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She broke up with me about a month ago and it’s been about 2 weeks of NC. We both have tumblrs but she doesn’t really use hers. When we were going through our rough patch, I posted there a lot with inspirational quotes or self-love quotes. I was feeling very insecure. I don’t know if she was reading them at that point or not. When she did break up with me I went straight to my tumblr to start word vomiting everything in my head about how I was feeling. (The stuff you don’t usually say out loud because your mind is a dangerous place). I was angry, I was sad, I was broken. I had gone 1 week NC and I decided since at that point we still hadn’t met yet (borders closed…

I have been talking to a really awesome girl and have developed very strong feelings for her over the time we have grown closer as friends. I share almost everything, including my dreams at night, and keep no secrets from her. She doesn't share my strong feelings but does share my caring and friendship feelings and has explained why she can't reciprocate otherwise yet, which includes past Trauma/Abuse and not being ready for something like that at this time as she wants to focus on herself first. I told her to take as much time as she needs and meant it and still do. We've yet to meet in person but have confirmed each others Identities and such and begun to develop trust.…

Hello friends, This is more of a vent then anything. It's been years since I've posted anything. for background me 44 her 41, So the Shut down happens. So what else is there to do, play video games and some of my favorites has some IRL friends that I reconnected with after a while. I have been single by choice for 4 years, I didn't want to deal with the BS of relationships and was perfectly ok with being alone. In the Gaming world, a 15 year friend tried playing match maker, I wasn't very happy about it but she introduced me to a person. And she was completely amazing, we hit it off from day one. It might seem silly but we got to know each other very well in a…

I've been talking to this guy for about 6 months now, we became friends when I was having a really difficult time, had a lot to deal with irl and not in a good position. He made my day better, we talked everyday for hours, and plus we were both in lockdown so we had a lot of time. I don't think I have connected that fast and that deep with anyone, and all I looked forward to back then was having a chat with him. The thing is, I never thought I would develop these feelings for him, so I told him on multiple occasions how I am not looking for a relationship or want to be in one, mostly because I have a lot of mental problems and didn't want to add someone that had to deal w…

My age is 28. A month ago I randomly sent a msg on whatsapp and there received by a woman. We started discussions and even went to becoming a partner in doing some freelance jobs togetherly. Interestingly, i have always attracted by women who were in the age of 30 and 35+ and really wanted to have an affair with a well-educated and a matured woman. And now it has become a reality because she is a mature and looks quite carrying about me. Every time, she is the one who initiate the conversation and call me often. And I'm really enjoying her company. She is married and have 3 kids and her husband is doing a job in a workshop in Saudi Arabia while she is living in Karachi. A…

I reallly like him, but it hasn't even been a whole week since we first talked. Even if he is genuine, how can he be sure that we would get to the next stage.

I was out with my friends at a bar in my hometown in California, A super cute boy approached me and asked to dance. We kissed and exchanged social media and left. He was from a different state about 600 miles away, and he was just visiting for the weekend. He asked if he could take me out on a date and I said I would love that. We met on a Saturday and planned our date for Monday but we ended up going back to the same bar and seeing each other again the next day on Saturday. We spent the whole night together, dancing, kissing and flirting. We went our separate ways, he was staying with a friend and I was staying with my parents (we are both 21 and In college). The next da…

So this is fairly complicated but I will try my best to explain the situation I am in. I met girl 1 the end of last year and we became really good friends and grew really close. She had told me multiple times that she just wanted to be friends as she had just gotten out of a toxic relationship. However, I failed to control my emotions and ended up falling in love with her just 4 months into our friendship. I told her that this is how I felt, even though we weren't dating, because I just wanted to be honest with her. We tried to put that behind us and move forward as friends but as you can expect it didn't last long. She felt as if there was a disconnect and she want…

The gist: Male and Female, mid to late 20's and 30's. We’ve started our long-distance relationship 2 months ago - We spend a lot of time playing online games. In the past week, we’ve spoken about two guys that bug me in one way or another. And this morning I woke up with a heavy heart and clouded mind. I thought and hoped we closed this matter last night… Should I, How do I drop this? forget this? ? guy1 who flirts with her while I’m in the same game lobby. I noticed when we play with him, her signs of affection for me disappear. I’ve expressed that I wish her signs of affection wouldn’t lessen when he enters the lobby. She expressed that she only did that beca…

Hey guys, So I started dating this guy about 2 months ago. We've never met in person. We were introduced through two mutual friends. And from the very first day, we really hit it off and have so much in common. We talk on the phone every day and I can really see a future with him. He lives a six-hour plane ride away from me and I was supposed to go see him last week. But due to covid, the trip got canceled last minute (He had already travelled to the city we were supposed to meet up). He has this course he wants to do next month, which is why I wanted to go visit him this month before he leaves for 3 months. Now he's asking me if he can borrow $1000 to do this course…

I have been working on an asignment with a girl in uni. Because of corona all the work is done online. So i only met her 3 times via teams videocall. But i really like her. Our meetings where 4 hours,5 hours and 4 hours long and we only spend like the first 1 hour on work and then we just talked until one of us had to go eat dinner. We also went back and forth writing some weird vegetable political fan fic (don't ask its a long story). But ye like i said in the title she lives quite far away. I live 2 hours away from the uni and she lives 45 minutes the other way from the uni. So even if i get the courage to ask her out on our last meeting as a group i don't know for what…

Ok folks, hear me out! I have started seeing this guy end of last year. We live in different cities (5h apart) but I knew him from work and when he knew I was in his city, he asked to whether we should go out. From then on I kept it VERY minimal from my side so he was always the one reaching out first, calling me, asking me to see him etc. He was also the one asking me whether I want to be his GF after about 3-4 months. We saw each other every 3-4 weeks roughly. Now, being in the relationship for a few months, it is still him calling me almost everyday, texting throughout the day, even telling his parents about me, introducing me to his friends etc. We already w…

We started e-dating in late February, she lives in Brazil, I live in the USA. Coincidentally she lives in the same Brazilian city my family and I used to live (prior to coming back to the USA), I have double citizenship (American and Brazilian), so our communication was fine because I know how to speak her language. The possibility of us meeting in real life is totally possible since most of my friends and family lives in that city of Brazil. She is friends with one of my friends that I made back then when I was living in Brazil, so I know for fact that she exists. We met on Facebook with the mutual friends thing, and we were internet friends for about a year. I was…

So I'll try to keep is as short as possible. First of all, I live in France and I am originally from Serbia. It was summer, I was in Serbia and I met one girl and we dated 2 days in a row, and I had to go back in France, yes, only 2 days. We stayed together and made our promises bout staying loyal, I wasn't expecting almost anything, we were texting everyday, and talk on Instagram video once a week, she was 15 and I was 17, eventually few months passed by, and I came in Serbia to meet her for new year's eve, it was cool, I left with a friend to take a drink, chill, and talk a bit, suddenly one friend calls him [we knew each other] and started talking about something and k…

LDR Girlfriend of 1 and a half years breakup. I need some help understanding why As the title says, my girlfriend randomly decided to breakup with me. We are each others first everything. We’ve both been in ldrs before but never got anywhere with them. We are in a long distance relationship and have had an absolutely amazing time together despite the distance. We work great together. I have adhd and I told her to get tested because she had similar issues to me and she is now on vyvanse for medication. Ever since she got on it she’s been focusing more on friends than me. She also started doing all her school work which is great. She completely switched on me after thi…

I knew this girl since high school. When the school was ending she indirectly asked me out once. I was not in a good place back then because I got into a bad college and was trying to figure my life out. After school we went to different colleges. She kept in touch throughout college. We used to catch up every six months or so. She got in a relationship with another guy while she was in college. I always liked her but always respected boundaries. When the college was ending, she told me she was planning to break up with the guy she's dating. I asked her reasons and after realising those were genuine, I told her how I feel. She was still in relationship with that guy when …

Hey, I started dating this angel since the beginning of covid-19. it has been hard for her specially she is younger than me 5 years younger. and we are from different countries and so far away from each other like there is an ocean between us. but i really love her and she does too i had so many relations before her so i know this one is true we are together for almost 2 years now since 2020 as i said. the problem now is in the distance i am planning to meet her when i can but this can happen so late cause i still have military or army to go to also i am feeling helpless cause i am not there for her when she needs help and even us talking about a problem i …

Since March 2020, me and my ex girlfriend haven't been able to see each other because of covid. She lives in Canada and I live in the UK. In October, I broke things off as I thought it was the respectable thing to live our lives and have the opportunity to meet other people in these unknown times. We couldn't see each other and I felt helpless. We remained really good friends after this, but as a coping mechanism for not seeing her, I definitely did distance myself. Over 2 weeks today, she told me that she's seeing somebody and that we should remain friends. It's been a rollercoaster of emotions for me , she was my first love and I was planning on reigniting our relations…

My online friend and I finally told each other that we have romantic feelings. We've been talking for 6 months today, actually, and I know that we both really care for each other. However, he's not ready for a long distance relationship. We've already had communication issues -- he struggles with replying and planning and I struggle with not taking his silence personally. Although I would be willing to give ldr a shot, I agree with him that it would be really difficult. So, I thought that we would agree to just be friends and both try to move on from our feelings for each other. This is where I'm pretty confused -- instead of agreeing to go platonic, he said th…

Hey! I've been together with my boyfriend for about a year but I moved away in December for school. I currently don't see myself moving back home anytime soon, and he doesn't plan on moving away from my home country. He's started not talking to me and gives me attitude each time we speak. He also keeps asking for sexual favours but it's not something I roll with. I also don't want to put energy into something that I see no future with. I tried talking about the future of the relationship with him but he doesn't really want to talk about it. I was wondering if breaking up is worth it and how to go about it.

I'm 15 years old and I started dateing this person 2 years ago (Theyre 3 years older than me). They we're my best-friend and I was the first person to confess feelings to them. For a long time we wanted to meet and it happened in the 2019. (Our parents know we are dateing tho, we're biologically girls too). Theyre the only one person I talk to, I dont have any other friends and I recently got to high school where I cant find my place. At first everything we're okay, we're been love-dovey couple but for me as time we're passing I just we're slowly losing feeling for them. Its not like I dont love them, because I do, theyre really amazing and loving person but I feel like …

Hello, Brace yourselves for a huge post. I 30[M] have been in a long-distance relationship with her 24[F] for almost three years. We have been inseparable all of this time, although it was mostly online. I am not a psychiatrist, so I cannot quite nail down her mental condition, but she appears to share traits with vulnerable narcissist and borderline personality disorders. She has a severe fear of abandonment, self-harm tendency of carving words into her skin, extremely codependent (and thinks it's a good thing), enters into panic attacks whenever she perceives any danger, usually based on completely irrational fears; is extremely sensitive to…

I've been dating a girl online for the last couple months and we planned to visit each other in a couple months. A year ago I dropped out of High School and got my GED so I could put all my effort in my family business. Yesterday me and her talked and she told me she doesn't want to move here because there isn't much to do where I live. I can't leave because without a high school diploma I'm not going to get a good job anywhere. I don't know what we should do because we both still love each other but we can't continue our relationship if we're not together eventually. What should we do?

Hi all! I'd really love some advice on a confusing situation so here's what happened: Ex and I dated for five great years, doing distance the last year and a half. We're both moving soon to new cities and were excited to make that jump together. Then last year, COVID hit, he lost his job, and started struggling with mental health. I've known before that when he gets stressed or overwhelmed he retreats from everything. I think when we were doing distance he'd take that lack of feeling and just assume it meant he doubted our relationship or that we were a bad fit. He ends things last summer (on the PHONE) saying he felt like he needed to be alone. We didn't talk f…

I wrote a little bit about this in another post but I am here for more advice. Here's the last post for context: https://www.enotalone.com/topic/444735-a-sudden-change-in-long-distance/ My boyfriend visited me in the midwest at the end of February and I felt a little different probably because I keep pushing him away. However, he made me so happy again and it was so much fun. It felt good to be together even if it was different. I just found out that he is 99% sure he is moving out west and I am still unsure whether we should date into the summer. He wants to stay together but understands that is selfish because not only does he get to move out to the west for his pi…