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I’ve been with my partner 8 years. We live with my Mom who is 76, and have since start of relationship. I’m 53. He’s 59. We both have good jobs. He is a carpenter. I do clerical. We do not have a mortgage. We pay all the misc bills, gas, electric, etc. and grocery shop. It balances out, helping Mom as she’s not able to get around very well. Here is my issue, my partner takes on a lot of side jobs for others, to make extra cash, for our future he says. There are things I would like taken care of in the home, I’m always put on the back burner. Will do when gets time. And it seems to drag on waiting. Am I wrong to make a fuss that he constantly puts others before our h…

So I'm in a position where I really hate my current retail job and I very much want to quit. But the problem is that there are a few of my female co-workers whom I'm interested in asking out. Summoning the courage to ask them out is an issue in and of itself, but I also have to figure out how exactly to ask them out. I'd very much like a shot at at least one of these women and I want to do it sooner than later so as to get things squared away and finally leave this job. But my issue is not only deciding which one to pursue, but also wanting to be careful about asking out co-workers. I know dating people at work is an iffy thing, but my social life with girls isn't ex…

I am in love with my best friend. We have been friends for 7 years. She was originally my ex's best friend but after certain events that happened with my ex, we became really close and we are best friends. Ever since then I had feeling for her on and off because she kept getting into relationships with other guys. Now she is single again and I was thinking about telling her how I feel but she just started talking to this guy through an online dating app. She says that they are just friends and don't really see a potential for a relationship but every time I always see her texting. I am getting insanely jealous and possessive which I hate and am not sure how to deal with i…

I met a guy onlline a year ago - we got on great, but he said he was just out of a relationship and wasn't ready, so took his profile down. After Covid etc, we both found ourselves back online and reconnected and met. We got on exceptionally well and he said he wanted to see me again. He reiterated this by messages the following days - then comm stopped. He ended up saying he didn't want to take things further. Then that night I was talking with my bestie who was also online, and I asked how the dating was going. She ended up meeting him in the past couple of days and he's asked to see her again. He's chosen her instead of me! I'm obviously out of the picture becaus…

Fingers, actually. Pointer fingers, specifically. The first and second knuckles. First knuckle moreso than second knuckle. Right hand moreso than left hand. It woke me up about a week ago. Heat and massaging the knuckles seem to help. But it's annoying to rest the knuckles on a heating pad or massage them because I need my hands for important things, like fidgeting. I think the pain is mouse-related. I've started noticing myself clenching my hand around the mouse. Switching from right to left helps a little, BUT I'm much slower with my left hand and I can tell already that I'm not going to spend the time to learn. I also use my ring finger and po…

So, I say lonely and confused for various reason which I will explain below. One I deal with depression and so many things put me into this state. I have no real friends. I have aquaintances, those that were friends but I never hear from them. I do have one or two friends, but they live about an hour or more away, so I never see them. The rest I never hear. I feel I could die tomorrow and they would never know if I passed away. That is how much I feel disconnected with most of those I know. Ok, so I know you are probably saying, that I should reach out the two friends I have. Well, yes you are correct and I have. But they are married, have kids, and liv…

I'm confused. Let me take you back about 30 years.... I was in grade 9, sitting in my typing class, and this guy sat in front of me. I kid you not, I was instantly in love. Infatuated. I held on to this crush for two years. Finally, we dated. It lasted all of 2 months. He told me his feelings for me were too strong and they were scaring him. We remained friends. We graduated and moved on. We've stayed in touch over the years, on and off. We both got married (to other people obviously) and he moved to a different city so we never saw each other. We talked once in a blue moon over email or on fb, always very innocent convos like "how are the kids?" "how's the job?…

Every year I dread this day and I always tell myself it's just another day but it never is. I'm 24 (male) and I lost my dad when I was a child so it's been over 15 years now and yet I feel such a void in my life that never goes away. I grew up without my dad and that upsets me that I never had him there to support me or give me advice and I feel like a lot of my issues with anxiety and lack of confidence are rooted in the fact I didn't have him there. Losing him didn't impact me too much until I was about 18 when it hit me all of a sudden out of nowhere and I didn't know how to cope with it. I still don't know how to cope with it and I just bottle it away because it feels…

Hi! I recently got into a relationship with a man whom is in the army. We met online and he wants me to come to where he is stationed currently. He is only my 2nd relationship, my first only had lasted a month as he wasn't the greatest person. I really do want to as it has been two weeks and we are officially a couple now. But I have some hesitation. You hear so many things about crazy things that happen and although I do trust him and believe he is a good hearted genuine guy I just worry that you can never be sure. How should I go about this situation?

Let me preface this by saying, my boyfriend (40) is wonderful, he takes care of me (25) and we do absolutely everything together, but… A few months ago a girl at work who is known for being a huge liar was telling my best friend over text that she was sleeping with him without any proof. I was brought to an isolated place to be told this information only to be heart broken. I go home and without any hesitation he tells me he didn’t do it. With me being upset still he spends the whole night he comforting me. He’s sweet and trying to get me to smile, keeps reassuring me he didn’t do anything and everything is okay for days. this girl isn’t even his type either and he n…

So I’ve been with my girlfriend for about 10 months now, but it’s long distance. We see each other about once a month, she comes to stay with me for a week or two and I’ll go stay with her for a week or two back and forth and that’s been going okay as far as keeping our schedules open for each other. But for some reason every time I’m with her, I get really anxious to the point where I’m throwing up. The first time I ever stayed with her I was nauseous and unable to eat for the whole week, but then over time it’s gradually only been when we’re about to go to bed. I’ll be fine and then all of sudden have to get up and go throw up and I rely on antihistamine med…

I don’t really know what I’m feeling. My ex and I had an extremely toxic relationship on and off 11 years. We have a daughter and we literally just started coparenting cordially. He has a girlfriend (whom he was moved in with two weeks after I decided to let him go). They are expecting a child next month. I don’t want him but I feel envious, or maybe jealous. And not because of her, but him. It’s like part of me feels I’m in a race to beat him to a truly happy life after all that he has put me through. I desperately want him to somehow beg me back so I can turn him down. I know it’s wrong, but I don’t know how to get past it at this point. Help.

Hey all, I've been dating this girl for a while now, things are going well and I hope it keeps progressing. We haven't had sex yet and when the topic came up she said, "Do you not think it's too soon?" Now I totally respect boundaries and said to her I'm happy to go at whatever pace makes her comfortable, it's only confused me as I know with her previous partners it happened a lot quicker. Some of those partners were long term, some very short. I just don't know why it's different with me. I ask myself, could it be that she's changed as a person since then, or does she not find me as attractive as them or anything else that co…

Hi everyone! First off I am active, so just ignore my username I can't change it at the moment lol. I really need some advice... Here's some background into my love life... So I am a 20 year old female and I started dating my first boyfriend when I was 16, my freshman year of high school. We dated for almost 4 years. I broke up with him in my second semester senior year of high school, which was when the pandemic began and we were shut down. We had little to no contact for 4 months, then I reached out to him and at first he didn’t want to get back with me, but then after 3 months of talking we are back together. A few months before we broke up, I learned that m…

I met this guy at work. We got along very well like we known each other for a long time. We started flirting through text for about 8 months. He eventually invited me to have drinks, we had a good time and we had sex that night. The next day we both agreed that we should do it again. The problem is I am married and he's in a relationship. But we agreed is our little private thing. We continue to meet up and have sex and texting each other. We had really good sex each other and really enjoy our time together. He is very nice, sweet and affectionate in person and in text. He will text me if not every day but every other day. He wanted to do all the things that I wanted to d…

Hi there, I’m a girl, somewhere around my mid-20s, been on a few dates but have never been in a relationship before, a bit scared to because the first guy I was actually interested in and went on a date with was married and had two children, didn’t know until a colleague told me. It was humiliating. But that’s another story. Now I’m kinda close with this guy who used to be my colleague and we were pretty much together all the time at work. He was very protective of me and we would talk almost everyday. His messages would be very encouraging, he would call me when I’m down, and send hearts in his texts. When he left for another job, we used to call each other eve…

I'm so frustrated with my mother. I'm a grown woman with grown-up kids. All my kids are great, yet one is untidy. I've recently invested some money into my house. One of the items has been broken in my daughter's bedroom. I really am not happy. When I expressed my unhappiness about the broken item my daughter said it didn't matter. I obviously didn't agree--but my mother has! Straight away she stuck up for my daughter saying I was totally being dramatic. I don't see how. I have every right to be upset, even though I didn't scream or shout. So I now have a broken fixture to my house and my mother and daughter both telling me I am being dramatic. I tried to project it back …

I have been with my partner for almost 14 years. A little background on us, I was an 18-year-old virgin that had never even been on a date and he was a 27-year-old that had slept around plenty but was ready to try to settle down. When we met, it was like wildfire. We clicked on so many levels. I not only opened up to him emotionally but physically, which I had never done, and he was patient, kind, and opened himself up emotionally, which he had never done. We fell in love so quickly and many had their doubts about it lasting but, despite the odds, we have remained together through blissful times and the hardest times either of us had known. 7 years into our relationship, …

i got a job at a pool about a month ago working the snack bar and i’ve really fancied one of the lifeguards there and didn’t know if he had any interest in me too, and since its just a summer job i wanted to make it known that i at least thought he was attractive. so a few days ago i went to give him some food he ordered and it was just him and one other lifeguard sitting there so i decided to say something since it wasn’t a big group of people and i didn’t think it would get too weird. so i looked right at him and i said “your eyes are beautiful! they go really well with the color of your hair too, i always thought green eyes and brown haie went so well together, i dont…

I wish I was pretty. At school all my friends are drop dead gorgeous. Everyone has changed their look coming back prettier than ever, while I have looked the same for basically all my life. Sometimes my friends say that I'm pretty when I self-doubt myself. But I don't think it's true. Every morning I look into the mirror and see all the things wrong with my face. My face is too long, my nose has a huge bump on it, my eyes are to far apart, I have too much acne. I hate everything about it. My cousin is extremely pretty and I always wish I looked like her. My sister is so pretty and always gets compliments. I'm a person who always preaches self love and confidence when…

All my life I've really valued romantic love, and one of the most important things to me is finding a partner I can make memories with. Unfortunately, I seem to go for childish dudes and I am trying really hard to change that but not sure how. I know I need to love myself, and I am getting better at that. But I have a long way to go I think. For example, just yesterday for Valentine's. I had been talking to a dude for a while, and he seemed so perfect. He was spiritual just like me, and that's mostly what we talked about. He read part of the book I'm writing, he did meditations with me. I really thought that he was the dude I had been waiting for. He even physically …

Hi all, Completely new to this forum so bear with me here. I'm a 24 year old grad student and have been dating my 21 year old girlfriend for almost two years now. She was up front about her mental illness from the start, and I had some semblance of what I was getting into, having dealt with depression and anxiety myself in the past. However, her mental health has taken a nose dive over the past year. She's been frequently suicidal, combative, etc. I feel as though her entire life hangs in my hands and I'm responsible for dealing with all of her moods and crises. I know it's not my responsibility and I know it shouldn't be this way, but I do sincerely want to st…

I’ve been dating this guy since December. Anyway I found out a few days ago that he is still in contact with the last women he slept with even though he told me at the time that because of the way she reacted when he called things off he didn’t want anything to do with her. They’re both going to a festival in September and she has offered him a lift with her and some friends. He’s now telling me that they’re friends but hardly ever speak but I just find this really odd. Am I over reacting?

Hi guys, I’m heartbroken please be gentle with me. Came out of a marriage and my first ever relationship since was a guy I met out of lockdown - we chatted and met when we could during lockdown but honestly had the best 7 months together - something I never experienced in my marriage. He did have a few mental health issues, he was very obsessive and would call me 24/7 and sometimes he struggled tog get out of bed as he was depressed. We live hours apart but called eachother all day and face timed all day and met up half way or at his for a week here and there , meeting him was the best days I’ve ever had (gotta day the sex was *** which gives me confidence he ain’t sleepi…

We were together 12y, married 3, and have a 8 month old. Anywho its been a heck of a saga, but she showed her hand and it was the last straw. Last tuesday I officially had filed for divorce, and im now going through the process. I wont waste time talking about her more, but am trying to figure out my path forward after this 12y saga. What sort of steps should I guy like myself do to re-invent, and re-think who i am going forward and maybe at some point get lucky and meet someone new. Im looking for thoughts and ideas. Thanks