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So, three weeks ago, I ordered a product from Amazon and forget to change the shipping address, so my product was shipped to my daughter's address (she lives 3 1/2 hours away). I called her that morning and explained the situation. I asked her if she could ship my package to my home and I would reimburse her for shipping costs. She happily agreed and told me it wasn't a problem. As our conversation continued and she told me that she would be going to court to obtain full custody of her daughter. Then she asked me if I could come and be with her for support. I told her to let me know when it is and I would be there if it was possible. I actually said, "I will do my best." …

Hello guys! So, my mother said to me go to a rehab, or go out from my place. She is owner, but she's got few appartments. My appartments is not mine by the law, but im living inside for a 12 years. I dont wanna go to a rehab because of she. Drinking few beers per a day, so this is not her buisness though. I am 30 years old, and i paid for appartments regulary. She is kinda mad about my lifestyle, and come to my place whithout my permission. Feel myself so depressed, kinda im wierdo and... like a criminal, but im not! She is old, and looks kinda insane and wants me only doing whats she want. I am musician, not employed right now, but who cares if d…

Long story short, my parents split up when I was about 10 years old and after a while whatever relationship we had fizzled to the point of no contact until recently. The split didn't affect me much because I feel like I didn't see my Dad much anyway. He was a long haul truck driver then and gone for days at a time. When he was home, he was either teasing me or drunk with his buddies in the basement. We kept touch a lot immediately after they broke up where he showered me with gifts, like taking me to the mall to get a new expensive swimsuit and stuff like that. That slowly dissipated and we started talking less and less. You know, life happens being busy wit…

I'll try to make this short. My bf and I have been together for 3 years and have grown close with his now 11 year old son who is very mildly autistic. He used to be a problem child in school until I started working with him and teaching him ways to better handle the things that upset him. We even had a little mantra every morning before he got on the school bus complete with our own little handshake. His mother had been having an affair and moved into her bf's house with his 4 kids while the divorce was being started. The boy stayed with us during the week for school and spent weekends with her as was agreed upon in the Rule 69 agreement we had drawn up (to protect dad's …

I'm so frustrated with my mother. I'm a grown woman with grown-up kids. All my kids are great, yet one is untidy. I've recently invested some money into my house. One of the items has been broken in my daughter's bedroom. I really am not happy. When I expressed my unhappiness about the broken item my daughter said it didn't matter. I obviously didn't agree--but my mother has! Straight away she stuck up for my daughter saying I was totally being dramatic. I don't see how. I have every right to be upset, even though I didn't scream or shout. So I now have a broken fixture to my house and my mother and daughter both telling me I am being dramatic. I tried to project it back …

first of all thank you for your time and, my english may not be that good but im gonna try my best im a 15 year old girl and i have a 4 years older sister (19) who literally starts punching me on the face and pulling my hair whenever i ask her to, for example; move away when im sweeping the floor or when i ask her to clean the mess she made with food on MY bed... like im not even asking her to do me a favor she just refuses to act like a decent human being, she takes "dont tell me what to do" to a whoooooole new level.. she gets so easily offended by literally nothing and thats her biggest insecurity i once called her a snowflake and she almost broke my nose lmao i r…

My younger bro is single in his mid 30s and the only person living with my mum. We have all moved out and support ourselves. My bro hasn’t been able to do that. He hasn’t been able to hold down a job for years. My mum practically cooks and cleans for him. So much so that we all think he is lazy. We don’t see any drive from him to want to do better. He doesn’t ask us if we can help him. I’ve tried helping him apply for jobs before when I was unemployed and he simply said “why don’t you sort yourself out first”. I found a job pretty quickly and he’s been in the same situation on the dole for 3 years. When he was young, the primary school teachers felt he needed a helper ass…

Me and my fiancé have been together for almost 4yrs. We have a child together and both of us have a child/children from a previous marriage. I have full custody of my oldest, she doesn’t see her dad. My fiancé has joint custody of his two kids, which I find to be very disruptive to every day life. At this point, his custody situation is really causing a lot of problems. His children refuse to come to our house - say they are uncomfortable here. They stay at his parents during his visitation. Typical grandparents. No responsibilities, waited in hand and foot, no consequences, no rules really. Might I add, I have never been mean, never disciplined, never even raised my voic…

My sister has become a very difficult person to deal with. Over the last year she has developed some very resentful feelings towards me. I think she used to consider herself someone who had her life together, had a well-paying job, an active social life, travelled a lot, and felt a sense of purpose and independence. She suddenly ended up getting fired from her job (which I later found out was due to her boss finding her impossible to deal with), then the pandemic hit, and she was out of work, wasn't able to travel or socialize much, and had to ask my parents for help financially. She was knocked off her feet. I have always had jobs where I did not make as much money …

Last weekend, I (F/16) went on a weekend trip with my best friend (F/16) and her family to their lake house. It was sort of a goodbye school, hello summer kind of thing. Anyway, their lake house is this cool looking cabin in this little, middle-of-nowhere type town. I'd never been, so of course I said yes when they invited me. We arrived on Saturday around noon. We spent the first hour getting settled in. Then, my friend and I went to explore the woods behind the cabin along with her little brother. Sometime after we got back, her brother found a pair of toy handcuffs in his room that he'd accidentally left behind the last time they'd visited. They were a gift from …

I feel very stuck in the middle. I’m an only child so my parents and I have always been close. I love them dearly. They had me later in life, so they are about 10 years older than my husband’s parents. His parents and my parents get a long, that’s not the problem. The problem is when it comes to my husband and parents. My parent live about 4 hours away so we don’t see them as much as we do his parents. Anyways when we first started dating, my husband and my parents got a long really well. There we lots of conversations and fun times. Now I feel with each passing visit my husband grows more distant with my parents. To the point where I make lots of trips to my parents by m…

My siblings and I unfortunately had to grow up around troubled and toxic parents. I am the oldest (23) and ever since I can remember my father was physically, but more emotionally abusive. It was years and years of having him belittle me, hit me, threaten me, and scream at me. This put me into a fight or flight mode since a small child and made me question myself which is something that has followed me into adulthood. I have very low self esteem, self respect and motivation due to this abuse. My siblings have also experienced this abuse and are processing it in their own way. Obviously, there is a lot more to the traumatic experiences and abuse, but I cannot go in depth o…

I’m 30. Kids have never interested me, nor getting married etc. There’s no pressure from anywhere that I do either of these things but I just wanted to get some perspective from woman who have chosen and who have chosen to not have kids and if you genuinely regret or are happy with the decision. I know a few people with kids and they typically look haggered and are having trouble with their kids attitudes etc, it really just doesn’t look worth it. I just want real world (not deluded) perspectives from both sides. go!! 🙂

Good day! I have previously narrated here that I have been taking care of my granny all by myself since 2016. It has been only me who has been there for her after her children's death (my mon and my aunt). And since I am the eldest grandchild, there's unsaid rule that I should take care of her. Due to family conflict, no one was able to take care of her and I took the initiative because I couldn't see my grandmother aging alone. There was a certain moment last year that we had re-kindled with her children and with my cousins. But that was very short. Conflicts still continued as they used their ego rather their hearts in uniting the family. I had successfully r…

So, I am the 4th of 5 siblings. We are all grown now, with ages ranging between 26 and 43. We are all also scattered over the U.S. with one living abroad. All of us have not seen our parents for several years. Not to stereotype my family, but my family is Irish Catholic, and none of us are very affectionate. We all live very independent lives in different parts of the country, and my parents have been happy empty nesters after raising 5 kids. Over the last year (during COVID), my parents refused to allow any of us to come visit them. We all thought my mom was becoming overly paranoid about COVID, especially since they (and most of us) are vaccinated. On Mother's Day…

I don’t get my sister sometimes. We are extremely close, but sometimes we don’t see eye to eye. Whenever we get in an argument or disagreement, she insults me and my character. For example: there would be miscommunication and she would insult me by saying “well you should have listened in the first place” or “that’s why you’re failing at _____”. I am confused because what does me failing at something have to do with our miscommunication??? I am not sure if she is trying to upset me but I’ve had it with her. Then shes the one who gets mad and stays quiet, ignoring me for hours or the rest of the day. Mind you, she’s almost 29 years old acting like this. I am younger than h…

So the other thread is closed but I wanted to give an update. After the overwhelming amount of responses I received, I have decided to leave or have him move out. I was so deep into his manipulation that I didn't realize what I was doing. I have to put my kids first. No matter what he says, my kids are the most important thing in my life. I can't believe I even thought about staying after all he has done to me. Unless you've been in an abusive relationship with a master manipulator, you can't put yourselves in my shoes. I so dearly appreciate all of your help and I'm going to do the right thing for my kids. Someone mentioned getting checks for my kids or me being …

Hello, I feel really depressed and in a hole at the moment. My mother passed away a year ago of cancer at age 57. I am still living at home and probably didn’t take a chance to move out when I could, because of my mother’s cancer. she died in March of last year and things between me & my dad weren’t the best, not helped by lockdown & being around each other all the time. He wound up getting into a relationship with a woman 6 months after my mother died & I felt livid by this. I felt it was disrespectful to their 35 year marriage he could move on so quick. He lied about it but I knew it was going on. He found out I knew when the woman he was…

Ive been struggling with low self worth for a really long time now and lately it has been so paralyzing that i dont see myself being happy or successful ever in my life. I come from a very emotionally unstable/toxic enviroment. I only started to realize this a few years ago. Im 24 now, but ever since i was a child i remember my mom being very verbally (and sometimes physically) abusive towards me, my sister and my dad. He was abusive too, but i think mainly because my mom broke him down. She never hugged us, kissed us and there was never any praise or words like " i love you"(i think the last time she ever hugged me was maybe 15+years ago, i dont remember her tell…

Hi! I'm 19 and basically my biological dad is no longer in the picture. My sister and I stopped living with him in 8th grade because it was a pretty toxic environment, I won't get into details, but he was and is a very controlling and abusive individual. We tried to compromise as best as we could but he stopped trying to fix the relationship early on. Flash forward to last spring, I'm the younger of the two sisters he and my mom had, and when I graduated he disowned me and my sister. The argument was because another parent called my stepdad my dad instead of him-which was an honest mix-up because the parent hadn't met and didn't know my parents were divorced. When I …

I ended contact with my mother 5 years ago. Some of my friends still ask me if she is ok. I can tell they think I am being unreasonable or harsh in my treatment of her. There's one who keeps saying "she could die". My friends are my chosen family but they don't understand what its like to have grown up the way I did. Sometimes they have difficult situations with their parents and they think its the same thing. Maybe that is partly my fault. One of the first things I learned was how to edit myself. I don't think I have ever divulged, even to myself, the extent of the dysfunction in my home. I wrap them up into smaller packages in my brain where they don't touch each other.…

Every week we go for family dinner at my parents place. Majority of the time it is good, I get to catch up with my siblings and parents and my kids (5yr old and 6 month old) get to see the family. Last night we were discussing something where my dad said asians respect their elders but westerners don’t (We are Asian but have grown up in a western society). Anyway he was in the wrong. During the argument he made me feel like I was not bringing up my kids in the correct way and it felt like he was saying I was a bad parent (he didn’t say that but I felt that). Then for the rest of the night he barely talked to anyone, I didn’t want to look at him. And since then I have …

My fiancée and I have been together for 3 years. We also live together, along with my 8 year old. He is Autistic. Bio dad is not in the picture. As of late, I’ve noticed some pretty disconnected behaviors from her with respect to my son. It’s like she’s stopped trying. My son has some pretty challenging behaviors that stem from his ASD and ADHD. He’s also going through precocious puberty. And he’s super hormonal. I opted to homeschool him in lieu of remote learning. It’s been difficult, but academically he’s so much further ahead than his schools have recognized. He’s very bright, but very rigid. These behaviors are incre…

I really want to preface this? Ugh, forget it, I don't know how to preface this, but it's not about who's right or wrong or if it does or doesn't. I am thinking in the long run as a minority with mixed raced kids, and what is best for them. Right now, our area has a lot of issues with hundreds of families who do not believe in teaching about diversity or want to fight against programs on inclusivity. I have been accosted a few times being Asian in a certain part of my town, even before the pandemic. But while there is tons of support and very tolerant families, the intolerance of non-white people in the area has been showing. My husband and I have signed with an agent…

My MIL is manipulative and a narcissist. At my baby shower last week she gifted me stretch mark cream....nothing for the baby. I'm assuming this was an intentional move that I can't figure out. Anyways, how do I word a thank you note for that one? Do I take the high road and tell her how amazing it is? You should have seen the look on my friend's faces when I opened it. :)