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I will do my best to explain the events that lead up to everything, I met this girl on a dating app, we started to date, it's been a year now. everything was amazing. She had her issues without a doubt, trust issues, due to her father cheating on her mom, it was rather controlling she wouldn't trust me, but I did everything to prove I would never do anything to her this caused her to wall up a lot, and I would have to fight to get that wall down. Well, 4 months ago she found out that her dad had cancer, and it's not looking good. I did my best to be there for her, but I didn't fully know how to be there. I was very stressed out during this time, and to say the least I was…

I posted a few weeks ago about the issues i was having with my boyfriend about communication and him going 17+ hours at a time without responding to messages which was something he wasn’t doing at the beginning of the relationship. We managed to resolve this issue of non communication for the past 3 weeks. Fast forward to this week, he started doing the same thing except it was worse , it started on Saturday where i would call and text and he would literally not call back and the texts were being responded to every 24 hours. I know he has been stressed with work and other things, but I felt like I should be someone he leaned on and not someone he ignored especially after …

Hi, I don't have a particular question or anything particular I am seeking advise on. But I need to rant somewhere and write things down / discuss things with others to process my very recent break up because it really keeps hurting. I'm sorry this is long, it took a few paragraphs to explain things 😕 I had been dating J for the last 10 months. We met online on a dating app, went out and we both liked each other so we kept dating. After about two months, he told me that he was looking for a relationship and I told him I wanted to same. A couple months after that, we decided to be in a relationship officially. According to our last discussion, we were both a bit…

Hey guys, i am back again. before i start, i ask for kind advise. Let me just get right into it. I have been dating a guy for the past year now and things were good the first 8-9 months. One of the first things he asked me when we became official was if i liked a man who communicates numerous times a day or of i’m okay with a person who i don’t have to speak to everyday. I told him, that i prefer constant communication, this is something that he preferred too. For the first 8 months i talked to him everyday, numerous times a day, even when we fought, we would speak in efforts to resolve things. Fast forward to about 3 months ago, he’s communication started to decli…

So basically I'm 37 and my ex broke up with me a month ago. We have been together for 7 years and the break up came one day completely out the blue for me . I was shocked and very much in love when she broke up with me. After the break up I moved across country to my hometown. I've been heartbroken and confused and my friend suggested a dating site to bang some different women to take my mind off my ex. Now here is my predicament. I was getting a lot of interest from women but decided having sex with random women to fill a hole was mabye not the best thing I should be doing right now. I decided to delete the app , give myself some self love and …

I'm in the thick of trying to make sense of things after being dumped 2 weeks ago. Of course having the common issues with closure and accepting the rejection. I'm hoping that writing my situation out will help me process and hearing from others might also provide some comfort in my time of need. I started dating this 34(M) back in January 2021. He worked in data analytics, super smart, super educated, good nerdy type. (We dated for a total of 5 months and the last month was a long drawn out breakup) We met on Hinge and we had a pretty great first date. He was really into me it seemed. ALOT. I wasn't quite at that level just because I wasn't initially physi…

Hi everyone! My girlfriend broke up with me this morning because she needs to focus on her children. She needs to focus on getting justice for her 2 year old son who died a few years back while in the custody of his father. The father has sexual abused and physically abused my girlfriend in the past and she is forced to share 50/50 custody of their 5 year old daughter together with this monster still. I still even continues to be verbally and mentally abusive on a parenting app the are required to communicate on. She lives in Illinois (which is where I am from) but i live in Arizona currently, though i go out there frequently to see and be with her until try and …

hi guys! I just wanted to post something that may help some of you that may be going through the No Contact period. I was reading posts from this site to help me through my own No Contact period and I want to share my story to offer hope to those in the same boat because I know that reading this stuff helps in the darkest of days ... my ex and I went no contact on each other after a month of fighting. It started with “a temporary break” which after 2 weeks became another 2 weeks of fighting through texts which then led to us both mutually going no contact out of anger and hurt feelings. We had been together for only 8 months. And our issues stemmed from him having a…

Ex and I both agreed this needs to be done if we want to try again one day.

I am very emotional about this but still feel the need to post. Been dating my bf for 4 years, when I was 16 and he was 18. I am now 20 and he is 22 and we live together. We have for a couple years now had a pretty toxic relationship with me being insecure and jealous and invasive and him really needing alone time and feeling like I didn't trust him even though he lied quite a few times. He told me 5 days ago that he fell out of love and is ending the relationship once he finds his own place(the apartment we are at now is my lease) Having him here sleeping in bed with me knowing he doesn't love me is the most painful and humiliating thing I have ever felt. I want to have …

Hey everyone, I apologize for the book in advance. I am currently a 28 year old male who has been involved in a relationship with a women 18 years older since 2015. Starting in 2015 I started dating her. I was very hesitant at first. After being hurt by women my own age and knowing I am an an old soul at heart I figured what the heck. We started seeing eachother and immediately things got very intense. We were spending a lot of time together, and talking anytime in between of working and seeing eachother. Then 3 months in my life was turned upside down for the first time with her. I caught her cheating with another man. Whom she previously was with before I cam…

I'll consolidate my very long story as much as possible: I've been with my bf for 6 years, with a 6-month gap in between halfway through. We were SO in love in the beginning until he started getting into hard drugs which amplified his bipolar and he got extremely emotionally and verbally abusive, so I finally broke up with him. As cliché as it sounds, he worked hard to change, and I ended up taking him back. Since then (so for the past 3 years or so), we've worked hard on repairing our relationship (including going to couples' counselling, which we concluded last year), but for me it's just become increasingly difficult for a variety of reasons, mainly: 1. I notice,…

Hi guys, I’m heartbroken please be gentle with me. Came out of a marriage and my first ever relationship since was a guy I met out of lockdown - we chatted and met when we could during lockdown but honestly had the best 7 months together - something I never experienced in my marriage. He did have a few mental health issues, he was very obsessive and would call me 24/7 and sometimes he struggled tog get out of bed as he was depressed. We live hours apart but called eachother all day and face timed all day and met up half way or at his for a week here and there , meeting him was the best days I’ve ever had (gotta day the sex was *** which gives me confidence he ain’t sleepi…

hey everyone. any tips on reducing breakup anxiety? I already have pretty bad anxiety with other stuff, but I'm always worried that after a breakup it feels like I won't survive. I feel anxious and get nauseous to the point I cannot eat. Any tips? do you have similar struggles? How do you get over it?

My ex and I broke up about a month ago. They gave me a reason that they cared about me and the relationship, but not as much as I did. To give a bit more context is that they were already going through a rough period in their life before they called off the relationship. I asked them what are some boundaries that they would like from me during the break up and they said to not contact them and they would be the one to contact me, I could however call them if I was in an emergency situation. For the rest of that month, I didn't really feel bad about the break up. After 30 days of no contact, I started to feel anxious like the whole break up just finally hit me. It re…

I'll apologize upfront this is going to be a long one. I ended a 3.5 year relationship 2 weeks ago for really no good reason now that I think about it. Background I'm a 40 year old male that has had an interesting life. My father died when I was 13 and I didn't take it well. Through my teen years I watched my mother do what she had to, by that I mean wake up everyday and go to work to keep the house that they literally built. She never dated or remarried. I started working as soon as i could to help out, worked all through high school went onto college and worked the whole time to pay the bill. Didnt start really dating till college met a girl that ended up br…

If this is posted in the wrong way or in the wrong section im sorry, just made this account. BACKROUND This is my first time ever going to the internet for advise from strangers but I feel I am in such a position that I don't really have anyone else to turn too for advice. Will leave a TLDR at the bottom if this gets really long. So about 4 months ago I started going out with this girl I had met on bumble, we had just both very recently exited relationships mine a 3 year LDR that ended cuz of covid, and her a 9 month local relationship. Both where the longest relationships each of us had ever had. When we started dating at first things where very s…

Hi everyone, Even six months in, I sometimes have moments where I need reminders about all the reasons I should stay NIC (my ex-BF left me in October). We had an amicable break-up, though I still miss him terribly and truly want reconciliation (however, I also understand the break-up - it needed to happen and he needs to figure himself out and what he wants). Please feel free to add your own reasons! I have found, to resist the urge to reach out, that it's helpful to just review all the rational reasons for the decision I have made. Also, please don't tell me to drop my hopes for reconciliation - you don't know my life or relationship. I already understand …

Hello, I am on here this evening because I am having a very difficult night and I am hoping to get some good feedback. My ex fiancee of 3 years moved out the first time which was a few months before our wedding. She moved back to her home state. I went to work one day and she was just gone, everything gone. I moved to her state to work things out with her, we got a place and moved forward. I suffer from PTSD because I saw my Father pass away and I was an alcoholic. I had outbursts, but NEVER ever physical. I would never do anything like that. She moved out again 6 months later. We agreed to keep seeing each other exclusively while working on the relation…

Hi there, going through a break up atm and finding it really tough! We were together a year and a half, lived together and covid times were hard with work and we drifted apart. We both moved out and went our seperate ways. A few months later we tried again but the same issues cropped up which were saying I act like I don't care enough and didn't seem to be bothered about seeing her when lockdown ended. I was just struggling to to show it the same as the first year we were together due to certain things which happened in the relationship. We were great together understood each other on a level like no other and I loved this girl like no other in my life. We were meant…

Long story short my girlfriend and I met 5.5 years ago. She was 22 and me 31, so there was an age gap but it was the most magical powerful connection I’ve ever felt and her too to this day we have a bond, common interests and deep understanding of one another that we both agree is irreplaceable. We had broken up once, both matured. She is a career driven person that went to NY from France. I’m Canadian and have been here in NY for years. we had our ups and downs, covid and the year prior got Us in a bit of a rut. I’m super introverted and had trouble finding my alone time with her living with me but I loved her dearly and we had mostly a great relationshi…

My ex boyfriend and I are both 25. We were dating about a year and in my opinion had a wonderful, respectful, and loving relationship. He brought up marriage around month 3 and talked about kids with me, where we'd live, everything. Our values and what we want for our future align. He even had me try on his grandma's wedding ring a few months ago. We never had any issues that I thought weren't resolved and never yelled at each other. The last month we were together I moved in with him just for the month due to my rotation being a lot closer to him. I personally didn't think it was bad, I mean it was definitely a transition but I was gone most of the day for work so we usu…

My ex-girlfriend and I broke up three months ago after five and the half years of relationship. We are both in our forties. She said she doesn't love me anymore and that she doesn’t have any feelings for me for a longer period of time. Our relationship wasn’t perfect, but there were a lot of beautiful moments as well. We share a lot of happy and nice memories. She had a lot of issues and I was always there for her to help her and support her, and moreover to love her in that moments. At the end of the relationship, I had issues and instead of getting the same support from her, she found another guy and dumped me. She forced me to move out from our mutual apartment. …

It's been 3 days since my ex said she lost feelings for me and I'm struggling immensely. I was dating her for 3 years & they were the best days of my life. She was the one I was going to marry and live the rest of my life with. She always said to me that I would be the one to leave her but she was the one who ended up cutting things off. But ever since the UK entered another lockdown in November, I feel like things went downhill. We would meet up once a week and sometimes she would come to stay over at mines. For the first 2 years of the relationship she would always go out of her way to call me and I won't lie, at times I wouldn't pick up the call because I get …

The last time i spoke to her was a week ago, I wished her good luck with her exams she didn't answer so I asked if she wanted me to not text her and she said yes. But yesterday she texted me and she said that she misses me and hopes that evertying is oke with me. I texted her that i was doing fine and I also wished her a happy bithday because I didn't it on the 22 May (I thought it was for the better really I really had to hold myself back) so after she texted that nothing has changed she still don't want anything to do with me no friends no try again so i texted her and said that she shouldn't text me for giving me false hope. And now i keep thinking about it again, why …