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We arrived at our new posting on Sept 3. Before I moved I thought I would be excited. I am definitely NOT. My new Q is all new and renovated but so so so much smaller than my other one and had no basement. I had to donate or trash many of our belongings. I got much more involved in my community here early and have joined a choir and gone out with new friends and restarted my business. I, however, am not feeling it. I want to go home but know I can’t . Even though I am trying to fit in and be happy I am just .not . feeling. it. 😢 Everyone in my family tells me I should be happy that I have a place to live that is newly renovated and that it’…

I have posted on here before about a breakup and the woes of that. Within 5months, I lost both my grandparents, and my "bf" broke up with me. So one can say this year hasn't been the BEST year. I was doing therapy for a few months after my grandpa (may 9th, which was mother's day) died, and my "bf" broke up me (early June). My grandma died Saturday and she was my birthday buddy since our birthdays were close together. I personally think she was bored without my grandpa, because they were always together for the last 70yrs of their lives. Anyways, I tried therapy, and even went on antidepressants. While people said they thought therapy was helping me I was 50/50 on …

Okay so...it's a lot of information but I want to give you guys a very objective run down of the situation. So this is my younger sister who I consider my soul mate in many ways. She was my best friend growing up and we got along so well, that other people were often jealous of our bond that I consider healthy (other than typical sibling arguments). She's in a dark period in her life right now, battling mental health and very low self-esteem. I have been supporting her-or trying my best too! Some more background info...our parents are narcissists and I was the scapegoat child mostly in the eyes of my step-father (my sister's biological father) and my sister was the scapeg…

Hi! Please, nice comments only. I just want to know if anyone has been in a similar situation or has any advice. My (24f) boyfriend (25m) and I have been together about 2 years, and up until last winter, his ex-girlfriend was still in love with him. They had a messy break-up and, even while me and my boyfriend were together, she was constantly texting him and posting about him on insta, twitter and facebook (in a platonic way, but it seemed like a lot to me). He admitted to me that they they were co-dependent in their relationship, and she placed a lot of pressure on him, twisting his arm in many situations. During the pandemic, my boyfriend and I moved across the co…

Hi, My ex girlfriend’s friend asked me out on a date yesterday. We broke up 10 years ago, but I am not sure it’s the best idea and wouldn’t want to have any issues with my ex. Last month my ex wrote me and said her good girlfriend recently returned back to Europe after living in the US for a while. She needed help finding a job and thought I could help her since she was looking for one in my city. I gave her some nice tips and offered to reach out to my friend that works in HR. She invited me to visit and said I could sleep over at her cousin’s where she is so I wouldn’t have to pay for hotel (which I declined because I would feel awkward and never met this…

Hi friends, so i've been struggling with my husband's hygiene ever since I met him 7 years ago. He thinks it's okay to not brush his teeth or shower in the morning and then tries to initiate intimacy, which I obviously shut down. I tell him why and either he gets annoyed and drags himself to the shower or just rolls over and falls asleep, leaving me unsatisfied. Thankfully, it's gotten a bit better so now he knows to brush his teeth without me nagging him, but he won't shower every morning. His argument is "well I just showered last night" (it would be the next afternoon) and I would smell a bit of B.O. I'm at the point where I don't know if what i'm asking for is unreaso…

This woman's intentions confuse me. Here is what she was doing - in May-July, she came out to the bars in my hometown with her friends, Christina and Becky. At the bars, she followed me around, would walk past me and say my ecig smells good, and run away. She would walk past me, kick my foot, and run away. She would come up to me, introduce herself, say she forgot my name and run away, telling other people I do not love her enough. She would hide her keys to approach me. When talking to her, she made herself difficult and unavailable. She was on the other hand giving me extended eye glances. She was then fired from her job and her friend Christina gets in a serious car ac…

I've been dating this Turkish girl for a month. At the beginning she was very communicative initiating most of the texts, keeping the conversation going and calling me dear and darling and talking a lot about future plans etc. And on our first few dates the time just seemed to fly by and we fell into a rhythm of eating, drinking, talking, walking and a lot of kissing. It felt very natural like we'd known each other a long time. She went on holiday for a week and a half back to her country. But instead of a drop off in communication she stepped it up photobombing me with photos from her trip and texting me every day and very much leading the conversation. I was flatt…

Hello... I'm 34y old and I met a very cool and beautiful 31y old girl on a dating website, I really liked her a lot but I was emotionally unavailable due to my previous relationship, I was with a crazy person who were telling lies all the time, menacing me of suicide etc... I lost tons of weight, could not eat because of this bad person... So when I met this new girl, I let her know about the crazy relationship i had before, and I told her that I was feeling "empty" and needed time.. We started our relationship and It was awesome at first, we both loves anime, manga, movies etc... after a few months she even talked about our futur etc (and in my head I thou…

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Why is it that he is the one who cheated on me with a 1 night stand and moved in together after they were caught the 2nd time while intoxicated. The first time he begged me to forgive him and went to counseling and changed his number. After 1 month no contact once again he got severely intoxicated and again she picked him up. They don’t have a place to go so are staying at a friends house. Now she is going through her divorce and he hasn’t contacted me. I tried to contact him but he has me blocked and I need to get some things to him. it’s been 14 days and no contact. he hasn’t even contacted his family who is close to him nor close friends. We know he is drinking…

Would you rather have a woman that's fun, like's to party all night, comes over late nights for sex but is also entertaining other men? Would you rather have a woman that is very impatient and calls and texts excessively when you ignore her calls? They are both really nice. The impatient woman is cool, nice and funny most of the time but on the days that i reject or am too busy to take her calls she gets impatient and goes crazy. She got really upset because after a great date with my family I told her she couldn't spend the night and that she had to go home. Her feelings were hurt and she said never has a man treated her so cold. The woman that party's …

(I got this idea from another forum I visit frequently, if one like this already exists by all means ignore / delete this one.) OK, it seems a few of us have had a rough time with the darned NC. I had fantasies today of unloading all this anger, longing, and "W-T-F" onto my ex. I am creating this thread as a place for all of us in pain to post instead of contacting Ms/Mr ex. It could actually be kind of fun, at least a release. What would you like to tell him or her? Even if it's been building up for years, post it here! Rage-fest! Longing-fest! DO NOT CONTACT that frigging ex, put it all here!!

Why do I constantly think about my own mistakes and doubt myself after exiting an abusive relationship? More often than not I find myself ruminating about my own negative behavior instead of his, despite what I did to him was nothing compared to what he was doing to me, as stated by my closest friends and family.

I have read that women have very good gut instincts/feelings and would quickly know if they like a guy or not So I thought by the end of the first date (or first meet since the guy is a stranger she met through dating app) she will have a very good idea. If she agrees to a second date (dinner) isn't that a good sign? Why would she choose to reject a guy after the second date if the date went well?

I’ve been together with my spouse for about 11 years now… ever since the beginning of our relationship we have lived in separate homes with our parents.. about 6 years ago we moved in and things have been good… as of this year we are expecting our first baby… we are so happy and excited… except for one thing his moms house… she unfortunately has a cluttered home to say the least and I don’t feel like it’s under the conditions for my baby to be around. I will NEVER remove my baby or boyfriend from mothers life that is not the case here… we all have a really good relationship, but unfortunately his grandfather lives in his mothers house and he is handicapped which would for…

My boyfriend and I just broke up after a tumultuous 10 months. He doesn't believe exes, or even men and women in general, can be friends. My ex and I are good friends after a long-term relationship that faded to a platonic friendship for the last several years. He lives across the country, and I don't want to get back together with him, so he was no threat to my bf. I cut off contact with him a few months after I started dating my bf to comply with his boundaries. I was sad and felt guilty to hurt him abruptly, but it seemed reasonable to do for a new relationship. My bf and I broke up and got back together many times. After our last, nastiest breakup that seemed…

Things haven't been going great with me and my boyfriend lately. We have been together for 3 years and I have never been this worried about our relationship. I accidentally caught him a few months ago chatting with random people on the internet when I used his pc. He was there, and immediately deleted everything and admitted later there were flirty texts among them. He is very insecure and said that is why he enjoyed those conversations for validation and that he never had long talks or a connection with these people. I felt heartbroken when I found out but didn't want to throw away our relationship so I eventually forgave him. I have my insecurities too so since that mom…

Ever since I was a teen, I've always had this feeling of being lonely or left out. I wasn't one of the "popular" kids and I felt like I was always trying to fit in. As I grew older, I got into partying and music and from the age of 20 to 25, my life was really intense. Lots of partying, met tons of people, was always busy, going out, having fun, meeting guys and it wasn't until I moved from my country to Australia, that I realised how lonely and "friendless" I am. Yes I met tons of people and yes I had lots of fun, but now that I look back, there's barely anyone I can actually say is my friend or even acknowledges I exist. Two weeks ago was my birthday. I turned 28.…

Is this considered an abusive boyfriend? - Pushing til partner falls down -Pinning partner to ground despite them crying - Manipulating partner into sexual acts they don’t want to do by saying things like “you should be doing this since we are together” or “I feel like you dont love me if you don’t do this” and not stopping the sexual act despite partner crying -Making decisions for partner, telling them what to do with their life - Making partner doubt themselves -Anger outbursts, throwing objects, saying degrading things - saying “no one else would ever stick out with you or put up with your behavior “ -treating partner like a ch…

Just curious. I've been experiencing a huge increase in anxiety attacks and physical manifestations of my anxiety, namely, sweating, trembling, insomnia, loss of appetite, etc. Just curious what other people do when they have anxiety attacks that helps them! Not looking for critiques, just personal experiences.

When I had my son, I had a very difficult delivery and ended up with vaginal prolapse, despite the fact that I was only 37 years old. Prolapse does not occur in women my age .I had to have surgery to fix it .I felt like I'd lost a big part of myself because having sex after my surgery was not the same. Now, 10 years later, I'm having more pain with sex and it's very difficult because I'm single and looking for my partner. I haven't had a committed relationship since my surgery. The last guy I dated was cruel, telling me that I couldn't even keep up with him in terms of sex. I was having sex with him every night for 3 months for 4 hours a night, and it was starting to hu…

I’ve complained about my spouse and family many times. But I can’t seem to break out of this toxic cycle. I got in an argument with my husband in the car today and he decided to drive up to my elderly parents home and let them know we’re fighting. My dad is 70 and when he received the phone call his blood pressure went up high. He was startled and didn’t know what was happening. I left my husband in front of my parents home and he wouldn’t go inside and was standing in front of the car not letting me drive away. He has threatened me many times with calling my parents when we argue but today he decided to drive up to their home in the middle of an argument. I lost it and s…

Long story short, I was with this guy for 3 years ish. He was very manipulative throughout the relationship. We broke up and got back together many times. Last time we broke up, he made contact again and we started meeting up. He told me we needed to work on ourselves before getting back together, which kind of made sense in the beginning. But he would only want to meet up for sex and emotional support, and only when it suited him. We didn’t seem to be “working on it”. When I asked why we can’t be together while working for each other, he made excuses. He also was there for me only when it suited him, so he acted quite single. F.eks promised me to follow me home f…

I recently moved into my partners home "unofficially" over the last two months due to spending so much time together (after dating for 11 months). This move meant that terms and explicitly discussions around roles and responsibilities are still unclear or still forming. My old home is a one hour drive away and has remained empty most of the last months. My partner does shift work which changes often and is relatively unpredictable with a mix of nights/days, and I do regular 8-6, five days (sometimes six days) a week. My partner has expressed that they find comfort and stability in planning their weeks. This plan is typically 2 to 7 days in advance. I do not typically plan…