Sarah Smith

My ex friend used to visit me all the time and she kept saying I am her best friend. We would hang out all the time. Back then we lived in different cities. Then she moved to my city and only a 5 minute walk down the block. Ever since she has been ignoring my texts and my attempts to see her. I think she got new friends and forgot about me. Back in the day she had no other friends and was even bullied, I would always give her support. I care about the people in my life and I take friendship seriously. Right now I feel used. How do I deal with this?

So Im a young adult, only 21, most my friends still live at home. But I lived in a different city to study and I’ll soon be done with my degree. I am really close with my mum, and currently don’t have a family of my own. My mother suddenly one day informed me she plans on leaving the country? She just wants to live elsewhere. She informed me I can come along, but she also made it clear that shes going no matter if Im coming or not. Am I selfish for thinking that she’s being a bad person. I feel like this is making my abandonment issues worse. Who is in the wrong here?

yeah it’s suddenly more frequent, but it might be because Ive been meeting a lot of new people lately because Ive been attending events (profesional business events). But maybe Im over sensitive idk

I tell them it’s inappropriate but try to keep it light. But I guess I should set more clear boundaries. Examples of what I have been told: guy friend (we haven’t been friends for long) telling me the sexual stuff he would want to do to me. A girl who keeps saying stuff about my body and curves and that I have “sexy shapes”. A friend pretty much trying to sit in my lap and touch me and stuff. A guy who got into me and my friends hotel room, he was flirting with her not me. Then he diverted his attention towards me. I ignored him because he previously commented on my breasts and joked that he’ll buy protection for later and took photos of me without consent. I made it very clear Im not interested, told him off and was even mean. When I wasn’t paying attention to him he would literally kick my butt. And in general a lot of guys and girls saying I have a nice butt. This I usually just take as a compliment and move on. Am I crazy and overreacting for thinking that all this is too much? Is this normal? Should I just suck it up? Btw we live in a pretty progressive country so it’s not like this is the culture at all

It’s mostly been from friends and acquaintances now. I quit my job because of this.

I dress the same as I always have. Sometimes revealing and other times very baggy, usually a mix (one baggy and one tight item). But lately Ive been into the vintage style, so I wear a lot of baggy pants, so according to this logic they wouldn’t be commenting on my butt but they are.

Yes that’s what I thought. But lately its been happening like at least once a day, and by both genders.. and when I tell them they brush it off like Im crazy. Thats why Im wondering if Im overreacting

I keep getting comments on my body from a lot of different people. Classmates, co-workers and even friends. Many of them say straight up sexual things to me about how nice my a** is or what sexual things they would do to me. And this comes from both women and men. Is this normal?? Am I oversensitive if it makes me uncomfortable? Before, it would happen here and there so Id brush it off. But now it happens all the time, and from people I wouldn’t expect it from.

Yeah you might be right! No he didn’t message me🤔 although he directly asked for my contact so that we can “link later”, so confusing…

I met him at a surfing club🙈 some girl I befriended told me when I brought him up

A guy I met asked for my contact info after we had a conversation. We exchanged instagrams. After about a week he unfollowed me suddenly? It was after I posted a picture also I heard a rumour he has a girlfriend, but I don’t know. Why would he ask me for my contact and then remove me? Why ask in the first place

I guess I tend to see the best in people I have an emotional attachment to and that leads me to giving way too many chances and compromise my self worth. But you are right, enough is enough. And I should probably do some self reflection on what leads me to allow people to treat me this poorly

This is a good response, I’ll take your advice, thank you

Thank you🙏

Like a year.. I’m not sure, I broke up because he was flaky, mean and unreliable. But he kind of made it back into my life, and then he made up some story (again) about something false and left on several occasions