do this” and not stopping the sexual act despite partner crying -Making decisions for partner, telling them what to do with their life - Making partner doubt themselves -Anger outbursts, throwing objects, saying degrading things - saying “no one else would ever stick out with you or put up with your behavior “ -treating partner like a ch…

Long story short, I was with this guy for 3 years ish. He was very manipulative throughout the relationship. We broke up and got back together many times. Last time we broke up, he made contact again and we started meeting up. He told me we needed to work on ourselves before getting back together, which kind of made sense in the beginning. But he would only want to meet up for sex and emotional support, and only when it suited him. We didn’t seem to be “working on it”. When I asked why we can’t be together while working for each other, he made excuses. He also was there for me only when it suited him, so he acted quite single. F.eks promised me to follow me home f…

I recently moved into my partners home "unofficially" over the last two months due to spending so much time together (after dating for 11 months). This move meant that terms and explicitly discussions around roles and responsibilities are still unclear or still forming. My old home is a one hour drive away and has remained empty most of the last months. My partner does shift work which changes often and is relatively unpredictable with a mix of nights/days, and I do regular 8-6, five days (sometimes six days) a week. My partner has expressed that they find comfort and stability in planning their weeks. This plan is typically 2 to 7 days in advance. I do not typically plan…