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Hi Everyone, I am a 30 year old guy, in a relationship with a girl the same age as me. We have been together for 3 years now. Everything is great and we are currently looking at buying a house together. I'm worried that we have differing opinions about marriage. I have never wanted to get married. I have always made this clear. She has always been kind of wishy-washy about it and I didn't think it was a big deal, until a couple of times recently that she has made comments about wanting to get married. I've explained to her that I don't really understand the concept of a marriage. IMO, I don't see the point in spending tens of thousands on a wedding …

I have been married for about ten and a half months and I hate my marriage. I have been with my husband off and on since I was 14 years old and now we are both in our 30’s and have two kids together and one on the way. Our financial situation is about as band as it can get in a marriage. My husband grew up poor in the projects and had to find a way to get money at an early age he was doing thing legally and illegally to get by which worked for him as a single man but once we decided to be an official adult couple in our early 20’s things took a turn for the worst. He has been an impulsive spender fir the six years and there has been no let up. I am a medical professional …

I have been with my partner for almost 14 years. A little background on us, I was an 18-year-old virgin that had never even been on a date and he was a 27-year-old that had slept around plenty but was ready to try to settle down. When we met, it was like wildfire. We clicked on so many levels. I not only opened up to him emotionally but physically, which I had never done, and he was patient, kind, and opened himself up emotionally, which he had never done. We fell in love so quickly and many had their doubts about it lasting but, despite the odds, we have remained together through blissful times and the hardest times either of us had known. 7 years into our relationship, …

Just over 40 years of marriage. We were going to pick up my new car, both of us were excited. Until we hit the traffic slowdown that lasted over 10 miles. I was driving, husband was in the passenger seat trying to control how I was driving (speed up, you're too close, go around this guy) along with various gripes/comments about how late we were because of traffic, general comments about traffic and how slow everyone was going, finally to the point of telling me to drive on the berm around the semi that was slowing traffic to get around him. All the time I was saying nothing. Then the low fuel gauge came on and that started a whole different set of comments. When we …

My significant other and I have been going through a rough patch. I am at the point where I feel as though I am nothing to him but someone to gain from Financially, sexually, and mentally. I feel so destroyed and just useless to him as though I am not good enough. This man never makes a mistake and everything literally is my fault. I am so angry and mad. He made a tinder account, stole money from me, cheated on me, does not pull his weight regarding household chores, and two months ago told me he was not in Love with me because I was selfish because I slept during the day (I work 8pm to 4am of 8pm to 8am). I have insomnia and have always had trouble sleeping. I have taken…

Hi everyone. I feel like I'm faced with an impossible dilemma. I've been married for over 30 years to a generally decent man. No infidelity/trust issues/abuse/major issues of any kind. I know that he loves me and we spend most days together doing general everyday stuff. We aren't as close as I'd like us to be, and we don't really have much to talk about. I don't think he's got a very good sense of humour and I find it quite hard to have an imaginative discussion with him. I'd say that he's always been a little controlling/jealous of the time I've wanted to spend with other people, but nothing extreme. The only thing that has always been a cause for repeated argu…

I've been married for 1 year and been in a relationship with my wife for 5 years. This is the first time in a while that we have been apart. My wife went to see her family for 3 weeks and I stayed back to continue working. During these 3 weeks, I felt a lot less stressed and less anxious, and I have never felt this way before whenever she is away. Usually I would be anxious since she would act as a source of comfort for me, but this time was different. It was the first time I felt this way and I was so relaxed to the point that it made me doubt whether I still actually loved her in a romantic way. I told my wife about this and she wanted me to figure things out, but…

We haven’t even been married a year and I’m starting to feel like our marriage is heading in the wrong direction. I feel as though my husband has changed. There is hardly any romance at all in the marriage anymore and like I mentioned we haven’t even been married a year!!! We have not been intimate for almost 4 months!! I have not tried to initiate because last time I did I was turned down and it had me feeling bad about myself. He doesn’t hardly like any form of PDA, he thinks it’s tacky. Even when I try to go in for a kiss in the privacy of our own home he kind of gets taken back by it and makes some kind of comment. We also use to always kiss each other goodnight, but …

My significantly younger sister (11 year gap) is intent on marrying an absolute loser, and is in the process of sponsoring him to US citizenship. I, and my entire family, have always errd on the supportive side. We have been through a decent amount of therapy due to geneetic mental health issues, and have always prized being there for one another. Due to this, a good portion of the family has not communicated to my sister that they dissaprove. She has now acquired an immigration lawyer to assist in getting him over here so they can get married, and he can get citizenship. There are so many things wrong here I hardly know where to begin. The guy in question has n…

I've been married to a woman I love since 2017. We have two daughters, which take a lot out of both of us, but we try to help each other as much as possible. Well, the other day, our daughters both went down for a long nap and we finally had some time to do what we wanted. I chose to play one game of cards online while she was messing about on her phone. She finished with her phone and took a 15 minute nap herself. After that, she got up to be productive and do the dishes. My game of cards was still going. I know I had things to do, but I always have things to do, but am almost always unable to do said things because of the kids. Also, I am unable to relax and h…

I am a PhD student from upper middle class and have had quite a modern upbringing.Is it a good decision to marry a guy who's a mature man, really good at heart,is a doctor in india earning 90k per month but belongs to a different caste,poor family,with no family assets, and his parents having an Orthodox thinking.Need practical advice only.

I have been married to my wife for 33 years. Over the past several years our sex life has been pretty much null. I have talking to and seeing an old high school sweet heart and have fallen deeply in love with her again. I want to fix my marriage but how do I stay with my wife when I love someone else. I'm very confused. Any suggestions?

I want to get married, that's not what this is about. I love my fiance and I can't wait for him to be my husband. I didn't want a big wedding and he was willing to compromise, although he wants a big one in the future. So I started planning a small only direct family event of 9 people total. I've been telling everyone that I want to keep it simple. The ceremony, pictures, and a home cooked meal. No decorations, or favors, or gifts. I was expected to plan everything, which was fine in the beginning. But as time went on each of our mothers and sisters started to add things with the phrase "but it's whatever you want" at the end. But no matter what I've told them, they are d…

I see my husband as we pass one another thru out the day as he does his thing in his shop. I am needing, wanting, longing for intimacy or quality time with my husband. he thinks if we are both at home then whoop there ya go. not what I had in mind... and believe me I have had this conversation many many times... it always ends up in argument. HELP HELP PLEASEEEEEEE

My "fiance"(46M) and I (32F) have been together for 5 years in June. Very early on in our relationship, he told C***** he loved her... While we were having sex. My name is not C*****. Nor does it sound similar, rhyme, or spelled with the same letters. He explained then how a person named C***** was the topic of a radio show he was listening to earlier in the day. I tried to brush it off. But we hadn't told each other we loved one another yet. So it made me think... A lot. But I really liked him and had so much going right with him that I decided to do my best to let it go. About maybe a month or so later, moving my things into the house, I happened to notice some wr…

First, I want to thank everyone that read my other post and commented on it. Long story short, The wife walked out an me and the kids 3 months ago and has been living the fun singe life 100s of mile away. Still struggling with everything but getting to the point of anger knowing that all she does is lie to me and the kids about wanting to come home. I have struggled taking care of everything while she takes weekend trips with guys and goes out partying. She talks to the kids about every 2-3 weeks for about a minute just to act like she cares. It has all been a mess and I am just getting tired of how she has treated our marriage and our family since she decided she w…

Last night my husband used a vibrator on me while he attempted to get hard and everytime he tried to put his penis in it was still not erect, so he would go back to using the vibrator instead. I told if he is tired we can just go to bed no big deal or I could give him a BJ and even then he stayed limp. I know that sometimes this can happen but my concern is that prior to this it had been about a week since having sex ,and he usually has a very high sex drive . Do u think he is watching to much porn or cheating or is this just a one time awkward thing .

First time user, but here goes... Wife (41) was offered a job out of state. Me (52) and her discussed and decided it was not worth it. Then she a month later she came home and said she was going to go check it out. She left 2 days later and came back a week later. She said she loved it and wanted us to relocate. She quit her job and left the next day. I was supportive, as a husband should be. I stayed with the kids to finish school. We talked and looked at houses for a month. Then she got her first check and went out drinking and did answer my calls or text for 2 days. The third day we talked and she informed me that this was all a plan to leave me and the kids. I of…

Hi Guys, i am happily married with 1 daughter and my second due in 9 weeks. My wife seems to hate all my interests since she became a mother. I am interested in few things, music, motorcycles, carpentry, lifting weights and recently gardening. I had planned a 1 night camping trip about 45 mins away from home months ago, my last motorcycle outing before second baby. i was bummed when i found out my spot was closed due to people littering etc last summer and i told her this and she starting at me about not going, do it in garden, i might need you home anytime etc etc. We are having her sister stay that night to get used to putting out toddler down as she is takin…

I'm frightened about where my marriage is right now, because I've been talking with my wife and things aren't getting better. I need someone to talk to. I feel like she's not into me as she used to be. When I tell jokes or flirt with her, I don't get a smile or much of a reaction. She spends most of her day watching TV, on her phone, or by herself in our bedroom, and it makes me feel so alone and that she's not interested in me anymore. If I ask her about "adult time", she'll say yes and she seems into it, but I notice that she rarely initiates, and it makes me feel unwanted and unattractive to her. At times, she's also less engaged with our son, and I worry a lot ab…

My husband and I got into a big fight and I'm always the one who has to reach out to fix things. This time I really don't want to. Is this hurtful to our marriage or if I try to mend things am I continuing a pattern? It makes me feel like I'm not important enough for him to want to fix things and it hurts. I've posted a little more background below. So I believe my husband has trouble controlling his anger and he has trouble dealing with his emotions. He's a first generation immigrant from a third world country and his family does not have healthy ways of dealing with issues. We've been working on things for him over the years we've been together (almost 10, married …

My husband (32M) and I (29F) dated long distance for 2 years, and finally got married this past September during COVID. He is an Alberta native, and I a Virginia native. I know I love my husband, because there are things I do and sacrifices I’ve made that I wouldn’t do for anyone else! He makes me feel loved, sexy, and very comfortable. But... I have some reservations. Within the past 8 months, I’ve moved from America to western Canada to be with my husband. He works in the oil sands, where his work schedule requires him to be away from me every other week for a whole week. So I technically see him every other week. The week that I’m home, I’m miserable and su…

So I (F,28) have been with my bf (M, 28) for 2 years, we have been friends for longer. I love him very much. I found solace in him after breaking up with an abusive ex. Since then he’s proven his love and care for me over and over. He’s perfect in every way. We both currently live at each of our parents house. We spent most of the pandemic apart like many people probably. We are both from cultural backgrounds where our parents would disapprove of our relationship (crazy I know). So we have kept it quiet and things have been amazing so far. We decided to get an apartment together and tell our parents after the fact, so it gives us a place to escape from all their…

Alright sorry for the novel but here’s the situation: I’ve been with my bf since high school, almost 10 years. We’ve had our ups and downs, our relationship isn’t perfect, and we’ve almost broken up a few times, but I love him very much and I’ve always pictured him in my future. Last week I was invited on a trip with my best friend and her husband and her husband’s best friend. We met only a couple of times before, but the best friend and I vibed pretty well, a little too well. He ended up pouring his heart out, confessing how much he likes me, and trying to kiss me. Now usually I would tell my boyfriend about an incident like that, but here’s the problem: I really *…

Together for 5 years engaged for 1.5 years and no matter what happened good, great or otherwise he never set a date or would let me set a date. We did pre-engagement counseling and 6 weeks of marriage counseling classes through church (required for the pastor to officiate the ceremony) and within last year did 7 months of coupleÂ’s counseling. During this time of intently working toward marriage we worked out a lot of major and minor details to support a healthy marriage, wanting kids, how to raise the kids, religon and church to go to, living arrangement and down to small exercises about who does laundry and who folds etc. Understanding things can be flexible, but the …