Topics

My partner and I find ourselves in arguments that seem to have a consistent narrative - it usually goes like this: He asks me to help him with something (e.g. massage his foot). Because I know, in this example, I am not that good with foot massages with my hands, I opt to get our massage gun to massage his foot, which I know will do a much better job. But he insists on not using the massage gun and instead I just massage however way I can because he claims that feels good regardless. I insist on using the gun because I know it will do the job much better which is to relieve the tension on his foot. Few back and forth where I ask him to just give it a chance for a few…

I met this girl in March during a small party, we kinda had good times. But because of shyness and all that, I didn’t get chance to get her contacts. Fast forward in May, shr got my contact from friend after she saw my photo posted somewhere. We started talking normally everyday. We met again on her bd and to my surprise she pulled me to the dark area where she initiated kiss and started getting intense but later stopped. After that we started talking everyday, obviously i liked that girl. And later i told her my intentions and all i want from all this which is something serious. Few days later, i asked if we can meet for coffee somewhere, she told me she wants us to stop…

My ex and I amicably ended a 15 year relationship (no kids). We continue to hang out as friends and we have recently started seeing other people. I want to be supportive of my ex's new relationships but he blatantly lies to my face when he has plans with another woman. I don't mind that he's seeing other people but I am consumed by anger when he lies. I have tried talking to him calmly about this but he continues to lie. Any advice?

I posted in cyber relationships a month back about how I fell very deep into this online situation with a girl 15 years my junior. Looking back at it now, I am realizing how I ignored so many red flags from the start and allowed my savior complex, coupled with my co-dependency issues to allow the situation to stew for much much longer then it needed to. In retrospect, I've probably been in the situation before without even realizing it and somehow blamed this individual for all of my issues feeling that somehow I had been wronged; when in fact they were just a catalyst for my pathologies. What happened was this individual played up the victim card, blaming their ex f…

I moved in on my boyfriend 6 months ago and he in 42 never married. He paid for my breast surgery, and is putting up a barn and got us 3 horses so we can ride. He got it for me because I really wanted to ride horses. It is very expensive investment, we are talking 150k. He is very wealthy, he book us a trip in 2 months... He wanted to buy me a new car but we got into argument about other girl etc. I need someone’s advice, I need someone to tell me that he is serous and committed to this relationship... He is talking about the future, marriage and he already chose the name of a baby girl. I have trust issues ... because he messed up. He gave me a timeframe for our relatio…

My boyfriend (26M) and I (25F) have been together for almost 3 years. We live together. When we first met, he asked to meet my parents almost immediately. Since then, my dad has passed away. My mom is a lot to handle. She has some undiagnosed intellectual/emotional disorders. With that being said, we are both mental health/behavioral health professionals with graduate level degrees. When my mom is around, he doesn’t speak. He will say hello to her but rarely anything more. He doesn’t visit her with me. She has mentioned feeling uncomfortable around him to me and I make up excuses, constantly. Well, this past weekend was my cousin’s graduation party, out of state. I asked …

I posted a previous question on here a few months ago. Shortly after, my boyfriend (28) and I (34F) had an argument because the level of his respect and commitment to our relationship deteriorated significantly even just in the past few weeks. we took a break but it just seemed like he was using his space to drink more -So I ended up breakup up with him and I told him he needed to try and work on himself because the things that were happening were hurting us both. He agreed and said he would finally get help (he's been depressed and has had PTSD for over a year), and that he wanted to remain friends because he didnt want to lose me and he cares about me so much. I a…

Me and my fiancé have been together for almost 4yrs. We have a child together and both of us have a child/children from a previous marriage. I have full custody of my oldest, she doesn’t see her dad. My fiancé has joint custody of his two kids, which I find to be very disruptive to every day life. At this point, his custody situation is really causing a lot of problems. His children refuse to come to our house - say they are uncomfortable here. They stay at his parents during his visitation. Typical grandparents. No responsibilities, waited in hand and foot, no consequences, no rules really. Might I add, I have never been mean, never disciplined, never even raised my voic…

So my bf (28) and I (28) have been together for 2 years and a bit, he’s been at uni for 4 years. I’m currently working and he’s been studying. Throughout his course he’s made some friends. Recently, I have been feeling really strange about him spending time with them especially because it’s one guy and the majority of the group are girls. He mentions his guy friend by name but the rest of them as ‘they’. Doesn’t really say their names and I feel subconsciously it’s because he knows they’re female and maybe I’d feel weird about him spending his time with a bunch of female course mates. I appreciate he’s known them from the course from before we started dating. Th…

My boyfriend and I do the same job but work from different locations. It’s a male dominant job and very profession. We come together often for nights out to let our hair down. I have been having a reoccurring issue with a girl on my boyfriends team which is causing me a lot of anxiety. I have been doing the job a few years longer than the other girl. She had joined my partners team and they all went on a night out. I know a lot of people in the job and was out with my own team so we all met up. This is where the issues began. I walked into the bar and saw her dancing all over my boyfriend. I held in any opinions or feelings about this and did not express…

My current s/o and I (31F) have been dating for a little over 7 months and so far everything between us is going great! However, I have concerns about his Best Friend. He (30M) and his Best friend (32M) have known each other since college and are extremely close. They have even always made it a point to live in the same apartment complex as each other, though have never been roommates (live down the hall/same building). Even though we have been in a relationship for 7 months, I have only ever met his best friend twice. When I ask about this, my boyfriend just says that his friend is not very social and prefers to hang out one-on-one with just him. I can underst…

Hi guys, TLDR; Doc 12 years older than me (nurse) ended things because he felt pressure to act a certain way towards me (not pressured by me - but "pressure") he stated. He told me the feelings for me were very strong in the beginning but started to fizzle because of this pressure. I can't help but blame myself. back again.. I had a previous post here about a Doctor who is 12 years older than me that I was seeing for 3 months. Unfortunately he decided to end things and I'm having a hard time. I've been trying to remind myself he isn't who I thought he was. I.e. drug abuse, drinking problem, etc. But, for some reason I just sit here and fixate on the good times…

I have been dating my bf for 18 months. The mother of his children passed away so I have been involved with the children whom I love dearly. We have had our ups and downs over the months but it's usually the little things. Recently I received messages on FB from a fake account. The girl on there claims to have slept with my bf. She said he would go to hers or stay in a hotel. Recently he has been moody and snarling at me. He always said I'm welcome round his anytime but when I've been round lately he looks at me like a piece of dog poo and snarls at me "why are you even here?" "I'm busy" etc. He wouldn't let me in the house once saying it was a bad time. …

My Last post was about the person iam dating and a women posting a nasty comments on a picture we shared on social media. We plan to go to Jamaica this coming sunday June 20th, we have had very limited communication ever since the incident, i have been the one texting and asking him if he filled out some paper work we need for travel and Covid restrictions as the website requires 7 days before travel. Last night i reminded him today we have to fill out the document., he said he would be busy today and i said ok we can fill it out in the afternoon, well he never reached out today, iam so confused and mad , this is suppose to be my birthday vacation , i was looking forward …

I'm not sure if this is the right topic or not. My boyfriend of 7 years has never physically harmed me but how do I know if I'm in an emotionally/mentally/narcissistic abusive relationship?

TL;DR: I am dating a guy, and I like him but I don't find him physically attractive. Should I stick it out or end it? I (F20) recently started dating my coworker (M27). I originally didn't want to because I know that dating someone you work with never goes well, but he begged and begged until I finally agreed to go on a date with him. I really like a lot of things about him. We have a lot of fun together and I love hanging out with him and all of his friends. He is really caring and respectful. He makes me feel safe and like he is always trying to protect me. He has a way with his words and flirting with me that always gives me butterflies. I also like that he i…

We met just after I had ended a very long relationship and was about to move far away. So I told her I couldn't do anything serious and we didn't but she wanted it. She was average looking and I wasn't as attracted to her as other girls but it was enough for something to start. We dated for two or three months and it was an incredible time. Our personalities were very different on the outside but yet so similar in the inside so we just meshed perfectly together. Reading reach other's minds, deeply fascinated and understood, the whole thing. Most accurate descriptions online are soul mate. This ended and I moved across the country. We never told each other how we felt…

I was out with my friends at a gay bar in my hometown in California, A super cute boy approached me and asked to dance. We kissed and exchanged social media and left. He was from a different state about 600 miles away, and he was just visiting for the weekend. He asked if he could take me out on a date and I said I would love that. We met on a Saturday and planned our date for Monday but we ended up going back to the same bar and seeing each other again the next day on Saturday. We spent the whole night together, dancing, kissing and flirting. We went our separate ways, he was staying with a friend and I was staying with my parents (we are both 21 and In college). The nex…

I was out with my friends at a bar in my hometown in California, A super cute boy approached me and asked to dance. We kissed and exchanged social media and left. He was from a different state about 600 miles away, and he was just visiting for the weekend. He asked if he could take me out on a date and I said I would love that. We met on a Saturday and planned our date for Monday but we ended up going back to the same bar and seeing each other again the next day on Saturday. We spent the whole night together, dancing, kissing and flirting. We went our separate ways, he was staying with a friend and I was staying with my parents (we are both 21 and In college). The next da…

Hi there, Apologies in advance if my words seem a bit jumbled - it is my first time posting a question on any site, let alone Reddit, but I come to you in a bit of a confused mind state. Back in December 2020, I met a guy from Canada on an online game (I'm from the UK), one thing led to another and we added each other on Discord and sometimes chats became weekly chats, which soon became daily phone calls and ultimately, yet not surprisingly, the feelings really flourished. To try to describe the situation in few words, 6 months later and I feel as if this person knows me better than most in my own life - he has been there for me through many challenging sit…

I thought the whole purpose of dating is to get to know someone and have fun? Some people I know know that I'm seeing two women. They tell me it's 'deceitful' and in some cases it could be 'cheating'?? I'd agree if I was exclusive with one of them and seeing another behind their back, but in my case I'm not.

Hey everyone, I apologize for the book in advance. I am currently a 28 year old male who has been involved in a relationship with a women 18 years older since 2015. Starting in 2015 I started dating her. I was very hesitant at first. After being hurt by women my own age and knowing I am an an old soul at heart I figured what the heck. We started seeing eachother and immediately things got very intense. We were spending a lot of time together, and talking anytime in between of working and seeing eachother. Then 3 months in my life was turned upside down for the first time with her. I caught her cheating with another man. Whom she previously was with before I cam…

My ex and I broke up about a month ago. They gave me a reason that they cared about me and the relationship, but not as much as I did. To give a bit more context is that they were already going through a rough period in their life before they called off the relationship. I asked them what are some boundaries that they would like from me during the break up and they said to not contact them and they would be the one to contact me, I could however call them if I was in an emergency situation. For the rest of that month, I didn't really feel bad about the break up. After 30 days of no contact, I started to feel anxious like the whole break up just finally hit me. It re…

Hi everybody. Long story-short. I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for approximately 6 months now. We never had big fights and used to get along very well. He never gave me a reason to distrust him or his commitment to the relationship. On the contrary, he's a very affectionate and loving person who proved many times that he cares for me deeply. He always makes time for me, plans visiting, wants me to meet his family etc. However, the one who has some trust-issues is me, mostly because of past-experiences. From time to time I used to feel insecure about a girl he used to talk (we're both studying our masters' degree and he used to talk to another col…

Hey everyone. I’ll make this as short as possible but I need to vent and get some advice. We have been dating for about a few months now and he has been saying that he really wanted to have something deeper with me. I even stopped talking to the guys I was talking to because I really thought this could lead to something. I have a habit of not multi dating I just put my all into one guy and when that doesn’t work I am back at step one all over again. Smh. That’s may fault. Now me and this guy have never had sex. I am not interested in having sex with anyone I decide to date I don’t have casual sex. I have noticed this guy I’m talking about did make sexual advances at me bu…