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I’m very jealous and crazy when it comes to other girls and my boyfriend looking at them (we’ve discussed it a lot and I’m working on getting better with it) but he’s going to go into art school and is going to have to draw forms of naked models (in person) and I’m terrified and not sure how to handle it.

Is controlling behavior such as telling somewhat what to say in situations considered abuse? Also, telling somewhat what they can and can't wear, who they can be friends with and where they can and can't go.

what would be the “better” next step for me in this relationship? Hey everyone, so I’ll go over briefly on what has mainly happened in this relationship of mine with my ex-girlfriend. So my ex-girlfriend broke up with me quite awhile ago, and I have to admit it, I was being very immature and rude to her at the time. I foolishly vented out my anger and frustration towards her by saying some really degrading and nasty things to her, I’ve done it before, but I guess she just really had it last time. And I have to say, that time definitely was the worst of all times. I really had it with her, but it definitely was the wrong way to express it. I’ve learned my lesson now. …

Hello! My boyfriend (28yo) and I (27yo) met online in March last year, met in person in December 2020 and are officially together since the beginning of January this year, so about 6 months. I’ve been planning to move out of the house I live in at the moment for ages (I share it with my brother) but COVID-19 and me (and my brother) being made redundant halfway through it and not being able to get a job for a few months (both of us) drained my savings and messed up my plans. I’m sort of back on track now (financially), so hoping to be able to move out in about 3 months. My boyfriend has just been told that him and his flatmate have to move out from their curr…

Sorry in advance if there is tmi in this post- but I really need some clarity here. My husband has been 'expressing'/ complaining- that I don't give him enough 'attention'- by which he means sex. He exaggerates constantly that he only gets it once a month, but this is not true in the slightest. Its twice or 3 times a week. I have even started to jot down the dates to keep track! Personally, I think that's quite a lot considering we have a 12 and 7 year old who keep me very busy and that we have been married a long time. Also part of story is that I don't actually enjoy or want to have this sex anyway- this is mainly due to lack of emotional connection between th…

Almost everytime my husband drinks too much he tells me how big of a *** I am but when he’s sober he apologizes and is a great guy. I know I’m a great person & I know I’m definitely not nor have I ever been a ***. I’m 40 and have dated a reasonable amount of guys, was previously married for 10 years & engaged for 3. I’m from a small town where everyone knows everyone. If I mention someone I was friends with, he asks if I slept with them! I don’t understand how belittling someone like that is LOVE. Any advice?

My partner is a really sweet guy. He is well intended, but he struggles a lot with planning and being present with his feelings. He proposed to me about 2-3 years ago, but it was really a mess. It was totally rushed because he was really distracted at the time and despite our discussions about how we both wanted it to be he didn't take any of that into account. His father was very sick and dying and it was his fears and sadness about that loss that drove the rushed proposal. Instead of giving his father's passing space to be dealt with he proposed to me, the day after his father went into hospice. Then the next day his father died, we went into mourning and his family con…

So this past week was my bf’s birthday. I’ve been super indecisive about what to get him and I know he’s been wanting some new tennis rackets so I told him to look them up on his phone...The next day I decided I would surprise him by buying the rackets from his online shopping cart. So I unlocked his phone (he gave me the code long ago) to access the cart and buy the ones he had picked out but as soon as the phone unlocked it was on a text thread of him and another women talking about possibly having sex. I don’t know what to do guys!! I wasn’t intentionally looking for anything, I honestly was just trying to surprise him and this is what happened!! I’m shocked, confused,…

My bf has a inappropriate relationship she is 20 he is 43 she is his friends daughter has known her most her life they lived down the rd.. they never talked while we have been together til she moved in down the street renting her moms house... he makes comments about her like she’s hot he wants to *** her got upset when I didn’t think she was hot then I find out at 16 her asked to see her nipple rings an I got pissed he was saying I wanna take her to a daddy daughter dance she is 20 an just odd *** mind u we talk about other people when we’re bring sexual with each other but never someone we know I told him that wasn’t ok now I feel like he puts her first one example is I…

I am a foreign exchange student (please excuse my English if I make some mistakes) and something really embarrassing happened to me recently. I went to this nightclub with my US girlfriend the other day and got really drunk.. I ended up hitting on another woman and I laid a hand on her bum while doing so (I really don´t know what I was thinking. I´m really ashamed of myself 😞 ). Long story short, I got my ass whooped severely by that girls boyfriend, my face was bruised and swollen for a week. My girlfriend taunts me a lot because of this, she tells me what kind of weakling I was for getting beaten. Even if she does it in a joking way, it still hurts and I want to wi…

I have been with my boyfriend for 8 years. When we first met I was very open with the fact that I did not want kids. We were very young and our relationship was new so it didn’t pose an issue. As things got more serious, he expressed to me that he did want kids. I was so in love and felt he would make a great father, so I did open my mind and start to consider, but it was always something that seemed so far away. And even then I was constantly going back and forth. We had always said if we did have kids, we’d start trying around the age of 26. I recently turned 26 and realized that I definitely do not want kids. When I first told him he was very understanding and we mutua…

I joined this forum in April 2011 when my wife requested separation and it ended up with her coming back and forth over the best part of a year. She would come back home and say everything was OK and we would go about trying to fix the hurt, then at a moments notice I would come home and she would be gone. It happened repeatedly and it was nothing less than pure psychological trauma. I haven't been on this forum since we got back together, which is bad on my part, but I didn't want to upset the apple-cart if she found out I was here and I happened to have a very nasty vertigo attack which has led to me having permanent neurological trauma - so, I'm permanently dizz…

That feeling is the worst. Stomach is in knots, emotions all over the place, irrational thoughts. So much over analyzing, questioning, and shear mental anguish. Long story short, dated a girl for 2.5yrs. Two of those years we lived together. 6 months ago she got a job offer she couldn't refuse, so she moved 1,000 miles away. We agreed it was a necessary sacrifice for greater things. At the time our love was strong, deep, and connected. Over time, apparently the love has faded, especially for her towards me I now know. Things didn't seem right for the month of May, she felt a little disconnected at times, but was still calling daily, sending snaps, saying I love …

My wife and I have been together for 19 years, married for 13. Our relationship has always been one of strong friendship, love and occasional intimacy; neither of us have ever had a big sex drive, outside of the first year or so of our relationship. We've had several in depth chats about our relationship since the start of the year and basically she's admitted to me that she's no longer in love with or physically attracted to me, but loves me dearly, see's me as her best friend, still wants to stay together and occasionally share intimate moments. Upon reflection this discussion is something we've actually been skirting around for years. We both agree that we want t…

why is it that i feel bad or even guilty for leaving a toxic relationship when i know its whats best

My husband and I have been in a relashionship for 12 years. For a while now our sex life as been unfulfilling. The problem lies in the differences in our libido and preferences. I'm much more physical than he is, even in the most mundane aspects of our daily lifes. I like longer hugs, deeper kisses and a lot more touching than he does. Luckily, we could find some compromise and live happy and generally peaceful lives. However, when it comes to sex, our needs are too discrepant. I love having sex and if it were up to me, we would have it every day. Although he likes sex, he feels it's quite tiring and doesn't want/need it as often. He feels comfortable havin…

Stupid me, opened email from the ex.. This time she said she will hook up and move in with her ex (the one I suspected she was seeing while we were together) if I don't wanna see her... I REALLY want to write something like tell this person to go to hell...something a bit more harsh this time...so she finally leaves me alone.. So what do you think? Can I do that? This person is very toxic and psycho. Saying "Please don't contact me" is not working. Any suggestions what I could write?

So my ex contacted just now, but don't worry this is a different person than the one who caused me problems this year. This person is actually an angel and a wonderful person. She did also write me for my birthday few months ago, but that's probably just typical thing... Anyways, today she wrote me this "Hi how are you doing? What's new? I found this photo album of you and your family 🙂 Should I send it to you?" and she sent me a picture and the photo album was opened to a page with a pic of me on it..Maybe means nothing, but I'm just curious..It has been a year since I seen her last..

I have been in a relationship with my significant other for 3 months, and things have been going reasonably well, including being introduced to her family, but it is clear that I like her more than she likes me. This is evidenced by me messaging first (she will always reply), putting her more as a priority, and arranging all the dates we meet up. What should I do? a) break up - your relationship is doomed to fail b) continue doing what your doing! Girls love a reliable loving man! c) tone it down and give her space - give her time for her feelings to develop more d) other

I've been dating my girlfriend for a couple of month now and everything is going really good. We're each other's firsts. Before we started dating, we were really close friends for over a year. Most things have been going pretty well but there've been some things I've noticed that make me insecure / confused. Since we've started dating, we've only been able to meet up twice because of the pandemic and strict parents. Both times, I felt that she was really nervous around me and didn't feel comfortable holding my hand. But then again, she was fine with playing with my hair and teasing me. IDK, just some incongruence and missed signals, I guess? Over FT, she would want t…

Background info: My boyfriend and I work in same company, same role, different locations. Its a long distance relation. We applied for same promotion (we are based in south asia, so promotion has its own process, there is exam for it, thousands apply for 100 seats, also 33% reservation for women). Result is not out yet but given the fact only few women apply I have a fair chance of getting it and we feel my boyfriend wont get it because his scores are borderline, so are mine. So my boyfriend is upset that he might not get it, I understand his fear and wanted to make him feel better so I said, "the result is not out yet and you still might get it, maybe God has p…

Hi, so my story goes back to when we went on a trip with my family. Here is where I met my brothers friend who i instantly clicked, she was super cool and very fun to talk to. We flirted a little (later finding out she does have a boyfriend) and it was just overall a great time but then, once the trip ended and we parted ways it is like a burning hole in my chest and I can’t get over her and it’s hard to focus on anything else the only issue is I am worried to say something because i don’t want to ruin our friendship or her friendship with my brother or mess up her current relationship. So to sum it up I am stuck between if I should say something to her or just try to mov…

Trust Issues Back in January my boyfriend and I had COVID and were quarantined together. We stayed in my room for 2-3 weeks, which had us arguing a little more than usual. Fast forward to the last week of quarantine, he fell asleep hours before me and I was up laying in bed. My gut told me to check his phone, and when I did, my heart sank. I found that he had been looking up his ex on Instagram, and had been stalking this OnlyFans girl, both on IG and on OF. When I confronted him, he was upset, promised that he would never do it again, and said that he wasn’t sure why he did it in the first place. He then unfollowed every girl on IG (without me ever mentioning it). …

Don’t really know where to start but here goes my partner and I have been together for about 3.5 years. At the start everything was great, although I guess there were a few little red flags, ie how we are both quite fiery & stubborn, but as most relationships go you the flags under the carpet to start off with. The past probably 18 months or so have been hard, with covid lockdowns, me being made redundant, her being pregnant throughout, home schooling her son while trying to work from home herself and then the financial stress of her earning less being on maternity leave on top of everything else etc, the list goes on and I guess things have took their to…

I’ve been with my partner 8 years. We live with my Mom who is 76, and have since start of relationship. I’m 53. He’s 59. We both have good jobs. He is a carpenter. I do clerical. We do not have a mortgage. We pay all the misc bills, gas, electric, etc. and grocery shop. It balances out, helping Mom as she’s not able to get around very well. Here is my issue, my partner takes on a lot of side jobs for others, to make extra cash, for our future he says. There are things I would like taken care of in the home, I’m always put on the back burner. Will do when gets time. And it seems to drag on waiting. Am I wrong to make a fuss that he constantly puts others before our h…