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For a few mins yesterday and over night I was just getting a white screen. This happen to anyone else ?

About a month ago I took a leap a faith and accepted a 6 figure offer from a very large company doing software development. Needless to say things aren’t going as smooth as I would have wanted. It feels like the team I was put on is not really helping me much and there is a lot of internal tools to learn about. I’ve pretty much just been reading documentation for the past 2 and a half weeks straight. The code base is um, one of the most complicated that I have ever dealt with before. Even know I have made a lot of progress in the past two weeks, I still feel like I have a mountain to climb and my boss pretty much just expects me to figure things out. …

My GF of 10 months and I broke up a month ago. During that time I've accepted that we are not a good match and the way we are we should not be together. We had an amazing time and all, but our values do not align and things took a toxic turn and trust was broken. Now she keeps texting me and telling me she loves me and wants to be with me. She is refusing to move on. She has a list of mental health problems and she is stuck in time on a pathological level. In the sense that she hasn't washed her sheets since I last slept in them, she hasn't slept in her bed but on the couch for a month, she has done absolutely nothing that she enjoys that we used to do together. Her …

We broke up a year ago. He said he recognises his faults and wants to learn and grow. This was a surprise as he's apologised for his mistakes but not to this effect. Would you say this to someone you didn't want to better for them?

And he has severe bronchial pneumonia in both lungs . He has been in the hospital for a week and still not getting much better. 😞😢😢. They put him back on IV antibiotics today after taking it out 2 days ago . My mom also has a fatal illness . So my both remaining parents have fatal diseases.

Matched with a guy on Bumble, we met up shortly after and there was a definite vibe. This was 6 weeks ago and ever since this incident we have hung out only two more times. Once was less than a week after date one and the other time wasn't until this past weekend. We do live an hour away from each other and have taken turns driving or met halfway, but I actually don't get the vibe this is what's stopping us from hanging out more. He and I are both the type to take regular road trips and have both expressed that the drive is beautiful and not a big deal for us. I should note we haven't done anything past making out at this point and I don't plan to unless his interest is m…

So I was with this girl for two years and she broke up with me claiming out relationship felt more like a friendship. Fair point I suppose because we still hadn't had sex, she'd never been over to my apartment, and she never met my parents. I was hurt, cried a bit, and got over it after about four days. A month later she hit's me up and says she misses me. She tells me I was her rock and her safe place and that she never wanted to break up with me. She said she was under a ton of stress from work (trauma nurse), that she nearly checked herself into psych, and to top it all off she felt as if she wasn't included in my life however, she wanted to give it another shot. I obl…

Please understand this is a long read Hi all, Met a women 2.5 years ago through the gym classes we did. We hit it off from the go - started seeing eachohter knowing she was going away for a month travelling. We kept in contact daily. We met up on her return and it blossomed from there. Fast forward 2.6 years. We’ve had our ups and downs as most relationships do. Covid didn’t help. She’s lived with me for the last 2 years occasionally going back to her dads who lives 15 minute walk away. I won’t go into the ins and outs of every argument, fall out etc but for a duration I questioned the relationship - was I truly happy. Were we righ…

After my fiancé passed my parents thought it would be a good idea to move in with them. It WAS a really good idea. I was struggling mentally and was in a very dark spot so being back with my parents and one of my siblings was absolutely the best choice. It also was meant to help me straighten up my finances. I am still living there. Things have been getting better for me. I am doing better financially as well as mentally. I’m work full time and in grad school and have a guy I’m seeing regularly. My problem is that my parents have started being completely overbearing. They are treating me like I’m 16 again— telling me I’m not allowed to spend the night at his h…

My husband was my brother's best friend as kids, so our parents know each other well. My husbands parents also became close with my aunt&uncle...I'll just state that lots of drama/gossip happened which led to everything always being my parents vs inlaws/aunt/uncle. I'm giving this background because I feel my inlaws (mainly mother&sisters in law) have always had judgement against me due to their feelings/issues with my parents (even tho I never had an issue with anyone). In recent years, things have gotten worse in my relationship with my in laws (my own parents are pretty uninvolved with them at his point). My MIL has made rude comments to me along lines o…

I've been struggling with this a lot lately. Especially after a dear friend of mine started harping on my lack of self esteem. I know I've done somethings right and I'm doing better than others in a few areas I still can't help but feel like something of a loser. I'll break it down. I'm 32 with 30,000 saved up but no credit, barely any equity, and no 401k and a job that only makes $17.80 an hour that I'm not particularly fond of(savings from living with mom and dad as long as I did). I workout often and have a decent body but for as long as I've been working out I should look better. I don't have a six pack, my arms are scrawny and as the day goes on I bloat ba…

Hi all, I am not sure if this the right forum, but I thought I'd ask some advice on how to operate with this letting agent acting on behalf of the landlord. I moved into my current apartment 9 months ago and it was all fine. I've had water pressure issues since day 1 but these were not critical enough to warrant an escalation to the letting agent. However, in the last two to three weeks, the issue has gotten worse. The water pressure drops on a constant basis to the point where if I try to use the shower in the morning, there is no water coming through at all. I could be waiting roughly 20 to an hour minutes before the water pressure comes back to "normal". Wh…

A lot of the populated part of the province is experiencing very severe flooding and cut off by road to the rest of Canada at the moment. 😢

My ex and I broke up in April after 3 years and went no contact pretty much until now. He has contacted my friends just to say hello on a few occasions which I thought was strange. We are in our 30s. I sent an email several months ago and he just replied back to me about 3 weeks ago. He ended his email saying he wants to be friendly and hopes I will update him about our dog. In my response back mostly wishing him well and clarifying a few things, I asked if he was open to potentially reconciling in the future as we have both worked on ourselves and asked if he saw a future for us. I did emphasize if he wanted to just end things and didn’t see a future, to please be honest…

Let's call him A. A and I broke up 6 months ago, the break up was bad, I was depressed for a long time and during these 6 months, he reached out to me twice, to apologize for all he did, that he's thinking about me a lot, and he wanted to meet in person. Both times I shut him down. I was in a relationship with "H" already and didn't think it was appropriate. Also A had hurt my feelings and I felt like meeting up with him wouldn't do any good. My relationship with H was nice. He was calm, sweet and patient. He'd care for me and make me feel safe. But there never was that intense chemistry and spark I had with A. With A, I just felt alive. I felt like I had endless am…

So my ex and I dated for 3 years and split up a year ago. It was a long distance relationship and 70% of the time things were pretty amazing, we were very much soulmates. However that 30% was made up with irrational behaviour, sudden tantrums, forgetting dates and plans, being quite mentally absent sometimes and him not being very ambitious / motivated. When we started dating I had never met anyone who was so head over heels for me, I really felt he could have done literally anything for me, but two years in and over the pandemic things got a lot harder, and he was generally less enthusiastic. We never stopped loving each other but we both recognised love wasn’t enough to…

I (24F) don’t know what to do about (25M). I‘ve been talking to a guy for over 2 months now. The reason why he won’t date me yet is because he can’t put it into words, but he reassured me it’s not that I’m not enough and he likes me and everything. He mentioned many times before he wanted to have “deep conversations” before dating me to make sure we were “compatible life partners”. We had this talk. Nothing came about it. Idk what else there is to be said. It’s like the man wants to know everything about me before dating me. Idk if I’m just wasting my time or not. I understand you should definitely know the person before dating them, but with him I feel we know each other…

So, finally settled down in dating a beautiful looking woman, I'm now over the looks and I'm confident she likes me. 6 weeks in, I really like her and she says she really likes me. So far shes come across as my kind of woman. However, saturday night she stayed over. Sunday morning she instigated a conversation and i though straight away that i didnt like it. She asked me if I've ever had a threesome. No i havent and i know i never would. I look at sex as between two people. Then came the thunderbolt that i was dreading. I asked her, obviously the answer was she had. I felt a bit sick at the time, so this is my plan...I'm going to hang on as I know this fee…

This is a bit of a story, but any advice or input would help me so much. my boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years, and in the beginning me and his sister got along fine. We weren’t super close but got along good. After about 6 months (summer) she wanted to go to the beach and do things with me, and I was super excited cuz all my past relationships have been toxic and I was excited to finally have an in law. I started a new job and wasn’t available as much, and one day she just stopped asking me to hang out. after a couple of months of only seeing her around the property, we ended up going to a local bar with other friends. When we were alone; she t…

Hi, I have 3 children with my husband and we have been married for over 10 years. Over the years he has given me reasons not to trust him. He had what I would call an emotional affair with a work colleague. They were texting and talking without my knowledge. When I found out I asked him to stop but he kept doing it behind my back. This was a few years ago and it has sinced stopped. We don't have a very good sex life. I opened up to him about and explained that it doesn't make me feel wanted. He said he did not know why he didn't have much of a sex drive and even went to a doctor about it. I soon found out that he was looking at porn a number of t…

I need to give a lot of context here so I'm sorry if this is long. Also, it may be a lot of rambling that's all over the place so sorry again. So I have a crush on a coworker. He's really nice, understanding, and we have A LOT in common. He would stop by my office or I would go by his and we would talk for the longest time about everything. He and I both just so happen to be really good at keeping eye contact so when we talk, he is usually staring at me directly in my eyes. There have been times when I caught his eyes wandering and there were times where our eyes would meet. For example, one day I was just coming to work and I was driving in the parking deck t…

I have posted this in the friends forum as it is the closest forum to this. I currently work with someone who is a couple of years older than me. For context, in our team, hierarchal speaking, I am the one with the authority. I have worked at this place for 2-3 years and they have been there longer than me. On/off for these years, this person has repeatedly 'complained' about their quality of life. They have expressed that they are unhappy in this current job and want to look for something else, but are not making any efforts to further themselves. They did apply for a job recently, but were unsuccessful, but this job was very niche in terms of what they want to do. …

I’m 30 and my guy is 33. We both don’t have children and never been married. We started casually dating 8 months ago, going on dates and spending time in the house on the weekends. We never made it official because I honestly didn’t want to commit right away because I wasn’t fully invested in him due to him being distant. He has a military style attitude and doesn’t like to express his feelings. Although we date often, there is little communication in between dates. I explained my concerns and we started to talk a little more but after 8 months we still can’t commit to talking everyday. I’m at the point where I’m ready for a commitment and every time I try to bring it up …

Our relationship now i think is friendship just. She is 24 y.o. and I am 20 y.o. When i was 16 we started to live together with my granny. From this time we spent together to much time and she started to be touchy with me, even she walked near me half-naked. She tried to be with me whole day. When i played games she came and played with me, started to read my books, tried to dress same as me(Really:)). She really flirted me and I didn't understand that, because my social skill was not good and I never been in relationship with any girl. One day suddenly i touched to her back, and she rubbed me her back and smiled. But i was shy and I didnt reacted to it. I liked it becaus…

My cousin stopped talking to me a few months ago with no warning or explanation. Just recently, she wrote to explain it was because she was hurt that, for years, I was flirting with her husband. This could not be further from the truth. How do I respond? I'd like to try to salvage the relationship.