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My 23 year old younger sister passed away this weekend. She had gone down a rough path after dating this garbage guy, inevitably ending mine and hers relationship because he was scary and she would defend anything he did. So, needless to say we hadn't had much of a relationship for the past couple of years. Anyways, Sunday we found out out had overdosed and never woke up. This week has just been a blur. I feel like everyone around me is devastated and I literally cannot feel anything. Its beyond awful that this happened and it makes me wish I had reached out more. But I most definitely feel like I'm not having an appropriate emotional response to this? Or mayb…

TW: Suicide Three days ago a friend's partner took her own life. We found out that my friend went to her house and found her there. She had hanged herself. I understand people do this when they see no way out and are mainly severely depressed. Plus, i am aware that marital problens can also contribute. She did have severe depression at times. But i can't help but feel angry at times with her. When i first heard the news that she had passed I was shocked and of course concerned on what happened and if her children were alright. But when i heard it was suicide I started crying and had to leave where i was and go home. I met her a few times but we weren't c…

A dear friend of mine died on Tuesday. We were thick as thieves when we first met. Years went by and my that friend I cared about so much started changing. She became an alcoholic. Lived recklessly. Put herself in harms way all of the time. I tried for years to help and nothing helped. The more I tried to help the more we drifted apart. For my own mental sanity I had to create distance. I reached out from time to time to check on her. Always up to her old ways, but she was alive. I always hoped she would get it together. I received the call that she died last Tuesday. Somehow I've prepared myself for this call for a while. But it actually happening has left me…

My boyfriend's mother died very suddenly and unexpectedly 5 months ago, leaving him an orphan at age 36. His mother had raised him by herself and his father had remarried but died just a few years ago. His stepmother and half-siblings stopped talking to him after his father died, so it was as if he suddenly had no family left at all. When his mother died, I was the first and only person he turned to, and I held him all night and listened to him talk. He had to fly to another state to take care of arrangements and I offered to go with him. He tried to book a flight for me but nothing was available, so he asked me to come in the future to help him pack up his mother's ho…

Anyone out there from Louisiana be safe ! Hurricane Ida is about to hit imminently and I just saw the storm surge is already 10 feet and Ida is 2 hours out.

This coming Monday is a year ago that my father passed away. I have a chance to join a grieving peer support group for military families who have lost loved ones . The group would be through Zoom. Typically I have found support groups very very uncomfortable. I don’t think I am stuck in any progress of grief right now. I have a lot to process that is complicated and I think too complicated for group work. Maybe I could learn some things from the topics being covered. Worth it to maybe learn something?

He'd have wanted for me to let those who loved him know. RIP WV.

My father-in-law has stopped eating and drinking now and stopped communicating a month ago . The nursing home said it won’t be long. 😓😓 My heart is bleeding for my husband and for my son who will lose another grandfather within 10 months. And truthfully my heart hurts for myself too. I have known him for 32 years.

Every year I dread this day and I always tell myself it's just another day but it never is. I'm 24 (male) and I lost my dad when I was a child so it's been over 15 years now and yet I feel such a void in my life that never goes away. I grew up without my dad and that upsets me that I never had him there to support me or give me advice and I feel like a lot of my issues with anxiety and lack of confidence are rooted in the fact I didn't have him there. Losing him didn't impact me too much until I was about 18 when it hit me all of a sudden out of nowhere and I didn't know how to cope with it. I still don't know how to cope with it and I just bottle it away because it feels…

As most people here know my dad was a difficult and abusive person I had very limited contact with for the 30 years before he died. My dad passed last August by his own choice. I have a lot of guilt because I want to believe we could have been closer even though realistically I know it isn’t true. But those dreams perpetuated by my inner child are still there. I know the way I was raised has contributed a lot to the guilt I feel . This weekend I will be close enough to visit my dad’s grave and was wondering if leaving him a letter would help the grieving process.

The Queen’s Consort and steadfast rock and enduring love passed away this morning at 99. 😓

I lived in Australia & I had been to visit my sister & my mum in England in 1994(who was in a nursing home suffering dementia). After having a couple of visits to see mum I had a falling out with my sister & her husband & I was asked to leave their house where I was staying. I had to ask a friend to put me up for a couple of weeks. During the time at my friends I neglected to visit my mum (something I cannot understand or forgive) until the last week before I had to fly back. I was out with friends most of the time & I don't know what I was thinking. I rang my sister to see if she would pick me up to go & visit mum but she said no & I got a cab…

My dad passed away on August 30th from heart failure, he was 75 years old. I have not been able to pull myself together since that day. I have tried and sometimes seem to be dealing with it alright but honestly I just feel depressed all the time and cant even get very happy about anything that happens that is good in any way, I feel totally alone and lost now and its hard because I have kids and they need me but lately my 10 year old daughter is in a stage where she is pulling away where we have always been super close, their dad has been little comfort to me since our relationship is to say the very least rocky and my sister who i am closer to then anyone in the world…

How do you look yourself in the mirror everyday knowing you killed your own baby I ask myself that every morning I had an abortion I didn’t want too but I did

Today I’m feeling so sad . also it still doesn’t feel real . I lost my best friend to suicide today . My friend just lost her own mother to suicide this past September. She said that she would never want to put anyone through the pain that her mother put her through . that she would never do it . She left behind her 19 year old son today and friends and family who truly adored . I just spoke to her on Monday. She was going through her mother’s things and told me how sad that it made her feel. Her last words to me were I love you so much my friend. I’m going to miss her terribly. How do you make the grieving process easier. I’m going to miss her terribly. We met when our …

My boyfriend lost his father last night, he had been I'll with cancer for a long time so he was somewhat prepared but he's still heartbroken. I don't know what to say to him or do for him, especially right now since we're seperated because of the virus. I tend to ramble when I'm sad, I'll send paragraphs and random stuff to him throughout the day most of which he doesn't respond to. He's trying his best to call me 3 or 4 times during the day for updates about the funeral and how devastated he is😭. My question is is it normal for him to not respond to texts or messages during the grieving process, or am i just overthinking all of it. Please help, what can i say to ease his…

My boyfriend passed unexpectedly on 1/10/21. We have a very intense love that I have never experienced before and I'm struggling with his loss. We met in 2000 and were just teenagers back then so we only dated for a few months. Over the years we were always drawn back to each other mostly just as friends. He moved away in 2007 and I hadn't seen him at all. In 2016 he moved back and he sent me a friend request and I couldn't bring myself to accept it. I had always had some kind of love for hom and it scared me. In 2019 we lost his best friend who was one of my friends also. I reached out to him before the funeral and than saw him at the funeral and it was over from there. …

He was 92. It would have been his birthday next week. He died from double pneumonia from the flu. He lived a long and fruitful life. He was born in the UK and immigrated to Canada when he was four years old. He was 17 when he married my grandmother ( she was 15)and became a soldier. He served in World War II. He was a soldier from 17 until he was 55. They had 4 children together, Five grandchildren and nine great-grandchildren. They were married for 63 years when my grandmother died 11 years ago. He was a great artist and had many friends in his retirement home community. His favorite saying was "everyday that you wake up is a blessing". He was very much the patr…

Hey, so my (now) ex and I are both seniors in high school - we're both 18. Her mom was fighting brain cancer for a while, and suddenly her mom's health took a rapid decline and she passed away basically a month ago. Fast forward a week and a half after her mother's death, she invites me to smoke with her and her best friend and the day after that we hang out for around an hour after not seeing each other for a month. Fast forward another week and after Christmas she calls to break up with me. From what I remember she can't give me what I want and she can't have a boyfriend right now. I told her that we could just cut the labels and she doesn't have to put any effort into …

Taking a page from the Healing after breakup and divorce forum, where we can post to our exes to keep us from contacting them. That is where I first posted this. I should have posted it here. I just read a list 20 Tips to do when you are grieving, and one is to write a letter to the deceased. Well, that is when it finally struck me that I am avoiding the grief of a loss. I need to face that loss directly. I need to talk to my long deceased ex. Maybe this thread can help you too. I encourage you to post here as a place to speak freely about our deceased friends, lovers, and family members. This is a safe place to say things that maybe we don't want to say to others s…

It seems every weekend I cry at some point because my father is gone and yes, he wasn’t a good parent and we had almost no relationship for almost 30 years but he was still my father . I may not have liked who he was ,what he stood for or any of his life decisions but I did love him. I just can’t wrap my head around the fact that I will never hear him or see him again. He was still a human being with a story. And that story and knowledge is forever gone. And that in itself is a tragedy.

My boyfriend died 7 weeks ago today. It's been very difficult and I'm doing better (as better as I can be), but I'm dreadfully lonely. I try to fill my time with friends and activities but I miss having a companion. I know it is too soon for me to date. I don't want to be alone forever but I can't imagine finding anyone I'm as compatible with as I was with him. I'm only 29. He was just 31, and died very unexpectedly. I know he is gone, but I still don't understand why it had to happen. I keep seeing people my age who are married and have kids, or boyfriends/girlfriends. I feel like there is no one left for me (and especially won't be by the time I'm ready to date again).…

Massive fires are raging there. :( People are dying and losing their homes.

He passed this morning.

He discontinued his dialysis Friday. I am going to say goodbye tomorrow. I am.... broken.