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Talked to this girl on tinder everyday for a month before we went on our first date. After date 3 she said she had a really good time and was looking forward to seeing me again. During the 3rd date she was talking about an activity that happens in winter that we should both go too so in my head I’m assuming this is going well and it has the potential to go somewhere. That week I noticed the texts slowly started to dry up day by day and by the end of it I got a reply after a day (I know a day isn’t that bad but when you like someone and you usually talk like 20-30 messages a day and then you see it slowly go down you start to question it). So I sent her a funny video about…

I F(18) have been dating my current boyfriend M(19) for about 6 months. We met at our old jobs and instantly clicked. I finally felt like I have met my other half. We both have had a toxic relationship before each other. We both ended up getting cheated on. Some things from the past are ending up in our relationship. We both think we met each other for a reason. That we both are finally in a healthy loving relationship. He truly makes me feel loved and I do love him with my whole heart but there has been some problems. I have the same problems with him and small things I ask for. It constantly feels like I'm repeating myself asking for the same thing. His communicati…

After almost 4 years, my abusive ex husband has decided he wants back in my daughters life. 4 years ago he had another baby with his now new wife and decided he wanted our daughter to get to know her baby brother, i obviously said no contact with him as he was really abusive with her to. One night after dancing, her dad collected her and i had a call to say she was staying with her dad now as she wanted to get to know him again. After 3 weeks she was told to live with his mam as there was no room in the house for her even though she'd never met her paternal grandmother. After 2 weeks living with her, she kicked her out as she was hard work and they cut all contact with he…

I’m a recently 22-year-old college student, with absolutely no relationship experience. Living in a highly conservative (think “Fox News is too liberal”, literal swastikas hanging on the wall “conservative”) family, I’ve spent my life doing everything possible to hide the fact I’m gay, all the while hoping somehow I was not. I’ve come to terms with the fact that I am, and that’s not going to change, but I still have to hide it. In fact, just hiding it isn’t good enough. At home, I must be gay if I’m not actively lusting after and borderline sexually harassing women. It’s exhausting. Having been homeschooled on top of this, I’ve never had the chance to meet or tell an…

Was involved with a married man for years. He moved far away from his wife and son, says he left selfishly with no remorse. (Then says how much he misses his son- but it’s his doing!) Says he’s had no physical contact with his wife in years and they’re staying together for their son and because he doesn’t want to lose his $. Initially made me think he was leaving his wife, then (surprise!) never mind. He kept me hidden and said he wants no relationship or commitment. At one point he told me he wanted some other faraway woman and she was coming to stay with him, and that I should move on. We barely spoke for a while but even then, if I dated anybody else he’d try to m…

2 years back I met a guy at work and we started dating. We have cultural differences (we are from a place where some parents are too particular about culture), so in the beginning itself I told him "if you feel our cultural differences becomes a hurdle in case if we want to take it further in future, it's better to stop dating right now". He said it won't be a problem. 5 months after we started dating, pandemic started so we moved to our respective hometowns. Then it became a distant relationship but we are in touch all the time. We never had any huge arguments it's all going fine for an year. Then oneday he said if this pandemic continues and we have to stay part fo…

Hi, I'm 24 now. When I was 14 one of my classmates brought a love proposal to me(say x). I rejected him, later in time we continued being friends . At present, I've been in a relationship with other guy(say y) since an year. y is a nice guy but he is not sure about taking the relationship forward. Last week x proposed me again (this time marriage proposal) after 10 years saying that he never felt like that with anyone and it doesn't matter how much time it is but his love will be same for me. There are many differences between us, he said we can work on those things. He deserves yes as an answer. relationship with him seems long-lasting. But I rejected him again because I…

Six months ago I began dating a 30 year old woman. She is an aspiring pop singer who supports herself by being a DJ. I used to work as a music manager and producer, and in fact, worked with the top recording artist from her native Russia. I began helping her with her music with us at first being friends and then I fell in love with her and she says she fell in love with me. We spend many hours a week together, working together and having fun together. I spend several nights a week at her place, in part because she does not have a car (nor know how to drive) and in part because we record at her studio apartment. She tells me her Mom is flying in from Moscow to v…

Hello all, I don't know how I feel about creating a new thread so recently after my last one; it seems that just after I conquered my negative thoughts about one topic, I'm now dealing with fears about the next. I sense a pattern here and it's really quite unfortunate. I have always had jealousy issues throughout my past relationships. It's a recurring thing, I'm afraid. I thought I'd outgrown it now, but the past week has sadly shown me otherwise. My boyfriend of 3 weeks (a very young relationship, I know!) has attended his first week of on-site college after the covid lockdown. He's mentioned on multiple occasions how he previously missed having college f…

My boyfriend has been separated but still legally married for 4 years now. I've asked him about getting a divorce over the course of these 4 years and he always says it's an easy thing but he never did anything about it. This July he told me that he'd have the talk with her but he never did. He always says I'm going to call her and tell her and then the day ends and nothing ends up happening. He's had ample opportunity to have this talk and get the proceedings going. So today he talked to his wife who had been trying to obtain citizenship for a friend but the friend got denied so my boyfriend suggested to her that they divorce so that she could marry the friend and h…

My wife continually allows her 19 year old son to treat me with disrepect, he is disrespectful, lies, and spends about 95% of his time playing video games. He hasn't looked for work, zero motivation to take any initiative or responsibility. My wife doesn't take any measures to help. The worst is that she placates her son, doesn't acknowledge his poor behavior towards me and its been years worth of struggle that is causing me to have massive resentment and want out of this relationship. I need help desperately.

My boyfriend goes through periods of depression and is currently pushing me away. He says he's been like this ever since he was a kid and goes through phases. He has medication but he doesn't take it. He says this doesn't affect his feelings for me, that his feelings are still the same and that his behaviour has nothing to do with me. I have been trying to keep myself upbeat but despite the fact that I am quite an independent person, I can't help feeling hurt when he doesn't communicate the way he used to. It's been really hard. I love him. He's an amazing guy, we have a very strong connection and he has so many qualities I adore, I'm not going to just give up…

Should I break up with my girlfriend? Tldr: I found out my girlfriend has been lying to me for over a year and recently came upon a video of her having sex with another man. She doesn't want to break up. Her father is visiting us and I have to make a choice. Background: We moved in together really quick because at the time, I needed to move out of the country for a new job. After the first few months of us living in the new city, she started meeting black men (I am black she is white and we live in a predominantly white country) During the course of a year, we have had fights over this, because these black men she would freely give her number kep…

Hello all, I am brand new here. Just writing to try and get some feedback/vent about a recent issue and would love if anyone could offer some advice or can share from similar experiences, as I'm having a real hard time dealing with it. So about 3 weeks ago, I met this girl online and we had an instant connection. Started chatting back and forth on the app and soon after got her number and we began to text every day (some flirtiness but mostly just casual chat and getting to know each other etc) We went on our first date a few days later (this would be about 2.5 weeks ago). Amazing date, we both really connected well. A few days later we went on our second …

Hi all, Im 32 M shes 31 F. I run a meetup group, and she attended one, and then told me before i even got home from that meetup that she thought i was very cute and provided her number. Fast forward about 5 weeks - we've been talking most days via text, and have had 6-8 dates (dinner, bowling, drinking with her roommate/bf, etc). We went through a period on text late at night essentially sexting/talking about sex positions we like, etc with the intention of doing it on Thursday. I slept over Thurs night, Fri Night this week. I said I'd come over last night (sat) but she said she was just planning to have a relaxing night, so im like okay... needless to say, doin…

So I found out from the sexual assault I contracted an STD. The detective told me before I found out when I asked him by law I don’t have to tell the assailant. I feel I should have the detective let him know in case he does this again and gives that person the STD he gave me! Chances are he may already know he has an STD but there are no symptoms for males. how should I proceed? Should I tell the detective the guy who raped me gave me an STD so the rapist is aware? or does it not matter?

We have made out lots of times and full sex twice. After the second time, he said I was sultry and sensual. He even kept hugging and 💋 me that evening. He made a concerning comment about my private parts, that there's a weird odor. I don't smell anything bad. He said I need to get it resolved because he doesn't want any infections. I always shower before sex so how can there be a smell? I'm a bit put off by his comment!

BF is teed off that I won't buy dinner sometimes when we go out. He has a good job and makes $68,000 yr so what's the problem here? What a cheapskate. We moved in together last month and that's when the complaints started. I do the laundry, make dinner/lunch and buy groceries. I'm tolerant of him needing to watch the races on TV so why can't he just continue paying for our outings, like I ask? This is getting to be a drag. We were always having so much fun before moving in together. Boo 😔

Hi, I'm 38 years old now (hetero male) and since breaking up with my previous girlfriend, over 11 years ago now I've had next to no interest from women. In that time I had nothing at all until I discovered tinder, then a couple of dates with extremely incompatible women, though on both occasions I really gave it a shot, encouraging a second date in the hope we might find some hint of compatability, a couple of dates which resulted in a 'thanks but you're not for me' text the following afternoon, and a random and brief FWB. At this point I know I have to face facts, that some people just never find love, and there's little to suggest I can avoid that. I'm ge…

Hi In the past I have written a lot about things and why I am not here to talk about them. My journey toward personal growth is never ending. I have had different people at various times tell me conflicting things about me. Some have said I am much too critical of myself while others say I am too lenient on myself. I know both are bad so how do I or anyone for that matter strike the balance of being self compassionate but also taking personal responsibility? Have a great day!

I (23, male) have been on three dates with a girl (20, female) I met on Tinder. All three dates went great. We had lots of fun, we stayed out until late every time, but we still haven't kissed yet. I have very, very little experience in dating so a lot of this is very new to me and I can get nervous when trying to flirt or make a move. Additionally, I just couldn't find a moment to kiss her that didn't feel forced. Because of this, I'm starting to think that I may have been too passive during the second and third date (as I didn't initiate a lot of physical contact) and now it's making me feel very insecure about how my general demeanor towards her. So now I'm w…

Hi all 🙂 Looking for advice on the following: After a few tumultuous years (no details) and a lot of lesson learning, I am feeling better than I ever have been. I've lost weight, have gained confidence in all areas of my life, I feel emotionally and mentally stronger than ever (I actually am the sanest person I know!) and like my old self again. I have realised that being autistic is a gift and am finally at peace with who I am.:) In the last few months, I have mindfully and intentionally worked towards raising the love vibrations with small acts of kindness, advising those around me on relationship issues, making a point of smiling and saying hello to ever…

(Tracy) and I started dating in college, for 4 years. We were just perfect together, and I loved her so much. Our relationship was excellent, until suddenly it wasn't. She was depressed due to graduating and not having a job and staying at home. This coupled with some other issues like a 3 year gap between us, we broke up. I don't think I processed the breakup and ended up meeting someone on Tinder. This girl, I fell really hard for. We had similar interests, she was funny, smart and we had excellent chemistry. I had no idea what rebounding was at the time and I thought things were going so well with her, that I was forgetting about my ex. Time went by and about 5-6 …

My boyfriend and I technically started dating in March 2020 but broke up in May 2020 for one month. The first few months we dated, I always felt like something was off. Like one foot was out the door the whole time for him. When we broke up, I found out via social media that he hung out with his ex the weekend after he broke it off with me. I always felt like he still had feelings for her. They were engaged and had broken up in 2016 so it had been awhile. She cheated on him several times while they were dating snd it was an overall very unhealthy relationship which I do believe my boyfriend probably played a role in. We ended up reconnecting in June 2020 and I gave …

I have been to a lovely steam room several times for therapeutic reasons. It loosens up my tight muscles and helps me sleep. Tonight I was on the upper level and a man started talking to me. Fine I thought, no harm in chatting. Of course we are all in bathing suits. Mine is nothing sexy at all. More like competitive swimmer attire. He kept looking at my legs and saying "wow your legs are awesome". He went on to discuss his back problems and asked if I knew how to tweeq his stuck shoulder joint. Really, is this proper decoram for a public steam room or am I simply socially daft?