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We've been dating for year and a half. It never was perfect but now I feel like I'm suffocating. My gf's jealousy is killing me. Back when I trusted her, I told her that I had porn addiction when I was 14 but haven't watched porn for almost 5 years since. Worst mistake. Now she constantly says that I haven't changed, that porn addiction can't go away, that I still want to watch it (I do not), that my mind is changed forever. And she's not saint, when she was a teen she liked yaoi manga and anime, BDSM. I never bring it up, never call her pornsick or a cheater, why do I get called a pervert and a liar? I don't get it. In the beginning of our relationship she aske…

Hi, I have 3 children with my husband and we have been married for over 10 years. Over the years he has given me reasons not to trust him. He had what I would call an emotional affair with a work colleague. They were texting and talking without my knowledge. When I found out I asked him to stop but he kept doing it behind my back. This was a few years ago and it has sinced stopped. We don't have a very good sex life. I opened up to him about and explained that it doesn't make me feel wanted. He said he did not know why he didn't have much of a sex drive and even went to a doctor about it. I soon found out that he was looking at porn a number of t…

My cousin stopped talking to me a few months ago with no warning or explanation. Just recently, she wrote to explain it was because she was hurt that, for years, I was flirting with her husband. This could not be further from the truth. How do I respond? I'd like to try to salvage the relationship.

I have a white gold diamond wedding band and engagement ring. Sometimes I will just wear the diamond band, but every now and again I have exchanged it for a simple gold band (same size and by itself no engagement ring) if I’m just feeling all gold or wanting to be simplistic. This gold ring was not given to my husband, but is one from a stack I had made. I thought its ok to switch it up bc I’m still representing my marriage, but my husband was definitely not ok with this one he noticed. He thinks there is another reason behind it and that no one else does this. I felt pretty secure in our marriage and didn’t think it was a big deal. Has anyone done this not thinking it wo…

My girlfriend stays at her ex husbands house. No matter how I have tried to convey to her that I don't like it for several reasons. The main reason is She cant even take it if my ex were to call me for a brief talk about our kids. Or even if a childhood friend wanted me to go camping she flips out. She tried to gaslight me im sure. Saying Im a weak man and insecure of her ex. She claims she has no other place to stay. Her oldest son lives with her ex husband and she has a grandbaby there too. So I feel guilty not agreeing with it. The fact is she has about a dozen friends that live 5 minute to 45 minutes from her exs house. her parents are insane rich and have a giant hom…

Hi there, this is a slightly confusing question so I apologise in advance! My (I use this lightly) boyfriend and I have had a very turbulent relationship. He has anger issues, I’m actually pretty sure he is a narcissist and he has lied to me many times. (As I write this I think I may be answering my own question!) However, he is also kind, loving and makes me feel like the best person on earth when he wants to. (Narcissist skill maybe?) I have managed to cut him out of my life with no contact a few times for a few months. But I always end up giving in to him in the end. (Tears, apologies for his erratic temper, promises to never do it again.) Just to be…

I have a guy friend that is pretty much my best friend. We started sleeping together as FWB in February and stopped 4 weeks ago, he stopped it using the excuse that he thought I was getting attached, when in actuality it was him that was acting like we were in a relationship. He has a guy friend that I do not care for. His friend tells me regularly that I am beautiful and that he loves me, I’ve met him 5 or 6 times. This friend of his also had a girlfriend at first until they split, but he also says things about going down on other guys. The very first time we all hung out I heard his friend tell him he wanted his ***. I thought it was weird, but ignored it. They are very…

I have been in a relationship for 4 months with a male sub. He seems to want/need constant affection and reassurance, I want to understand why : The feeling of needing affection per se, and how I can properly fulfill his needs. Now my real problem you see, I was recently diagnosed as a sociopath, in which I suspect since I was 12. I learned how to read and mimic peoples emotions, however, I am not capable of understanding or caring for them. The reason I ask for advice is because I actually enjoy my relationship and I want to make my partner happy. In order for this to work, I have to understand how he function the way he does, he is a sensitive person and reall…

So I start at the beginning. Years back I found out my wife was talking to her old boyfriend. She would have 30min to hour talks with him while I was at work. I found out and confronted her. She said it would stop and I was ok with that. He was not the last. So about 1 or 2 other guy that she had secret call and text. She said it was just someone to talk to. Nothing physical. Years later we get married and have a kid. Years go by and all is ok. 2015 her dad dies. I am there for her but she closes off and goes into depression. I try to talk but I'm shutout. Daily turns into weekly checkups because I'm not getting anywhere. 2017 I find out that she is secretly t…

Without going too much into the back story, I can't stop being tormented by a past betrayal and I really don't want to lose this relationship if he's not doing anything On the other hand if he is I really need to know so I can get out of this. I don't mind paying for a program if it actually works so I'm looking for a mobile spy app, one I can install on his phone without it being visible to him and Ideally I would like to see texts, calls and messenger messages. I don't know what rooting a phone means so I'd rather not have to do that.. I'd appreciate any tips, thanks!

My partner found a pair of my safety glasses from work at 8 am and expressed they liked them. I knew from previous discussions the night before that they have been struggling to find a pair of safety glasses that fitted them well at their work, and it has been a point of continual burden to them that causes them pain and discomfort. My partner asked if they could have the glasses they found, and I said yes, have them. They requested they wanted new safety glasses, to which I stated I could not get the exact pair of glasses from work as they were not given out by my work but were provided during a customer visit. At this point, my partner stormed off without saying a word.…

My partner is typically closed and rarely asks for help. Both our lives are busy, and we sometimes struggle to find time to complete our commitments. We planned to go to a family dinner together, but my partner asked me to write their university assignment one hour before while they continued to catch up with their lectures. I initially said no, I am uncomfortable writing their assignment, especially if I had no input from them because I would feel responsible if the assignment mark was not high enough. After discussion, I explained this to them, but they expressed they would take full responsibility for this regardless of the outcome. I changed my request to ask fo…

Hi, So I am with my other half for 5 years now and I have a bad tendency to get somewhat uncomfortable about her wearing clothing that either reveals her cleavage or leggings that are tight and somewhat see through to work. Anyways she seems to wear these kinds of outfits when one of her coworkers are working with her and like it may be coincidence because it's not all the time but what should I do if anything at all? Based on our 5 years together she does like to dress and look nice. She's always seem faithful to my knowledge and never seems t flirt with any of her guy coworkers but she does make NSFW jokes but that's just how she is with anyone. I've told he…

Hi everyone... I'm not particularly good at expressing myself... But I'm going to try and I kindly ask for any advice that you all can give... AND AFTER WRITING THIS... I AM SUPER SORRY FOR THE LONG POST... I NEEDED TO VENT TOO! So... I'm a 29 year old straight male whos recently out of a relationship (>6 weeks) and I'm still in that phase where it hasn't hit me or just about hitting me - please note, I did the break up because it wasn't working out as intended. I've got a stable profession (doctor) and I'm a bit of a jack of all trades plus a die hard romantic (unfortunately XD). No, I don't do sarcasm but I definitely do self-depreciating humour. And …

When my boyfriend and I first met I picked up his phone and there was a text from a woman that said " I love our little guy" I didn't think much of it at the time, but I remembered her name. I had asked him before if he had any kids and he always said no. There are no pictures of kids on his social media or anywhere up in his apartment. One night though, I did jokingly ask him again if he had kids and he said 'yeah' but we were both a little drunk and it was super late so I honestly thought he was joking. Last weekend my boyfriend was sitting on my lap and he opened facebook on his phone I noticed this same girl's name as a recent search. I'm not typically a jealous …

Hi folks, I have been in relationship with my boyfriend for more over than a year. We recently moved in together, and I started noticing that he is very absent-minded and having difficulty in focusing. We had a talk about maybe he is suffering from mild ADHD. A couple weeks ago, I got a job interview with a big company. He was so excited for me and told me he will cook my favorite food. I say yes please. He started cooking at 8PM, I notice he was struggling in the kitchen so I asked him if he needed extra hand? And he say no, he want to make me feel special. And because of his difficulty in focusing and distracted easily, the dish is done by 11PM. I told hi…

Have you ever come across someone that for some reason, something doesn't sit right with you? You can't quite put your finger on it. The person might even seem nice and didn't do anything to you, but something about them is setting off an alarm?

I am looking for advice from a female's perspective please. I have gotten closer to a friend (lets call her "Sarah") that is a female with the last year. I have known her for three years. We can both talk to one another for hours. I have helped her get a new job by giving her advice to prepare for a job interview. We also talk about other things as well. I make her feel good and laugh and she does the same to me. I can hear it in her voice when we talk and I told her the same that she brighten up my day. We are really good friends. On another note, we are both in the military in the same unit. When we talk to one another, we have a good connection, since she …

My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years, have known each other for 20+ years. He had a very troubled childhood and it left him with severe trust and abandonment issues. He is constantly questioning everything I do. We live in a small place and if I clean up and organize he accuses me of packing my things. He's been abusive verbally and physically before. Im afraid that not getting the proper help as a child, after seeing his mother shot and murdered right in front of him by his stepmom, that's it may be too late for him to change his behavior. He's a bit narcissistic.

Hello, I am completely stuck and would love to receive some advice. I met my current partner 7.5 years ago after separating from my ex-husband. It really felt a very special relationship and we had a little boy together now nearly 5. In November last year, his ex-wife contacted him out of the blue after 11 years of no contact. They separated because he cheated on her; she had not wanted any explanations then and disappeared. I was ok with them talking to each other as I thought it was a part of his life he had to close properly but then I started to be suspicious by the amount of messaging they were having and I decided to snoop. Some of the messages were flirty and th…

Hi everyone! I'm in major need of advice. So. on June 10-17 I was out of town for work purposes. When I got back later that week I grabbed my boyfriends laptop to play a movie and his e-mail was on the screen. There was one particulare email that stood out to me so I opened it. It was a back and forth email with a prostitute/escort. I confronted him about this and he felt very ashamed and swears nthing happed that he was just curious and extremly horny and desperate while I was away since we hadnt had sex for a 1 1/2 weeks. Let me also add that the reason we hadnt been sexual was becasue we were going thru issues. He had missed my brothers wedding in order to go hang wit…

How much time are you alone with your friend's husband? For me, 0 times in my lifetime, but. . . A married woman friend of mine continued to text my husband for "help" after I explicitly told her not to simply because she is flirty and she doesn't need 24 hour private access to my husband. In addition, when she "needed" his in-person assistance in her home, it was always when I was at work and her husband was at work and while the kids were in school. This went on for years behind my back. I also don't know why she needed my husband's help when she has a capable husband of her own. My husband thought he was doing nothing wrong as she was my friend. I belie…

I'll start off by saying thank you. I may not know any of you personally - but many on this forum have been a godsend to me in my darkest hours. I have a lot of weaknesses that leave me vulnerable to abuse and naïve to the abuser's behaviour. There is so much love from all of the posters on here - I truly cannot show you my gratitude. I digress: Anyways - 2 weekends ago - my ex and I had a conversation. *side note* He is on again/off again with me (we were talking daily for months until March 2020). Suddenly - he stopped talking to me specifically (not his girl friends, his new friends, his land lady etc). He'll contact me once every 1 - 2 weeks…

I feel like I will never be able to have a healthy relationship with a guy because I am too insecure and jealous. I am all the time thinking he is talking to other girls or he finds other girls more attractive than me and that he is gonna leave me. Everytime I am scrolling on instagram or twitter and I see beaufitul girls I instantly think what he will think if he saw her. He would fall in love with her because she is prettier than me. It is the worst feeling in the world. It doesn't matter the skin color of the girl or the weight. Like... i am really skinny, white and I look like a 15 year old although I am 23. And everytime I see a girl tanner I feel bad because she lo…

I see my gf has multiple chats with guys I don’t know on her social media. She doesn’t share details and is often secretive with her phone. Always on messenger and gets dings late at night. I have caught her messaging and ex before and deleting chats. She isn’t the type to cheat but can do stupid things when drunk sometimes. should asked who is texting you so late? or if I see she got a message from one of this guys, should I ask what she is talking to them about?!