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I'm not sure if this is actually considered cheating but I feel really guilty and bad. I'm dating this guy that I've posted about before who was a virgin before he met me, but we've had sex. I'm bisexual and just before I met him I had a threesome with a male friend and a woman that we'd previously met at a swingers event. I first had a video call with the guy I'm dating on June 2nd and we just talked online every day for about a week and a half because at the time we were in a two week COVID lockdown where you couldn't leave your house. I've been dating this guy in person for maybe about a month now. We said we are dating and we want a relationship but we haven't a…

Exactly what the title says, please share your thoughts and opinions (admin please delete if there is a duplicate posts, I could not find one sorry)

I (24F) am in a relationship with a 24M of which I am unsure where I stand at the moment. I'm sorry in advance if the following is a little all over the place, just in desperate need of advice/outside perspective. We kept breaking up briefly (few days) past couple months due to me being worried about other girls and him being worried about another guy. Last week I was unsure where I stood with him, I had seen him earlier that week, a couple days later he said he felt single and that he didn't want to be in a relationship. He said this multiple times in the past few weeks, only to come back to me saying he wants to be with me and marry me but that we need to so…

Hello all, I recently left my SO (a month ago) after a long history of emotional cheating on his part, among other problems. He was very unsupportive, not helpful in our family home, and not involved in our family life ( we have a daughter almost 2) The first time I caught him speaking/flirting with another woman online, I was already pregnant. We were having issues with his “low sex drive” and I was already feeling insecure. Needless to say, finding out he was having an emotional affair, staying up at night talking to another woman while I cry myself to sleep, made me even more insecure. Fast forward 2 years and about 4 emotional affairs later (that I …

Hi everyone! First off I am active, so just ignore my username I can't change it at the moment lol. I really need some advice... Here's some background into my love life... So I am a 20 year old female and I started dating my first boyfriend when I was 16, my freshman year of high school. We dated for almost 4 years. I broke up with him in my second semester senior year of high school, which was when the pandemic began and we were shut down. We had little to no contact for 4 months, then I reached out to him and at first he didn’t want to get back with me, but then after 3 months of talking we are back together. A few months before we broke up, I learned that m…

I met this guy at work. We got along very well like we known each other for a long time. We started flirting through text for about 8 months. He eventually invited me to have drinks, we had a good time and we had sex that night. The next day we both agreed that we should do it again. The problem is I am married and he's in a relationship. But we agreed is our little private thing. We continue to meet up and have sex and texting each other. We had really good sex each other and really enjoy our time together. He is very nice, sweet and affectionate in person and in text. He will text me if not every day but every other day. He wanted to do all the things that I wanted to d…

Especially if they live in the same place and all the other flatmates know about the affair?

My friend has seen my boyfriend of 18 months on Tinder. We met on Tinder and its the same profile as back then. When we first got together he told me he had deleted it. Someone else told me that your profile can still show up even if deleted. He gets notifications from Tinder ( i see them on his phone flash up) I asked him about it and he said it was marketing because he used to be a paid member. I've not confronted him yet as I want my facts straight and I'm not good at confrontation.

😥we have been together for 13yrs. Married for 7yrs in what I thought was a happy marriage. Found out he had been cheating on me. I thought we worked it out. Everything was fine. Years passed and I had this feeling in my gut. I didn't have access to his phone. Till one day my child asked to watch something my phone had died so he gave up his to keep our child busy. Well i manage to get it and snooped on his phone found he was talking to her again. Confronted him he said I was his stress. Talking to others was his way of destressing. I don't understand I'm not high maintenance. I don't ever ask for anything. I have my own job if i want things i buy them with my money. I eve…

My husband started a new job back in October. We were invited to their Christmas party. My husband and I went. It is a mostly male job with ONE female working there. Right from the minute I met her, I didn’t like her and bells went off. Fast forward, been getting weird vibes and went into his phone Friday. Found a picture or a reserved sign on a seat and at the bottom it said just waiting for a yes. Sunday comes around, I was suspicious all weekend, and I notice he deleted that one text and pic. Didn’t know I saw it. Yesterday I went through his phone in front of him and he was fine and then I brought up photo saying I saw it before he deleted it. Immediately he paled and…

Recently I left my fiance after a 6 year relationship. We have an 18 month old daughter. If you’d like the whole story refer to my earlier post Here I had a whole plan to leave him peacefully and maturely. But after discovering a conversation with another woman where he sent a d*** pic and she sent a t*t pic I snapped and told him I’m done. He barely reacted. Basically just like “okay” and went on with his normal day. I took out daughter and left to my moms. The next day we had a sit down and spoke about coparenting, communication, etc. Agreed to be civil and mature for our daughter’s sake. The thing is I’m finding it so hard to be civil and I’m so deeply hurt …

Ive been in a relationship for 9 years, it was everything I wanted. Until it wasn’t? The past couple of years I’ve done things that risk everything and I don’t understand why or feel guilty at the time. I like attention basically, I like to make people like me and when it becomes too much or they get to close I block them from my life, and phone. This can be people I’ve met or those I’ve been talking to online. I know I need to stop and be a good person but I really don’t know how..

Okay, this is the first time I've ever written to strangers for advice, but I'm feeling pretty alone. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years, we live together. He is about 10 years older than me, and what attracted me to him initially(we worked together) was that he seemed like a no-nonsense, "what you see is what you get" and I found that so refreshingly sexy. Anyway, things are good/okay, typical ups & downs of life thing, until over the summer when I began helping him clean up his property to possibly sell(we both own our own homes), and I started finding evidence that he was never in the military as he claimed. Not trying to snoop, but you just com…

I have been faithfully married since 2012. Have a great children (7 and 4)and what I thought was a great marriage. Today while doing the laundry I found another mans boxer briefs. A brand I don’t wear. I nonchalantly asked “what are these?” And she replied “I have no idea!” and asked if I thought she was cheating. I said “no but this is odd”. I work 3pm-11pm shift mon-fri so I am not home during the night. I have never ever once questioned her faithfulness and have never even snooped into her phone. NOT ONCE!!! But now I can’t stop thinking about this. We do all our laundry in-house. We don’t use public gyms or any other way I can think of if a way for these to just hitch…

I am dating someone with a lot of emotional trauma in his life. He had an abusive mother, a no show dad, and his foster family abandoned him (only a couple months ago). His friends aren't the greatest either and I've fallen in love with him. I have made my best effort to love him how he needs to be loved. I try to boost his self esteem and i try to convince him I'm not leaving since he's developed abandonment issues. In all, he has had a very rough life. He was a marine and is now in school for HVAC. All of this i think has ended up with him becoming clinically depressed. I found out he was on tinder and upon inspection, I saw he had talked to some girls but nothing past …

We've been together for a few years but met when I was 13 he was 18 and were an "item" in a way - we didn't talk much because we didn't speak each other's language. Found each other 37 years l later on facebook and it was instantaneous attraction and love. He moved in with me a few months after we started visiting each other long distance (3 hrs). Maybe a year after we were together we had driven by one of those bikini espresso shops and he made a joke like 'lets go get some coffee' and I said a few things about them that I had heard (they don't wear bikinis, they are almost naked, many girls doing that are also prostitutes and strippers and will do "extras" for big ti…

Hi. I am married man. I love my wife very much. But I feel very much tempted to go to erotic massage parlours. My self and my wife have sex once in three months. Is this the reason for my temptation? I look forward for your thoughts. Thanks Bioboss

We've been together for 7 years, with two children, son was 6 and daughter was 2. My wife started attending a boot camp in Irvine CA. One month later she established a password on her IPhone and notebook. She was getting and writing messages while I can't see it. Once I walked in to kitchen and saw her rapidly closing one tab on safari browser. She started spending a lots of time in the front of the mirror and wearing sexy clothes before she went to gym. Every Thursday when her trainer was having day off she would come back from "gym" not sweaty and with all her makeup in tact. Finally i ran on to her facebook messages with her personal trainer Jose: Him: "You …

Hello Everyone, Been married a little over 7 years. I started noticing changes in my wife when she started a new job back in June of last year, working late, dressing different, guarding her phone. To make a long story short, my wife now spends more time with her new boss than she does with me. There have been at least 2 different incidents where I caught them doing what I consider to be flirting (she disagrees) and she even gave him a very expensive watch for Christmas. (she's never given me a watch) They text after work and at all hours of the night, I've even caught her texting him when she was supposed to be having a romantic dinner, alone with me. Every t…

Hi everyone. I'm 14 weeks pregnant and after a visit to the hospital after some bleeding, my doctor called me into her office. She informed me that I have Chlamydia. This is my 3rd pregnancy in the past 8 months including 2 losses. Each time I went to my initial appointments where my doctor tested for it like they always do, of course being negative all those other times, including the beginning of this pregnancy. She made clear what I already knew and what anyone reading this is thinking. That my either my partner or myself had to have had sex with someone else. And since I know it wasn't me.... He is chosing to lie to me and deny anything has happened. I know the real…

I have a burden weighing heavy on my heart that I have not shared w anyone else, but I could use some wisdom. My BF & I have been together since I was 17 years old. No breaks or days off for the last 12 years. He is kind, honest & trust worthy. We are a great team & work together well, but over the years the ‘fire’ to our relationship has dwindled down. There is no excitement or chemistry, but it is secure & comfortable. I have tried to talk w him about how I feel, but when I do he just gets defensive. Well, I also have a ‘friend’ (Mike) that just came home in Feb from prison after doing 8 years. We had something going on for a short t…

Hi everyone, my husband has been acting very shady the last 6 months and I’m starting to believe he cheats on me whenever I’m away. He staying up at night until 2 am when he has to go to work at 6 am. When I ask him if he’s seeing anyone he’ll be like “idk am I” keeping me in a constant state of worry. He’ll comment about other women in front of me and make it into a “joke”. I’m waking up to the fact that he has some real narcissistic traits but I just feel completely lost at this point. My family is a full of narcs as well so there’s no one I can turn to. It’s like I’m living a life in a reality that dosent feel real. The only other weird thing i found was cum on…

Hey everyone, Not really sure where 2 post this so I'm sorry if this is in the wrong place or if this site is not a good place to post something like this...not really sure what else to do! I'm 19, and I recently got a random message on IG, from someone I don't know. It actually looks like a fake profile or something, but in the message they say they are a friend of mine, but don't want to say who they are (annoying). They said they found a video of my parents having "something like a threesome lol" online and sent me a link. I obviously didn't click it and felt like really awkward and didn't know how to deal so I just ignored the person. But a couple days later…

I have never had a great relationship with romantic relationships and trust. Long story short, the culmination of this is being sexually assaulted by my best friend in 2017. That destroyed my trust, obviously, he was my best friend. I have been through counseling to work on that and forgive myself for the assault, but I feel like I have not made as much progress with trust and love in general. The challenge I am facing revolves around this issue I still have with myself. To recap, I met a guy in August, Bob. Bob and I are two peas in a pod. Extremely similar, but different enough to have fun and keep it interesting. Back in August, we decided not to date because he d…

If you cheated on your wife/gf/partner and it was over, would you keep the contact details in your phone of the person you cheated with? If yes, why? My husband cheated on me and I’ve just discovered that he kept her number.