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I am sorry this is long. I am 23 and dated my ex-partner who is 27 for a year. Our relationship was not perfect, but we had a strong foundation, shared the same values and had so much in common. Although we had not been dating for long, he talked to me about wanting to getting married, having children etc, which made me very excited about the future. He tried to be a good partner, but there was always so much pressure on as he is in his final year of completing his PhD and has been dealing with personal issues. I was always understanding of his situation, compromised, was supportive and tried my best to be a good partner until the very end. Plans kept getting cancelled, I…

My ex and I broke up in April after 3 years and went no contact pretty much until now. He has contacted my friends just to say hello on a few occasions which I thought was strange. We are in our 30s. I sent an email several months ago and he just replied back to me about 3 weeks ago. He ended his email saying he wants to be friendly and hopes I will update him about our dog. In my response back mostly wishing him well and clarifying a few things, I asked if he was open to potentially reconciling in the future as we have both worked on ourselves and asked if he saw a future for us. I did emphasize if he wanted to just end things and didn’t see a future, to please be honest…

My 5 month GF broke up with me suddenly 4 weeks ago, and 2 weeks ago she reached out and we moved pretty fast and were with each other 10 days until Wednesday. Thursday I tried reaching out because I wanted to see her again and she said things were moving pretty fast and she needs time to think. Today she reached out and wanted to meet for a drink. I felt a breakup coming because she said she wants to talk about us and to meet her at a nice bar instead of me picking her up on the way and for me to be mentally prepared. She basically said how a lot of my behavior made her feel uncared for and that we are two different people and doesn't think she could be with someone…

It's almost 2 years since my boyfriend and I have been dating. It has not always been an easy road, as with any relationship out there. For the past 3 months or so, he has been pretty busy helping his Dad out with some home construction. We don't live together, so it's not like I see him everyday, though we make an effort to talk almost every night. Some nights he's tired and some nights I fall asleep before he even calls because I work a full time job. I've mentioned that I'd like to meet with him multiple times, even if for a movie date or like a day where I visit him but he doesn't seem to want that to happen. It must be him just being focused on finishing his work at …

I have been dating a girl for about half a year, and lately I have been wondering whether the relationship between us is healthy and if it should go on. The reasons why I think I should breakup are: 1. I feel that I am attracted to other girls more than to her 2. We don't have enough things in common. We like different music\series\movies\food\books\... We also have different taste in things. 3. We have different lifestyles, I am an engineer, I like to read books, learn things, I always look for ways to improve my life and have a better future. and she spends most of her time with friends, or watching TV, or just spending time doing nothing at home. 4. …

Please understand this is a long read, but I can guarantee you it is extremely interesting. It is definitely the weirdest thing that has ever happened to me but also one of the hardest things I've been through in a while. I'll try to break this down simply because I need to vent, hear advice, and feel hope right now. Please be gentle with me. I am hurting and confused and mad and sad and all the emotions at the same time. Met a guy online a couple years ago when I was coming out of an engagement and he was somewhat recently divorced. Let's call this guy Jake. He lived in the next state over, which was the state I was already planning to move eventually. Because we we…

Ex has apologised many times before. His most recent was that he understands I won't find this satisfying, that he does feel horrible about what happened. That I didn't deserve it and my pure-heartedness makes him feel more guilty. That he wronged me and I didn't deserve it. Nor does he expect me to forgive him. Then he went onto say a few other things which he believes I may have misrepresented him and that the bad intentions I thought he had, aren’t exactly true. He continued.. I appreciate however this has probably been my way of expressing my hurt. He hopes I'm in a better place, that I'm very special and deserve all the happiness in the world.

I am really sad today as my girlfriend broke up with me again. We have dated for over two years and I love her very much but every month she seems to get really mad about everything and she says it's her pms but I think it is also stress from her job. She is so good with my daughter who is 7 and also my dog who she loves and watches a lot. I really think she gets upset when I pick my daughter up and gave to see my ex which is unfortunately a situation that is not going away anytime soon. We have been arguing a lot lately and she keeps breaking up with me then gets back together. I act stupid at times but this past week she was really being rude to me and just crabby a…

So I’ve been dating a girl for 2 years and as of about a month and a half ago we stayed with each other every single night.. then on the night of my birthday party she didn’t want to come Bc my sister and her are not very fond of each other so she instead chooses to not hangout with me after the party but to go to the club with a male “friend”… this led to her wanting a break to figure out somethings in her life.. so I’ve seen her about 3 times in a month and every time I stay at her house and things seem “normal” but as soon as I leave she’s right back to barly communicating, until Thursday..I had to drop something off at her house and saw her for about ten minutes and s…

I was in a relationship for a year and a half and the relationship in the beginning was fine..but after a while he started having issues,and one of the many reasons was the army, because I had to leave for 8 months.but I traveled when I could by plane to see her..but she seemed that she has not problem of waiting,she told me that she would wait for me.so as not to go into details because it is a big story...I left the island I was on, and by my choice I came close to my house, so that I can spend my last months near her. When I finished the army I went to see her but something was wrong..she was cold in front of me. I asked her if everything was fine and if she got bored…

I always put in so much effort for other people. Why doesn't anyone ever want to put the effort in for me? Why am I not worth the effort? Why am I always the second choice?

Me and my boyfriend have been in a long-distance relationship for 1 year. We are grown adults. He's the sweetest guy I've ever known. My whole family liked him. Not only was he my lover he was my best friend too. I had a miserable life before I met him. He helped me so much to get back on my feet and be the best version of me. Last few months of our relationship was a mess, we argued but over small things. I was just frustrated because I couldn't see him often as I would like. Two days ago I asked him what is wrong and continued to tell him about things he was recently doing that i didn't like (nothing bad like texting other girls, going out with girls... just minor thing…

I don't exactly get affected by it so much anymore, as I just see that I still have a hold of him. However, we broke up almost a year ago. Was a hard break-up, we admitted that we still like each other and that we miss each other all the time, and we both have mentioned to each other that if we ever did talk about our relationship again - it's once we've moved on from the hurt, so I don't think it's a 100% final break up where you never want anything to do with them again. I think because I still to this day felt like we broke up over very odd things and he thought the grass was going to be greener. Sometimes the texts will stop and he'll find a way to contact me weeks or…

So I broke up with the guy I was dating for 2.5 months. I have a previous recent post about him if anyone hasn't been following my story. Unfortunately we didn't really end on a good note 😞 He sent me a message which I know was probably sent out of anger and hurt but some things he said really annoyed me. This is what he sent me: "So I've been doing a lot of thinking since last night. And I have come to realise that all this was really just because I wasn't good enough for you, you we're good enough for me but I guess I'm just not good enough. I'm also not sure why you couldn't just be happy with what you had, you literally had a nice guy, someone who not once in…

We will be making 4 years together next month but, ultimately, I don't think he is good for me although I still love him. A little bit of context is in order. This relationship has drained me out and, although I still love him, I can't put up with his way of being anymore. The sense of entitlement, in his own words "what applies to other people doesn't apply to me"; the bothering comments in the likes of "if I had a gay kid I would give him to a shelter and I would have no son anymore", " I didn't kill anyone yet because no one ever offered to pay me to do it", "I hate black people because they act and look like monkeys"; the heavy negativity exacerbated by the …

Hello, I just recently broke up with my boyfriend of 1.5 years. We met at the beginning of the pandemic and he was unemployed (like a lot of other people) so I didn’t think much of it. He was working as a head chef at a restaurant previously. We are both 30 years old. I live on my own and pay all my own bills. I’ve worked the entire duration of the pandemic. He lives with his parents and decided to file for unemployment which was understandable. Over the last year or so he basically just continued to collect unemployment (which his mom filed for him weekly (I found out recently she was doing it). I also found out he doesn’t pay any bills - no rent, cell ph…

Hello everyone! This is my first time posting something like this but I feel absolutely lost and confused... We've been having issues with my boyfriend for the past month, he struggles with depression and got fired about 6 weeks ago. I took another job to be able to pay bills while he finds another job. He told me about his depression 3 weeks ago and I told him we should get some help, do some couples therapy, meditate, etc. Every time I'd tell him to meditate or journal he looked like he didn't want to do it and annoyed but we always did it and it was good. Last week I had to get an emergency surgery on my stomach, have to do 2 week rest and special diet. I can't la…

Hello. I joined because I have to vent. I can’t talk to my friends for reasons I can’t explain. I’m about to lose love of my life. I can’t talk to my friends, I know what they would say. There’s no good end to this. She has to take an action that I cannot live with. She doesn’t want to do it but she has to. If she does do it, I have two choices: live with it, but I don’t know how to do that, or I must leave her, and I can’t. I love her too much. I don’t know what to do. Either way I’m in for great despair. I’m not asking for advice, there isn’t any that will help. I just don’t know how to deal with this, but my choices mean my whole world will chang…

Hi to all. I was already on that forum one year ago, and first want to thank you all for the support you showed me. Fast forward, 6 months ago, i started a relationship again, with a girl of 31 years old (i am currently 29). The only thing that made me doubt first was that she had two children (4 years old) and was separated (legally, but waiting on the divorce to be pronounced) from her ex-husband. Bad divorce with an ex that was not great (apparently), who doesn't behave good when he has the two children (1 week out of 2). After a few months, i was ok with that. As she asked me after 3 month, if i woudl want to see them, i said that yes, just needed some tim…

I had the most amazing relationship. We met each other as exhcange students in a different country and I waited half a year to tell him that I like him. He is the most funniest person I ever met. In total we were together a bit more than 4 months. We immediately became a couple the night I asked him, two weeks in he asked me if we are official. He told his parents, his grandfather, his friends. I was his first girlfriend and he was a bit younger than me. He treated me really good. He remembered all the small things I told him, he listened to me, he showed me physical affection (in public and in front of friends) he gave me many compliments everytime we saw each oth…

Hi, it’s quite embarrassing to actually be writing on a forum with my car crash of a relationship, but I think I just need some strangers to slap some sense into me. I apologise in advance for the long post! I started dating a co-worker the second half of last year. I’m in my 30’s, she is late 20’s. We hit it off at work and the attraction was undeniable. She told me about how all her ex’s were abusive in some way, shape or form, and described quite a horrific past. I’ve always been stable in relationships (I can count the number of fights on one hand for 13 years worth of relationships), and at the risk of sounding big headed, am a decent catch (sorry, I know…

Hi there. Long term relationship (14 yrs) ended amicably at the beginning of the year. Still kept in contact. Noticed a change recently in frequency of contact (not much) and then very short replies and i suspected a new guy which was confirmed. I actually new before the answer was fully typed as it was taking so long to answer.... Just immediately felt sick, upset, empty, bit scared So I was ok before then and in the back of my head was readying myself for this as i thought its only a matter of time. Since knowing about NewGuy my world feels like its fallen apart. I've suffered with bad post break up anxiety before and i don't know how to stop it. An…

I will try and keep this as short as possible. I'm 40M and she's 34F, we met at work and dated for almost 5 years. We got engaged last year and were supposed to get married Oct of this year. We were "soulmates" we had an instant connection when we met, co-workers even told her that I never have talked to anyone at work as much as I did to her. This is true. Everything was great for the most part, I caught her in little lies here and there but nothing major. Problems started around June 2013. A blast from her past re-appeared in her life. She bumped into him and they exchanged numbers and have known each other for 10 years prior. Not a big deal - until she was showin…

I am 45 and my partner is 52. We were together 3 years. We had bumps but overall it was a very good relationship. Deep friendship and perfectly matched sexually. Both professionals so we mostly spent weekends together and made phone calls during the week. Once a day or so. We spent lots of times among his lovely friends ( mostly couples). A week ago, we were at the BBQ at his friend. Suddenly became cold so we all went inside and we all started to watch something on TV. I was uncomfortable on my chair and did not see well so I asked my partner to swap seats with me, at least for a bit. He refused and laughed off that he was ok. About an hour later, I asked again and…

I feel like my life is meaningless without him........ I've never been that happy before I met him........ Ever since we we're in a relationship I constantly screw up........Even the little things that he asks me to do I was still able to screw up...... I'm not great at communicating so I constantly say the wrong thing and anger him...... I'm clumsy and I don't really think of the consequences of my actions....... Ever since our relationship started it's like I'm constantly hurting him or angering him in some ways which always worries me.......I'm really not doing it on purpose at all....... but I keep screwing up to the point he tells me if I screw up again he'll break u…