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I've run this through my head a few times, for a few years. It's old and dried out at this point. I'm tired of thinking about it and tired of hearing myself talking about it. I keep hoping for some sort of confirmation that in the end, all this starts again. I want to start over, with new intuitions. Hopefully next time with wiser ones. Basically, I'm just done.

- Sorry for the length, it is hard to cut this down I had a rough childhood. My dad was an alcoholic gambling addict with severe clinical depression, on 15-20 tablets a day to control his moods. He would spend all of our money on gambling each week and leave my mother and us with very little; she would work three jobs to get us by. They would fight, scream and shout their way into every evening. I remember crying a lot and the police coming as the neighbours would be concerned. They would take him away and he would be sectioned in hospital, I am not sure how many times this happened but I remember visiting him several times. My earliest memory was my mother asking m…

Hey everyone, maybe some of you went through a similar thing, I’d need some advice here. So I live in a different country than my family, I see them twice a year, it’s okay, we have a good relationship I believe. My parents are still together and doing well, just my mom has been dealing with some health issues lately. It’s not a very serious illness, it can be painful sometimes though, a surgery could fix it but because of covid it has been placed on hold. Now when I talk to my mom on the phone, she sometimes complains about her being sick. I understand she needs to talk to someone, I try to be supportive and listen to her, but I admit it’s been hard for me lat…

17/f here. As I'm sure you guessed from the title, I've managed to get myself into a lot of trouble. You see, back in January, I got busted for selling Adderall at school. My brother used to take it for his ADHD and he left behind almost an entire bottle's worth when he moved out last fall. I figured I could sell them for some quick cash. I wish now that I'd thought more about the consequences of getting caught than the money. I might not be in this mess now if I had. Following my arrest, I was expelled. I now attend a private school that was willing to take me. And today, I was in court for my sentencing. I'd never been in trouble before, so I thought the judge mig…

Hello All, I have a genuine question for the adults, it has been bothering me for quite a while. Back in October, (There are 3 schoolmates involved.) I was just minding my business and suddenly I got cyber bullied with comments like these. "You're f*ing ugly lol" "My d* retracted back into my stomach after looking at you." This was stated by B and C. I was talking to B, asking what was the reason for it, he proceeded to not answer and called me the R slur after I asked again. He stated "Can you not read r*" Later on into the day, I asked again and he added me to a group chat, where A sent my photo (Not nudes, just a post of myself on Instagram.) without co…

I’m going to try and keep this brief and would appreciate some advice. I wouldn’t say I’m depressed although I do have anxiety, I am an anxious person but I am taking medication to help this. However, lately I just have no energy. I feel drained, flat and I don’t feel excited about anything. I’m on my final nursing placement which is 37.5 hours a week and university work on top of this whilst trying to look after myself, make sure I eat healthy and I’m trying to get back into exercising. I feel like there isn’t enough time to do anything. I get home from placement and need to do uni work but I’m so tired I just want to have a bath and spend the rest of…

I am a very caring person and a helpful one. I go out of my way to do things for even strangers, however my mother is a bit rough. She naturally talks with a raised voice which sounds like as if she is lashing on me. This disorients me and I lose myself. Leave everything bad worsen the situation. Please help.

I got married six months ago and had my half sister serve as my maid of honor. She’s 25, I’m 29 and we share the same dad. We haven’t been close in a while and I’d hoped my wedding would be a bonding experience. It got me more face time but it wasn’t the fun, sisters planning a wedding I’d hoped. She started dating her boyfriend in July and I encouraged her to bring him to our October wedding but she didn’t. She did bring him to our cousins wedding a few weeks before. Now she’s engaged to this guy. She announced on Facebook yesterday. I haven’t heard much from her since my wedding and I’ve seen her 3 times in person. I’ll reach out but I usually get silence or a quick “om…

I know people here are not phycologists but I was wondering why I feel this. Everytime someone I dont like like me and that person acts on their feelings, I feel disgusted and full of hatred and anger as if I wanted to punch that person in that face to stop being so annoying with me. It happened to me 3 times. 3 people that like me acted on their feeling in the sense that they managed to hug me. I hate the touchy part because somehow they feel with the right to touch me. And I dont know if my reaction of wanting to freaking rip their face off is normal. Currently I have a male friend who I dont really know if he likes me or not but I think it is pretty obvious he feels a …

I don't know really where to start, but I'll give it a go... Firstly I have been married before and have a child who is at uni. From this marriage. My marriage didn't work out and I met a new guy on a dating website ten years ago who is my current partner and who this post is primarily about. I am in my late 40s and he is ten years older now. He has never been married or had children, telling me he never found the right person. He also told me early on in the relationship that he had only ever had one proper relationship ever and the sex didn't ever happen in that relationship due to his nerves. He dated that woman for around a year.I felt therefore he was sexually inexp…

I just had this realization recently. I can’t/don’t want to be alone. I tried but my mind think the craziest things ever. Since i was a kid when sleeping I sleep with someone besides me. It’s either gonna be my parents or my grandparents or my cousins or my siblings and recently my boyfriend. I recently got my own room. I was happy. But it suddenly hit me one night. I can’t sleep like it never happened before. A night becomes two nights becomes 3 nights and so on. I would sleep like morning morning like 5am in the morning and wake up @7:30 for work. I didn’t like that so I invited my boyfriend to sleepover sometimes. Then I would fall as sleep right away. But when he can’…

I have issues maintaining friendships. I currently work as a Caregiver as I have been wanting to find work that actually serves a real purpose. Many years of trudging behind a corporate desk faking it because of the pay checks. SO I have opted to be a caregiver. Its the most rewarding job I have ever had. I enjoy giving to people and if I can make the smile even better! Its been a year since I have started this career move. I made my first client on my own and had another client through an agency. My first client was a wonderful little woman who is very smart and sharp and suffered from being bipolar so she had her ups and downs. She also suffered from some undiagnosed ai…

Hi, hoping to find words of advice. I'm 30, husband 28. Married almost 4 yrs, together for 7. Had our first child 2.5 yrs ago. I don't want to take up too much time/space listing everything, but I unfortunately ended up with many life-impacting issues from pregnancy that have taken 2 yrs to get back to a semi-normal life. Because of all the struggles...I fell back into an anxiety/panic spiral with some depression. Dealing with health issues, mental health issues, and trying to raise our first (preemie) baby has been ridiculously draining. Then, my father in law developed rare brain cancer when my child was 5 months old. He was in ICU for 4 months. No one was sure if he wo…

So I’m proud of myself I’ve gone awhile not looking to date anyone. I stopped after my breakup last August. It’s been a good 8 months of working on what I need to do. I have lost forty pounds during this time period. I’m working on loosing 30 more by July. Then I want to loose another 30 by January 2022. I won’t be at my ultimate weight loss goal but I’ll be 100 pounds down total. I’m finding as much as I will like to find my person and be in a relationship. I’m not there yet! I want to reach the sixty pound weight loss added onto my 40 by January. I feel the healthier I become the less serious medical issues such as the TIA I suffered back in February…

I want people views and honest opinions. I was friends with a man for 12 years. He had been in romantic relationships with women and use to call me to talk about his life. Also our friendship wasn't platonic but it wasn't fully friends with benefits as I didn't cross the line, except kiss and some foreplay. In last years we were more in contact as he went through a dark patch in life and I felt a strong concern, care and feelings of love developed. I shared this with him, and he never reciprocated and said he was not ready to be in a relationship again after his heart break and needs a year or so. I totally got it. We remained in contact, but …

I wish I wasn’t mixed. I’m 18. I’m black/white; African dad, European mom. I currently live in the United States, but growing up, I lived all over Europe. My dad is a former professional football player and he played for a few clubs in Europe, so we moved frequently when I was younger. We settled in the States after my dad retired. Been here a few years. I’ve always been a bit insecure about my mixed heritage. And it’s always made me feel guilty cause my parents are really great, loving and supportive; I’m lucky to have them. I feel like my feelings are a betrayal to them. But I’ve just never been comfortable with my ethnicity. Due to a number of factors, really. From…

Hey everyone, This happened some time ago, but I think it still haunts me in a way. I never really told anyone about it but maybe it’s time to finally to do it. This was my boyfriend for several months and it wasn’t a good relationship because I found out he had been cheating on me, long story short he was a player. The part that still haunts me is that once we were having sex and I told him to stop because it hurt me, and he didn’t stop. When I told him afterwards that I didn’t want it, he got mad at me and said he never had a girl who wouldn’t want to have sex. I was so lonely and insecure back then that I thought it was all my fault. I’m not su…

Basically just feel like all the things I hoped would happen didn’t. I’m trying to see the good in that and freedom. I’m not tied down to the idea of the life I thought I was going to live. It’s taken me a really long time to try to accept that. It was like wishing the past was different and trying to figure out what to do now at the same time. I hope that now that some of that conflict is gone. I don’t have to keep trying to fix what was broken. I can make the most of my time now. My body is kinda messed up from all that stress. So might have to work on taking better care so it doesn’t snowball. I still struggle with anxiety and depression. I’m not really good a…

Don’t know if there is a profanity filter lol. I had my first mental breakdown in March many years ago after a bad breakup. I ended up getting the jackpot of depression, anxiety, and OCD afterwards. So this month brings up a lot of painful memories. I also have feelings I never dealt with coming up. So adding to all that excitement I had an unexpected bill that basically took my low income and has me barely getting by. Now I find out my grandma has COVID which she is still young at 70 but not getting younger. I feel so numb I been making jokes to stop myself from crying. I feel like vomiting, puking, and throwing up whatever I have left of a soul. I have a long …

I had a very close, very deep connection with a friend for 15 years. I've never felt any other connection like it, I felt like he was my soulmate, or that we were kindred spirits. I believed in him and in the connection between us, and because I met him when I was barely 21, my belief in this formed a foundational part of my adult identity. It formed the basis for my sense of hope about myself and my life (I came from a difficult and unsupported home. He 'saw' me and 'knew' me, or at least, did things to make it seem that way). A couple of years ago, things shifted between us. There was always an element of romance to our friendship, but it was not something at the f…

I don't know really what to feel or think about this but you don't have to read this but it's sorta connected to how i am feeling https://nl.wikipedia.org/wiki/Theory_of_mind The theory of mind is about 'putting yourself in other people's shoes' and trying to see how other people see the world from their perspective. Now for children , theory of mind should sorta start to develop around 2,5 to 4 years old. But i feel that for myself i've been very disconnected for far too many years. And having far too little understanding of how others feel, act or think. In fact i am ashamed in the sense that I didn't even think that other people could think or feel…

I’m living off of disability because of my depression . I am usually always around people who live always being toxic. I grew up in a family with a history of depression and anxiety. I am still the only one who took therapy and medication seriously. I also have my dads family who are all happy and healthy so they are distant to me how I’m not. I have been told that I’m treatment resistant to medications. In reality it just means medications don’t have the highest success rate but I guess it’s better if it’s on me. I ended up doing TMS and had some results but still struggling. I am still on low doses of medications and after being hospitalized recently can’t argue to mayb…

I know that everyone is different and what may be forgivable to one may not be forgivable to the another, But I am curious what things do you think are forgivable (whether that forgiveness comes right away or takes time) or is just so bad that no time can mend the wound, I recently lost a friend, I lost her for basically two reasons I overdid it and sent two many messages and texts and she blocked me, That may or may not be unforgivable, What I do think is unforgivable however is what I did AFTER that I was desperate to move on but I just had to make sure she at least saw a letter I wrote so I opened up an old facebook I closed and posted it on her wall (I said nothing b…

Hi! I'm a 27 cis male. I know is not the best start, but I would need advice about something. I have a friend which I had a crush on. She is a girl that really doesn't live near me, and I don't really pursue a relationship with her. I started to like her when I was with my ex partner. I didn't do anything about these feelings, for respect to my partner and for her, because both of them were friends, and we both were in toxic relationships (My ex was a narcissist and I was kind of in an abusive cycle with them... But I still loved them at the moment) The relationship I have with this friend has become weirder along the years: We talk, usually, when she has probl…

A friend of mine took a leap of faith and left town a few days ago and ever since then she has been having draaaaama in a very very public way (like, she’s taken to doing live streams to answer her Facebook friends’ questions. What even Is that?) She for sure has been dealt a series of bad hands and she has a whole load of trauma to unpack some day and that’s affecting her mental state but I’m being the fly on the wall and I see the real problems get mixed up with ones that seem to me to be of her own creation. And then in her updates she kind of rambles onto this non sequitur about how she needs to connect with country in order to move there and how she’s never fit into …