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Disclaimer: I didn't realize how graphic my post was going to be when I first started so I apologize if this offends anyone. So to start off, I am a (M32) and my GF is (F28). We've been together for 6 months now. At this age I find that what you seek for in a relationship is much more clear. And I am not afraid to say that I think she is the one. Quite confidently. She and I clicked from the moment we met but we took our time to get to know each other. What we found was that we were almost the same person. We both share interests in things such as fitness, or hobbies, taste in style, even food choices and adventures. Yet our own differences offset each others and wo…

I’ve been crushing on my best friend for a year and a half… Ive talked to him about other guys and he’s told me about other girls… Hid last relationship was with a girl who used to be my friend, she turned out to be toxic and really bad for him… The other girl was one of the people I knew, and she turned out to be a slightly different breed of toxic. I don’t know if he’s just sweet in general, but dang he is… Stuff like “I went because you went” ”Your my best friend” ”Where did you go?” XD last few days we’ve been talking till two AM, some people may not find this strange but we have veryyyyy different sleeping schedules. His e…

Hello I’m new here. I need a little advice.. so my bf is a manager and he has coworkers text him all the time (these coworkers are only girls) & they text not just for work stuff but for other things like “their family, their ex bf, talking crap of other coworkers, etc” I don’t like that they text him all the time. & last night I saw that one of them send him a thank you with a heart emoji (a yellow heart) & I am now upset. I haven’t told him anything about it but should I make it a big deal or keep quiet since I already have mention that I don’t like his coworkers texting him. Why did the girl send a heart emoji & this is his other manager for a differ…

So it’s been a little over a year now since me and my ex girlfriend broke up. It was honestly the only relationship I’ve been in that I felt completely comfortable in and truly enjoyed. every second was amazing with her at the time. Even she seemed really invested both emotionally, physically, you name it. But, obviously since I’m here, we split. It was rough but I’ve worked my best to get out of being bummed about it as best I could. (As a “quick” side not it wasn’t over anything bad. But “quickly” put it was more about her being bi and wanting to explore that side more and her ending up in a relationship with a girl for the first time a few months later. I’m …

She's going camping with her friend and won't be back until next week. She came over earlier for half hour just to say goodbye etc... but I think I acted too needy and now I'm beating myself up. I told her I'd miss her and I didn't have much planned this weekend (probably came across I was sulking) even though we've only been dating 3-4 weeks now I'm so crazy about her, but it's so hard not to come across too full on. I also said I was going to the cinema next Wednesday but was willing to drop it if it meant seeing her a day earlier. She insisted I go to the cinema and we can see each other the day after. I don't want to push her away by seeming too needy and I even said …

One of the man that work at my work but in different department informed me some time ago that he's looking for someone to rent his basement apartment. But at the time I had already signed a lease and moved where I'm currently staying. Now my lease is ending in few months and I asked him some again recently if he found someone to which he said NO..he wants to rent to someone he knows. He also want cash for rent and we could agree on the rent. Then he told me if I want I can come to look at the place. It's basically a separate unit in the basement, with access to your own entrance and amenities. But shared parking . I've been contemplating it since I need to move from wher…

I recently went through my husbands phone. I found messages of him messaging a girl asking her to be a rope model so that he could practice rope tying as he wants me and him to do more of that in the bedroom. I was out of town when he messaged a girl. It isn't someone that I thought would be considered a close enough friend to practice anything like that with even if he didn't have any sexual intentions with the encounter. She declined his offer but I still feel so uncomfortable that he would even think it was okay to ask someone that. He was upset that I feel like it's hard to trust that he had no hope of the interaction turning into anything sexual. Am I being crazy? I …

I was in a zoom meeting and a friend of a friend asked my contact from her. When this common friend told me about her, she said that this girl "liked me." I added her and we talked for 2 days. But one of the first things she asked me was my age. I told her I'm 35 and she told me she is 21. I found her really pretty. But the next day she opened the game that she couldn't see herself with me because of the age gap. I told her that I know many couples that have a big age gap but she thinks that that is a sign of desperation. I completely respect her decision, but then why did she felt attracted to me in the first place? I have felt attraction to older and younger w…

So I have this co-worker at work whom we'll call "Susie". I won't go into all of the details pertinent to our relationship, but the gist is that I use to like her, but now I've decided that I need to move on from her since she didn't appear to reciprocate, even though some of her close friends claim that she does like me and that she's just extremely shy and anxious. Well, now Susie has just been promoted to a team lead at our store and not only that, but she's now MY team lead. It would appear that I have to report to her and that simply doesn't sit well with me. Yesterday was her first official day as a lead and things went a bit weirdly. I was going out of my way …

Hello everyone! This is my first time posting something like this but I feel absolutely lost and confused... We've been having issues with my boyfriend for the past month, he struggles with depression and got fired about 6 weeks ago. I took another job to be able to pay bills while he finds another job. He told me about his depression 3 weeks ago and I told him we should get some help, do some couples therapy, meditate, etc. Every time I'd tell him to meditate or journal he looked like he didn't want to do it and annoyed but we always did it and it was good. Last week I had to get an emergency surgery on my stomach, have to do 2 week rest and special diet. I can't la…

Hello. I joined because I have to vent. I can’t talk to my friends for reasons I can’t explain. I’m about to lose love of my life. I can’t talk to my friends, I know what they would say. There’s no good end to this. She has to take an action that I cannot live with. She doesn’t want to do it but she has to. If she does do it, I have two choices: live with it, but I don’t know how to do that, or I must leave her, and I can’t. I love her too much. I don’t know what to do. Either way I’m in for great despair. I’m not asking for advice, there isn’t any that will help. I just don’t know how to deal with this, but my choices mean my whole world will chang…

I have been feeling like *** for a few weeks now. Long story short I’ve been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for a few months now. What bothers me is that, he has this female friend that always requires a lot of attention from him and he thinks it’s normal. He used to like her for 3 years but she didn’t want a relationship due to different religion issues. My boyfriend stopped talking to her for 2 years to be able to move on and a month before he met me, he started writing to her again as a friend. I always feel like this girl likes my boyfriend more than a friend, but my boyfriend keeps telling me that I just assume. For example, after I go to sleep, my…

If you look through my activity history, you may find I've struggled with overattachment, low confidence/self worth and overall unhealthy relationship habits. Since then (four years ago) I have taken an interest in psychology and self improvement. I'm still young (24f), but through therapy and further education, I've come a long way. Now, for the content you came for: Four years ago, I met Brad (name changed for privacy). It was an instant connection. I was able to communicate with him effortlessly. He brought me peace, comfort and security when I was with him - not to mention the chemistry between us. The 11 year age gap scared him though. He was an up and comi…

From what I hear men are pretty easy to please .. have full stomach with great food (like pic below), GREAT sex, no drama and great company. As a man is this generally true?

Hi everyone! This is my first time on this website and I really need advice. I don't have anyone to turn to or ask about this situation... family and friends tend to not know what to say.. Okay, so I will jump into my love life story. I've only dated two people and I am a F23 who has not dated anyone since 2018. My last boyfriend was very abusive mentally. He use to call me very ugly names along with degrading me saying I was always cheating etc. Up until then I have not had any luck with the right guy. Recently, I thought I was deeply involve with this one guy he told me in order for me to stay in his life I need to give him $300-$600 just to stay in his life. I sai…

hello guys! i was virgin till July. but i met a guy from dating app. i really liked him (until now even i know he's ***). And then second meeting at his home watched movie, and had my first unexperienced sex ahaha. and after that he asked me want to see me like two times, i was a bit busy.after this we met 3 times at his home, mostly only do sex and slowly we are getting distanced. and last time we haven't seen each other like 3 weeks, i asked him what we are doing? he said we are knowing each other. and also he finished his all of condoms in that three weeks hahaha. i know he is busy working and studying, but i feel like i'm being used, i like him. we haven't had rea…

I went out on 3 dates with a guy and we have chemistry. Lots of smiles, flirting and hugs. He spends a lot of time each date showing me his antique cars, things he has built for other people and roofs he has repaired. There are at least 6 photos of other women that are conveniently within eye reach of the stuff he shows me. I asked who a couple of them were and he said "oh she's a friend". Hmmm. They are very attractive women. My point is that after our dinner, movie or beach stroll, each time he pulls out the phone and proceeds to go over the same pictures he did the previous night. I already saw them and feel a bit irked too at seeing so many of hi…

First time posting something like this online. Just don't really have anyone in real life that I feel comfortable talking to about this. My partner (26M) and I (25F) have been dating for 5 years now and I really love him and want to marry him but there's one pretty huge issue in our relationship. I've worked for the entirety of our relationship while he's maybe worked a total of 1 year between different jobs over the past 5 years. I understand because we were both in college but now that we've both graduated nothings changed. I work 50+ hours a week with 1 full time job and 1 part time job. I pay our full rent, internet, groceries, pet supplies and any other e…

Will try to get to the point. I visited one of these "breastaurants" a month ago. More of an upscale one if there is such a thing. I usually never visit but I remembered they had a nice patio. I like the relaxed atmosphere. I always do my stuff alone anymore but I socialize and started talking to a couple there soon after arriving. A waitress came out and got my drinks going. She became very talkative and touchy. We exchanged names and such. End of the night she brought my bill and I forgot to put my card out. She came back and I apologized and tried to give her my card and she refused and wadded up the bill and told me not to worry about it, gave me a hug, I to…

I believe there might be something going on with my partner and my best friend. There have been many incidents were I have been straight up lied to from him and her about him going to her house for one reason or another. I have made it very clear that I am uncomfortable with there relationship especially cause I was lied to. He often just stops by at her house and even when I ask if he did he does not tell me. I did not have a car so he would go pick her up and it always seemed like I had to stay home and it woukd take them up to 3 hours to get back when it is a half an hour drive one way. Whenever they are together things always take longer than needed and they ar…

Hi! So I've just completed an internship at a company. I think I did a decent job and was well-liked among colleagues and customers. During this internship, I developed a friendship with a colleague and we flirted a bit. On my last day, she told me she would miss me but unfortunately I forgot to ask for any kind of contact details. She even said (jokingly) she would try to find out my number from the company's system which I should have probably taken as a hint. I think I would deeply regret if I never met this person again but I am now faced with the following dilemma: Her work email is the only way I have of getting in touch with them. On a scale of 1-10, how creep…

For months now I’ve felt ambivalent about my relationship. There are times when things are great between us, but others that I feel deeply unhappy. For context he (35m) and I (36f) have been together for just over a year. I have always struggled with feeling confident in my choices and valid in the way that I feel, which doesn’t help the situation. I just don’t know whether the problems are worth working on, or whether they are a clear sign that we are incompatible as partners. For one, our sex life has been an issue. With some exploration into this Ive discovered that my sexual attraction towards him has frazzled out pretty significantly. It’s definitely not my driv…

Hi everyone, I'm having some hard time at work. I've joined this company remotely 4+ months ago, and my work has been great. About a month ago, they decided to give me higher responsibilities in my post and field, and it's about recruitment. I work in HR, so I've done recruitment for 5+ years. Let me tell you, I've never been this stressed in my life. I'm recruiting for a tech team and on top of the tech team is a CTO. This CTO, just looking at him in my recent meetings, makes me want to cry my eyes out. He's so stiff, always finds a way to comment on my work.. in meetings AND in public channels on Slack, and so does his tech team! I'm new to the role …

So I’ve been doing research into how to improve my self esteem. I came across a “celebrity therapist” and hypnotherapist named Marisa Peer. She has a lot of videos on YouTube and has done Ted talks etc. Her theories seem to make so much sense but I’m struggling with her claim that she has transformed severely ill patients after a few sessions by treating the 3 core causes of their issues, rather than the symptoms of their depression etc. I have been trying out one of her practices for the last few days and I’ve got to say, I do feel a lot better and that’s making me consider purchasing one of her courses (she has free short ones I could trial I think). I can’t find mu…

I have been friends with a neighbor for almost 4 months since they moved to the neighborhood. They have 2 young daughters. At first they had no pets but last week they brought 2 Billy goats home who are outside in their backyard a lot. These girls love to run and play with the goats. Problem I have is these goats are squeezing through the fence into our yard and eating our flowers and shrubbery. One is quite aggressive and actually charged at me as I was watering some plants. I talked to the neighbor and she became all huffy to me, suggesting it was my problem. I asked that the goats be kept away from my shrubbery. She seemed pissed off that I asked and said …