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Hello All, I've been missing my boyfriend so much at the moment, he's at summer camp currently so he can't be on his phone at all for now (One week, then he's going to new york for another). Usually if I don't respond, he texts first like "Good morning, you should be awake right now, is everything okay?" He does this because we text everyday, I do it sometimes too but it feels hopeless since he's at camp and won't see it, also I don't wanna spam his phone too much. Of course I know that this is okay and it won't last forever, but I need tips on how to distract myself from missing him waaay too much. I did see that watching movies might help, but I can't do that…

Me an my ex dated for 10 years. Me 30 an him currently 35. We lived together an he was looking up engagement rings an telling everyone how I was the most amazing girlfriend he ever had... an on the night of my birthday I found out he was sexting his ex. Needless to say our relationship spirlad out of control very fast after that. He was not sorry. He was angry. Angry he got caught. With in a month of me catching him...he just openly started seeing a new woman. (Not the ex he was sexting) I confronted her...an she did not care she was breaking up a home. She kept seeing him. So I kicked him out but he would not move out. He started lying about me. Saying I was doing all…

When do you feel its time to give up and retreat as a leader. I'm looking for relatable thoughts. Hopefully from experience. I work with technology in a senior leadership role. I have a handful of great concerns. All of them have me frustrated enough to impact my sleep and normal life. I feel powerless to change any of them and I'm at the end of my rope. They are based around my boss who is a micromanager, shows favoritism towards one of my peers, discrimination, doesn't care about employee burnout by praising those who work lots of overtime, inexperienced, and unreasonable to adjust and change. My primary concern is my people. Morale means more to me t…

My husband and I have been in a relashionship for 12 years. For a while now our sex life as been unfulfilling. The problem lies in the differences in our libido and preferences. I'm much more physical than he is, even in the most mundane aspects of our daily lifes. I like longer hugs, deeper kisses and a lot more touching than he does. Luckily, we could find some compromise and live happy and generally peaceful lives. However, when it comes to sex, our needs are too discrepant. I love having sex and if it were up to me, we would have it every day. Although he likes sex, he feels it's quite tiring and doesn't want/need it as often. He feels comfortable havin…

I have a ethics question. I met my ex about 4 years ago when him and his now ex wife got a divorce. She also met someone new. My ex John and his ex wife Sarah had 2 kids together, John and Sarah wanted to me and the Guy Nick to be as involved as possible with the kids and we all where. it all went great until me and John broke up in January he said "he used me to get over Sarah" withing a week he had someone new move in. I decided to back of in seeing the kids because it was to hard for me I haven't seen them since. Sarah and Nick had broken up about 4 weeks ago. and he decided to contact me because he really missed the kids and he's been asked to never contact the …

He said no to a date. He was quite flirty in my opinion, quite touchy feely and complimentary (but could just be this sort of person). Anyway, I asked him to go to the cinema and he said yes, then I said, actually do you want to go for a drink and he said no, because he was emotionally unavailable. Anyway, would you still go to the cinema with him? He still wants to go. If so, would you dress casually or make a slight effort. I haven't been messaging him a lot. That's not fair and if he changes his mind, it's up to him, but I shouldn't pester him. Thanks

Stupid me, opened email from the ex.. This time she said she will hook up and move in with her ex (the one I suspected she was seeing while we were together) if I don't wanna see her... I REALLY want to write something like tell this person to go to hell...something a bit more harsh this time...so she finally leaves me alone.. So what do you think? Can I do that? This person is very toxic and psycho. Saying "Please don't contact me" is not working. Any suggestions what I could write?

I'll try to make this short. My bf and I have been together for 3 years and have grown close with his now 11 year old son who is very mildly autistic. He used to be a problem child in school until I started working with him and teaching him ways to better handle the things that upset him. We even had a little mantra every morning before he got on the school bus complete with our own little handshake. His mother had been having an affair and moved into her bf's house with his 4 kids while the divorce was being started. The boy stayed with us during the week for school and spent weekends with her as was agreed upon in the Rule 69 agreement we had drawn up (to protect dad's …

So my ex contacted just now, but don't worry this is a different person than the one who caused me problems this year. This person is actually an angel and a wonderful person. She did also write me for my birthday few months ago, but that's probably just typical thing... Anyways, today she wrote me this "Hi how are you doing? What's new? I found this photo album of you and your family 🙂 Should I send it to you?" and she sent me a picture and the photo album was opened to a page with a pic of me on it..Maybe means nothing, but I'm just curious..It has been a year since I seen her last..

Hello all, I recently left my SO (a month ago) after a long history of emotional cheating on his part, among other problems. He was very unsupportive, not helpful in our family home, and not involved in our family life ( we have a daughter almost 2) The first time I caught him speaking/flirting with another woman online, I was already pregnant. We were having issues with his “low sex drive” and I was already feeling insecure. Needless to say, finding out he was having an emotional affair, staying up at night talking to another woman while I cry myself to sleep, made me even more insecure. Fast forward 2 years and about 4 emotional affairs later (that I …

I have been in a relationship with my significant other for 3 months, and things have been going reasonably well, including being introduced to her family, but it is clear that I like her more than she likes me. This is evidenced by me messaging first (she will always reply), putting her more as a priority, and arranging all the dates we meet up. What should I do? a) break up - your relationship is doomed to fail b) continue doing what your doing! Girls love a reliable loving man! c) tone it down and give her space - give her time for her feelings to develop more d) other

I've been dating my girlfriend for a couple of month now and everything is going really good. We're each other's firsts. Before we started dating, we were really close friends for over a year. Most things have been going pretty well but there've been some things I've noticed that make me insecure / confused. Since we've started dating, we've only been able to meet up twice because of the pandemic and strict parents. Both times, I felt that she was really nervous around me and didn't feel comfortable holding my hand. But then again, she was fine with playing with my hair and teasing me. IDK, just some incongruence and missed signals, I guess? Over FT, she would want t…

So I'm a girl and I have a situation with 2 other guys going on right now. The nasty thing is that they are very close friends (probably best friends) and they've known each other for a long time now. Their fake names will be Josh and Leo. So we are all online-friends and we all talk on discord everyday, as well as with other friends of ours too. I only met both Josh and Leo in real life once. Josh had a crush on me. He lives in another city than me and Leo, and he came to visit his friend a few months ago and I decided to go meet both of them (because he said he also came to see me, so he asked me to come). I knew (or rather felt) that Josh is really into me and it …

My age is 28. A month ago I randomly sent a msg on whatsapp and there received by a woman. We started discussions and even went to becoming a partner in doing some freelance jobs togetherly. Interestingly, i have always attracted by women who were in the age of 30 and 35+ and really wanted to have an affair with a well-educated and a matured woman. And now it has become a reality because she is a mature and looks quite carrying about me. Every time, she is the one who initiate the conversation and call me often. And I'm really enjoying her company. She is married and have 3 kids and her husband is doing a job in a workshop in Saudi Arabia while she is living in Karachi. A…

I just need a moment to vent. 😶 when my last relationship ended my ex said at the end she really wanted to stay friends. I looked at her in disbelief thinking she realized a majority of people didn't stay friends with their exs. I couldn't say yes at the time because I still deeply loved her and knew this never worked for me. I told it would take a very very long time before we could even try, and I would need time away from her. Two days later she committed on a fb post I had made and I feel she didn't respect my boundaries. She continued to like and also heart my posts since then. (More then a year ago). I know I should have blocked her. When we sat down 5 mon…

I decided to cancel having the Bariatric surgery in September. I have given it much thought and it doesn’t sit right in my gut having surgery. I’m instead getting a personal trainer and going to loose weight naturally. I don’t think surgery is the answer. I found a woman trainer who is supposedly one of the best in my area. I have a consultation with her Tuesday June 29th.

It's weird to do this, I've been putting it off with my doctor but I cant anymore and have made an appointment. But here's the issue I cant eat, I'm having the absolute worst time being able to make myself even take a single bite of things. I'm a hard working woman, and I dont pull punches so everything gets my 100% but I have in no way ever been anorexic, I love food too much and am 100% comfortable with my body. I fell into a 6 year relationship with a narcissist and the stress wrecked me. I have chronic anxiety and depressive episodes and PTSD as a result, but I think that may be part of the problem! At the beginning of the year I was attacked and left with…

Background info: My boyfriend and I work in same company, same role, different locations. Its a long distance relation. We applied for same promotion (we are based in south asia, so promotion has its own process, there is exam for it, thousands apply for 100 seats, also 33% reservation for women). Result is not out yet but given the fact only few women apply I have a fair chance of getting it and we feel my boyfriend wont get it because his scores are borderline, so are mine. So my boyfriend is upset that he might not get it, I understand his fear and wanted to make him feel better so I said, "the result is not out yet and you still might get it, maybe God has p…

I (24F) am in a relationship with a 24M of which I am unsure where I stand at the moment. I'm sorry in advance if the following is a little all over the place, just in desperate need of advice/outside perspective. We kept breaking up briefly (few days) past couple months due to me being worried about other girls and him being worried about another guy. Last week I was unsure where I stood with him, I had seen him earlier that week, a couple days later he said he felt single and that he didn't want to be in a relationship. He said this multiple times in the past few weeks, only to come back to me saying he wants to be with me and marry me but that we need to so…

Hi, so my story goes back to when we went on a trip with my family. Here is where I met my brothers friend who i instantly clicked, she was super cool and very fun to talk to. We flirted a little (later finding out she does have a boyfriend) and it was just overall a great time but then, once the trip ended and we parted ways it is like a burning hole in my chest and I can’t get over her and it’s hard to focus on anything else the only issue is I am worried to say something because i don’t want to ruin our friendship or her friendship with my brother or mess up her current relationship. So to sum it up I am stuck between if I should say something to her or just try to mov…

Long story short, my parents split up when I was about 10 years old and after a while whatever relationship we had fizzled to the point of no contact until recently. The split didn't affect me much because I feel like I didn't see my Dad much anyway. He was a long haul truck driver then and gone for days at a time. When he was home, he was either teasing me or drunk with his buddies in the basement. We kept touch a lot immediately after they broke up where he showered me with gifts, like taking me to the mall to get a new expensive swimsuit and stuff like that. That slowly dissipated and we started talking less and less. You know, life happens being busy wit…

Hello. It has been a while since I posted and well just about 5 months ago I lost my supposed friend who claimed I was one of three friends he could count on, but after what happened I think the guy is not who he turned out to be. We were friends for about 10 years and was a integral part of my life. For the past six years his daughter would call my wife my mother and well this happened every time my wife would see her (She would only see them 2 to 3 times a year at most). My wife would blow it off as I would and I would even correct her that it is not correct and that she is my wife. Well finally my wife got to a point where she was so upset that I decided to talk to my …

Trust Issues Back in January my boyfriend and I had COVID and were quarantined together. We stayed in my room for 2-3 weeks, which had us arguing a little more than usual. Fast forward to the last week of quarantine, he fell asleep hours before me and I was up laying in bed. My gut told me to check his phone, and when I did, my heart sank. I found that he had been looking up his ex on Instagram, and had been stalking this OnlyFans girl, both on IG and on OF. When I confronted him, he was upset, promised that he would never do it again, and said that he wasn’t sure why he did it in the first place. He then unfollowed every girl on IG (without me ever mentioning it). …

Don’t really know where to start but here goes my partner and I have been together for about 3.5 years. At the start everything was great, although I guess there were a few little red flags, ie how we are both quite fiery & stubborn, but as most relationships go you the flags under the carpet to start off with. The past probably 18 months or so have been hard, with covid lockdowns, me being made redundant, her being pregnant throughout, home schooling her son while trying to work from home herself and then the financial stress of her earning less being on maternity leave on top of everything else etc, the list goes on and I guess things have took their to…

I'll consolidate my very long story as much as possible: I've been with my bf for 6 years, with a 6-month gap in between halfway through. We were SO in love in the beginning until he started getting into hard drugs which amplified his bipolar and he got extremely emotionally and verbally abusive, so I finally broke up with him. As cliché as it sounds, he worked hard to change, and I ended up taking him back. Since then (so for the past 3 years or so), we've worked hard on repairing our relationship (including going to couples' counselling, which we concluded last year), but for me it's just become increasingly difficult for a variety of reasons, mainly: 1. I notice,…