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I thought this was a non-issue to me but I will be a hypocrite if I say it does not bother me. I thought I would be indifferent by now, but I am not! Grrr at myself. Ex-husband of 10 years separated in late 2019, and in the process of divorce. The cause of the demise is quite complex - a stepson who is a chronic thief (not sure what words best describes), lazy, disrespectful, and by year 7 of marriage, ex-husband would say “he does not love me, and will never love me”, slept separately for 3 years before the final kaput. I stayed hoping things will change, but its true what they say, you wake up and suddenly you are so tired of it. I asked him to leave. He admitted…

Question: As the title says, I'm just looking to know if my marriage can even work and if so, how? Background: I'm 44 and my wife is 33 in case that makes a difference. We met while working together and she was married at the time. She said she wanted a divorce from her then husband and we started hooking up. A few months later she was pregnant. We decided to try to work things out together and she moved in. I make a good deal more than her financially if that matters as it may have been a deciding factor on her part. We decided to get married a few years into the relationship and were married a little over a year before we had a fight and I asked for a divorce. I r…

I am in the middle of a divorce (that my wife wanted). At first everything was my fault and I started to believe some of it until I found out there was someone else involved with her. At first she denied it and said they were just “good friends” and then I had proof of all the texting going on between the two and she couldn’t deny it anymore. She still said “he’s not the reason I’m leaving” “don’t tell anyone about this”. Typical cheater stuff. We’ve been together 11 years, married for 5. Both of us are 30 years old and we’ve known each other since elementary school. She had only known this guy for about 3 months before she moved out. (Yes never met him before in her lif…

Hi all. I am not divorced nor do I have kids but am curious about custody and experience/ number of hours a week a father or parent is with a child. my friend is going through divorce with a 6 year old. Her daughter is primarily with her and sees her father all day Saturday including a stay over until 10am Sunday. The child’s father further sees her Monday’s and wednesdays from 2-530 after school. is this enough time? Apparently courts don’t favor a specific time period. What do you think? Curious for help and what’s been useful for you as they make their plan. blessings

Hi this is on behalf of a friend. She was married for 5 years and has a 2 year old. In December her husband told her he wanted a divorce and that he's fallen out of love with her and for her to move out immediately. She was very shocked (there had been problems such as family arguments, living arrangement and deaths in the family but nothing so detrimental for a divorce- at least for her) It was hard for her as its lockdown, she has a 2 year old, her parents house is being renovated. So she asked if she could stay till March so she could find her feet and move out properly (the house is his parents house). She's out now everything is being dealt with the lawye…

I've been with my husband for 20 years. We had a couple near breakups over the years. Now he's saying that he is not happy and wants out. We have 3 teenagers and a 7 month old baby. In am attempt to persuade him to stay I started paying all the Bill s because he said I just wanted him around for the extra income. I do all the cooking and cleaning, serve him his meals, and I never ask him to be intimate. However, he is still not happy and says he wants to move out. Nothing I do is good enough. I feel like a complete failure and loser. I just dont want to feel this way anymore.

After 8 years of marriage me and the wife decided we’d had our very last fight. We both love each other very much but the LOVE has ended, if you know what I’m getting at. We've realized that we’re two very different people that should never have gotten married in the first place as it’s been a cascade of smaller and some serious arguments since the beginning. The biggest problem that we’ve had is that I’m a person that always had to resolve the problem immediately and to talk it over until we were “friends” again, however my wife always escaped into our bedroom and refused to talk whenever we’d have an argument. Our last argument got so ugly that I completely lost it, sim…

Hello everyone. Excuse my spelling mistakes English is my second language because I live in Europe and was born here. I need to ask everyone is it me that is overreacting and crazy or is my husband shady? My husband and I have been married for 11 months now. I just had a two month old premature son born at week 32. I had an emergency c-section due to my sevre pre-eclampsia. I was in a very critical medical condition and the doctor told me if I had not undergone that emergency c-section neither the baby or I would have survived. After I had the baby I was still sick and still had to take care of the baby while being sick. The baby was in a bad condition also. …

To start I married someone from Vietnam. I knew her for 5 years, met here in Vietnam to propose, and brought her here then married her. When she came here she knew she would live with my parents. While I work on and fix a house next door. My parents need me to stay with them to help financially. We had an argument and my parents joined in. Now she is staying at her relatives saying she will not return to this house. She wants us to get an apartment together. I told her that my parents won’t be able to afford this place and it not like we would be living in the same house once the other house is fixed up. But she still won’t comeback and has stopped talking to …

I left my husband and I'm a mess, but I finally left. I'm only taking comfort in that it was the right thing to do, or else I would struggle and wonder the rest of my life. But I'm not doing well at all. I started therapy, I have a doctor's appointment as well to get back on medication, but I'm terrified and crying on and off and so unsure if things will get better for me. I'll have to post more in detail later but I'm struggling so much I wanted to post at least something.

Here is my story. I got married into a big family about 8 years ago. The first couple years went well. Typical stuff, watching football games and getting together with family and in-laws. We moved into a home. I had step daughter that was understanding of me and we got along. She usually had butted heads with her mom. We lived in a decent neighborhood. All went normal and well within the first few years. Although my wife always was hot tempered and curses a lot. This gradually increased and got worst as the years went on. I find it disrespectful and verbally abusive. At one point my dad had to stay with us for a few months after going through a hardship and b…

Good afternoon everyone, I appreciate the feedback from you all. I will make this as short and to the point as possible, as I am unsure as to where to go from this point. Two weeks ago my wife and I discussed the state of our marriage(5 years), and she has decided to end it. At first, I told her we should at the very least try and work on our issues to save our marriage and for the sake of our children (5yr and 8 mo), but she was not having any of it. She is done, fed up, and tired. She pulled the common "love you but not in love with you", "want you to be happy", and "we don't make each other happy" lines. I didn't beg, plead, scream, or do anything to make the situ…

Hi All, I really need some advice. I think I married and had kids with the wrong person and I don't know what to do. My wife and I have been married for almost 15 years and have two daughters, ages 6 and 9. For the most part, we get along well, but I married her for the wrong reasons and am not in love with her. We were like best friends, more than deeply in love (at least from my side). My parents loved her and we all had a lot of fun together. She was my first girlfriend. I was pretty shy, had low self esteem and, although I knew I wasn't really in love with her, I felt like we could have a good life together. I didn't want to crush her and was too weak to end …

I'll try and keep it short but it's a long story. I've been married 15 years and have two kids, 7 and 9. I don't love my wife, at least not as a lover. I don't hate her either. I've also been a bad husband. When I met her, I was going through a rough patch. She was actually a rebound girlfriend after a very rough breakup. A good friend, only 24 years old died a few months later and when she started putting pressure on me to buy a ring, I decided I'd do it because who knows - maybe she is the one! Just go for it and don't let life pass me by. I knew she was boring in the bedroom but I said - that's not what's important right? She didn't share my passions but sh…

Hi. Basically, (to keep it as short as possible) my husband had an affair. The only reason he stayed is because she dumped him for someone else and really, I was plan B. He said its totally over with her and he would never want to be with her again. Fast forward a week or two and I asked him to move out for a few days to give me some time to heal after he admitted that he still loves her and wonders if she’ll ever come back to him. He says he’s “here for the long run” and I don’t have to worry about her coming back because “she just won’t”. I know better. She will, and he’s a cheater who hasn’t made much change. We text here and there throughout the day. If I ever want to…

I was searching for something on my dads [50m] laptop, and I noticed weird site, which looked like a casual forum or dating site. There was also a nickname saved in the logging window but no password. When I asked what it was, he told that he didnt know and he saw this for the first time, so obviously some spam. But my brother told me he saw this exact site there approx 3 yrs ago, so he might have been lying. When I entered this laptop a few hours later, the saved logname was gone, it was probably deleted. I am a little scared what this is, should I tell my mom? [50f]

Will you trust someone after they cheat on you ? Or will you always doubt ?

I met my husband 5 years ago and have been married for almost 3. We have a 1.5 year old son together. We live a comfortable life financially. Our relationship the first few years was amazing. We had fun together, traveled and had basic arguments but overall we were happy. After marrying, we decided to wait a year before having children. We planned and shortly after our son was born. My husband has always been a wonderful father and I know he loves me. We have overcome some difficult situations together in the past. But lately, I feel as though all we ever do is fight and argue. There have been some changes recently as we moved and took different jobs before the virus lock…

8 years ago, I discovered my husband sending romantic emails to other men. I confronted him and he said he was just doing it for attention. We had a 6 month old baby so I tried to let it go. Since then I have caught him in many little lies. Not related to relationships but lies about his career or using marijuana, etc. He deletes all his email and browsing history. I have still not been able to forget my discovery 8 years ago. He never wants to discuss our relationship and acts like everything is fine. Since then we have had two more children but I am really struggling to see "forever" with him. Any similar experiences? Advice?

So, I’m in the phase where I’m still with my partner (never officially married). We have 2 kids and a life together. We’ve not got on overly well for years and it has gradually gotten worse where each time we argue is her saying she’s had enough. In recent years, last couple (of about 10) I’ve discovered she has messed around the whole time, breaks my heart. Loving my kids I’ve made my best efforts to keep it all together but I am done. Any thoughts are welcomed. I am still on and off the whole splitting thing. But after the problems we’ve had, plus not getting on it has to be time to split.

I have been with my on and off husband for over 25 years. We have three grown children together. When I meet him he loved to drink a lot. I thought well he's young it will pass. I didnt think that it would turn into a major problem. We lived with his parents until my youngest twins were about 1 year. I had to get my kids out of there. There was too much drinking and drunkenness in that house. Of course I let him move in with me. Ever since we have been together and until this day he moves out to his parents house. Before he would find any little excuse to leave so he can have that one drink since I won't allow it in my home. My kids have seen so much, from seeing him layi…

Hey everyone, I was hoping for some advice here. Typically, my ex and I get along, but every now and then, she turn pretty nasty. We had agreed on certain things child support wise, I lost some hours at work, I asked her if it would be okay If I paid less, she told me that, wasn't a problem. Then, she turns around and changes her mind, because she didn't agree how I was handling a situation with my son. (I've had a really hard time with him not sneaking in bed with me, unfortunately I give in) I completely understand this, and honestly I am doing my best to work on it) But, she sent me a pretty nasty text yelling at me, and that I will go back to paying …

I am at a point in my life where I am reeling from what happened to me. I am in a state of cognitive dissonance still, so I do not think I fully comprehend what has happened to me yet. I met a guy 1.5 years ago on Tinder. He was perfect to me, everything about him. Everything I ever wanted. It was just after the wedding invitations went out that I noticed he would say hurtful things, and apologize but it wasn't genuine whatsoever. My unease began growing, but I thought it could be wedding jitters. I had no idea what the actual issue was but I didn't feel right. I will go into detail of everything that happened and the red flags. But for now, I just want to know if anyone …

I have been married 10 years. We have 3 children. I recently found out my wife had a physical relationship with someone for 2 years, starting from about 2015. She continued that relationship in an emotional capacity afterwards online (we moved abroad at this point). She said it was my fault when I confronted her about it, but I told her that she decided to have the affair, not me. Since then, she has changed her stance a little and accepted the blame for having an affair, but still said overall it was my fault. I said I am leaving, but she said she made a mistake and has deleted her Facebook account. I don't think I can see her in the same way ever again. We live…

My soon to be ex wife is disabled. She suffers from muscular dystrophy to which she can't walk, and has limited use of her arms and hands. We decided it best to go our separate ways. She still currently lives with me and I am still caring for her. She's started going out with her friends to which she has my full blessings. Pretty soon I'm sure she's going to start dating and I have no problem with that either. My worries and concerns are well for one she is very gullible and I'm afraid of someone taking advantage of her. We talk but not quite openly as we used to in the beginning. Anyway she's a very attractive woman, and with everything going on in the news here down in …