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I had been dating a guy (let's call him ex date) for 2 months, I stopped having feelings & sexual attraction for him so I broke it off, but we were still good friends. Shortly after that I started developing a romantic connection with an online friend (over text) and we were planning to meet. I told him that I wouldn't sleep with anyone until we met, which would be in less than a month. Two weeks after the break with ex date, and a day after I made that promise, I got extremely drunk at a small get together my roommate had. One of the guests was sending live and my ex date viewed it, he saw and heard that I was drunk off my face, that I walked in to a wall etc. a…

Hello. I hope this is the correct forum to post this. My fiance' & I live in seperate homes five minutes away from each other in the same town. For the last few weeks her daughter, boyfiend & baby have been living with her & her two younger daughters. They do not contribute at all apart from a few pounds when the daughter gets benefits. They had to leave their previous home because of problems with drug gangs. They both smoke a lot of dope although not in my fiance's home. My fiance is a lovely. generous woman but also quite tough when needs be. Anyway things are taking their toll now & stress levels are high there. She had a…

So I am 30 now. An I have been in several long term relationships, I have tried to go for different men all the time. Looks, hobbies, lifestyle, the person they "pretend to be" at first. Because people say i go for the same type of man. So I go out of my way to find men different from the last. The problem is.. as different as they all appear to be at first. They all end up extremely emotional abusive. My boyfriend now must call me a dumb *** at least several times daily..that an other fowl disgusting names. But every guy I have dated has put me down or called me names in 1 way or another. I break up with men who speak to me like that..just to find another. I re…

A letter with typed text and glued on. It says: "Youre ex is an amazing women. Thanks for cheating so she met me. THANKS" I dont know if my ex still has a new boyfriend,i have never met him and i have no argue with my ex. Is it my ex trying to get some reaction from me? WHO sends a letter like this?

I'm not sure if this is the right topic or not. My boyfriend of 7 years has never physically harmed me but how do I know if I'm in an emotionally/mentally/narcissistic abusive relationship?

Please try to put yourself in my shoes while reading and remember that I'm not a mentally strong person. I had been harassed multiple times by a co-worker two years ago. My mental health wasn't at its best by the time and the things he had done made it even worse. After what he did to me, I began to fear and avoid every man I saw. I've been avoiding a relationship for two years because of that. I know I shouldn't have judged all men just because of what one of them did but after being harassed, I unintentionally developed a fear. Please don't think that I'm spreading hate against men. So I was in a bad situation for two years and last summer I met a guy. We…

My relationship has had a fair amount of physical and verbal abuse coming from both sides… everyone tells me my bf is the abuser, but how do I know if I’m the abusive one or he is?? How do I know whose actions are reactive abuse?? If you need more info to respond let me know…

I’m not really sure how to word this. I’ve been with my child’s father since I was 16. I’m 24 now. I have a history of drug use with him but we have both been clean for almost 5 years since I had my daughter. The constant fighting and abuse hasn’t stopped though. When we were using he used to hit me but he hasn’t in quite a few years. However when we argue and he screams at me it really it triggers my PTSD from everything in the past. We fight constantly and I’m definitely not innocent because I also start fights and call him names, and he does the same to me. I try to keep it away from my daughter but he does it in front of her constantly. I tell him to leave and he won’…

Hi to everyone reading this post! I really need some advice with this. I have been friends with this guy for over 8 years now since we were in highschool and we all were 14. We know his girlfriend quite well and she became a part of our group since he has been with her for over 4 years now and she has been really opening up to us for over a year because she was shy before. I became good friends with her since her and me have alot in common. It began like small fights they had in our discord voice chat. Little arguments about stupid stuff one person said and the other person took it the wrong way. He would stay mad for a bit but not long and the rest of our friend gro…

So I'm 23 and it was the day before I moved across the country so I stayed at my father and his new wife's house. The morning I was going to leave his wife went to work so my dad and I decided we should go to breakfast as we usually do. He came out in a towel and hugged me telling me how much he was going to miss me. He started rubbing my back, then he moved his hand to my lower back and went under my shirt rubbing my back. I tried to pull out of the hug as I felt super weirded out and uncomfortable. He then kissed me super soft and sensually on the lips (I've pecked my mom on the lips for years but never my dad). When he did this I tensed my entire body and try to pull a…

The other day I had an altercation with a girl that slept with my ex and I ended up hitting her and we had a fight. I regret it so much, I should of never hit her or even approached her but I guess I was drunk and being an arsehole. She ended up having a lump on her head and I wasn’t hurt. This girl is from the same town as me and I am bound to see her out eventually. She has a big group of friends, one of the girls in that group hates me already (the feeling is mutual) and sent me a big paragraph saying ‘you’ve messed with the wrong girls’ and another girl in that group is a known fighter and is pretty ruthless so I’ve heard. I’m basically just scared, believe it or …

I have PTSD which has further developed into depression and severe anxiety. This is the result of me being a victim of a violent crime in my own home in 2011 or 2012. I have trouble with my memory due to injuries sustained. I am living with a man who claims to be bipolar. We met in 2014. I unfortunately jumped into the relationship far too quickly. It was happy at first. He now he seems to be dealing with erectile dysfunction and other medical problems. He is verbally abusive and sometimes even physically abusive. To me as well as our cat. I have finally gotten his mother involved. I recently told her he had hit me on multiple occasions. She said i…

i hallucinated a rape i dont know if it was a real hallucination or not i cant remember any flashbacks of being raped but this rape turned me into a vegetable at writing emails i lost the ability 2 talk normally after I turned 15 when the rape happened hallucinated or not i dont know I am trying 2 forgive the guy who did this 2 me i wish hed admit 2 everything but how can he when i might of hallucinated it.... it hurts me so much that i saw a man i loved raping me in a hallucination it could of been real i dont know i want answers i want some comfort for suffering with sexual hallucinations thats what everyone called what happened that night a hallucination I dont know wh…

Over the past few months I've blacked out drunk 3 times. I haven't changed anything about my drinking habits, although I have lost a significant amount of weight, but I never blacked out before these 3 incidents. This last time my boyfriend asked if I remember anything about the previous night, which I did not. He reenacted everything that occurred, which was him undressing me, giving me oral several times and having sex with me over the course of 2 hours, with breaks for water. This is our sexual norm when I'm awake and I've always told him he could make love to me anytime, even if I was in such a state. I don't feel violated, we are very much happy and in love. We…

So here it goes. The past year I’ve had a spiritual awakening. But what I didn’t expect was to learn so much about Narcissistic Abuse. My entire family is narcissistic so much so that some of them refer to themselves as psychopaths. I myself am an Empath. Now I’m trying to figure out who my husband actually is. In 4 years I’ve never actually had a conversation with any of the women in his family. When we’re around his mom he translates from Arabic to English but the convo is so superficial I feel emotionally drained by the end of it. As soon as we sit down they just start speaking in their language as if I’m not even there. I’m the one that intitiates the “how are you” co…

So a few years ago I was with a group of girls that were my friends and we wanted to have a night of fun meaning we would drink and just hangout. I had a boyfriend at the time and was extremely loyal towards. My friends and I had parents who were extremely strict which I forgot to say we were in high school at the time so we had no where to go. I remembered this one kid I knew from sports and I texted him to see if we could come over which he said sure. We didn’t want to share our alcohol with him and his friends so we decided to park in the parking lot in front of his house and drink a lot. I barely ate before so I got super drunk which I never been this drunk in my enti…

I have a couple of situations I think she's gaslighting me in: 1. when we were dating, I owned a house a was renting a room out and my wife and I weren't living together. My roommate asked if his female friend could stay in our spare bedroom for a few days because she was getting kicked out of her house, so I said yes, and this was in person. When I talked to my wife (girlfriend at the time) said I should have called and asked her first, that we should be making decisions that affect both of us together, and that it's not smart to have another girl stay in my house; her thinking it could lead to me cheating or something. This was like 8 months ago. I brought this up …

I grew up in an abusive household. My dad use to beat me up daily. I was desperate to get out. So when I was 18, I decided to runaway but I had no way to financially support myself. I had met a guy online that said he would help me. He told me he was in his early 30s and had kids and just really wanted to help me. We met up a few times before I decided to leave with him. Then one night I left with him. He suggested we stay in a nearby hotel the first night. I agreed but said I wanted my own room. When I got to the hotel, it ended up being one hotel room with a single bed. I told him I wasn’t comfortable with it and he sexually assaulted me. I didn’t really make a big deal…

Hi, I have been married for two years now my wife hit me twice today for the first time. Her stated reason was that I was not willing to talk to her when she wanted to - we had been having a quarrel since morning. I don’t know how to react. I don’t want to give up on the marriage but this is making me question whether I even know her at all. Any suggestions?

I have been with my girlfriend for over 2 years now, and whilst most of the time things are amazing and we love each other dearly, it hasn't always been an easy ride. We are very different personalities. I am pretty laid back, and probably lead toward rational vs. emotional. She is the opposite and is a very emotional person, which has its pro's and con's. She often struggles to control her emotions, crying often, and quick to temper. She's had a difficult upbringing, with her father dying very young and brought up by a single mother who didn't have much money. She has been diagnosed with Generalised Anxiety Disorder and had a course of CBT, but she didn't like it. She re…

My ex just left me for the second time. He’s claiming it’s because of my Bipolar but I think he’s a narcissist. My feelings never mattered to him every time he did something that hurt me in a way he always got mad and flipped it on me. He used to abuse my cat for no reason. He’s also put his hands on me. He has a spare key and was supposed to bring it back yesterday but still hasn’t. What does all this mean? Am I just crazy?

Two years ago I did a blind move while 6 weeks postpartum for my husbands job. It moved me away from all family and friends into a rural area and I am a city girl. My husband has been increasingly verbally and emotionally abusive toward me and my 2 year old is beginning to realize it and defend me against him. He bit my two year old as punishment for biting her brother and he left a giant mark that lasted weeks. I reported him to child services as I was horrified of his form of discipline. I do not spank or harm my children in any way as punishment. I am a former early childhood teacher who knows biting a child is wrong. I believe that is also common s…

.....so this man who had been a family friend and had earned my trust for months suddenly came up 3 days after I had a surgery and tried to push himself on me..... I held him off for a day..... he would rip off my pants and his and just thrust himself into me immediately and literally had a 10 inch penis so the pain was unbearable. He was so forceful and strong and fast that despite me not wanting it and squeeking out a "it hurts, stop stop", or trying desperately to pull myself away from his tight grip so he couldn't get himself into me so deep I was never able to get him to stop. It would hurt so bad I would scream full bodied scream and he would jump off me and act l…

Hi everyone I’m Tom or Tammy I’m a 52 year old guy that still has a lot of anger and Shame inside me , from the age of 12 my mom caught me in her tights, panties and mules she flipped I got spanked and was made to stay in the clothes for the rest of the day it was just me and mum and this was late 70s early 80s so spanking no big deal but mum invited my aunt and cousin over later to see me like it and another spanking which was extremely humiliating but as time progressed she dressed me more , more family and friends see me like this so as you can imagine I was teased constantly mum would take me shopping and try on dresses skirts,sandles with my toes painted and then ful…

I was sexually abused by my older brother when I was a child. From what I recall, the bulk of the abuse took place when I was 6 to around 11. However I do remember he tried to do it again when I was 12, and at that stage, I knew it was wrong, and managed to get away. He is five years older than me. I think my mother knew what was happening. I once kicked in the glass front door in a temper when they left us alone and she asked me "do you be alright with him here by yourself". The abuse has shaped my life in many ways. For years, I identified as lesbian. It's only over the last few years I realised that I was afraid of being intimate with men and felt safer with women.…