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I never expected my daughter to still be here as she so animatedly expressed to me many times that she would be out as soon as she was 18. But here, she just turned 20. She goes to college, does not contribute to the house through either chores consistently or rent and she does not work. We bicker a lot and I can't help but believe it is time for her to grow up. How do I make this happen??? I feel inadequate as a parent because things haven't worked out as she hasn't matured along with her peers...... I encouraged her and helped her write a resume. Bought books explaining adulting and leases, etc.... What can I do???

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My older sister (34 f) went through a divorce earlier this year. The divorce happened because of her cheating with a coworker. Last summer (2020) she confided in me that she was seeing this other man. I told her she was wrong and needed to end it. I said if she wanted to see other people her and her husband needed to divorce. It was the first of a lot of arguments she and I would have over the course of the next year. The more I found out about this guy the leas I thought the was a good person. He was married, had two kids and was 47. I tried to stay as uninvolved in my sister’s drama as I could but she would often ask me to watch me two nieces (ages 7 and 4). She’d …

TLDR; My mom's alcoholic behavior is getting out of hand. What do I do? I want to start off by thanking anyone that takes the time to read this very long post about my mom's behavior. I have to give a lot of backstory in order for the story to make sense, so thank you so much for taking the time to read this and help me. My mom (F50) and my dad (M54) met at a bar, got married, and had me (F21) and my sister (F19). My dad inherited the family business when my grandpa passed away. We quickly became a very wealthy family. We moved into a big house in a wealthy neighborhood. My parents became close friends with a few other wealthy couples in the neighborhood, and my…

My daughter is 14 and I’ve been married to my husband since she was three. He has always been there for her as a great stepdad. My daughter’s room is downstairs and even though she is 14 he still goes downstairs every night to sleep next to her after I fall asleep at 3:00am. Then comes back up every morning around 7am. I know nothing is going on and my daughter is completely comfortable around him, she says nothing but good things. However, she is fourteen and doesn’t need a grown adult sleeping next to her every night. I told him how I felt and that he doesn’t need to do that anymore but all he says is “you can’t tell me what to do” and disregards how I feel. He then sai…

1. My mom wants to help me finish with our new house set up and unpack. 2. My mom is badly mobility disabled and needs a walker and can barely get up my steps and her walker won’t fit any place in my house to walk around. She also can’t stand beyond about 45 seconds without needing to sit. 3. She becomes severely insulted if I say she can’t help because of her mobility issues and it is actually more work and worry for me. She also can’t lift anything over 5 pounds because she has broken her back 4 times and has a crumbling spine. 4. I would have to drive 2 hours to pick her up and 2 hours back home and the same on the other end. 5. …

Hi! I wrote a previous post regarding having a 2nd child & am looking for feedback from anyone who dealt with issues during and/or after pregnancies. One of my main concerns having a 2nd child is honestly I'm scared of health issues that crop up. I've had anxiety my whole life, so it doesn't help. However, at 28yrs old, my first baby came 6 wks early (I'm now 31). No major complications thankfully. During pregnancy, lots of nausea/vomiting first 4 months, developed severe acne that EXPLODED after giving birth. HUGE cystic, painful pimples. I was so embarrassed. I'm talking horn like protrusions all over chin, forehead, back, neck, nose, in my eyebrows, hairline etc.…

We were having a good day. But after running errands for 2 and a half hours, she asked me a question (something small), I answered. My intent was to reassure her that the question she asked and the concern it involved (which she had already brought up twice before), was no big deal. To preface, I mentioned to her the week before that she knew I wasn't a very good communicator, especially in regards to small talk. So, she knows exactly what she's dealing with. However, my response (something like "I'll get it later, I'll be nearby") struck her in a certain way that she felt was too aggressive and she met that perceived aggression with the statement "I'm just asking a …

Hello all, Recently I had to move in with my mother. I'm an adult woman in my early 30s. My mother has always been a toxic person towards my father, myself and sister since I was a child. Earliest memory was when I was around 5 years old. I mean I didn't call it being "toxic" as a child, but she was definitely, "mean." Just for some insight on how she is toxic. She's overly critical of me. I seem to not be able to do anything right according to her. I'm not wearing my clothes right or I'm wearing something incorrectly. When I'm in the kitchen cooking an actual meal, she tells me my food is gross looking (just because it's stuff she doesn't eat). Or says, "what …

Hello. I will try to explain myself as simply as I can. I had some relation problems in July and I asked help from here. Firstly, let me summarize that relationship: I had an online relationship, then we have seen each other several times in reel life, we had some jeaolusy problems and someday i couldn't give enough care and time to him because of my own problems. Then, on June, he decided to end our relationship, and I tried to get him back with a trick: I wanted him to be jealous of me. I wanted him to regret his decision about ending this relationship and I wanted him to try to win me back. This childish idea obviously didn't work and he left me completely, …

Hi So ya, to start with my mom found out that that my dad has an affair with another woman and they always meet. Almost every day actually. To be honest I am torn with respect toward my father and hatred. Now my father wanted to take that woman as a second wife ( my country allows polygamous relationship ). Of course, I hate that woman and to make it worst, she went to my house and bang on the door this morning because my mom won't let my dad take his phone or take a step outside without her this last few days. I mean how shameless can she be. My maternal grandma said that mom should go back to her house if dad decided to take that woman. Jokes on you, I hate that w…

Where do I start. The last years I have come to reolize my older adult sister are highly deceptive, disrespectful and even narcissistic. We’re all adults and when I bring it up to my mother how unfair, selfish and vindictive they have been towards me my mother Denys any wrong doing. If I’m at her home she will even ask me to leave if I don’t drop the topic and if she’s at my home shell threaten to leave herself. An example is after lockdown my sisters went on vacation with their kids and didn’t invite me and my one child. They sent me a last minute invite to save face. My other sister is getting married and they’re having a pre-party and I was told to only come on the da…

Hi everyone, We've been toying with the idea of having a 2nd child for quite a while, however just can't seem to make a decision& it really stresses us out. Our daughter is 3 yrs old. I know toddlers are hard...but we REALLY struggled from day 1. She was born 6 weeks early. Luckily no major health deficits. She did have HORRIBLE reflux&was on meds for 9 months. She was never an easy, happy baby. It feels like she was always crying/screaming. She never took a pacifier so we just endured it. Being first time parents was of course difficult as we were not experienced. She is the most difficult of the grandkids in the family. Always causing a scene..people in…

After almost 4 years, my abusive ex husband has decided he wants back in my daughters life. 4 years ago he had another baby with his now new wife and decided he wanted our daughter to get to know her baby brother, i obviously said no contact with him as he was really abusive with her to. One night after dancing, her dad collected her and i had a call to say she was staying with her dad now as she wanted to get to know him again. After 3 weeks she was told to live with his mam as there was no room in the house for her even though she'd never met her paternal grandmother. After 2 weeks living with her, she kicked her out as she was hard work and they cut all contact with he…

My wife continually allows her 19 year old son to treat me with disrepect, he is disrespectful, lies, and spends about 95% of his time playing video games. He hasn't looked for work, zero motivation to take any initiative or responsibility. My wife doesn't take any measures to help. The worst is that she placates her son, doesn't acknowledge his poor behavior towards me and its been years worth of struggle that is causing me to have massive resentment and want out of this relationship. I need help desperately.

So it was my nephews 1st birthday party (my brothers son) about a week ago. I had been trying to help my sister in law with party ideas etc. We aren’t very close but I made the effort with her because I know my brother would appreciate it. I ordered some theme cupcakes for them that cost me £25 and my sister in law said she’d get my brother to pay me back. I just left it because I thought it was a nice gesture. Today My brother tells me ‘oh they weren’t that nice’. So I get really offended especially because they were free for him and I had made the effort. They weren’t amazing which I already knew but it really upset me that he couldn’t bite his tongue. So I got really …

Hi guys, I've been struggling with this for a long time. Last year, my parents forced me to complete my degree from my home country due to the pandemic. That decision caused me to have a breakdown later in the year because I felt like I was robbed seeing all my friends living their dreams overseas whereas I was stuck at home. My dad and I had a massive fight about this and we barely spoke for 3 months. I managed to complete my degree and graduated with excellent results. I appreciate everything my parents have done for me but I can't help but feel like I don't have a great relationship with my parents. After I received my final year results, I was really excited and …

Hi guys, I was wondering if anyone has had a similar situation and if so how they would or have dealt with it. About 5 years ago I got diagnosed with a health issue that has made life a challenge at times and I was going through a divorce at the same time, so it just felt like everything happened at once and I had to temporarily move back with my parents. After 2 years I moved out and have been on my own until the beginning of this month, when I had to move out of my rental home due to rising rent and and no longer having a job. I am 30 so moving back with my parents although I am grateful for them letting me come back, is not ideal, because I didn't see my life…

Would allowing my 15-year-old daughter to visit her mom who will be in jail for 7 months for check fraud be a bad idea even if they have a good relationship since then she will see the inside of a jail and prisoners? Not to mention her mom in a jumpsuit. My daughter would like to go and seems enthusiastic and my wife says bring her if she wants but I’m not sure Actually my daughter does not seem scared but instead seems excited and enthusiastic to visit. This is strange to me. Do you find this normal? My daughter seems to find the idea of her mom having to wearing a uniform, sharing a room funny. I wonder why she would think it is funny. My wife says bring her…

Hello guys! So, my mother said to me go to a rehab, or go out from my place. She is owner, but she's got few appartments. My appartments is not mine by the law, but im living inside for a 12 years. I dont wanna go to a rehab because of she. Drinking few beers per a day, so this is not her buisness though. I am 30 years old, and i paid for appartments regulary. She is kinda mad about my lifestyle, and come to my place whithout my permission. Feel myself so depressed, kinda im wierdo and... like a criminal, but im not! She is old, and looks kinda insane and wants me only doing whats she want. I am musician, not employed right now, but who cares if d…

So, three weeks ago, I ordered a product from Amazon and forget to change the shipping address, so my product was shipped to my daughter's address (she lives 3 1/2 hours away). I called her that morning and explained the situation. I asked her if she could ship my package to my home and I would reimburse her for shipping costs. She happily agreed and told me it wasn't a problem. As our conversation continued and she told me that she would be going to court to obtain full custody of her daughter. Then she asked me if I could come and be with her for support. I told her to let me know when it is and I would be there if it was possible. I actually said, "I will do my best." …

Long story short, my parents split up when I was about 10 years old and after a while whatever relationship we had fizzled to the point of no contact until recently. The split didn't affect me much because I feel like I didn't see my Dad much anyway. He was a long haul truck driver then and gone for days at a time. When he was home, he was either teasing me or drunk with his buddies in the basement. We kept touch a lot immediately after they broke up where he showered me with gifts, like taking me to the mall to get a new expensive swimsuit and stuff like that. That slowly dissipated and we started talking less and less. You know, life happens being busy wit…

I'll try to make this short. My bf and I have been together for 3 years and have grown close with his now 11 year old son who is very mildly autistic. He used to be a problem child in school until I started working with him and teaching him ways to better handle the things that upset him. We even had a little mantra every morning before he got on the school bus complete with our own little handshake. His mother had been having an affair and moved into her bf's house with his 4 kids while the divorce was being started. The boy stayed with us during the week for school and spent weekends with her as was agreed upon in the Rule 69 agreement we had drawn up (to protect dad's …

I'm so frustrated with my mother. I'm a grown woman with grown-up kids. All my kids are great, yet one is untidy. I've recently invested some money into my house. One of the items has been broken in my daughter's bedroom. I really am not happy. When I expressed my unhappiness about the broken item my daughter said it didn't matter. I obviously didn't agree--but my mother has! Straight away she stuck up for my daughter saying I was totally being dramatic. I don't see how. I have every right to be upset, even though I didn't scream or shout. So I now have a broken fixture to my house and my mother and daughter both telling me I am being dramatic. I tried to project it back …

first of all thank you for your time and, my english may not be that good but im gonna try my best im a 15 year old girl and i have a 4 years older sister (19) who literally starts punching me on the face and pulling my hair whenever i ask her to, for example; move away when im sweeping the floor or when i ask her to clean the mess she made with food on MY bed... like im not even asking her to do me a favor she just refuses to act like a decent human being, she takes "dont tell me what to do" to a whoooooole new level.. she gets so easily offended by literally nothing and thats her biggest insecurity i once called her a snowflake and she almost broke my nose lmao i r…