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I look on this forum a lot to see if there are any new stories about people getting back together with their ex's. I do it just so that I can have some hope, and I really hope someday I can post my story on here to give others confidence that having hope pays off. In the meantime, I am going to make a list of actual stories of people I know that broke up and got back together. Please post your stories here too and we can put a little bit of cheer into this forum. 1. My friend was dumped by his girlfriend of 4 years. They were broken up for a year and a half and he tried everything to get her back. One day he was with his friend talking about her and she called him righ…

He deleted all of our pictures on social media which really triggered me. He wants the world to know I was never a part of his life. He made it clear that he doesn't plan on talking to other women/romantically getting involved with other people because he wants to work on himself(big reason he dumped me) but I'm afraid he is just saying that to avoid me being jealous. All I do all day is think about him and how much I love him. I'm dumb because in the process of him moving after he dumped me he was sleeping on my couch and we had sex 3 times in the past week of him leaving. I have major depression, C-PTSD, and generalized anxiety disorder along with suicidal tendencies an…

Out of general curiosity, has anyone actually had success with this? I understand the concept, it's to promote healing time, while you stay out of contact with your ex. But, has this ever worked for anyone, and successfully gotten their ex back? I don't plan to use it in that way, I'm just curious if it worked for anyone.

First of all its a long story and English is not my first language so sorry for any mistakes and please help me I am really confused and any advice would be appreciated. We were in a 2 year relationship and everything was going well before the covid lockdown. We used to fight and get into arguments but we never went to sleep without sorting it out. But we loved each other so much. We both had some bad habits like I was short-tempered and sometimes said hurtful things to her and she never shared her feelings or the things which were bothering her with me much, I had to ask her several times to know what has happened. Fast forward we had a fight in January 2021 because…

Usually not one to commit to someone very deeply and quickly, but met my ex and I were together for almost a year. I had concerns, so did he. But his were obviously bigger. Things were getting bad and I tried to end things over text. Anyway, he eventually broke up with me in November 20. Was obviously heart broken, sent him lots of texts to which he kindly attended to most of the time. I didn't talk to him for a few months, I sort of got in contact again. Anyway, since then we obviously still care/like each other and miss each other as much, this is what we have told each other at least. We've spoken on the phone for an hour a few times since the break up which was nice. …

So long story. So my girlfriend and I have known each other for 3 months and have been together for a little over month. We worked together, which is how we met. When we first stated dating things were great, but things quickly took a turn after only a couple of weeks. My girlfriend has had a lot of bad relationship history and is the jealous type. Which is the thing we fought about most at work. I eventually quit after realizing that if I wanted us to work I had to go somewhere. I thought is having time apart will do us some good. And things were good again however my girlfriend mood swings eventually got in the way. Things didn’t get better, she made me feel under appre…

I'll try to include as many details as possible: I've been with this girl for 9 years and we now have a 5 year old daughter together. We've lived together for about 8 of the 9 years we were together. She broke up with me for the 2nd time ( for the same reasons) about 3 weeks ago because of our living situation. We lived in a very toxic house with toxic house mates that caused every ounce of stress and depression in our lives and in turn that caused many arguments and reclusiveness along with anxiety and a whole list of other problems. We were stuck in that house for 5 years due to financial struggles and high cost of living. We finally moved out into our own place ev…

So, 42M / 38 F. Married for 8 years, 2 kids. Nasty divorce started 2 years ago, just finalized due to covid. About 2-3 weeks before it was finalized we were chatting about moving out of state and how we'd have to do it simultaneous, as she cant live 800 miles away w the kids. That convo morphed into living together in the new city which we agreed upon for our kids. (I am the sole breadwinner and itd be difficult two float to households for me) And a couple days later I threw out the idea we should probably do it here before moving 800 miles away at my current home as if it goes south it'd be easier to deal with her vs in a new city. Things werent great between us for a …

I've posted a few times: Ex and I dated for a year and we broke up almost 6 months ago. When he did, he expressed a lot of doubt and still does to this day. He cried too when we broke up. He was initiating a lot of contact recently, wanting to see me and clear the air but I declined. I ended up responding to one of his messages once and for all about 2 months later. He replied to what I said and then said it has 'been very difficult from his end. He felt it was the most appropriate thing was to break up, which has been really hard and he misses me all the time. But what's the alternative? He then went on to say that it's really difficult but he tries to leave…

So long story short, i have always been a picky dater. I am 35 now. For whatever reason, i was find a flaw in a girl, and then use that my reasoning to get out of relationship. That being said, i started dating a girl Late 2019. Everything was great until the pandemic hit. I was finally ready to settle down and knew that she wanted a family and kids, and knew she was the one. A little background about her though, she had just gotten out of a horrible relationship in which her ex gradually became addicted to drugs and became pretty much a pyscho. She even admitted she had trust issues. But to me, trust issues are not an issue unless the guy gives a reason for her not to tr…

My gf and I broke up just a few days ago after nearly a 2 year relationship. We ended on really good terms and agreed to stay good friends and perhaps even get back together if it feels right in the future. For context on why we broke up, we pretty much both felt that we had lost our spark and kind of felt like we had become more like best friends than a couple so we figured we each needed some time alone. However, the past couple days for me have been terrible, I can't stop thinking about messaging her or getting her back and I barely have any motivation to do the things I love despite the fact that we ended on such good terms. I really do feel that if we got back togeth…

My most recent ex and I broke up and we wanted to see if things could work out in the future, after we both heal. We called this our agreement. I have my own personal trauma from being cheated on before dating my most recent ex, and it caused a lot of insecurities for me. Unfortunately, i became friends with a guy named G that was in my class after my break up with most recent ex. Coincidentally, gossipy guy is friends with one of my ex’s friends, S. S has always been super flirty with ex, but he never made a move for her, and they were friends long before I knew ex. The first thing G said to me when I met him for the first time was how much he heard about my relationship…

Hello All, First time poster here. I've been in an on-again-off-again relationship for a little under two years. It was an extremely unconventional relationship which vacillated between physical and non-physical intimacy but was always very, very close. We have been each other's rocks and companions since we knew one another. We secretly loved one another but never said it aloud. Recently, we made a major breakthrough where she admitted she loved me, which was something she hadn't done since we met. I do not doubt my love for her and I told her how I feel too. However, there are some serious complications that happened prior to this that make the decision to be…

I met this girl in October 2019 and we had an amazing relationship through to september 2020 when we went through a tough period where we both didn't communicate effectively and this caused her to end things, however within 3 weeks we rekindled our relationship and i spent every weekend of October at her house and we re-bonded and felt strong as ever going into another national lockdown in the UK, with each of us in different cities. We messaged daily and spent a day a week as date night to do something or watch a movie together, we even spent time together around christmas. We exchanged presents for birthdays, christmas and valentines day. After restrictions lifted …

Okay - question time: I have tried to rekindle things with my ex. It's been rocky to say the least. He reached out to me after being dumped by his girlfriend late Jan 2020 (I had been in NC since October 30th). I determined I wouldn't make the same mistakes as before - given that we're long distance - I committed to actually seeing him in person. I succeeded in visiting him twice. Both times - they were rough. We had our differences. I had difficulties dealing with his hot and cold behaviours. It was really hard on me. He admitted that he was being mean to me - and felt bad about it. However, I understood that he has trust issues with me - so I tried my best to f…

My ex and I have been going back and forth for some time now he broke things off with me last aid well last oct his best friend came into my life we were only together a couple of months it didn’t work out now my ex wants to get back together should I tell him what happened?

Many of us are doing NC on this board. Have read SuperDave71's motivational threads on NC. Some even signed up for his 30 days NC challenge to heal and feel better about ourselves. But the thing is...it is hard to stay in NC especially if it's your first time around! So I thought I'd create a post so those currently doing NC, and those who had lived through NC, can support and motivate each other - not to break NC that is...

At the end of November last year, my Girlfriend broke up with me. We had been together for about 2 years, but had known each other for 6 months before that. We both loved each other dearly and always talked about the future but family was always an issue. She is Italian and I am Punjabi so it was hard to give her the family relationship that her family gave me. She tried to get over the family stuff but it was something that she really wanted and couldn't. When we broke up the first two months I begged and pleaded for her to come back but she didn't. I started talking to my family, and they understand how much I love this girl and what she means to me. They are willing to…

I would really appreciate some help please. This might be very long so I apologize. I broke up with my boyfriend around February, just a week or so before our 2 year anniversary. The reason being is that I found out that he was secretly going on cam girl services to pleasure himself, he had been messaging random girls on snapchat for pics, I found other girls pictures on his phone and he even had a secret Instagram account where he just followed a lot of half naked women. I confronted him about it and at first he said he didn't do anything but very very quickly admitted to what he did. He kept begging me not to leave him and that he is nothing without me. I am …

I'm a long time lurker, but joined ENA mostly to add stories to my favorite thread: Now that I've branched out to other thread and boards, I must say that the amount of negativity and identifying oneself as the victim I see is shocking. Obviously, everyone needs to process their own life and emotions however they see fit, but I believe that advice stemming from this outlook can cause people to develop harmful barriers to relationships with future partners, romantic or otherwise. To be fair, I don't believe many people even realize they are playing the victim. However, in cases where you are saying "an ex is an ex for a reason," or "reconciliation is impo…

Trust me, in my case I'm not expecting it, but I've wondered this. My ex said she'd 'closed the door' on me. Personally, I've never been the one to end a relationship, so I've always wondered how people can just say I'm done with you for life. My ex did eventually contact me, but in the end, I really don't know why. There was some reminising, talk of having missed me, our dinner meet - which she initiated went great, but she went ice cold the following day. I'll never know what happened. Anyway, I guess my question is just, how do some people just decide - I'm done with you.

Not sure if this is the appropriate sub forum or the healing after breakup one but anyways. Posted previously awhile ago about a relationship full of drama with my ex GF constantly breaking up with me, and acting manipulatively all the while being unsure of her feelings. The relationship was pretty odd because even though we dated for years, she never introduced me to anyone as her boyfriend, never posted about me on her social media, introduced me to her family as her “friend” and refused to meet my family. I was naive as it was my first relationship and I really loved her and did my best. Eventually she broke up with me and literally within a few weeks had all thes…

I am a (removed) year old male, she is a (removed) year old female (call her "C"). Both had one previous divorce (with other people), and I had a previous engagement that was cut short by death. We met on match.com, and immediately hit it off into a serious, monogamous relationship - this was when we were both (removed). It started with a magical text exchange in which the very first text she sent me after I sent her my number was "Hey 2MonthsOff. Too late?" and I responded "Never" and we were off to the races. After being single since 36, I had been in a large number of casual relationships and G was clearly different. Brilliant, beautiful, complex, caring... I…

Ex-boyfriend broke up with me in November 2020. I stupidly kept in contact with him afterwards and we caught up a week or so later. Been getting mixed signals from him ever since. I asked if we could catch up recently and he was sort of interested but half not. I told him today that I think our reasons for catching up seem different (as I obviously still like him) and he's probably doing it for friendly reasons. He agreed and said it's sensible to not catch up for now but we can revisit it anytime. Does this sort of sound like he just wants to wait till his feelings possibly change?

I was in a relationship with my ex gf for about 18 months together. And with the attachment theories I was a secure/ leaning anxious and my ex was a avoidant dismissive. We worked together with issues with her attachment issue by like creating the environment for her to open up her feelings better so we can both operate in the right context and being in the same foot. There was one time during the first few months where she told that me that she doesn't have feelings for me anymore and around those times she got really busy with work and was traveling out to a different country for the summer break. I thought things were going to end but reassured her that if we met up a …