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I am looking for advice from a female's perspective please. I have gotten closer to a friend (lets call her "Sarah") that is a female with the last year. I have known her for three years. We can both talk to one another for hours. I have helped her get a new job by giving her advice to prepare for a job interview. We also talk about other things as well. I make her feel good and laugh and she does the same to me. I can hear it in her voice when we talk and I told her the same that she brighten up my day. We are really good friends. On another note, we are both in the military in the same unit. When we talk to one another, we have a good connection, since she …

My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years, have known each other for 20+ years. He had a very troubled childhood and it left him with severe trust and abandonment issues. He is constantly questioning everything I do. We live in a small place and if I clean up and organize he accuses me of packing my things. He's been abusive verbally and physically before. Im afraid that not getting the proper help as a child, after seeing his mother shot and murdered right in front of him by his stepmom, that's it may be too late for him to change his behavior. He's a bit narcissistic.

Hello, I am completely stuck and would love to receive some advice. I met my current partner 7.5 years ago after separating from my ex-husband. It really felt a very special relationship and we had a little boy together now nearly 5. In November last year, his ex-wife contacted him out of the blue after 11 years of no contact. They separated because he cheated on her; she had not wanted any explanations then and disappeared. I was ok with them talking to each other as I thought it was a part of his life he had to close properly but then I started to be suspicious by the amount of messaging they were having and I decided to snoop. Some of the messages were flirty and th…

Hi everyone! I'm in major need of advice. So. on June 10-17 I was out of town for work purposes. When I got back later that week I grabbed my boyfriends laptop to play a movie and his e-mail was on the screen. There was one particulare email that stood out to me so I opened it. It was a back and forth email with a prostitute/escort. I confronted him about this and he felt very ashamed and swears nthing happed that he was just curious and extremly horny and desperate while I was away since we hadnt had sex for a 1 1/2 weeks. Let me also add that the reason we hadnt been sexual was becasue we were going thru issues. He had missed my brothers wedding in order to go hang wit…

How much time are you alone with your friend's husband? For me, 0 times in my lifetime, but. . . A married woman friend of mine continued to text my husband for "help" after I explicitly told her not to simply because she is flirty and she doesn't need 24 hour private access to my husband. In addition, when she "needed" his in-person assistance in her home, it was always when I was at work and her husband was at work and while the kids were in school. This went on for years behind my back. I also don't know why she needed my husband's help when she has a capable husband of her own. My husband thought he was doing nothing wrong as she was my friend. I belie…

I'll start off by saying thank you. I may not know any of you personally - but many on this forum have been a godsend to me in my darkest hours. I have a lot of weaknesses that leave me vulnerable to abuse and naïve to the abuser's behaviour. There is so much love from all of the posters on here - I truly cannot show you my gratitude. I digress: Anyways - 2 weekends ago - my ex and I had a conversation. *side note* He is on again/off again with me (we were talking daily for months until March 2020). Suddenly - he stopped talking to me specifically (not his girl friends, his new friends, his land lady etc). He'll contact me once every 1 - 2 weeks…

I feel like I will never be able to have a healthy relationship with a guy because I am too insecure and jealous. I am all the time thinking he is talking to other girls or he finds other girls more attractive than me and that he is gonna leave me. Everytime I am scrolling on instagram or twitter and I see beaufitul girls I instantly think what he will think if he saw her. He would fall in love with her because she is prettier than me. It is the worst feeling in the world. It doesn't matter the skin color of the girl or the weight. Like... i am really skinny, white and I look like a 15 year old although I am 23. And everytime I see a girl tanner I feel bad because she lo…

I see my gf has multiple chats with guys I don’t know on her social media. She doesn’t share details and is often secretive with her phone. Always on messenger and gets dings late at night. I have caught her messaging and ex before and deleting chats. She isn’t the type to cheat but can do stupid things when drunk sometimes. should asked who is texting you so late? or if I see she got a message from one of this guys, should I ask what she is talking to them about?!

My boyfriend of 2 years has 3 kiddos with his ex. I knew what I was getting into when we decided to be together. I have met the baby momma & have an great relationship with the kids. BM have no issues with each other, aside my insecurities. I have been cheated on multiple times in the past & although it has been years since my toxic/abusive relationships, I still get triggered. Him and I have a few agreements, including if they ever hang out together. My insecurities began when he took his son to soccer practice and BM went to it as well and he never told me. I was told by their daughter, as she was telling a story. Mind you, from my knowledge, they do…

Meanwhile, I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years where we kind of lived together more than the past few years. That has changed due to my family problems and the financial area. Now I found out the day before yesterday that he cheated on me, I really can't believe it. The moment before I knew I was talking to my girlfriends about our relationship, that I was so happy with him. He sent 2 girls I knew with a fake account, we have a strict relationship but he chose that himself, on the messages were things like: do you know someone I can have a quick f*ck with or come to my house I want to make you enjoy yourself. He immediately admitted everything but…

I found out my husband had downloaded and paid for a month of premium for both Bumble & Tinder. When I confronted him about it he claimed it was done in a drunken moment. I am hesitant to believe that he drunkenly went into the app store, searched these apps, continued to fill out information to join the apps, then PAY for premium, and still delete the apps all in the same drunken night. He has gaslit me before about me feeling jealous and suspicious of a "friendship" he had with someone that ended up being an emotional relationship with another woman in the hopes that he could get laid while I was away at college. I forgave him then and he continued to go behind my b…

Me (17m) and my girlfriend (17f) started dating over 2 years ago. We started off strong and are really close but that's been kind of changing. She's my first girlfriend and I learned a lot from being with her but some huge trust issues are starting to come up. In the beginning of our relationship she was flirting with another guy and even thought about leaving me for him. In month 1.5 she made a pros and cons list and obviously I won since we're together. Fast forward 10 months after that point I had an argument with her because I always suspected her liking that guy and just wanted her to admit it. She made me feel stupid and insecure by saying "why would …

My wife and I are reconciling after 9 months of separation. We've been back together 2 months and she has moved back into our house. She dated during our separation and I dated as well. I asked for a divorce and the next day she was talking with an ex-boyfriend and driving 6 hours to see him that weekend, she says nothing sexual happened that weekend but something did happen eventually about a month or so later. After he was out of the picture, she dated or talked to 5 other people. During this time, I got back with my first wife on and off during this period and had 2 other one night stands. I wanted to work things out the whole time we were separated but sh…

My girlfriend and I got into a rather heated argument over something simple that she refuses to take responsibility for. Just a little background: I have struggled with major depression and anxiety since I was in middle school (I am now 23) We've known each other for over 6 years; dated briefly in high school and for about the past year She knows I am good at hiding my feelings, but that I've been trying to share much more recently so she isn't confused or think it's her fault She is very passive aggressive sometimes and has told me it's something she's been working on all her life She knows I have been suicidal a couple times in my life (onl…

Me and my girlfriend have been going through a rough patch at the moment due to me developing health anxiety and minor depression and it has really taken a toll on us but she stuck with me through it all, I noticed a distance in her and we discussed and sorted it all out and we were on the road to being happy again. Last night I had an opportunity to read her messages as I knew she'd been texting a guy she slept with a long time ago (I know I shouldn't have gone through her phone but I was drunk and my anxiety got the better of me) there were some flirty texts there and I noticed when she wasn't replying or talking to me she had been chatting away to this guy in massive p…

can a relationship work if we dont have the same belief about boundaries. been living together for 2 years, she has a 2nd job as a bartender, she has been hurt in the past (cheated on). she has many male acquaintances she stays in contact with on fb messenger. some are "new". she is somewhat naive, thinks single guys just want to be friends, doesn't think guys being flirtatious and hitting on her on messenger is a big deal. she is used to making herself seem available and leaves door open for anyone to contact her. she swears she will never cheat (physical or emotional) and i believe her. but i have issues with who and how she communicates with …

I just need an opinion. Should I be concerned if my boyfriend has been downloading a private browsing app? Not for saving space on the phone or anything like that. Wouldn't it make sense just to use incognito tabs? I know some guys like to keep porn private from their girlfriends. And I do have a problem snooping through his phone once in a while (like I'm talking.. every couple months) for non-porn related things. But he knows I wouldn't care if he was watching porn. But he tells me he never watches porn even though I told him many times it wouldn't bother me. It's not just that he downloaded the app, it's that he installs it and uninstalls it every time…

Hi I've never shared anything on a forum before but feel I need advice. Me and my girlfriend have been together 2 years and its mostly been great. We make each other laugh and have fun..our sex life is good and we do a lot for each other. The thing that lets down our relationship is i have caught her lying a few times throughout our relationship. She's lied to me about where she has gone and whos she's been with. I noticed her stories wouldn't add up and could almost sense i was being lied to..I did a terrible thing once and went on her phone without her permission only to find my fears were true. The more she lied the more I'd keep an eye on h…

So I have been in a relationship for a bit over a year. It all seemed to be wonderful. About 6 mths into it my relationship my Man moved in with me and my 2 kids ages 11/12. He is military,and very militant. Also OCD. Kids are messy. He expressed his feeling towards junky rooms and kids being lazy. I understood and did everything I could to try to make him feel comfortable. I have done all house work most of their life, so he and I agreed that I needed to put more responsibility on them. Of course it didn't go as planned every single day, but most of the time it did. My kids have never had a father figure nor had to do chores, which is completely my fault. Well after a he…

We know about each other for 3 years on social media. I really liked how she looks, the music she listens (I'm a musician so you know the deal). I tried ot approach her before, but she was in a relationship so I just moved on. We saw eachother for the first time in october (she says she recognized me instantly, I did too). In the end of November we started to communicate (finally), we agree on almost everything and without overreacting I think I really like her. But from the beginning she's been evasive, acting childish and changing the subject if it comes to the future, in general, not only between us. So when I confessed that I think about her and I see something in her…

So I met a guy a as mutual friend. Always very nice, nothing more than that. Fast forward 2 years later he inboxes me on IG. We talk a couple weeks and then go on a first date to the movies. Everything went perfectly well for about 6 months. There's an unforseen issue in his living space, (mold/***ty landlord) so I agreed to let him stay with me for a couple weeks until he found something else. Goes very well, about a month into him staying he calls one night from work and says I really like coming home to you, it it ok if I stay and pay half of the bills. In love and in the honeymoon stage I agreed. We are in our 30s and are sure of what we want. Fast forward a couple mo…

I'm not sure what is expected of me or what I'm supposed to be doing or not doing anymore. I learned about five months ago, after much suspicion, that my common law wife is an alcoholic. After numerous weird arguments, irrational behaviour, and her not being present (consciously) after 3:00 pm, she admitted to me what she was hiding. This all came out September of 2020. She spoke to her doctor, and started therapy and various AA and support groups. So many hidden bottles around the house - it was amazing what I found. What hurt the most was being lied to - and we talked at length about that. To avoid a lengthy read here, those lies (and trust breaking) …

During covid, my bf and I have drifted a bit. We don't see each other much since I don't want to get my family sick, he doesn't seem to understand that much and goes out like usual but with a mask and I'm worried this has played a part in us drifting. We've also been texting less, though I feel like it's a bit my fault since I've been busy with work and haven't texted him much either. We've been together since 2017. My bf has an extremely attractive female friend with big breasts who he's been close with since high school. I know I'm not ugly but I'm definitely not pretty compared to her and my breasts are much smaller. On Christmas, my bf came over to exchange …

Question when you find *** pictures/videos on your boyfriend's phone of himself, should I be concerned that he may be sending them to someone. In my experience usually only time below the belt pictures are taken is to send them to someone. Or an I making this a bigger deal then it should be. I did confront him and he swears it’s just a weird thing he does. Not sure if I believe his answer.

*I’m sorry this is a long post so for anyone who reads this, thank you* So I’m 24 and I’ve been dating this 53 year old man for 1 year and 2 months. And yes, I know, weird af. But I find attraction in older men, It’s what I like. Anyway, In the beginning I fell absolutely in love with him and we quickly became attached to the hip. We did everything together. He was always there for me and became the only person I felt I would have in my life considering I rlly have no friends, no job at the moment, I suffer with anxiety/depression/bipolar and I don’t have a very good relationship with my family I live with either. Around 6-7 months after we made things …