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You would think after being raped recently I will never want to date or look at another man again. It’s the opposite. I’m not ready to date by no means but I haven’t given up on the idea of love. I think I never will. I know inherihently, I have a lot to offer and will enjoy being with someone. Im looking at the spring for seriously finding someone and being back on dating sites. I have goals though before I can do this. My weight loss goals slightly changed. After the trauma occurred I decided I’m not in the right headspace for weight loss surgery. I took a month off of the gym to heal and I’m going back Tuesday for personal train…

One of the man that work at my work but in different department informed me some time ago that he's looking for someone to rent his basement apartment. But at the time I had already signed a lease and moved where I'm currently staying. Now my lease is ending in few months and I asked him some again recently if he found someone to which he said NO..he wants to rent to someone he knows. He also want cash for rent and we could agree on the rent. Then he told me if I want I can come to look at the place. It's basically a separate unit in the basement, with access to your own entrance and amenities. But shared parking . I've been contemplating it since I need to move from wher…

I had a crush on a boy for over years till now We first met at kindergarten He never showed affection to me, neither I did on the love side But I always feel nice to be around him, his aura attracts me so much Soon this attraction converted into the crush In my freshman years, we became really close he used to talk to me a lot, he always respects me and admits if he did anything wrong So am I I always tried to keep on his level (not to mention he is born genius and a cold and silent guy) I tried every excuse to get closer to him But recently he is ignoring totally He stopped talking to me and always put on a cold face whenever he sees me, I t…

First someone lifted two expensive mixing consoles from the front seat of my van (in the drive, not locked, bad habit.) That’s $6k out the door but I was glad they didn’t take the whole car or the rest of the audio gear or my laptop. Two weeks later to the day my laptop is gone from my desk in the morning. So is my Apple Watch, a couple of days later I realise my old iPhone is no where to be found either. On discovery day I use find my phone and see the watch is at a strange address in another suburb. It’s not enough information for the police to visit though. In fact, the cops really sucked on d day, first two I tried to report the theft (over the phone and the…

Has anyone else here lived alone for over a decade? If so, how did you cope?

Can someone please help me figure out this situation? Last year, I went to a party with a guy I had been talking to for a month or two. I have pretty bad anxiety, so while I was at the party, I drank way more than I should have because I was trying to calm my nerves (on an empty stomach, plus im a lightweight). I must've had 5 shots and a good few beers (I know, I should not have drank that much). Anyways, I pretty much blacked out. I remember about 10% of the night and only little flashes. the guy I was talking to [who was pretty much sober - buzzed at most] eventually took me outside. I don't remember how I go there and I definitely would have protested if I was …

I’ll be soon turning 30 and I’m in this weird phase in life. I thought I was happy with what I was doing but it seems that different things are expected at my age. I’m not married, I don’t have children, I have a steady job and many friends, and I feel the pressure to settle down, and it honestly scares me a little. I’m scared of this idea that we should all follow the same timeline, but I just can’t escape all these questions about marriage, boyfriends, buying an apartment, and sometimes when it’s just too much, I feel like a failure. Is it bad that I want to do things at my own pace? I don’t know if this is something that happens to everyone once they turn 30, or if it’…

I literally don't know where else to put this! It has been so long since I've been catcalled or otherwise been on the receiving end of creepy men behavior, but.. Today at the grocery store, a man with a very obvious growing boner told me I was attractive and his **** was getting big 😳 It started out as an innocent enough conversation when he approached me JUST as I was walking into the store and he was on his cell phone. He wanted to ask me about yogurt because he said his girlfriend was trying to lose weight and he was trying to buy some for her. I waited really patiently while he was half on the phone with her I assume and half letting me give what small a…

I've lived on my own since I was young, maybe 18. I'm now 38 and still do. When I was growing up it never seemed to bother me much, as nothing much did back then. But you get to the point where life suddenly gets more serious. Friends drift off, disappear, or do other things. It seems 90% of people you know meet someone, and goes along with the family thing, or enters into a career that pretty much takes over their life. If you don't go along with all that then it seems as though you get left behind. Lately things just seem difficult for me. My patience for most things is at an all time low, I'm often reminiscing or feeling down thinking about a past life or imaginin…

If you saw my last thread you know what this is about. Unfortunately they closed my case. “Not enough evidence.” There’s victims out there who have it way worse and still they close their cases. im living still in an unjust system! I have cried enough tears over it though. It’s time for me to heal. It’s been a week exactly and I now can have my counseling and move forward to a better tomorrow. I have my family and friends and he can’t take that from me my support system! he can’t take my dreams, my love and my strength. He can’t have any of it! Im a far better human then him and he may have been able…

Well I have stopped drinking for a while after failing at moderation. I admit it sucks and i am really struggling right now. Was trying to persuade my husband to let me try moderating again and also trying to persuade myself 'it will be different this time'. I am getting help but feel sometimes it is not enough. I have a lovely daughter and husband so why risk it all just for a bottle? I try to tell myself i am not experiencing psychological cravings but know I am. I do not have any physical ones I just pray this gets easier. Even with help it is a struggle 😞

I just bumped into the partner of a person I worked with a couple of years ago, who ended up being reprehensibly awful to me. Thinking about that lead to me thinking about how so much time has past I’m not angry like I was. Then I remembered how that job was the last minute job on top of many other jobs that meant I was really worked off my feet at that point in time and not giving my rats much attention and not getting done this tedious administrative task that a client kept asking for (that I had already done once and posted and the useless post system lost my mail instead of delivering it). Lead to me remembering that within a very close time frame from the encounter w…

There's this older gentleman at my work who is always friendly in passing. We work in completely unrelated departments but we always exchange pleasantries. Sometimes we have brief conversation about work and what not. Nothing too personal. Recently he told me that he went to this beautiful beach near the the side of town l live and was telling me how beautiful it is. Then he suggested we go sometime ..just casual not big deal. And then he said, let me know whenever you want to go. And he left the ball in my court. I just said sure in the heat of the moment. I continued acting normal whenever our path crossed and still greeted him but I never brought it again o…

I need help. However, every time I try to express how I feel, specially if it's something painful, no words come out. It doesn't matter whether it's to my husband, friends, family, doctor... it's extremely hard to convey my feelings. I'm very outgoing and love being around people. Nonetheless, every time I try to share something "from the heart" it becomes hard to breath, I feel strangled and nothing comes out. Usually, I'll just give up and become the listener or lie my way out of the situation. The worst times were with my husband. If something's wrong, he won't accept some excuse and we're in for a couple of minutes of silence while I'm screaming inside and n…

I've run this through my head a few times, for a few years. It's old and dried out at this point. I'm tired of thinking about it and tired of hearing myself talking about it. I keep hoping for some sort of confirmation that in the end, all this starts again. I want to start over, with new intuitions. Hopefully next time with wiser ones. Basically, I'm just done.

- Sorry for the length, it is hard to cut this down I had a rough childhood. My dad was an alcoholic gambling addict with severe clinical depression, on 15-20 tablets a day to control his moods. He would spend all of our money on gambling each week and leave my mother and us with very little; she would work three jobs to get us by. They would fight, scream and shout their way into every evening. I remember crying a lot and the police coming as the neighbours would be concerned. They would take him away and he would be sectioned in hospital, I am not sure how many times this happened but I remember visiting him several times. My earliest memory was my mother asking m…

Hey everyone, maybe some of you went through a similar thing, I’d need some advice here. So I live in a different country than my family, I see them twice a year, it’s okay, we have a good relationship I believe. My parents are still together and doing well, just my mom has been dealing with some health issues lately. It’s not a very serious illness, it can be painful sometimes though, a surgery could fix it but because of covid it has been placed on hold. Now when I talk to my mom on the phone, she sometimes complains about her being sick. I understand she needs to talk to someone, I try to be supportive and listen to her, but I admit it’s been hard for me lat…

17/f here. As I'm sure you guessed from the title, I've managed to get myself into a lot of trouble. You see, back in January, I got busted for selling Adderall at school. My brother used to take it for his ADHD and he left behind almost an entire bottle's worth when he moved out last fall. I figured I could sell them for some quick cash. I wish now that I'd thought more about the consequences of getting caught than the money. I might not be in this mess now if I had. Following my arrest, I was expelled. I now attend a private school that was willing to take me. And today, I was in court for my sentencing. I'd never been in trouble before, so I thought the judge mig…

I’m going to try and keep this brief and would appreciate some advice. I wouldn’t say I’m depressed although I do have anxiety, I am an anxious person but I am taking medication to help this. However, lately I just have no energy. I feel drained, flat and I don’t feel excited about anything. I’m on my final nursing placement which is 37.5 hours a week and university work on top of this whilst trying to look after myself, make sure I eat healthy and I’m trying to get back into exercising. I feel like there isn’t enough time to do anything. I get home from placement and need to do uni work but I’m so tired I just want to have a bath and spend the rest of…

I am a very caring person and a helpful one. I go out of my way to do things for even strangers, however my mother is a bit rough. She naturally talks with a raised voice which sounds like as if she is lashing on me. This disorients me and I lose myself. Leave everything bad worsen the situation. Please help.

I got married six months ago and had my half sister serve as my maid of honor. She’s 25, I’m 29 and we share the same dad. We haven’t been close in a while and I’d hoped my wedding would be a bonding experience. It got me more face time but it wasn’t the fun, sisters planning a wedding I’d hoped. She started dating her boyfriend in July and I encouraged her to bring him to our October wedding but she didn’t. She did bring him to our cousins wedding a few weeks before. Now she’s engaged to this guy. She announced on Facebook yesterday. I haven’t heard much from her since my wedding and I’ve seen her 3 times in person. I’ll reach out but I usually get silence or a quick “om…

I know people here are not phycologists but I was wondering why I feel this. Everytime someone I dont like like me and that person acts on their feelings, I feel disgusted and full of hatred and anger as if I wanted to punch that person in that face to stop being so annoying with me. It happened to me 3 times. 3 people that like me acted on their feeling in the sense that they managed to hug me. I hate the touchy part because somehow they feel with the right to touch me. And I dont know if my reaction of wanting to freaking rip their face off is normal. Currently I have a male friend who I dont really know if he likes me or not but I think it is pretty obvious he feels a …

I don't know really where to start, but I'll give it a go... Firstly I have been married before and have a child who is at uni. From this marriage. My marriage didn't work out and I met a new guy on a dating website ten years ago who is my current partner and who this post is primarily about. I am in my late 40s and he is ten years older now. He has never been married or had children, telling me he never found the right person. He also told me early on in the relationship that he had only ever had one proper relationship ever and the sex didn't ever happen in that relationship due to his nerves. He dated that woman for around a year.I felt therefore he was sexually inexp…

I just had this realization recently. I can’t/don’t want to be alone. I tried but my mind think the craziest things ever. Since i was a kid when sleeping I sleep with someone besides me. It’s either gonna be my parents or my grandparents or my cousins or my siblings and recently my boyfriend. I recently got my own room. I was happy. But it suddenly hit me one night. I can’t sleep like it never happened before. A night becomes two nights becomes 3 nights and so on. I would sleep like morning morning like 5am in the morning and wake up @7:30 for work. I didn’t like that so I invited my boyfriend to sleepover sometimes. Then I would fall as sleep right away. But when he can’…

I have issues maintaining friendships. I currently work as a Caregiver as I have been wanting to find work that actually serves a real purpose. Many years of trudging behind a corporate desk faking it because of the pay checks. SO I have opted to be a caregiver. Its the most rewarding job I have ever had. I enjoy giving to people and if I can make the smile even better! Its been a year since I have started this career move. I made my first client on my own and had another client through an agency. My first client was a wonderful little woman who is very smart and sharp and suffered from being bipolar so she had her ups and downs. She also suffered from some undiagnosed ai…