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  1. And what really makes me angry is that she knew my dad was in the hospital five days ago and she couldn’t friggin call me ??????? Five friggin days ago you knew this Marilyn and you thought you would tell me Friday right before my holiday . You’re a . Feel like calling her right now because she’s going on holidays today and telling her what her nice fabulous brother did. Do you want to know that your other brother is a rapist and a child molester I hope you have a good holiday .
  2. I thought I would give a go at this journaling thing. My friends do not partake in online dating and I don't really get feedback from anyone that does. Mostly my friends shake their heads and ask `why?' I've been out of a relationship since May '14 and without rehashing all that has transpired I will say that online dating has changed considerably in the past 3 years. I've taken several breaks, mostly after meeting men looking for casual sex and men who are too afraid to put themselves out there and seem to put me in the drivers seat to pursue them and breath life into the situation. Neither of which I am comfortable with. I am a young (as so I am told) 50 something yr old professional with a rich social life, so I am definitely not lonely. If I sense there is no momentum in a man that I meet I am quick to let it go seeing that I don't have a lot of free time and being with my friends is often a much better option. After my last fail .. well I can't really call it a failed attempt, maybe a valuable lesson with dating someone I mentioned here in previous posts, that I had dated earlier this year and he made a return visit in Oct. He is clearly not ready for a relationship but I am very taken by him and we have amazing chemistry. With that being said he is dating others and at some point these things run their course and I opted out, not wanting to be part of the `rotation' and finding myself engaging in an intimate relationship with someone I did not have a commitment with. Mind you this is the first time in my life I tried to do this and much like I already knew I am not cut out for it. He still texts once in a while and says he misses me, but it messes with my emotions so the more distance I get the better. I wish things were different . . but it is what it is. To keep my sanity during that time I continued to date others (not intimately) and the pace was wearing on me and creating all sorts of unneeded anxiety. During the holidays I pulled my profile but continued to communicate with one person who's schedule is opposite of mine for the time being so meeting was a challenge. During my time off during the holidays we met for breakfast and as much as I really didn't want to go, I was pleasantly surprised. Now 3 dates later my current challenge is to see if this man can open up and let me in. Apparently I make him very nervous and at times he shuts down. I tried dating someone like him sometime ago and I thought in time he might let me in. After several weeks I realized it was never going to happen. What I do like about my new friend is that he has some old school values much like mine, maybe a little more conservative. He noticed I pulled my profile (only for a break) and pulled his as well saying he typically only dates on person at a time to see where it goes. It's nice to not have to interpret someone's intentions and refreshing to know I am not part of someone rotation. We haven't so much as held hands yet which builds up that anticipation part that seems to be so fun and he's a good `dater'. I have met so many men who don't know how to date. .funny as that sounds, but true. I am enjoying this. He is showing me that he does have sense of humor and enjoys giving me a hard time (playfully) I am optimistic that there is someone that I am able to connect with behind the shyness. He has assured me that he is typically not this way and has promised to open up. I still have another friend I will see tonight. T and I have been dating for about 3 months now and as much as I like and I am attracted to him I just don't think we are relationship material. He's gone most weekends to see his son 8 hours away. He's so sweet and endearing but not very active, pretty much a couch kinda guy, very Christian and not much of a social drinker. (my social circle is!) He has a very naïve almost immature quality to him but I feel safe and cared for with him. I often wish I could see him as someone more than a friend but that certain quality is lacking. I don't see him often and have opted out a couple times lately, but I am looking forward to catching up tonight. So this it. . at least for now. I see my shy friend this weekend. M has invited me for a day trip to the local mountains and I am looking forward to it. For now my profile is down . .tomorrow who knows!?
  3. What are people's views on luck/bad luck, do you believe there is such a thing? I think I am cursed or something... In the past week so many bad things have happened and just when things are looking up something else happens... Me and gf split up, My mum has to go into hospital and get an operation, I get stomach bug, I injure my back, My (ex)gf's parents say she cant go on holiday with me, I loose getting a place on a uni course, My (ex)gf says she won't go on our holiday, My few options of other people to go on holiday can't... I am surprisingly upbeat but I feel astho I am going crazy and this isn't real... Interestingly on sunday a girl I know dropped a necklace, I picked it up and held onto it for her. I go to give her it back and she says she doesn't want it back as it brought her lots of bad luck. Even though I don't really believe in luck I destroyed the necklace last night...
  4. Hello need any insight - lotsa reading im afraid… Ok, goin out bout 3 months, first 2 great, fall madly in love. About 2 month ago she moves back home for the summer to work. So she is now a 2 hour train journey away and works 6 days a week so I am only really able to see her one evening a week, till she returns. Bout 5 weeks ago we decided that it would be great to book a holiday in Sept, was really excited. Last time saw her (3 weeks ago) she seemed a bit ackward n said something was on her mind. She accidently sends me a txt ment for her bestfriend sayin that she doesn't think she feels the same about me n some other stuff. So I manage to see her and confront her about the txt sayin we should talk. She says is really confused n needs time to think, maybe a break. That she has felt like this for a month n been down. Says she does still love me but not sure if she wants a bf just now and feels she has changed. Said if we to go on holiday she needs time to sort herself out and phone me next day when she has had some sleep n less hormone-y Get a text from that night sayin she is so sorry she doesn't understand what is goin on in her head and that it isn't me, I haven't done anything wrong and she hates herself just now. Get a txt next day sayin she is "goin out so she can't really call later *hug*" I managed give her a call as I just needed to say what I thought, that I think things havent changed but it is normal when you are away from someone you first time, to have feelings that you aren't sure if you feel the same as u did, cause of the sudden change from seeing lots to hardly any. I said I was sure it would get better when she moved back in couple of months and she would see that when we spend time together if we go on holiday. She said maybe. I said we shouldn't go on a break but if she needed time I would give her some NC time, as I wasn't gonna let her slip thru my fingers like that. But she says that we need to break up for now. She sounds upset. I send her a text later sayin I just needed to phone earlier as it would be on my mind if i didnt. That I would let her have time to sort stuff out. I added at the end to a sweet thing that she had once said about us and to remember that. Get a text back sayin not to say that as it will make her sad (the bit I added at the end) and that she had changed and was sorry. She phoned couple of days later about something (immaterial - not to do with us) but we chatted for quite a bit, non relationship. She asked me to call back a bit later, we chatted more, she asked if I had been seeing anyone else - no, if I was happier apart - no, if i missed her - yes and that she missed me, said we would speak soon. Texted her next day - about the immaterial thing she originally phoned about n some random stuff followed by kisses. So she gets in contact with me about a week later. Txts me as she upset - she had just had a big argument wit her parents. They say there is no way she is going on the holiday we had booked if we ain't seein eachother . I give her a phone to discuss what to do, we chat away well as usual. I ask her if she was actually planning to go on the holiday - she says definatly and was really looking forwards to it, she said she had wondered if it would be a bit weird tho. I say I think it would be fine whichever way things swung in the end - I think we could still have a great holiday. Suggest meeting up with her and do something – to check we get on ok. But she says she thinks it is maybe too soon as she still feels she needs to be alone and she really busy... So I say ok thats fine think about it and the offer stands. She texts me next day sayin she is really down about the holiday and she really needs one. I reply sayin her parents can't stop her, but that might not be the best idea. You could always lie to your parents and say we are together just so you can go on holiday. Get a message next day sayin "no, i'm not going on holiday. too weird, I can't. I'm not going to go." (Did she need to tell me 3 times in one txt…) I didn't reply to that, that was 4 days ago. It's strange, it is almost starting to feel like I am the one who broke it off! I don't even know why we split up!
  5. OK, in a nutshell I went out on a date with a girl about 6 weeks ago but then went on holidays for 4 weeks. We really hit it off on the date and joked about 4 weeks being 'such a long time' to go away for. It was playful, as if a second date would definitely be on the cards when I came back. I kept contact relatively limited while on holiday and restricted myself to contacting her only when she contacted me, or initiating contact on Christmas/New Years. In other words, I played it quite cool....which is relatively new territory for yours truly In total, there were about 7 or 8 SMS's sent between us and 2 emails. Thankfully I had very limited access to the internet on holiday so there wasn't even the temptation to increase contact. My goal (in relation to her) during my holiday was to secure a 2nd date....and it all appeared to be going well. I got back almost 2 weeks ago and she was away for a few days on her own holiday (how inconsiderate!! ), but we organised to meet one night last week. Late the night before, she contacted me to let me know that she was trying to finish a job application and had hoped to do so that night but would have to finish it on the Thursday night...so could I take a rain-check? Of course I agreed and said I would call her the following week to organise it (the weekend wasn't an option as she was working). So I call, no answer....I leave a voice message. She SMS's me later that night to apologise for missing my call but that she was out with friend's and would call me the next day. It was at this stage that I was starting to get a little suspicious but was willing to give her the benefit of the doubt. So it gets to late the next night and there was no call. I was really starting to get the feeling that I was being strung along and maybe it was because she didn't know how to turn me down politely. I decided to take matters (partly) into my own hands and put my mind at ease.... So I SMS'd her simply saying that I was getting the impression that she wasn't that keen to meet up and asked if we should just leave it. She responded late that night saying that it wasn't intentional, she had got stuck at work....but then went on to say that she was working late every night until Friday, would be away for the weekend, that work was taking over her life and that she couldn't see a time 'anytime soon' that she would be able to have a 'normal social life' and that maybe we should just leave it. I responded by saying that it wasn't a problem...that I'd had fun the first time we went out and thought it'd be nice to meet up again but not to worry! I finished it with 'Take care'. It had a sense of finality about it, but I'm not sure So that's where I am now. She does have a very stressful job, made even more stressful by the fact that she has just qualified in her profession (quite a high pressure job). So now I am in 2 minds: If she did want to meet up, she could have made time (in my opinion). Having said that, would she make the effort to meet knowing that it may be hard to start a relationship right now? (due to work) Hmmm….have I been brushed off? Or could her job *genuinely* be the reason? If it's not a brush off, what do I do next….send a light-hearted email in a month? I don't want to waste any time on something that is completely pointless, so honest opinions would be gratefully appreciated.
  6. Yet another story..... About 4 weeks ago I met a fine lady. I decided on a different, more direct approach, and stated that I liked her after two dates and listed several reasons. She was incredibly surprised that I would like after so few dates. I was given the standard "but we hardly know oneanother line", yet I know there is interest as we fooled around for a bit. Still, her hesitation was apparent and I received little feedback (ie. she never actually said that she admired anything about me). A was heading home for 2 months for holidays so we exchanged emails. I received a short small talk message yesterday, but nothing more. Shortly after Interest A returned home for holidays, I met another young lady I will refer to as "interest B". Attraction was mutual from the beginning. Because nothing was written in concrete with Interest A, I made the decision to explore Interest B. I believe in maintaining as many options as possible, especially in a case where a future relationship with A remains somewhat uncertain. I prefer direct quick approaches towards dating (ie. I don't like long drawn out courtships). B has a high level of interest in me, and we went on four back to back dates and were sleeping together on the fifth. Interest B wants a formal relationship. Interest A is friends with many aquaintances of mine and I am sure many of them are well aware of my advances and my interest in her. After stating that I liked her as well as listing several reasons why, pulling out is somewhat difficult. Essentially, I would be an a##hole in her eyes as well as every one of her friends. Furthermore, I still admire A for her qualities and believe a relationship with her would bring benefits equal to a relationship with B. I'm a young fellow living overseas and while the city I live is quite large, in many ways it is very small. It is like living on a boat. Everyone knows everyone. Good public relations are incredibly important. This isn't to say that I have a craving for everyone's approval, but merely that I don't want to rock the boat, or living here could possibly become very lonely. Essentially, my main concern is PR. Sounds shallow and childish, I know, but it is really important where I live...I don't need enemies. I like both women, as each has different qualities which I admire. The only option I can really see is abandoning both A and B and starting from scratch. I don't see an easy way out of this. I will not play both women.
  7. OK so i told some 1 about my ex and my story, this person said that my ex was playing games with me. How she would ignore all my calls and texts, anyways. I did appear too availible and i guess she got disinterested in that, i gave up saying hello to her and took that persons advice and started playing my game, i started NC. She is away on holiday, i knew this before hand when we were going out so i knew it was around this time and she changed her onmline name to where she was. the best way i handled this was to think, hmm ur a stranger it has nothing to do with I dont need to worry about it, i didnt stay online for long. Now take in mind that she never messags me first and i have to always message her, so its me chasing her, tbh i think that she wanted me to say something to her when she had her name where she was, but when i didnt message her, and say wow ur on holiday how is it, what do u think she thought?starting to miss her loss of power? cause normally i would jump to her feet. Was she expecting a message from me perhaps, im always the kind loving person, so hows things with ur life etc and always am interested in how shes doing cause i love her for some reason?lol But ive chosen not to show no interest at all, anyways she messages me about 3 days after, day 1 being the day i see her online with her name saying shes on holiday, and day 3 the same but she message me this time. Take into fact that i dont go on that account much, and she just asks me a random question, no hello no hi im here, just a question nothing to do with me or anyone. Now im thinking, she has lots of friends online so I bet she could have asked one of them, its not a question only I would know. to be honest i think she just messaged to show her where she was (just in case i didnt see it) and not let me know shes loosing power if you get me, i didnt message back anyways cause i was afk. Am i wrong in thinking she is starting to miss me, and starting to miss her power, I cant think of any other reason why she sent that message, i need all insights ppl and views, i guess there will be questions from you all so i just need your wise words and thoughts i guess.
  8. Hello, Greetings.. Well there is a girl.... i love.... been 2 years.. since i am in love with her... in first sight.... she doesnt know me... i just get to see her in some parties and all... as she is cousin of my aunt... then i got her id... and we started chatting... we come to know each other well... but i proposed her through in a chat way 4 months before probably.... she said me she needs time.... its ok.. then she went to india for enjoying holidays.. 2 months before.. and now she is back.. called me to come in her house... i am invited but i said after a week as now many guests will visit her house these days.. as she is back from india... so i am like dumb in front of her.. i cant speak anything wat i wanna to... as now i have a lot of words to say.. but in front of her i cant express them... and i am going her house after a week.. so i wanna make that time a good conversation with her.... she also told me she has changed her hair style... and wants to show me snaps of her holidays.... and all.. so wat am i supposed to talk now... well, her pc is also bad.. so gonna make that too.. am good at it.. anyway.. i hope i will get good replies.. =)
  9. Been doing NC for like 8 or 9 weeks now, im donig good for myself, i have a new job adn my mind is concentrated else were other then her. Shes on holiday, and she messages me online she asks a silly question thats not relevante to anything, I didnt respond to her, Im just wondering, what can i expect from now on? and when she gets aback wat do you think is going on and could happen? and why she even message me?
  10. For those of us trying to get back with or move on from an EX and the emotional roller coasters, did everyone make it thru the holiday Easter weekend OK??? I hope so. The weather was awful yesterday, but it was a good day all in all.... I feel pretty upbeat today, got alot of decisions to make, but I feel ok today!!
  11. Hi everyone! There's this girl that i really like and im quite sure she seems interested in me. I have been thinking that since the Easter holidays are coming up i might ask if she wants to do something together. I lack alot of confidence and self-esteem but im trying to work on that... . If she agrees im after good places to take her since it's our first date (sorta) where do you girls often like going or doing in general with a guy (haven't dated in a while, kinda of forgotten, hopless case ) but i guess that depends on what she like i guess. Can anyone offer any advice or information, it would be appreicaited - whitefang
  12. Hi there everybody. 5 months ago this forum saved me from grieving to death over a break-up, then I found another love...(yes, there IS life and new relationships after a break up - and it can be even better!!)...and now I'm back here. I'd better tell you why - and I'd truly appreciate a piece of advice. So I found this guy and from the beginning it seemed to go quite serious, also given the fact that both of us have been in rather many relationships and most of the people around us are already married and we wann have families too etc. Basically we thought this might be it, and we uttered mutual interest in really making this one work. On our second date we went on holiday and directly after that lived together for 5 weeks due to the fact that we live in different countries and in summer it was possible to get to know each other "better" that way. Kind of fast, but then again, is THAT the problem, really? We surely got to know each other better during that time - both in good and bad! He's no easy character (we're talking about a mental disorder here, nothing more than a strong personality really, but still)... getting used to him being so different from all the other guys I've been with was really tough. On holiday, between beautiful days there were many, many fights - and I surely didn't show him my best features all the time either. Everything seemed to bother me or become an issue between us, fights started so easily. Mind you that I'm not a person who likes arguing. Every second day at least we had a heated discussion and one of us was packing bags - but always we made it up. And in between, we gained closeness and our love grew. All in all...it was very tough time in deed...but the best thing for me personally is the fact that we made it and I can at least say on my behalf that I learned A LOT about respect and adjustment, I literally learned to love him despite all those things I didn't like when we started seeing each other 24h/day. If you're asking by now, what on earth I'm doing in here then...well, everything changed. Maybe the nearness became too much, maybe the distance after that, maybe the continuous fights had to end some day. Now we're basically breaking up, the last argument doesn't seem to clear up and there have been serious signs now that this is it. He's got rather cold and unapproachable for me. He has said some not so nice things to me (he does that when argueing usually too, so I can't tell if this is how he now really feels - all of the sudden). And I'm sad. I took me time and the pumpy ride to start loving him as he is and I had to make concessions. But he doesn't seem to be able to make any concessions himself and as much as I can see that he's disappointed and sad about our relationship fading away, he can't give in and he blames me for ruining everything. I have to ad that we're both at the moment in a very difficult professional situation and also somehow quite susceptible. Basically the relationship's all tangled up now and we're supposed to meet up only to say goodbye when I'm next time around, he texted a couple of days ago = last contact. Sorry for the longuish intro, but now I need your advice on this: 1) Do you think a love can turn around like this? Or is this some game here again...? If so, why now that we've gone through so much already and NOW that I'm really in love (=too available?). 2) I think I've explained everything I could to clear the situation which is NOT my fault, I've said I loved him - should I still try and make an effort or just no contact until I can see him in 2 weeks? 3) Do you think, if somebody "really" wanted to break up/stopped caring he'd say in an indifferent way "if you wanna be with me go ahead, I don't care anymore"...and next day texted you that he doesn't want to say goodbye in a sms so let's do that face-to-face next time I'm around? 4) What the %**£ am I supposed to do? Forget about him 'cos it would be "easier"? Like I said, he is a difficult but probably the most lovable person I've ever met. And I just feel it's unfair to really "work" so much on the relationship and then just throw it away. More indifferent and trivial relationships last... Really sorry for this long article, but I'd appreciate if somebody gave me a hint about what's going on...anybody? (Lisaria's still around?) Thanks. Princesa
  13. Basically my GF told me yesterday that she no longer feels for me in the way she did before. After talking to her she wants us to be friends. Basically our relationship was short a little over a month. Things started off great and she fell for me instantly. Then after about 4 weeks she said things started to fall apart just out of the blue. This was around the holidays and she told me she just didnt feel the same for me and she didnt think it was fair to keep stringing me along. Well I told her I still have feelings for her but was willing to give the friend thing a try. She said that she just wanted to be friends for now and take it one day at a time. I told her I was o.k. with that but told her to keep and open mind and let me know if her feelings ever change. She said she would. How should I approach this I really love this girl a lot and don't want to loose her over a feeling that went away on such short notice. I think if she gets to know me better she may see who I truly am. Any ideas on what I can do? Please note: I'm not just being her friend to win her back I really just enjoy her company. Is there any chance I could fix this?
  14. My ex and I had a rough breakup, but a great relationship. It ended without much notice, and a few mean words from him ( he fell out of love with me... my words) He is still in the possesion of my stuff too. It has been a month since I have tried to contact him.. his last response was impolitely " your stuff is in the mail". My problem is we have a mutual friend who has an Christmas eve party, and she doesn't want to count one of us out...but he doesnt want to have anything to do with me, an dI don't think I am ready to see him. If I don't go to this dinner, I will be left out.. and the night will suck... all because of my ex. But if I go and he shows too, things will definitely be uncomfortable. He may even go as far as treating me disrespectfully. I can handle being nice to him.. seeing that I was the dumpee, and I am a bit older too. I will say merry christmas and smile, then move to someone else.. hopefully. But since the breakup.. he is nothing but disappointing surprises. What should I do? Should I just bail on the dinner? How can I talk to my friend and make her feel better about being in the middle? I mean there is no real way... to feel good about it. But what can I do so she isn't in the middle anymore? What do you guys think the right thing to do is?
  15. I dated my last girlfriend from about January until the end of July. We had a long distance relationship of being about 2 hours apart. She is a quiet and reserved woman who has a good career going but suffers from depression and takes medication for that. I felt very strongly for her but the distance was too much for her to handle. Neither of us could move to where the other was (nor would it make sense to this early in a relationship). She was at a point where she was very confused with things and it was easier for her to just not want to have a commited relationship at the time. It was a large bomb on me, but I do realize that she has depression and that she has a lot going on in her life. So, we agreed to remain in touch but not romantically (but she wanted to leave that door open for in the future). So, we have actually done well with talking once a week or so and we still talk to each other like we used to. She seems much more comfortable this way and I don't seem to have the expectations that I once did from the relationship. So, this week it turns out that she has a conference for work in the town I live. She is here for 3 days. She gave me a call last week saying that she was able to get a room at the hotel she was at for the last two days but not for the first. So, she asked if she could stay with me. I said she was more then welcome to stay at my house. She shows up yesterday evening and we went out to dinner. We came back and watched a movie and we had a good time like we always have in the past with each other. She can easily talk to me and can let go a little bit with anything that is bothering her (some stuff going on with her mother and her mother's boyfriend). Anyways, it was a little awkward when she showed up and we hugged. But after that, we were talking just like normally. I still very much like this girl but I know we just can't do anything romantic right now and it would not be feasable. So, in the past, we had slept together. This time, she never said anything, and we aren't dating really, so I said that I had made up the bed in one of my spare rooms and went to make sure everything was good. She kept giving me this awkward look. I have no idea if it was..."I still would like to be able to sleep together" or if it was her way of checking if I was alright with things like this. It was even a little awkward this morning when she was heading off to her conference. She kept hugging me like it was the last time we were going to see each other or something. Also, last night we started talking about trips and vacation time and the like. Well, I know she is alone and I don't want her to be alone for the holidays so I put the offer out there for her to come over for Thanksgiving and for Christmas and she was very open to that. Her face lit up and she was happy with that. I think I am doing the right thing here in trying to keep things on a very good friend level for now until we ever got to the point where we could make something more out of it. In the meantime, I feel like this is a good thing to be (very good friends and be there for her when she wants to talk...be there for the holiday's etc.) I am still a little confused about the awkwardness last night though. I can only assume that she is feeling the same way in that she would like to have more and misses being able to cuddle and the like, but probably doesn't want to push me away or freak me out in any way. SHe is like that. I don't know, but I feel more optimistic about the future with her and I like the idea of having a deep friendship with her. We both feel easy with telling each other everything that is on our minds (just not always able to do so with regards to things doing with each other's relationship at times). Things probably are very good to be honest. I just want to get some opinions. Thanks.
  16. I met a girl on holiday and really liked her. When I had to leave again we made out. When she came back we talked a lot and went on a date. She lives only 30 minutes away so its not like a long distance thing. When we had some time alone I asked if she wanted to continue in a serious way. She than said "I don't know" and a while later she said "I don't think so" the reason she gave was that it was kind of personal and she could not say. She then cried..she didn't want me to see but I did. I went home. When I left I said something like "ill see you soon" and she smiled and said yes. I didn't mean to say that but her reaction surprised me a bit. I talked to her online the next day and it was as if nothing had happened. She then blocked me for about a week (Im not sure but seeing that she is online every day and than suddenly not at all for a week makes me pretty sure she did). When she unblocked me I talked to her once (I iniated that) but mostly I don't talk to her cause I want her to initiate it. Yesterday I was planning on calling her and telling her how I felt. Just when i was planning on doing that someone came in my room and we left coz we had to go somewhere. I came back late so I didn't call her. Today I'm kinda happy that because of coincidence I didnt call her because I'm not sure that would have been smart. I want to be with her but I really don't know what to do anymore. Any help will be greatly appreciated...
  17. Well today marks 100 days since I've last talked to my Ex. Now that I'm into the triple digits I realize that it's ridiculous for me to continue to keep track. Afterall.. when does the madness stop? Do I keep counting to 200... 300... 500? As we enter into the new year, I do believe it's now time to just move on. I did not receive any kind of contact from her over the holidays. No cards.. No e-mails. Not a single well wish. I wasn't particularly bothered by it. That's probably because I wasn't really expecting it anyway. So I made it through the holidays just fine. If she feels she can do better than me.... then I wish her luck. There was a reason that I opened up my Personals mailbox yesterday and found 72 responses. Obviously someone finds me attractive. Of course.... not one of these women lived closer than 200 Miles from me. How's that for Bad luck? Nonetheless.... it still made me feel good. So my Ex's loss will be someone elses gain. I'm Done. I'm sure that I will still go through good and bad spells... just as we all do. However I'm not wasting my time on somebody who can no longer give me the time of day. The World does not work like that. Actions speak louder than words. If she can't show me that she misses me.... then Screw it. "THAT IS IT." I won't be calling. If I can do it for 100 Days... Then I can do it for a Lifetime! I'm not investing my time in someone who doesn't think I'm worth it. I personally know that I'm worth it. But if she can't see that..... then she doesn't deserve me anyway. When her next boyfriend treats her like garbage.... she'll suddenly remember the fun that we had and how much I was always there for her. Only then will she realize how much she misses me. If that call ever comes.... I will let everyone here know about it. Happy 2005!!!! John
  18. Is it true that a man's diet, stress level, hormones, etc, can effect the color of his sperm? I don't mean to gross anyone out or anything, but my husband has been spewing yellow sperm... It is the holidays and we haven't been eating how we normally eat, and we have drank more alcohol over the passed couple weeks than usual. Should we be worried about this?
  19. i figured someone was going to post a thread like this eventually. anyway, sorry in advance for whining, but i figure many others are going through this too. so it's the holidays, and my ex and i have been apart for 3 months. she's happy as can be with her new boyfriend, and pretty much all my other friends have someone special too. other than that, me and two of my friends are totally alone i've been trying to find someone new, but out of three single girls i've pursued since i've been single; one ignored me entirely, and the other two apparently forget about me, due to other guys that came into their lives after me, so they're probably off the market now too. this is the first holiday where i've had a girlfriend before it, so i've never known what it's really like to be "alone" on these kinds of yearly events. i want to know if anyone has any advice on how to make this time of year not so lousy. all i can think about is the ex and how happy she is with her new boyfriend, when she's the one who ruined our relationship right before this guy. again, sorry for being angsty... this site is one place i can let it out without people telling me to get over it. thanks 8)
  20. hey! im sure there are loads of people that will read this and think what is she stressin about? but i really need to understand why he acts the way he does before i can get over him! We were never really going out as such, we were only seeing each other! but he made me feel great about myself alot of the relationship was physical ,i must admit, but still we got on great! wen we were together he would joke around and make fun of me calling me a man and stuff and i found it funny cause it was a joke between me and all my friends and he was one of my friends but it wasnt all the time he was kind to me! but i went on holiday for two weeks and came back and he was seeing someone else! (gutted).... well it has been a good few months now and my friends keep saying that they think he still likes me, which i just cant believe! i mean he has told his new girlfriend that he loves her! but wen he is around all he does is make fun of me the way he used to wen we were together! my friends think its because he still has feelins for me but i dont think so i need to know! please help! xxx
  21. Oh boy I debated over and over about posting this but than I thought so many of my friends are feeling this way to and if any body has any advice with this it would be helping so many people I know. Anyways this is the time of the year when I start to become very depressed. I don't know if it's because the holidays are coming up and I'm from a broken family and I have a broken familiy of my own. Two marriages, two divorces and four children. Anyways I'm already starting to dread the holidays just because of all the family bull I have to endure. The holidays should be a fun time but not with my family and I tried several times to spend the holidays all lone with my children . But then I'm accused of being a b***h for not going to family x-mas. Anyways over the last couple of years I have developed sorta a drinking problem and I have gotten help for it because I ended up getting myself into alot of trouble. But I had quit drinking for several months but last week I kinda started up again. I"m on some serious medication and I not suppose to drink but I can't help it because I am feeling so depressed. I have tried to turn to some of my friends for help but they are feeling the same way also so I'm assuming it's the time of the year and were are suffering with the winter blues. But sometimes I feel that my problems are just more than I can bear! Thanks for listening!
  22. I was recently on a 14 day business trip in Colorado, and I met this guy. We hung out quite a bit while I was there, we watched TV, went to a movie, and just talked about anything and everything. We hooked up but did not have sex. We both said we enjoyed each other's company. When I left Colorado, there was no real talk about 'keeping in touch' so I just dimissed it as a brief fling. When I got home I thought about him quite a bit, so I mailed him a short note and a CD, telling him how much I enjoyed getting to know him. I also asked him if he had plans for an upcoming holiday weekend. He quickly replied that he wanted to go skiing with me. Hmm, that is quite the assumptive close! I wasn't expecting that at all. He then said, "What about going to San Diego or Hawaii instead?" I responded back to him I thought San Diego would be fun. When we had a quick phone conversation, he mentioned to me that he was planning on tagging along with a friend of his to go to San Diego, but that it was a tentative plan. I sat there, completely confused, because he just asked me the day before whether I wanted to go to San Diego or Hawaii, and now all of a sudden he is telling me he is supposed to go with a friend and it's a tentative plan. Why would he even ask me about going to one of those places if he was already 'tentatively' planning on going with a friend of his? Any advice?
  23. Guess what im getting for valentines day? death. I dont want to live anymore im sick of these holidays im sick of bneing alone while my stupid ex girlfriend has a grand ol time with her new b/f everyone else is happy except me. well i dont care about me anymore or my stupid pathetic life so im going to tyr and find a way to die. suggestions would be helpful.
  24. Hullo, Please I need your advice, I am in a crisis here, My BF and I had a nice and passionate relationship at the beginning, by then I was staying with my sister, I later moved out and he suggested that he wanted to move in with me, It was okay with me, so we started staying together, 3 months down the road, I got a health problem which the doctors said was normal that ladies always experience it, several causes were highlighted but he didnt understand, I asked him one day to come with me to the doctor so he could get first hand explanation but he said he was busy coz' he had to spend the day doing some erands and droping and picking up his sister in law to and from work. It got fine and it stopped (the health Problem) during this time it was happening, he said thing like, "I didnt want to come and stay with you but I thought you would be scared of staying alone in the house" I wasnt scared of staying alone, and I didnt ask him to come and stay with me, but I thought since I loved him, It was okay for him to stay, since then, we have had some sad and happy times till recently, at the beginning of July, he started calling this girl and he said she was part of the discussion groups at his school but they were in holidays so I asked him, you are in holidays and you are calling her, what is going on between the two of you and he didnt give me an answer instead he started quarelling, since then up to today, his attitude has changed towards me and he treats me like crap, I need some advice, should I end the relationship and how should I do it, I am hurtting and I feel I cant take it anymore.
  25. Hey Everyone! This may be a silly question but if you havent heard from a friend for a lil while & they call you for just because or for a holiday to say Merry Christmas, Happy Easter . does that shows that they still consider you as a good /close friend? I'm trying to keep reassuring myself that not to worry that he does care still & is my friend. he still has to care for me at least some to still call me sometimes and leave messages on my machine. or even something as lil as an email back? He thought of me enough to call and thats good ,...right?
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