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Hello all, I don't know how I feel about creating a new thread so recently after my last one; it seems that just after I conquered my negative thoughts about one topic, I'm now dealing with fears about the next. I sense a pattern here and it's really quite unfortunate. I have always had jealousy issues throughout my past relationships. It's a recurring thing, I'm afraid. I thought I'd outgrown it now, but the past week has sadly shown me otherwise. My boyfriend of 3 weeks (a very young relationship, I know!) has attended his first week of on-site college after the covid lockdown. He's mentioned on multiple occasions how he previously missed having college f…

hello! i just copied and pasted this from a rant so please let me know if there are any typos/and things that don't make sense. So basically in my friend group we don’t talk about anime that much or whatever and that’s fine. When I first got into anime because I happened to stumble upon it, I watched a couple of episodes and loved it! At first, I couldn’t talk to anybody about it so I went to my immediate friend group and tried getting them into it, but they were like no anime’s just a kid thing and that was that. Fast forward a couple of months I realized how much anime pulled me out of this slump of like “depression” and made me a lot more sure of myself and m…

I hope this is the right place for this but this is the only space I've found that is free. I want to be married. Everybody in my family is married even if they are complete trash. I met my cousin's wife and I hate her. She is ugly and fat yet she has his complete time and attention. He gives her respect and now he's buying her a house. I guess I'm not jealous of my other cousin's wife because I know what it took for her to "get" him and he barely respects her. You can't be jealous of such a situation. You can be heated when an ugly girl can get married in just months and has a man's complete attention. She walks around like her *** doesn't stink and I wanted to kill her …

My girlfriend has been talking to an old friend of hers as she claims. The messages are very flirty and he thinks I'm just her baby daddy. She went to the bar with her sister the other day and I found out that afterthe bar, her and another friend went to a fire at his place, her and my girlfriend ended up in this guys room. He then decided to bang the one while trying to get his hands down my girlfriend's pants who then claims to have left. I feel the situation is in appropriate considering we have a child. She thinks I'm crazy for being upset. She didn't tell me any of this I was shown the messages she sent to her sister. Until I told her I seen the messages she tried t…

Found this forum whilst trawling the web for advice. I'm hoping someone here can help me understand what's happening to me. Married for 2 yrs, to the funniest, most loving man I ever met. We have wide social life, lots of friend male and female. I have never been jealous in my entire life and always prided myself in being laid back and understanding in my relationships. My husband is a car mechanic and out of the blue his boss got him a workmate, that turned out to be a petite, dark haired, beautiful Italian woman, some 18 years younger than me. When I first found out, my head literally went numb. I stood for what seemed like an eternity in this place of total…

I'm having a really difficult time getting over something. I found out in July that my boyfriend began an extensive online friendship with an actractive woman half a world away. While the lack of proximity makes me sure that there was no physical relationship, I'm still incredibly uncomfortable. For some back story, they met in a FB group that centered on a Netflix show (a guy he went to school with was the focus of an episode). They met in this group in March when he was laid off due to the coronavirus, I was still working full time and was required to work at the office. During that time, we decided that he could stop contributing to the shared bills since there was…

So this girl and I were friends for a year..we almost started hanging out alone but but it became a mess..she had a bf...I backed off, then she messaged me asking how I was. I noticed she broke up with her bf so I said we should hang out...she said she was going on vacation but wanted to hang out when she got back...I told her let me know when she gets back and well plan something...that was 3 weeks ago...I texted her yesterday...she never texted back but then showed up to my work with another guy...they didnt seem particularly interested in each other and she didn't say hi to me or anything. Seemed very odd she would come right into my work after ignoring me...it felt m…

I noticed that my guy bff has become a little possessive lately. This usually happens when I hangout with my other friends, most especially if he knows that I'm going out on a date. He is a little chill with the former; he just asks who I'm with and where I'm going. With the latter though, not so much. There was this one time where he scheduled a work meeting on the exact day of my date so I have to call the poor fella to resked. Even some of our friends notice his jealousy, and would suspect that maybe he likes me romantically but would choose not to prod him. There are times when I can feel that there may be something romantic going on. The prolonged looks, the slow da…

I’m a 37 year old male and my fiancé of 3 years is 34. We have a normal sex life. The other day she asked me to search for something on her phones web browser, she was in the room with me but cooking evening dinner. When I started to type the drop downs of recent searches appeared. *porn* being one of them. I instantly felt sick. I deleted what I had started to search and typed in the word *porn* To my surprise, there was shall we say, a lot of recent searches, it was an average of I’d guess once a week for the last 3 months, what also bothered me was what type of videos she had been watching - it wasn’t anything illegal or anything like that but just, weird stuff. …

Maybe I'm just being stupid but I hate when my boyfriend calls other girls hot. He usually just says it about celebrities but either way it really bothers me. And I know guys look and whatnot but I wish he wouldn't say stuff like that in front of me. I know what guys talk about amongst each other and I wish he would just keep it that way. I find it really rude and a huge turn off that he says stuff like this to me. I don't see the reason for it. Does this bother anyone else or am I making a big deal out of nothing?

Hi, everyone: My boyfriend (of almost six years) and I hit a rough spot a few days ago. Here's the background first: My boyfriend is 12 years older than me. He started working with this young woman, who I have actually met many years before they started working together. We were in a young professionals organization together. She's about three years younger than myself. I was like a mentor to her. We stayed in touch via LinkedIn and have been acquaintances ever since. I always thought she was the go-getter type, very ambitious, in a way where she makes networking a priority and forges connections with people to advance her career. She was more up front and out t…

I have been dating my boyfriend for just about 9 months now. I am 23 and he is 25. Going into the relationship I was a virgin and he was not. He was single for a long time, basically 20-25, and in that time he went through hell. Battling drug addiction, getting kicked out of school, the loss of several loved ones, severe mental health issues. He comes from a broken home and two fathers who both abandoned him. I have diagnosed OCD and am being eaten alive by retroactive jealousy in what has amounted to my absolute worst fears in a relationship. I knew all of this going into it and was okay with it but I did not know the full extent of his sexual history. He lied to me abou…

Hello everyone, i hope you are doing well, here is my situation i'll try to make it as short and clear as i can. I have a boyfriend, we have been dating for one year and a half, we've been through a lot together and always managed to get over hardships (broke up a few times and got back together)... Now, we are stable and fine. During last summer, we had some big quarrel, broke up after it and all, but now everything is fixed... The thing is during that periode, he got along with one of his work colleague (that has a boyfriend, they've been dating for almost three years now) Anyway, there was nothing special between them, they still get along well now, he always sa…

I don’t know how to deal with my best friend. I’ve been having a really hard time lately with my family, friends, health and my job - just seems like everything is falling down around me. I love my best friend but when things are hard for me she is constantly showing off to me how much money she makes and tells me all the time “how she’s rolling in it” and I’m happy for her I just don’t know why she repeatedly has to tell me. Then she also broke up with her bf and every day she is telling me about all these guys that worship her and are asking her out - which again I’m like that’s great and good for her but after a while I start to feel like a real loser - I don’t go o…

Hi all, I will try and keep this short as possible. As some of you may have read before I’ve been having some issues with my marriage, mainly intimacy issues. Through one thing or another we are both giving it time but there is still zero intimacy between us, nothing at all. No kissing, cuddling, not even holding hands as this is my wife’s request and I’m trying to respect her wishes. Me on the other hand, I’m trying my best and being patient although I am still very attracted to my wife in every way but I’m finding other ways to channel my urges and it works some of the time other times I just walk it off so to speak. Anyway it was discussed that we should sleep…

Quick bio Me:25 him:27 Together 5 1/2yrs with 2 month break about a year ago. So this friend of his i have always had trouble with, they have known eachother for 10 years or so and are not very close, partner has says he just feels bad for her as she has no friends so catches up with her every so often. I have caught her doing very inappropriate, boundry crossing things while i am around. Trying to give him a shoulder rub, trying to hold his hand, when she hugs him she puts her breasts in his face etc. When i pointed these things out to my partner he said "shes had a ed up past she just doesnt know what shes doing" so i had a conversation with her and informed her…

My fwb posted on Facebook the other day.It says fellas if her conversations are getting shorter with you they're getting longer with someone else.I don't know maybe Ted. Ok so that's name I use but Ted is another male friend of mine.We chat on messenger . Last week when we were together I think he may have looked through my phone or was this a coincidence?

Hi, I really need some objective advice and will try to keep this as short as possible. My wife and I have been married since 2014 and ever since we tied the knot, her sister has gone ape sh*t. Case in point. She decided at the last minute to not be the maid of honor, to not attend my wife's bachelorette party and I was slightly worried she was going to ruin our wedding. Thank goodness she behaved normally at the wedding. Anyways, a quick background of her. She's single and I don't think has ever had a boyfriend ever. She does have friends but in general has a hard time getting along with people, thus she has had a hard time holding down jobs in the past. Now ou…

So basically, when I don’t like someone, I don’t want other people to like them either. Long story short, my sister in law and I used to be close. She did some shady things and I no longer trust her or like her. The problem is that I get so jealous/annoyed when I hear about people I’m close to (family & friends) hanging out with her and having a close relationship with her. I know it’s completely irrational to silly to feel this way. I literally get angry (on the inside) when I hear anything about her. And social media just makes it worst. HELP!!!!

How can i stop being jealous for no reason. Please help

Hi I am looking for some advice possibly from someone who is in or has been in a similar situation to me in the past. I have been with my partner for 3 years and our life is almost perfect apart from one niggling matter that comes up alot when we have a drink.. mostly on my part. a year ago i found out he had been messaging a girl from his past behind my back, telling her she looked amazing etc. i believe thats all it was as he has promised me this. and to most people i guess this is nothing to worry about. but i do. all the time. before i met my oh i was in a relationship for 10 years with somone who treated me very badly. he was controlling and abusive and he chea…

I feel so self-centered and foolish admitting this. But I feel as if I have no one to talk to because I feel no one around me understands the emotional turmoil I’m feeling. For four years, I’ve had the wonderful privilege of being the only girlfriend in a wonderful family. My boyfriend’s mom, dad, and brother have all shown me so much kindness and love. It was the closest thing to a normal family I’ve ever had. My parents split up when I was a kid, and we’ve never really shown affection. In addition, my more attractive and more resourceful younger sister is the preferred one. I’m most often the black sheep. With my boyfriend’s family though, I feel so loved and accepted…

Hey! I'm 23 and I was always a quiet kid. Ever since kindergarten (according to my mother) I used to sit alone and only get along with 1-2 people, wouldn't really participate in group games, etc. My grandparents taught me to read and write before 1st grade so I was focused on books while most other kids were focused on playing and having fun. My parents also have always had a very cynical view on most people installed from very early on (as in "don't trust people, people don't care about you, people are not your friends", etc.). My parents forced me to study and would lock me in my room for 3 hours per day. I eventually developed my own interests but since my parents w…

Hello all, So, I am suffering from retroactive jealousy, and i feel like it's messing up my head really bad right now. To give you some background, I am 24 years old and have been dating this girl for about 9 months. She's two years older than me, 26. I had never experienced sex or romantic relationships, or dating of any kind before I met her. Our relationship has been very great, as in almost all RJ stories I have read.. And i really hope i could be happy with her. So, now to the RJ part. In short, the things my girlfriend has told me she has done when she was younger disgust me and i do not know if i can get over it. I never asked about her past when we s…

So, my fiance has been known to entertain other women flirting with him. Sometimes I'll be clearly uncomfortable, and he'll tell me just to "let it go." There was a time when a random girl started messaging him on Facebook telling him how sexy he was and how I better watch out because I wouldn't "want him to get stolen." To me, that was really disrespectful, and I would've cut it off. He just let it go and kept talking to her...she kept making the same type of comments over and over. Then he sends her pictures of him and his daughter at her school dance. That's when I was like "no. This needs to stop." He did respect my wishes and blocked her. But, I was irritated tha…