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My partner and I are in an age-gap relationship of sorts (4 years isn't that much, all things considered) - we are at the same stage in life, have the same values, care about the same things, love our families the same, prioritise our children, want a drama-free zone, are working together on a passion project with our dream boss, have made lots of friends on our journey, have learnt (and taught!) some lessons, have let some friends go but it finally looks like we all are on the same page 🙂 .

I started a new job at a pool a few weeks ago and I’m really into this guy. We both work a lot so I see him usually 4-5 days a week. He’s so sweet and it’s rare that I ever have an interest in anyone so when I do my feelings are usually pretty strong. Only problem is he’s 19 and I’m 16. The age of consent laws in my state are 16 so it’s not the legal part I’m concerned about anyways, just what other people would think of it or what any other 19 year olds reading this think, plus I’m not really interested in a sexual relationship anyways. I’ve thought a lot about the age gap too and I don’t think 3 years is that bad, also coming from someone who has been manipulated and co…

Believe it or not, this is the FIRST time I've ever posted on a forum (I know - it's 2021)!!! Just wanted kind, thoughtful responses from strangers... Basically, an 18yr old man randomly struck up a conversation with me recently and it was such a breath of fresh air...I thought it was particularly bold because we were both masked. I'm a very young looking 41yr old woman and am often guessed to be 25! We did exchange numbers, have been texting constantly and meet for lunch. I know for a fact that he's interested in starting something yet all the while, the thought of his family condemning me is at the forefront. I personally have no issue with the age differenc…

I am confused. I deliver to this business on a semi regular bases. There is this young woman there that is half my age who always goes out of her way to greet and talk with me. We have done the eye contact thing, me checking her out, and as far as I can tell vice a versa. She seems so sweet, but I am confused why she would be even egging me on, If that is even the case. Maybe she is just a very nice person. I of course find her very attractive. Been out of the game quite a while now, so was looking for any advise/thoughts worth getting.

Just a general question If a person in their 50’s has sexual fantasies about someone in their 20’s does that make that person a pedo even if that person has no intention of ever pursuing it because they know it is wrong and or they really care about the person and know it would be wrong (Yes I am talking about my past that is over but there are things I am trying to learn from and grow)

ok so this happened about 8 years ago. after a brutal breakup with my ex for 2 years i was depressed, during 2011 i got addicted to a few dating apps, my purpose was just hooking up to burry my depression and maybe find a proper girl. suddenly i found JD on her profile there was a phone number and a few of her details, on her profile said "age:22" and she looked the part too. After a week's worth of chatting we finally agreed to meet at my house and hook up. We got along well with shared interest and all, and a few days later we hit it again. we werent anything exclusive but we had a very sexual relationship for about 8 to 9 months when finally she said she wan…

When I was 16 I was what I believe now is being groomed by an older man. I seriously do not recall ever having sex with him. My son born that year turned out to be his. So naturally I’m freaked out. Like this couldn’t be true. I’d only slept with my boyfriend. Well dcfs in Illinois. Takes my kids. I had one at 15 and one @ 16 and they took them from me and placed them with the guy that was forever older than me. So he proceeds to wait until my boyfriend and I break up to demand a dna test from the state. They grant it. The kid turns out to be his.they give him custody. Mind you I’m 16 at the time. And now he who’s 28 has both of my kids. Fast forward a year. The only wa…

Hi, I am 23 years old and my boyfriend is 20. Me and my boyfriend have been together for nearly 5 years. I have a good paying job and have completed a degree. I desire to get married soon and have a few children. But although my boyfriend has not completed any studies, he had a good paying job. He intended to propose before the end of this year and already saved the day to get married next year. However, after he lost his job a few months ago. He suddenly blamed me for all my suggestions and encouragements to move towards committment. He is now indicating that he's not ready to get married and have children and wanted to just forget about all our plans until he is e…

I am a 45 year old woman professional and in great shape. I recently met a 23 year old male at a restaurant that I frequent (he works there) and he has been pursuing me. At first I was bit freaked about the age difference, but now find him quite attractive. Im really out of the dating game, but want to check this guy out. My last relationship was with a man, similar to my age who is gay and has never come out. Im looking to have some fun and enjoy life while you can in these crazy Covid times. I find engaging with this man a little odd. Is this what 23 year old do? FaceTime for sex and play peek a boo show me what’s under your skirt? He’s a nice enough g…

My girlfriend and I have been in a serious relationship for about 4 years. I’m 26 and she’s 34. We both make a good income and feel like we are ready to get married and start a family. My family and friends have been driving me insane trying to convince me that the age gap is too much. Saying that i wont see it now but down the road when we are 45/53 or 60/68 it will be harder on me. Am i not seeing something? Has anyone been in an age gap relationship and still make it till their 60’s together?

Hello all I’m currently I love with a man who is 41 years older than I. We met at work and had and instant connection. He interested me on a level that I had not ever known we talked for hours about life things we want to do and about our shared interests at the end of this all he said that he was In love with me I was unsure as we had always had this playful relationship. We made a date for coffee and whilst I was sat downstairs he was sat upstairs so we completely missed eachother, he later after that said he assumed i wasn’t interested and I had assumed he had forgotten. After that we had a good laugh about it and tried again from there it was coffee date after coffee…

I met R when was 17 and I was 43. I was a teacher working at the school. She was a student at the school but was not in any of my classes. She reached out to me through an app called QuizUp, which is a trivia game that was popular at the time. It was December 2013. Over the course of six months, we became friends, maintaining an inappropriately close relationship for a teacher and student to have. I know that it was unethical but we never intended it to go any further. However, there was some physical contact during the last two weeks of school. After that, we agreed it was best to not pursue this relationship any further and remain friends. We fell in love with…

Ok so let me start by say there is a pretty big age gap but tbh I don't think it should play that big of a part, I'm 38 and he's 29. We met about a year ago, he was living in a halfway house fresh outta prison, I have always had this thing for the "bad boys". When we first got together as with all relationships it was pretty good as a matter of fact it was pretty good for a while, yes we had our stupid fights here and there but that's just part of getting to know someone and getting use to new things if we all did the samethings the same way what would be the point life would be pretty borings. Here's my problem it seems like no matter what happens it's always my fault he…

I am 47 and met a younger woman (24) a few months ago through my job. We started talking basically just friendly and shortly thereafter we flirted some too. We talked and/or texted daily for a couple months. We both admitted there was an attraction. I took her on a date and we just hung out a time or two. It just kept progressing. She was still dating other people and my feelings for her reached a point to where we had some conversation about us. She confessed she really liked me too but kept saying it wouldn't work out. Finally she called me one evening after a date that went bad. I got upset and she asked why. I told her how I felt completely and that I didn'…

I met this guy that I really liked on bumble, but there is one problem I am 16 and he is 20.I know I should not be on there because my profile says I am 18 and anything can happen, but I was really looking for someone 18. We are only four year apart, which is not that bad when you think about it. Moreover, he wants to take me out and the only way he can do that is if my parents know. I cannot keep something like that from them. How should I tell them? When should I tell them?

So he’s a doctor and I’m studying to be a doctor also. He mentors me and we support each other in times of despair. We don’t really go out much because he’s sometimes busy but he does go out of his way to make time for me. He makes me so happy. When I’m with him I can’t stop smiling. We’re playful. But we know when to get serious. He just gets me. I can’t tell him anything and he doesn’t judge me instead he gives me advice. I love that. But sometimes I feel like our age gap and our paths will slowly ruin our relationship. I’m somewhat insecure and I always feel like he’s going to leave me for someone else his age. But whenever I bring it up he quickly dismisses it and…

Im a 21 male and he is 37, we've been in a fwb situation for the past year and we're thinking of taking our relationship to the next level and start officially dating, but we are trying to figure out the logistics to see if it would even work. Some background info, he works at the college I go to (not a Professor/TA) and lives pretty close to me as well, so seeing each other/spending time together isn't a problem, as I can pop on over anytime. We really love each other and want to make this work, but we have been trying to figure out if it'd work and have gotten stuck and could use some outside advice. The main 2 questions we've been talking about are being what's the bes…

So I am an 18 year old guy and there is this 20 year old chick at my workplace thats real cool and just being around her makes me smile. I never done this before but I would really like to get to know her better, so I asked her out, and she used the age excuse. Should I have waited? Or what did I do wrong? First time I've felt like this and I would really like to get closer to her.

Hi, I am 31 and have been dating a man 19 years older than me the past 2 months. We got along great and met online through a dating app. what issues should I expect in the future? Has anyone seen an age gap this wide work out? What conflicts are we likely to have?

I can't believe I'm writing to the internet about this, but I feel so alone right now. I am in a 11-12 year age gap relationship with my boyfriend. He's starting to experience symptoms of low T or maybe even mild ED. It's deeply affecting our sex life and my happiness in the relationship, but I know it's out of his control. He's made a doctors appointment, but I don't know how to cope with this. Not something I envisioned dealing with as a sophomore in college.. advice? Also, I struggle a lot feeling like I missed out on his "golden years." We both met at a rave when I was 18, we've been together for 2 years, and i always hear his friends bring up their EDC or wild rav…

I (30y/o F) recently ran into my best friends younger cousin (24 y/o M) at a wedding this weekend, and was really attracted to him, which is super weird because the last time I remember seeing him he was probably only 8-9 years old. We didn’t get talk a ton (I was the maid of honor, so I was at the Bride’s beck and call and he was the DJ during the Wedding band’s breaks), but I think the attraction may have been mutual because at one point during the night he put his hand on my lower back while we were talking, (maybe this was really nothing but it didn’t seem like it). Sadly I was called away by the bride almost immediately after this happened so I didn’t really have…

So I'm 17f and I am dating a 23m. My parents do not let us even hang out as "friends" so we have to sneak around. Both of us know its wrong but we have feelings for each other. I have never been in a relationship like this before but I know there's a huge power dynamic due to age difference - what are signs that he is taking advantage of me? Also any general advice?

Can someone e plain the logic in believing that a trigger simply means that your aren’t over the one who caused the trigger? My thought is it can go one of both ways. 1. You aren’t over your Ex 2. You’ve learned not to fall into the same patterns so a trigger is a red flag. I had an argument with my girlfriend this morning about something and because it was a trigger to me she labeled me insecure because of the trigger. Where a behavior of hers concerned me and I address it and all hell broke lose. Can you guys give me your opinions. I’m interested in knowing peoples thoughts in this subject.

Where to begin? I am a guy that is 39 years old. I am dating a co-worker, E, that is 57 years. Her husband died in a car accident back in October. We have been dating for about 3 weeks now. Her children are grown - two daughters in their 30s, both married, one has two children of her own. They do not seem to like me too much. I need some help and advice!

So to begin with, I don't believe that every facet of the story I am about to tell boils down to the 20 year age gap between myself and my boyfriend of 3 years. Being at different life stages certainly plays a role in the problems I'm about to touch upon, and ultimately I thought I'd post it here, as it's where I sought help exactly 3 years ago upon beginning the relationship with the same individual. Please be gentle on me. I should also mention that this is my FIRST serious intimate relationship with anybody. I was 20 when we met and I'm soon to be 24, while he is 43. Though I had been on dates and had one guy show interest in me prior to this relationship, I had been v…