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I have messaged on here before about my ex and appreciate your comments and views on my situation. My ex is part of a social group that we both belong to so it has been really hard for me to move on and heal as i have to see him. I am an organiser in this group and i arrange social events to which he the books onto, which as part of the group he is allowed to do. I have been trying very hard to accomodate this and be civil but he has been begging me for forgiveness and saying that he is sorry and can we try again. I have thought hard about this but everytime i trust him a little something will change and he reverts to type. The last time he said he didnt like me stro…

I was in a 4 year relationship with a guy I met online. We both wanted to marry each other but the circumstances didn't work in our favour. Now, I'm married to someone else. But I miss my ex. It's been 2 and half year's of our break up and 2 year's of my marriage. I feel like I rushed the marriage because I wanted to move on. My husband is a kind, gentle man but my ex was a possessive madly in love kinda guy. I know he still misses me and now I have this strong urge to contact my ex, maybe for closure or to remain friends. Idk what I should do? Is this a bad idea? Mostly I think I'm feeling guilty for leaving him.

I (26 f) dated my ex boyfriend (28 m) for almost four years and we broke up in August of this year. There were a lot of reasons for our breakup but mainly I came to feel that our goals in life were incompatible. We had been drifting apart for the last six months or so of our relationship and it hurt but I seemed helpless to stop it. Finally we had a real heart to heart and we agreed we should go our separate ways for both our good. He suggested a break so we could “clear our minds” (his words, not mine). Then after the break we could decide if we wanted to give it another try. By this time I was pretty much emotionally drained and just wanted it to be over and I told…

To start off this long explanation, I feel it's ideal to provide a bit of background context. Hi, I'm a 25 year old female. A week ago I broke up with my (now ex) boyfriend whom I was with for an entire 4 years. I have to make it clear that we were long distance all that time, but we had a fantastic run. I learnt a lot from him, but most importantly I discovered a lot about myself and how to be intimate with someone, since being close to someone sexually was a deep seated issue of mine. I can confidently say I am a completely different person to who I was 4 years when I got together with him. But even though "doing the deed" was hard for me to even do (and we never ended …

I dated my ex for a few months back when I was 15 years old. Due to a traumatic experience, I had to leave town without saying goodbye and our relationship ended without any closure. Years later, we started talking again as friends on and off. I eventually moved abroad for my higher education and we lost contact again. Upon returning, I met a man and we got married. We've been married for 14 years and have two children together but our relationship is far from perfect. For the past ten years, we haven't been intimate on a regular basis - he's rejected me 9/10 times when I'd approach him for sex or just to make out, but otherwise we get along well - you could call us …

So it’s been a little over a year now since me and my ex girlfriend broke up. It was honestly the only relationship I’ve been in that I felt completely comfortable in and truly enjoyed. every second was amazing with her at the time. Even she seemed really invested both emotionally, physically, you name it. But, obviously since I’m here, we split. It was rough but I’ve worked my best to get out of being bummed about it as best I could. (As a “quick” side not it wasn’t over anything bad. But “quickly” put it was more about her being bi and wanting to explore that side more and her ending up in a relationship with a girl for the first time a few months later. I’m …

If you look through my activity history, you may find I've struggled with overattachment, low confidence/self worth and overall unhealthy relationship habits. Since then (four years ago) I have taken an interest in psychology and self improvement. I'm still young (24f), but through therapy and further education, I've come a long way. Now, for the content you came for: Four years ago, I met Brad (name changed for privacy). It was an instant connection. I was able to communicate with him effortlessly. He brought me peace, comfort and security when I was with him - not to mention the chemistry between us. The 11 year age gap scared him though. He was an up and comi…

After breaking up with my ex-girlfriend of nearly 4 years, she got a boyfriend 4 weeks later. They worked together and, based on her posts, he was in love with her before and she loved him back after a few weeks of dating. Now it’s 10 months after the breakup and she says they’re moving in together and planning engagement. I’m having a very hard time getting over how fast she moved on. At first I thought it was a rebound, but I’m increasingly believing it’s the real deal. I know she loved me very strongly and that I was her first love, but I feel so easily replaced. I want her to be happy, but thinking about her makes me miserable now. I obviously try my best not to …

I've been with this amazing girl L for 4 years now. I love her, and we have so many sweet memories together: walking down the street, her giggling laughter, her smile, watching movies together in her room... But alas, I was a fool. I drove her away. I thought she wasn't my long term partner, and I slowly grew more distant and cold over the last year until she finally could not bear it anymore and pulled away and broke up with me. This happened a month ago. And now, when she's gone I suddenly feel all the warmth and love I've had for her, and I want to run after her and beg her to forgive me and try again. But I don't know if I should. I had some strong r…

So a month ago today on the 30th of July my long-distance girlfriend broke up with me. I am British and she is German. I was physically with her at the time when she broke up with me. It wasn't an easy breakup for her and it wasn't because the long-distance was too hard. I am very fortunate to have a job where I can work from anywhere as long as I have a laptop and internet connection so seeing her isn't a problem. There are two reasons why we broke up. One is I had self-esteem issues and I was co-dependent on her. One of the problems is i'd project my insecurities onto her, for example she had more sexual partners than me and so i'd make "jokes" that she was easy an…

My ex left a voicemail on my phone last night stating she was in a mental hospital (she’s bipolar) doing OK, but wants to talk to me as a friend. She said she wants to let me know what’s been “going on “ and she was going to be discharged from the hospital tomorrow. It was also the 1 year anniversary of her brother's death. My first reaction was, “ why are you calling me when we broke up 3 weeks ago”? Why do you need to “ tell me what’s been going on”? I got off that roller coaster ride. Doesn’t she realize or respect that I need time to heal and need to take care of myself and can’t just come to her rescue or beckon call. I know she was used to that when we were tog…

So to start off my ex broke up with me through text and left me on read and we haven’t spoke since. That was 2 months but recently started to send me bread crumbs through ig by replying to my stories, the first was wishing me luck the second was asking me about some trail I was hiking. The first time I just replied thanks, the second i left on read. She contacted me again a few days later apologizing for bothering me and said she will unfollow me. I responded by saying I don’t have anything against her and if she wants to talk they say so, if not it’s best we both go out separate ways. She left me on read. Few days later she replies saying she’s sorry and she wishes she d…

We broke up two months ago. She’s (34) and I’m (23). We had a lot problems beforehand, but she broke up with me because she said she was too busy and it wasn’t fair to me. It was over text, when I called she didn’t pick up and ended up leaving me on read. I was devastated and depressed. After a month I decided to get it together. I began doing Muay Thai, painting, hiking, bought a new truck, and going to the gym more. She congratulated me when I posted a picture on my ig story (we still follow each other) with my coach when I got promoted and I just replied “thanks” and that was it. A week later I posted on my story if me hiking on trail and she replied “how long did it t…

Hi good people of eNA! So, I will try to keep this short and will not go into detail about the relationship (or this would turn into a novel). I texted my Ex with whom I did not have ANY contact in more than 4 years. I saw that he checked one of my SocialMedia profils a few weeks ago which tbh surprised me and send me into a bit of a spiral. Our relationship was good until it turned very bad, for reasons I'm still not sure about. He dumped me in the end. And I fully admit: eventhough he treated me terrible, there is a small part of me that never got fully over him and always saw him as special. Anyway, he was VER…

Hi everyone! So my ex and I are both 23, we dated for two years and broke up at the beginning of COVID. He ended things because he wanted to go off and be single, he didn't have his job figured out and wanted some more stability with that. We also went to a very strict college so we were never able to party or anything. Since then we've basically kept in touch the entire time. I've had conversations with him about how I wasn't entirely healed and needed to stop talking/ hanging so I could be myself again because I feel I have my guard up a lot of the time when we hangout and I overthink things. He understands but we always end up hanging again. More recently though, …

Hello> I have a question if anyone can help me with some advice. I want to get back with my ex-girlfriend and she wants that, but we haven't seen each other in 1 an a half year. My question is: Is it okay for our first date, after the breakup, to invite her at my house? I do not want her to think that I only want sex. Of course I also want sex, but I am emotionally involved in the relationship with her. What do you think? Have you had a similar experience? Thanks.

So, my attitude about this is starkly different compared to my last posts. After a couple weeks of deep depression I suddenly started feeling fine and when I think of my ex there were no sharp pangs in my heart. He clearly seemed to move on on social media and was posting thirst traps on social media which triggered me initially but I decided I need to not care. Well, I posted a funny meme on my story that had no real meaning to me about having sex and he responded to it asking if I was sexually involved with certain people. I left him on read 3 TIMES. and after the FOURTH RESPONSE I removed him off snapchat. He proceeded to blow up my phone saying he's hurt but if I don'…

So long story short, I was in an 8 year relationship which ended 3 years ago. Had a few short term flings since but nothing substantial. I think I'm conscious of getting myself into another relationship which isn't quite right like the last one so tend to push people away. I am 'friends' with my ex on social media but we don't really have any contact, we don't even text each other happy birthday anymore. Although I have to admit I do find myself going onto her Facebook profile regularly...why you might ask? I don't really know myself. I still think about her and the life we had together, although I don't really think we were right together and do not long for her bac…

Hello all, I would like to share something..My ex is 19 years old, as old as I am. We started dating in high school, we dated for 3 months & he broke up with me for one of our senior and she was already in a 1 year relationship, I don’t mean to insult but she was really bad by nature. Lets call her “flower” so flower double dated her bf and my ex for a month & broke up with her bf. My ex & flower dated for 6 months, my ex broke up with her and started dating me after just 2-3 days of his break up. She couldn’t see that and said if you don’t date me I’ll harm myself & got admitted in the hospital. He had to double date.(He said this) a …

My boyfriend and I broke up 9 days ago after a 3 year relationship, on his terms. Initially, I was devastated but since blocking him on all social media I have felt a bit better which makes me wonder whether him ending the relationship was actually what I knew was right deep down too. However, I keep worrying about him talking to or seeing someone new. We were in a relationship previously for 2 years when we were 16, he broke up with me when we were 18 and started seeing another girl a week after so I worry he will do the same now. I was heartbroken. A year after her, he came back to me. I was stupid enough to take him back but we had a good +3 years together. I …

So a toxic ex keeps popping into my mind. It was a poor relationship that I stayed in too long, which I realize was my fault and my one regret is not walking away sooner. It’s been over a year since I’ve seen him, and I feel indifferent to the guy. We aren’t connected on social media and I feel really happy with my life. I shed everything that was a reminder of our time quite a while back and I have since moved on to a loving, healthy relationship. So why does he keep circling through my thoughts then? And how do I make it stop? If there is some lingering healing to do, what do I need to do to heal?

I know what i'm doing is not smart, but I can't bring myself to stop. For more backstory/context of my situation feel free to look at my previous posts. I have not reached out to him a single time which I am proud of myself for, yet he has reached out a few times to have sex in which I responded and we have seen each other a few times in the span of a month. We communicate very openly about the situation luckily and have set clear boundaries, however I still feel weird. He told me a week ago(last time we met) that he doesn't think he will get over me if we continue hooking up and that he knows its unhealthy for both of us but laughed it off because he doesn't care. to me …

Hello everyone, I am new to the forum but I thought I would try this community out and see if I can get some helpful advice. My now ex-girlfriend and I have dated for about 11 months and we recently broke up. It was a month-long heartbreaking journey and I feel like there are still loose ends to be resolved so I was wondering if this wonderful community can give me advice. Here is the background first: My GF and I have been dating since September of last year during her senior year in college. It was her last semester and she was to travel outside of the country for about 7 months after graduating before she was going to come back to the states to start her car…

So my ex boyfriend and I broke up a year ago. I don't know how he handled it but I cried, went no contact, and tried replying his messages as late as I could. However we ended up becoming friends 4 months ago and really good ones at that. What bothers me is that I still love him and he too told me a week ago that he's always been in love with me but has been trying to hold himself. Problem is none of us wants to get back into the relationship cus both of us attest to the fact that it was hard. Yet we are still so intimate as friends as though we were together. We always spend time together, touch, give intimate hugs and even mistakenly kissed once. Do I cut…

Hey all. In March 2020 a relationship I was in ended. It rocked me so bad I took counseling, medication and regularly called support groups etc. Eventually I got into another relationship which unfortunately ended after 6 months. Since then I've dated one other person. I know I've always still held feelings for this ex but since we have had no contact since we split it's kind of become easier as time moves on. I hadn't even seen her around town or anything since we split and then 2 weeks ago she walked past (she didnt happen to see me through pure luck) Then earlier this week I saw her on a dating site, still looking as stunning as I think she is. Loo…