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I'm sorry that I'm posting another gym story, but I just need some advice. I have had multiple crushes and guys I was interested in the gym, but usually their personality is quite different whenever there has been any kind of interaction. It usually turns me off and I keep it moving. I have been going to this gym in the last few years, and I have noticed this guy for a couple years now. Lets just call him Jay. Initially when I first noticed Jay, I was not interested (at least not in that way). He seemed kind of a tool and I recall being irritated with him because he was on a machine that I wanted to get on while talking to a buddy of his. That situation was 2 and half yea…

I need to give you some background in order to explain my problem. I’m a 23 year old women. Until the age of 18 I was in a several relationships with women, including one serious relationship with a women (let’s call her D) for 2+ years. I ended the relationship with D solely because I couldn’t take the way she treated me anymore. She was mentally abusing and controlling. I was only young at the time and I thought I was so in love, but she constantly hurt me and has left me mentally scared from it all. Shortly after ending the relationship with D, I quickly began a sexual relationship with a guy (let’s call him F). I was young, emotionally fragile and wanted to experime…

I’m a recently 22-year-old college student, with absolutely no relationship experience. Living in a highly conservative (think “Fox News is too liberal”, literal swastikas hanging on the wall “conservative”) family, I’ve spent my life doing everything possible to hide the fact I’m gay, all the while hoping somehow I was not. I’ve come to terms with the fact that I am, and that’s not going to change, but I still have to hide it. In fact, just hiding it isn’t good enough. At home, I must be gay if I’m not actively lusting after and borderline sexually harassing women. It’s exhausting. Having been homeschooled on top of this, I’ve never had the chance to meet or tell an…

I’m kinda having a dilemma about sharing something that happened during a open-relationship period in my two year relationship with my girlfriend (we’re both girls) I feel guilty not telling her and I don’t know if I’m being selfish for wanting to tell her or if it’s just a way to try to satisfy my guilty conscience. (TW!: r*pe) we got together a few months before we graduated high school, be we have been friends since 9th grade. We spent the entire summer together and developed a (slight?) codependency on each other. We became best friends and spend all our free time together. College came around and we decided to do long distance bc she went to school out of st…

Hi, i need help please dont judge. I am a woman attracted to other women. Around last year March i fell in love with this girl we'll call her 'A'. A had just recently gotten out of a relationship with her ex- we'll call her 'B'. While A and B where dating i became close friends with B and thats when they started having issues and they both confided in me, being a good friend i offered advice to them both but because i barely knew A, my main focus was on B to make sure she doesnt get hurt. Along the line i started having feelings for A and i felt guilty so i told B about it first and she said she was fine with it, so i told A about it. When they broke up(not because of me)…

Hi! I've been going out with this great girl and after last night I worried that I messed up our chemistry. We had a great third date at the end of last week where we kissed before we left. Last night she invited me over for dinner and we went on a hike. During the hike we talked and had a great time, but I wasn't feeling well (cramps) and I was so focused on how I was feeling I didn't initiate another kiss and the date just ended on a hug. I did apologize for not feeling well but she didn't really mention it in the return text. I guess I'm overthinking because I also feel like she could have kissed me if she wanted to and I wanted her to but we didn't make it happen. but…

I wrote this whole post in my journal on here, and then thought maybe this is thread worthy. But I don't really have time to rewrite everything. So I'm taking this right out of my journal. I hope that isn't against the rules. In my journal I refer to her as Z. So this is what I wrote: "Z has been really depressed lately. I really wish there was more I could do to help her. I know how depression feels though. There's not much anyone can do to really help a depressed person feel better. Depression goes a little deeper than just feeling sad. She said she's been having suicidal thoughts lately, but that she would never do it. She has a pretty strong anti…

So I am a guy dating a guy. I met him on social media. We met one day and we talked for a bit. He asked me to go upstairs for a coffee. I didn't want to because I liked to keep our date outdoors, so we didn't have to have sex. What confuses me with this guy is, after he met me. He kept asking me if he wanted to date me, and told me he only wanted to have sex after the 3rd date. But later he kept asking if I wanted to have sex with him and said that he is a very sexual person. I did confirm with him that I wanted to date him, but after the first time we met, I asked him if he wanted to meet me the following week. Then, he kept saying next week and next wee…

I had a long term affair with a married woman. We both fell in love at work. It was bliss for the first 6 months and then everything became very hard. Her husband became bothered by our friendship. He's the type who wants a woman to stay in the kitchen or in his bed, basically anything she does, she needs to be controlled and owned. When I entered into this affair, I did so out of desperation I should admit. I hadnt had a relationship ever with a woman, I only dated guys, even though Im gay. So, she slowly told me things and I understood her life. And then we fell in love and everything became messy. I wanted her to leave, to stop sleeping with him and just leave. She did…

I really like this girl that I work with and we’ve been on a few dates. I’m 17 f and shes 19 f. We both have never dated anyone else or even had our first kiss. I was the one to ask her out and things have been going good, I know she’s interested in me, but she’s just so damn anxious. I know it’s not her fault but I have anxiety issues too and things are just not progressing because of this. I made the leap and hugged her, but I can’t make a move beyond that. I thought she may be opposed to affection so we had a conversation about boundaries and she assured me that I wouldn’t make her uncomfortable with anything. The most affectionate thing we’ve done is hug …

Hello I basically talked about this on discord and stuff but no one replied lmao and yeahhh I copied and pasted it and I hope someone actually reads it and can help! Thank you in advance. Okay so hi people. Basically, it is a confusing story but I live with a friend of my father’s and her sons, my father doesn’t live here because they aren’t together but she just loves me and wanted to let me be in her house since I’ve been having trouble living with my father and mom. I moved here like five months ago now and one of her children is my age- I am a boy and uh I am trans and stuff and homoromantic (asexual) yeahh it’s complicated. And he is supposedly no…

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years now. We love each other very much, and have been through so much together as many couples have during the pandemic and lockdowns the last year. We are living together, and have done so more or less the last 6 months. when we were 6 months into our relationship he told me he had a holiday planned with a friend, her boyfriend, her parents and her kids to go to Disneyland for 3 weeks, but that our anniversary would be smack dab in the middle of it. I was quite upset as for me anniversaries are extremely important milestones, an opportunity to mutually reflect on the relationship and to celebrate the…

I’ve been talking to this girl for about 6 months now. We’ve mostly been speaking online because of covid but since things are safer we are seeing each other in person. Now because of that, I am realizing i don’t actually like her at all. She’s so nice to me, seems like she really likes me and gives me gifts all the time. I feel bad but i need to know the right way to break it to her before it goes on for much longer. we aren’t completely official as girlfriends yet but i’m scared she’s going to want that soon. It should be easy to just end things but for some reason it’s so hard. what do i say to let her down easy?

Background: me and my ex broke up about 7 months ago and I recently(March 2021)had to reach out to have her name removed from the lease. I tried to see if we could be friends and she declined(mid April 2021). now: maybe about a week or going on a week, she’s unblocked me on everything but didn’t reach out. I deactivated my socials because I couldn’t take the confusion and she’s mirroring me(she deactivated her socials too). Is she trying to get me to reach out for a reaction or is she breadcrumbing me?

Hey guys, so I am in a little bit of a situation here. For the simplicity of this story I am going to name my friend Thomas. Thomas and I met in first year university through mutual friends and ever since we met we hit off. Our conversations are always great and we genuinely always have a good time when we are around each other, and there has been countless times where we've both expressed how much we love each other and value our friendship. I am the type of person who isn't out but also isn't in the closet so when I realized that Thomas and I were getting closer I decided to tell him that I was also interested in guys. To my surprise Thomas told me that he has ne…

Hey all! My girlfriend recently decided to break up with me a couple months ago. To back track,I did make some mistakes at the begging of the year. I kept leaving her house at night when I was over because her drinking made me somewhat uncomfortable, though I never told her and she did ask how I felt about her drinking, I just couldn’t answer honestly. Obviously she was concerned with why it didn’t seem like I wanted to be there. She made something nice for me Valentines day even though we weren’t talking much prior, but I just showed up with chocolates and took her out for dinner. We had a pretty unromantic time sadly. When she met with me to break…

Hey everyone!! So I meet this guy online and we went on like 4 dates. I FELL HARD for this dude, (I know what you are saying 4 dates, really??). When we were together it was perfect in every way, I finally felt like I met my guy after going on multiple dates that never worked. Anyways, we touched on our past relationships and he said he was 3 mos out of a relationship. My guard immediately went up and I thought rebound, right? So, the other day he calls and essentially told me he needs to take some time for him because his head was all over the place and he still had feelings for his ex. I told him i completely understood as I was out of an broken engagement j…

Background: Things endless badly between me and my ex. We were together for almost 4.5 years on and off. We both said some hurtful things to each other and she loved out- It’s been six months or no real contact and I asked my ex to meet up and she initially agreed but now it sounds like she’s backing out. me: I’m going to be in our hometown soon and would like to see you. her: when are you planning on visiting, I have plans at the end of the month. me: sometime within the next week or two. her: I won’t be able to come to our home time either one of those weekends. me: 😒😳🤔 (I haven’t replied yet) Can someone please tel…

Hi all, I’ve had the feeling for the last year and a half that my gf might be a bi/lesbian. There have been a few small things that I have noticed, that in isolation probably wouldn’t mean much but all together they have kind of added up in my mind to make me question if she is. She has also become v close to a work colleague over the last 18 months as well, and I feel like they might like each other as more than just friends. Because of this I’m thinking of having a chat with my gf about my concerns. Do you think that I’m just being overly paranoid and reading too much into these things, or do you think she could be? First of all at the start of our relationship wh…

i’m a 16yo girl, my best friend of 4 years told me on friday that she's going to be moving away in two months (florida to colorado). it didn't really hit me that hard until now. i've always crushed on her on and off but never really thought of us getting together officially because her parents are super homophobic and have even taken her older sister to conversion therapy when she came out. we're pretty intimate and cuddly too, much more than normal friends, so it's hard to hide that from her parents and we have to be sneaky. last year, admitted to me that she likes girls and has a crush on me. at the time i was in a really confusing place with my identity and sexuality, …

So, I did something I shouldn't have ever done, and I have massive regrets now. I wish I could turn back the time. It was wrong and I am so ashamed. My 15 year old daughter is the age where she doesn't share any thing with me anymore. We used to talk about everything, and I encourage her to talk to me about anything. Her Mom (were divorced) is the weekend Mom and isn't close to my daughter at all, so I usually feel the need to be "Mom". I even buy her tampons and pads. Anyway, I was bringing some clothes up to my daughters room and she left her diary on her bed. I just glanced and saw the word "sexuality" and curiosity set in (I know its so wrong, so p…

I am currently training to be in an industry that requires lots of 1on1 training with an instructor. Last fall, I requested to switch instructors because I became attracted to him and my performance suffered. Embarrassing, I know. Now, the same thing is happening again. My performance is suffering due to the same reason. And I don’t know if I can take the embarrassment/shame of switching again. I’m just thinking about dropping out of this training altogether to clear my mind but I don’t have any alternative career paths as of now. I feel like there’s no way out and I’m just terrified.

Before I start I just want it to be known that I am still a closeted bisexual and she has an ongoing relationship with her boyfriend of 4 years. Ok so, I recently met this girl a year ago and we quickly formed a huge emotional connection as we instantly felt comfortable around each other and became really close within a short amount of time. Within the first few times of us seeing each other (through mutual friends) we had cuddled, kissed (on the lips) but that was all when we were both intoxicated, bare in mind we barely knew each other at this stage. I invited her into my girl friendship group and we started to become even more closer with each other. She wou…

I been recently diagnosed with depression and have taken steps to deal with it. One of the obstacles I’m trying to overcome is personal insecurities mostly on the financial spectrum. I find myself comparing myself to “the rich gays” and starting to doubt my self worth

Hi! I need opinions... I have been happily with my fiancé with almost 5 years now. We have a strong relationship I’d say. Fairly intimate. Though not as much as we were initially, which is to be expected. Recently I’ve been noticing that I’ve developed more of a sexual attraction to women. I don’t think I would ever date a woman but I definitely fantasize about being with a woman. I don’t want to tell my fiancé yet because I’ll still trying to figure out what this is. Do you think my sex life is just really bad that I’m looking for something different? Or am I really just attracted to girls?