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Hey all. In March 2020 a relationship I was in ended. It rocked me so bad I took counseling, medication and regularly called support groups etc. Eventually I got into another relationship which unfortunately ended after 6 months. Since then I've dated one other person. I know I've always still held feelings for this ex but since we have had no contact since we split it's kind of become easier as time moves on. I hadn't even seen her around town or anything since we split and then 2 weeks ago she walked past (she didnt happen to see me through pure luck) Then earlier this week I saw her on a dating site, still looking as stunning as I think she is. Loo…

I am 38. She is 35. We dated for 3.5 years. We had a wonderful relationship. I was ready to marry her after 18 months. I know sometimes she felt the same way, but other times she would tell me she was not sure and she thought something was wrong with her. I would always tell her “If you never get to the same place as me, that is OK, I just want you to be happy”. After 3 years, that really started to make me feel insecure about the relationship. I can see that now after a few months apart. Last 5 months of our relationship she wanted to attend pre-marital counseling. We went to 3 sessions and that was it. She called me 2 months ago and said “I do not see a …

My boyfriend and I broke up 9 days ago after a 3 year relationship, on his terms. Initially, I was devastated but since blocking him on all social media I have felt a bit better which makes me wonder whether him ending the relationship was actually what I knew was right deep down too. However, I keep worrying about him talking to or seeing someone new. We were in a relationship previously for 2 years when we were 16, he broke up with me when we were 18 and started seeing another girl a week after so I worry he will do the same now. I was heartbroken. A year after her, he came back to me. I was stupid enough to take him back but we had a good +3 years together. I …

My ex boyfriend broke up with me 3 months ago. We work together so I have to see him everyday. Its been hard moving on. First month and a half we had no contact. Then I decided to text him and we've been texting ever since. However when I bring up us being friends he agrees to be platonic friends but tells me he's not interested in a relationship with anyone right now. He replies to all my texts and tells me he's ok with us being friends but whenever I mention possibly hanging out he says its not a good idea. Why does he keep texting me and agreeing to being platonic friends if he knows I want to get back together with him?

So a toxic ex keeps popping into my mind. It was a poor relationship that I stayed in too long, which I realize was my fault and my one regret is not walking away sooner. It’s been over a year since I’ve seen him, and I feel indifferent to the guy. We aren’t connected on social media and I feel really happy with my life. I shed everything that was a reminder of our time quite a while back and I have since moved on to a loving, healthy relationship. So why does he keep circling through my thoughts then? And how do I make it stop? If there is some lingering healing to do, what do I need to do to heal?

My (now ex) boyfriend and I had an argument, which to me felt minor. For days following this, my boyfriend was being cold with me. I found this strange and had a feeling there was more to it. I drove to his to speak to him, otherwise he would of continued to avoid me. When I got to his, my boyfriend said he needed “space” and “to think about things”. He said he isn’t sure whether we are compatible and how we have different interests. This came out of nowhere, we had been together for 3 years and suddenly we were on the verge of breaking up. He said he didn’t know whether this relationship was right… I said deep down you know what’s right and I can’t wait for you to decide…

My ex and I have the same friends so we are at the same places quite often. It's not really awkward, we've adapted to being mutual friends I think? Anyways, recently I have the urge to text him and ask to hangout. I know it may not be healthy for either of us to hangout as friends because we may fall into old habits such as being together a lot. I just really miss him. We got food once, a month ago, to catch up and he has been asking to hangout after that and I did not want to. However, now I do. I know that he will get the wrong idea and may think I want to get back together now. The thing is, I don't. Not now. I can see us getting back together in the future but so much…

So back on March 31 2019 I ended a 9 year relationship with my child’s father (ex husband) and of course I really had the break up blues like a mf…so on April 7 2019 (literally a week later after my break up) I met a guy and I made him aware of my situation but he definitely didn’t back down he was up for the challenge lol… so we started dating about a month and a half later and he never let me know where he lived…we dated for 6 months and I never been to his home and when I’d ask he’d give me excuses or start an argument so after 7 months I ended the relationship because sh** was weird to me. 7 months go by and we rekindle our relationship except for it was never physica…

I had this brief relationship with this girl from another state some 8-9 years ago, she knew I was fully in love but she rejected me in the end after dragging the whole situation for 1 year. It ended badly as I was angry about the whole absurdity of the situation and I told her to never talk to me again. I think she really felt bad about it and for me getting so angry with her, I was told that she got depressed after it. Time has passed and I'm not angry anymore and I feel I still love her, remembering it when I dream about her is like I lost someone, there's an emptiness in my heart. When the relationship ended I was really harsh on her and I think I buried any p…

I'm really struggling with the idea that my ex girlfriend was a once in a life time kind of person to date. I've posted about this before and I'm just stuck. It's been a while now and I'm still not dating anyone remotely close to her. I just don't find these people interesting at all. I try not to compare people but when you get done with a date and there is no connection it just makes me think back on what I had and what I lost. I just feel like I now have to settle big time and I feel that isn't fair to the person I'm dating. How do I get over this regret, how do I get over the bitterness of her leaving for someone better? How do I get over the bitterness of watchi…

My current girlfriend is my ex (6 year relationship and we lived together for 4) . We broke up initially because she was insecure and thought that I would end it or leave her so she preemptively ended things out of fear. She has a fear of everyone leaving her because she has had experience with abandonment and she has trust issues because she has trusted people who have betrayed her by cheating, lying etc. She would often say shes just going to be alone forever. We had issues with her not trusting me. I had broken boundaries (which I didn't know I had at the time) to assure her that I wasn't going to betray her trust and that I am worthy of her trust. I did not bet…

My ex and I were together for about 6 years. I broke up with my ex around last November. We continued to talk and hangout for a few months after but then realized it wasn't healthy for either of us to be continuing communication. It felt like we were dating again even when we weren't. There were no set boundaries. (ex: he went on my phone behind my back to see if I was talking to anyone new--> I wasn't). We stopped talking for 4 months and then all of a sudden I see him at a family friends house and we say hi. It was nice, not too awkward just different. He texts me after and asks to catch up. I felt bad so we went and got dinner somewhere and it was nice talking to hi…

Hey, My ex broke up with me about a year and half ago and we pretty quickly stopped talking until we bumped into each other in the street about 6 months later and agreed to go for coffee. By this point he was seeing someone new but we agree to be friends and end up messaging quite a bit during the first few months on the pandemic, until he just starts replying really slowly so we stop. 9 months pass and we don't speak until he drops quite a lonmessage last week after a cool life event on my side to say the last year's been tricky but it looks like I'm doing well. It seemed odd after all this time but I thought I'd be friendly and reply, any way I did and it's been a …

Hi, So, my ex and i broke up in late 2018 after i called it off. he had a track record of being sneaky during the relationship but we were kids (15-17). He got into a relationship with a girl in 2020 and all seemed great for the both of us. We were civil until some stuff went down and i decided we shouldn’t have contact anymore because that would be healthier for the both of us. Since then he has moved in with his girl and i recently heard they are planning on having kids. All this was great to hear for me as although we have had our differences, i really do wish the best for the kid. However, last weekend he got drunk and was insisting that someone give …

Me an my ex dated for 10 years. Me 30 an him currently 35. We lived together an he was looking up engagement rings an telling everyone how I was the most amazing girlfriend he ever had... an on the night of my birthday I found out he was sexting his ex. Needless to say our relationship spirlad out of control very fast after that. He was not sorry. He was angry. Angry he got caught. With in a month of me catching him...he just openly started seeing a new woman. (Not the ex he was sexting) I confronted her...an she did not care she was breaking up a home. She kept seeing him. So I kicked him out but he would not move out. He started lying about me. Saying I was doing all…

I just need a moment to vent. 😶 when my last relationship ended my ex said at the end she really wanted to stay friends. I looked at her in disbelief thinking she realized a majority of people didn't stay friends with their exs. I couldn't say yes at the time because I still deeply loved her and knew this never worked for me. I told it would take a very very long time before we could even try, and I would need time away from her. Two days later she committed on a fb post I had made and I feel she didn't respect my boundaries. She continued to like and also heart my posts since then. (More then a year ago). I know I should have blocked her. When we sat down 5 mon…

Granted the photo is at a distance, but he and I both know. We're 30, dated 9 months and have been no contact for 7. He initiated the break up but something felt off about it all. It was like a switch when I went to go pick up my things, he looked different, he couldn't look at me either. And I could sense he was making excuses/hiding the real reason for the break-up, something just didn't right. I later found out he was still legally married, though he never made mention of this or that he was ever married at all. I later also found out some people we know in common and learned it was at least a 7 year relationship (he told me his longest relationship was 3 years...…

My ex and I amicably ended a 15 year relationship (no kids). We continue to hang out as friends and we have recently started seeing other people. I want to be supportive of my ex's new relationships but he blatantly lies to my face when he has plans with another woman. I don't mind that he's seeing other people but I am consumed by anger when he lies. I have tried talking to him calmly about this but he continues to lie. Any advice?

ex-girlfriend dumped me for someone else and it completely ruined me. Its been a year and I'm still struggling she was my dream women in most respects and the night before she left me I had a dream that we would be together till old age. Since then I've just had a lot of rejections and first dates that go nowhere. I can feel myself giving up since I feel like she was the one. I'm in my 30s and in my eyes I don't feel like attractive or bring much to to table. I feel like I have no chance compared to other men with women. On top of that I feel like all the good ones are taken at this point in life. I guess what iam really asking is how do I not go deeper into depressi…

Hi guys, I'm just looking for some helpful advice on how to properly recover from a past relationship. 3 years ago I had my first love and he ended up cheating on me and manipulating/hurting me emotionally in so many ways. I have definitely carried some damage from the relationship but I thought I had finally moved on and forgot about him. I've been in a new relationship for a year now and this guy is really trustworthy and supportive. BUT... my ex recently reached out trying to meet up with me, despite him having a new girlfriend as well. I did not of course, but this interaction brought back the weirdest feelings for me. His girlfriend ended up seeing the messages …

theres a lot to unpack so forgive me. I e-dated a guy for 11 months (2019-2020), we would talk almost daily. we went on two physical dates 6 months apart from eachother. things started to become dysfunctional as he would use me as his personal therapist, put me on pedestals, and make me feel bad for things I liked. I began to hide my feelings of discomfort due to being unsure if this all was normal. (first relationship i was ever in) We would get into many arguments debating on if I should be offended by what he said. I spent nearly 2 grand to see him on those two dates, while he kept telling me "we'll see about it" when I asked him to see me. (we lived 2 …

I will try to keep this as short as I can. My (ex)boyfriend broke up with me about four weeks ago after a six months relationship. The break up came out of a sudden and hit me hard. I have to mention: He suffers depression (but is in therapy and gets medical treatment and knows & accepts that he is not healthy mentally and wants to get better) and has a dismissive avoidant-attachment style. During the relationship I could really handle his disease and tried my best to be there for him and support him without smothering him and I told him that I am okay and that I love him and that I won't leave him because of this disease. I tried to give him the space he needs and as…

So in January when I found out about my BM seeing someone else while she was living with me.. I was frustrated and mad because even though we weren't together at the time she was still living with me.. so I found a pic of them kissing as her screensaver.. and it hurt me pretty bad so I went off on her and kick her out.. a day later I decided to go to her work during lunch hr to apologize about my reaction the day before only to be suprised by him on the driver side on our car and pulled a 9mm to my face as soon as I pulled up.. he said what's up n***a and I completely ignored him but scared deep inside at the moment.. that pissed me off more cause she decided to move on w…

im going through something my grandpa died 4 days ago (my grandpa was like a father figure to me) i was grieving and having a hard time to get over it! me and my boyfriend met in January, he used to brag to his friends that i was his best friend and he and i started dating on valentine's day. he was so in love with me, we're together for 5 months. Anyways I started to cry, my boyfriend just hugged me and wiped my tears away, my boyfriend asked what's bothering you, (i didn't tell him that my grandpa is died ,i didn't want him to think im miserable but i wish i told him) instead of telling that! i told him nothing's bothering me, then he said but you're crying, something…

I've posted a few times and recently about my boyfriend missing me. Ex and I dated for a year and we broke up almost 6 months ago. When he did, he expressed a lot of doubt and still does to this day. He cried too when we broke up. He was initiating a lot of contact recently, wanting to see me and clear the air but I declined. I ended up responding to one of his messages once and for all about 2 months later. He replied to what I said and then said it has 'been very difficult from his end. He felt it was the most appropriate thing was to break up, which has been really hard and he misses me all the time. But what's the alternative? He then went on to say that …