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So I have a fiancé and two sons from a previous marriage in my life until recently. Her and I have been together for 6 years. She has been a bigger part of my son’s lives then their mother since she and I started dating. One of my sons just contracted HSV1 March of this year. Not sure the hows or who’s. When he found out, he was dating a girl. He told her and it was hard but they are still together 6 months later. This girl may be his only chance at happily ever after and kids. They were both going to join the military and go out and see the world. My son asked if she could move in, be workout partners, and join when they were ready. I said yes not thinking to ask my fian…

Hello Im 43 and she's 42. And we've been together since high school, been married 8 years, have 2 beautiful daughters 4 and 7. A while back I found something on her instagram account that to me wasn't right. She had gone out for drinks with her sisters and friends and at some point she had sent a quick video of herself and her sister smiling at the camera obviously drinking with loud music playing. So I found that she had sent that video to a guy/ family friend of theirs a few years older than us. And he had responded privately but I couldn't see the message. So she claims she sent that video to everyone that follows her on instagram but when I checked everyones acco…

I have been desperate so this is why I didn’t even realize. I’ve been using a Home equity line of Credit for years to pay bills. At times we had so little with my not working one of those years and him not working a year and then Covid. problem is my husband doesn’t know and it’s getting high what do I do ? How do I handle this?

Hi, to start off, in the past I have avoided relationships because I knew that I can‘t feel happy in one. Back then, after 2 small relationships when I was younger, I guessed that I just need to find a person who I can be myself around with. Fast forward, some years have passed that I spent being single and very happy. But then I met someone who really is a good match, someone i share a lot with and who I am proud to introduce to my family. In that time I also realized I might get lonely when I’m older and by myself. I did fall in love with that guy, and so did he fall in love with me. He was previously in a relationship which he held onto out of f…

First time user, but here goes... Wife (41) was offered a job out of state. Me (52) and her discussed and decided it was not worth it. Then she a month later she came home and said she was going to go check it out. She left 2 days later and came back a week later. She said she loved it and wanted us to relocate. She quit her job and left the next day. I was supportive, as a husband should be. I stayed with the kids to finish school. We talked and looked at houses for a month. Then she got her first check and went out drinking and did answer my calls or text for 2 days. The third day we talked and she informed me that this was all a plan to leave me and the kids. I of…

My husband and I have been together for 9 years and he’s always put me through a lot. Lies, betrayal, and secrets. Emotionally cheated with his ex until I got pregnant. & he’s also is emotionally abusive. I left him in April, I then met a man and he swept me off my feet. (Stupid, I know) but it killed my then ex “husband” and he realized what he had with me and promised change. I knew better - he was taking women on dates. But I finally gave in. My son and I moved back home and I’ve been trying very hard to fix our old probs. But he wants me then he hates me. Holds so much resentment and says “he no longer wants to be together and it was a mistake to ask me to co…

I am 30/F and my boyfriend is turning 32 next month. We've been together a little over 2 years now. We've been living together in some form for a little over 1 year. For some context, we met right when I was in a transition period in my life. I was in the process of leaving my job to start law school and I got a new puppy. I gave him the following warnings before we even started seeing each other: (1) I was about to start law school, and would be very busy & focused on that, (2) I have a puppy that needs virtually all of my attention outside of law school, (3) I wasn't really looking to just *** around & get into situationships because I'm at a point in my life wh…

My husband changed after 14 years of marriage. For 14 yrs he was loving, affectionate, wanted me all the time, had great sense of humor and took care of himself, his appearance. Now he's cold, uncaring, has no emotions, never wants sex anymore and lucky if he showers once a week! It's been like this for 10 years now and I'm at my wit's end as to what to do? He refuses to talk about it and the few times he has he just says he doesn't know why he changed? Any advice would be great!

Hi everyone just wanted to ask your opinion on my mother-in- laws actions. (Excuse my spelling mistakes if there are any, english is not my native language). My husband and I are trying to work on our marriage so this weekend (on saturday) we decided to go to a national park with mountains and spent the day there and we decided to invite his mother to come along. The reason we invited her is to thank her because she looks after our son when we go to work. We haven't taken him to day care yet. So on saturday morning I got up at 8:30a.m. I asked my husband what time are we going he said around 10 or 11. So I got up then and started getting ready. When…

I am recently married to a pretty great lady, well, besides the laziness and refusing to work. She quit her job of 7 years because she felt she wasn't being paid enough and wanted to pursue at home work. In order to do this, she needed a newer computer. I purchased the computer and it has literally sat on the desk for 2 months, being only used as a research tool, much like our phones. She promised to use this computer to start doing online business for companies. She had a plan, but refuses to take the courses involved to get her cert/creds and instead sleeps in late and basically does nothing all day. Social media, mostly and sitting on the new computer talking to fri…

Hello. My wife and I have been married for 1 year and together for 3 years. We are both college students and we have no children. I am 23; she is 22. Some background. Whereas most people in relationships have a small amount of bad that is outweighed by a larger amount of good, my wife has a lot of bad that is outweighed by an even larger amount of good. I certainly noticed the red flags when we got together, but to me, she was worth it. She's a stellar person and a very committed wife. She cooks for me a lot. We have basically unlimited sex. She's smart and gorgeous. She very much values my time and attention. She is the opposite of the cold, bored, dissatisfi…

I’m finding it hard to keep my marriage positive. We have both been married before, and met when at lowest points in our lives. I’d had a breakdown, and she was an alcoholic. Together we started again, she is now sober, and I went back to work. It’s only me that works, and my job is extremely stressful with me leaving home at 6:20am and usually returning about 5:50. Money is good but not fantastic, so I try to be realistic on our spending. She came from a previous relationship where her husband earned a high wage, where I came from one where we earned lower wages. Her husband has the children (16 & 18), and we have them every other weekend and some school holidays. …

Hi guys, Does anyone else here have any insight into this, ive asked coworkers but i am the only married father of the group. i do shift work in my job, a split of 12 hour night and day shifts. I feel like when i sleep after a nightshift it causes resentment from my wife. I do stay up and get our 2 year old to daycare first while she sleeps on with our newborn. She seems annoyed when i sleep during day, as if i am ‘sleeping in’. She doesn't try be quiet, will bring newborn to my room when i am sleeping, leave doors open, open curtains etc. i feel like she is trying to get some kind of payback for her broken sleep since having kids, in saying that i took ov…

Should I leave ? I have been married to a wonderful man for 23 years with 2 children who have now got their own lives away from the family home. I am ashamed to admit I’ve been having an affair for the past 12 years and I am now giving serious thought in leaving my husband, we live together like friends as I don’t wish for anything more, but I can see I am being so selfish staying here, but I really do not want to hurt my husband or my children, I feel I will hurt him if I stay and hurt him if I go, he deserves a full relationship and I don’t feel that way anymore, any advice is appreciated.

I started a fulltime job about 6 weeks ago . I get home between the hours of 6:00 and sometimes 7:30 He was pissed off that I was putting laundry away and not heating up his dinner. I should have stopped what I was doing . I said we both work why can’t you heat up your dinner . I have a lot of other things to do and he said I don’t know what real work is only he works . I need to make him better dinners . Wow that jerk doesn’t appreciate anything at all as always. I’m *** and he’s important. F… him. He always make me feel like I’m a worthless piece of nothing. I’m so sick of him

I’m in my mid 30. I have been married for about 7 years now and share a 4 year old daughter with my husband. We work in the same business (office), generally from 9am to 7pm 5 days a week. We work in a small group with 5 other staff. The work is demanding and so are the clients. I met my husband right after I graduated from uni and we have been working together since then. Haven’t really taken time off work since I started working and only took 1 month maternity leave. Both of us work full time, our daughter has been attending child care since she was 1 (my parents looked after her before). I admit I sometimes say things to him that can be framed in a better …

Can anyone possibly give me some great advice about dealing with a narcissistic husband? I'm completely at the point where I'm done meaning I can not take the bull *** I get its like dude how do you not see when your being a duck when it hurts me and I top of that when I'm hurt and he's aware I'm hurt he straight acts like I'm the one causing myself to hurt I'm like yea bro I love enjoying being depressed all the time because you make me feel like I can't do anything right or say anything right. I mean I use to have a buddy of mine who was just a friend that I would talk to about this and he freaked out because my friend was a guy the sad part is he was friends with my b…

I have been married to my husband for 7 years. We have had our fair share of rocky times which I won’t go into. Recently things have been better and we had our second child 14 weeks ago. The last week has been a bit tense between us probably due to lack of sleep. Before we got pregnant last year my husband rekindled a friendship with a girl he knew from uni. She had recently divorced. They had a night went out in her home town (with another guy from uni) - they all got wasted and stayed at hers. He never told me he was staying there etc until after he already had and I asked. I felt uncomfortable with it. I’d read messages between them and they were a bit fl…

So as my wife and I enter into retirement our desires to activities are vastly different. She is a low activity person, eat dinner out, watch tv, have dinner with a couple of friends, discount shop type. Me- diving, bicycle riding, desire to travel overseas ( her no overseas). This hasn't been a big problem due to us being busy with our own careers. My children have traveled with me a good deal in the past but now they are older and busy. I actually get along well with women and have a couple as friends which my wife knows about and a couple I've known for about 20 years and never had sex. Now I'd love to go on a bicycling trip overseas but like how? This has been…

Married man, developing friendship with a recent divorcee.

Just wanted to share the good news! ❤️

My boyfriend and I have been together for ten years. We’ve had a lot of issues and we’ve always tried working past them. A few months ago he told me that this was going to end if things kept staying stagnant and so I began making plans just in case. I have always wanted to live abroad and pursue an international career but I stayed here in the states for my relationship. He found out and said he wouldn’t support me if I went. I received a job offer two days ago and he’s not willing to compromise. He said it’s him or nothing. What should I do? I feel that there will be regret either way.

So with my husband we both struggle with addiction.😡 Due to are addiction we can't seem to get anywhere with each other it's completely ***ing frustrating. I feel like I've always pushed us to do better. I just don't know what to do anymore because any time I suggest something to him he will either agree and not do it or agree and do it when he feels like doing it basically. I need help on what you think I should do we are struggling badly with communicating, and with addiction he doesn't want to stop or he will and then boom it if no where he's right back to his addiction and we are right back where we have always been and I'm so tired of it idk how to get threw to him. …

We haven’t even been married a year and I’m starting to feel like our marriage is heading in the wrong direction. I feel as though my husband has changed. There is hardly any romance at all in the marriage anymore and like I mentioned we haven’t even been married a year!!! We have not been intimate for almost 4 months!! I have not tried to initiate because last time I did I was turned down and it had me feeling bad about myself. He doesn’t hardly like any form of PDA, he thinks it’s tacky. Even when I try to go in for a kiss in the privacy of our own home he kind of gets taken back by it and makes some kind of comment. We also use to always kiss each other goodnight, but …

I found on bank statements that my husband spent a good amount on ED pills from a website. We’ve always had a healthy sex life, but it has become less and less frequent. I thought it may be because of work. His package of pills was delivered and he stashed it in a bin in our closet. It doesn’t seem like he’s trying to hide it, but it’s still in it’s “discrete” packaging. I noticed doses were missing and we have not had sex since the package arrived. Should I tell him I know? Am I over thinking things and worrying for no reason?