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  1. I've been seeing this girl for about 3 weeks now. I've seen her 5 times now. Every time we are together it is amazing chemistry, easy flowing conversation, intimate, etc. She has told me personal things about her life and so on and so forth. So when you see that part, you'd think "yeah, she's definitely interested". But when it comes to texting, she takes a decent amount of time to reply but at least the messages are substantial and keep the conversation going. And then she will say she wants to do so and so with me and then it doesn't end up happening. I saw her yesterday. We went to a movie and she was cuddling all up on me and everything. We got a drink afterwards and she was talking about coming over to my place and having a lazy day with me tomorrow (which was today). Then today comes and she doesn't even bring it up and I ask if she still planned on coming over and she said as long as she finished her paper. Then she texts me a few hours later talking about her wrist hurting and then asked me how my day was. I don't know if she is worried about getting attached to quick or what. I just feel like the way we are when we are in person that it seems like a no brainer she is into me. What do you guys think?
  2. So I went on 2 dates with this girl. Things went extremely well both times. Instant chemistry. We had a date scheduled for Saturday but she asked me yesterday if she minded if we rescheduled because she needs to a paper done for a school before Easter. I told her of course that’s fine. She didn’t offer up another time that she could but we still texted the rest of the night with good, legit conversation. Based on how our first 2 dates went, it really doesn’t seem like she would have lost interest but with her not offering another time makes me leery. Should I just wait a couple days to see if she will offer another time and if she doesn’t do I try to ask her or just chalk it up that she legitimately isn’t interested anymore?
  3. So, I finally mustered enough courage to do the talking and break up, after weeks of thinking about it. As I really don't know hiw he will react, I'd like if you could give me advice on where and when to actually do it. He will never become aggressive, but I think he may be hurt and emotional. So I thought maybe to do it before his driving class, as he's going there with his friend and he will have someone to be there for him. Also, should I do it in a cafe or outside somewhere, as his and mine places are not an options? Keep it short or go into explaining? (this is my first boyfriend and breakup so I really don't know what to do, hope you can help me)
  4. This post may be a bit long, thanks to whoever reads it and possibly gives me advice or any comment So, I'm 23 yo and last summer for the first time in my life I got a boyfriend. I was never really interested in dating not even last summer, but I just went with his flow and we ended up becoming a couple. And summer was great, we had so much fun, but at the end of August came time to get back to being serious and go back tu studying for college. That's the time we really started to get to know each other. Also, he's almost two years younger than me, so I understand that he's more childish, but still, years don't mean much. We both have same hometown, and I'm there during summer, but we also study in another city (same as well) and since mid August I'm there and rarely come home, whereas he's at our hometown, just sometimes comes here to listen lectures and take tests. Now, I may not be the easiest person to deal with, I'm someone who makes my own plans and stick to them, I have my daily routine and I don't like anyone disturbing it. When it comes to studies, I'm really serious about it. But other people easily influence me amd the more time I spend with someone, the more of his/hers habits I may pick up. I'm also someone who doesn't know how to express my feelings and most of the time I wouldn't say something about things that are bothering me, just so I wouldn't hurt the other person. Also I'm not used to physical contact, any sort of it, so I can say that I just don't like it and being in a relationship of course leads to it. For short period of time I'm okay with it but only shortly, then I want my own space back. And even when I nicely tell him that, and ask him to give me some space, he doesn't do it, cause he likes it. I should say that I'm probably asexual, I do want romantic relationship, but anything sexual just makes me close myself more. Now, I did want to talk to him about that, to explain it to him, to ask him to give me some time and space when I ask for it, but as he doesn't really support LGBTQA+ community I didn't know how to do it. So I asked my older sister for advice and she told me that I should wait, that I can't just tell him that, that it's not fair to him. So I didn't talk to him about it,thinking that I'll do it when the right time comes. To get back to the story. I said what I thought may be the most important about me, now come the things about him that bother me. He's really irresponsible, about almost everything, about his studies, about other people's time (he's late 90% of the time). I have an impression that he lives to sleep. He works as a waiter in cafe, mainly being second shift. He would sleep until he has 30 minutes before shis shift, as he works from 13.30, he'd get up at 13.00. And I'm someone who gets up at 06.30, so he's not there for me to talk to him, to tell him if something happend, or if I'm home, to go out and spend time together. During work he's almost always online, as he's bored and wants someone to entertain him, whereas I have my own responsibilities about college at that time, that are really important to me, but I still make time to answer his texts. But after finishing with work and getting home, he's off the grid. He doesn't reply my texts for few hours and when he finally does, it's usually time when get ready for bed. And what was he doing during the time he wasn't answering, nothing important, watching TV, playing games or he accidentally fell asleep.... I don't expect him to answer my texts seconds after I send them, but is it too much to just say you won't be able to answer me after getting home, because of that and that.? There would also be times when he'd dissappear in the middle of our conversation and come back hours later, answering my text like I just sent it. Also, he doesn't work on Sunday, but he doesn't exist almost whole day. He'd sleep until 14.00 at best, but there were many situations when he'd get up after 17.00. For some reason I'm irritated when others are carefree and irresponsible about their own responsibilities, why, I don't know, but I'm just that way. There's already way too much to read, so I'll try to just write the rest as notes. He sometimes goes out with his friends and just sends me a photo without any context, an I don't know what to reply because way too many times I feel like I'm interrogating him, when I really don't want to be doing that. But he never tells me anything unless I ask, and I have to be specific with my questions or he won't get what information I want to hear. He also never tells me about his plans, which is especially annoying when his plans include me and my time, but he thinks it's completely alright to tell me that when there's less then a day, like I couldn't have made other plans. So I have to try and predict what he's plans could be and leave my time free... Also, he talks a LOT, but he never tells important things, and I find them later from his friend or when he mentions them on another conversation days later. But, he talks to his parents and his brother about everything, and when I say everything, I mean, I'm just waiting to hear that he told someone of them how many times we kissed when we saw each other. He has no filter what to say to who, he tells everyone everything. Maybe I've never been in a relationship before, but I'm pretty sure that's not how it should be. Most of the time it's me who sends texts firs, but I gave up on that as there is no point in sending message to someone who's going to sleep for who knows how many more hours. So sometimes the whole day would pass without any sort of communication between us. And honestly I don't really care, I go about my day normally. The problem is that I think about it, should I send something, should I call (but he's probably at work now), why won't he sometimes send something firs. And all of this became extremely mentally tiring to me. We've been together for 8 months, and just first 4 months I can say I truly enjoyed this relationship. But the last 4 months have been so tiring. That's probably when all small things accumulated and I start thinking about breaking up. It may be a bit hard to understand, because I really don't know how to explain properly, but I've been feeling like I'm losing myself. I had problems with my mental health (depression and anxiety) and it took me a long time to feel good and content with myself, to put myself, my needs first and now I'm feeling like all those years of working hard are just crumbling before my eyes. I feel like I'm giving way too much of my time to him, to time thinking about different possibilities and scenarios connected to him. And I really don't know what to do. When I first started having negative thoughts about this I tried talking to my sister, but she told me I'm too dramatic, that everything bothers me. So, I didn't talk about it anymore, with anyone. Until last month, when I finally talked to one person who's been there for me for last two years, to give me advice and help me be at peace with myself. I'd often think of that person as my therapist, even though that's not the case. And that's the first time someone said I do have right to feel annoyed by all these things, and that I should feel like that, because those are not small things in a relationship. And that I'm right for wanting to break up. That's when I understood that I feel like I'm enduring this relationship and that that shouldn't be a case. After our talk I was sure I want to break up, I just didn't know how to do it. Days passed, but with each day my determination was smaller and smaller and I came to solution that I don't actually want to break up, that I should try having a long talk with him. Even though I feel like he never listens to what I'm saying or he just doesn't care about it. While having the idea of talking to him I came to my hometown for dad's birthday. We saw each other three days ago, but we were with friend. And after meeting him, spending time with him I understood that we could talk all we want, that's not it, this won't last. So, now I'm sure I want to break up, but I have no idea how to do it. I don't want to stall, as it'll just make me suffer more, I also feel like it's not fair to him. But I don't want to hurt his feelings. I've been thinking about this for past three days and my head has been hurting like crazy, but I have no idea how these things work. So I thank you for reading this till the end, some parts may be confusing as I wrote ačl the things that came to my mind at the moment. I just hope that someone will be able to tell me what to do, how to do it. Thanks in advance 💙
  5. So... Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and a half, we never really had major problems in our relationship. He's loving to me he respects me and shows me support when I need it. He treats me good and is loyal to me, but recently there has been this problem when I don't answer the phone, he gets mad. I'm in college so I have tons of homework, there are times where I'm taking care of business outside of school stuff like that. I love him dearly, but this irritates me so much when this happens. Recently I will be at home, I normally lay my phone down somewhere because I'm really not constantly on my phone all of the time. He would call me, and I would miss it, but I would call him right back after he's called me. He would answer but would be short tempered with me and have an attitude towards me. I normally tell him that I didn't mean to miss your call and he doesn't believe me as if I'm hiding something from him. My phone sometimes doesn't pick up the call when I answer it and he think I'm lying or making some type of excuse when I accidently miss the phone call. There has been a time where he would get really mad at me and would yell at me every time, I say that I didn't mean to miss it!! and when I get mad, he says I act stubborn and don't want to listen to anything he tells me. It turns into a major argument and that's what I try to avoid because I don't have the time to argue over something stupid, so I let it go, but then it's another time where I missed a call from him on accident, but I was on the phone with my mom, so I didn't really want to hang up on her and call her back, so I told him I would call him back and he's like "Don't worry about it" and I'm like why and he's like "Because you have other things to do then sit and talk to me apparently" I mean I was being nice about it and was going to call him back but he did not pick up the phone. At this point I was just getting a little irritated with the whole thing, but I did not say anything because all we do is argue about me not answering when he calls, and I say every time why, but he does not want to believe me it's always what he thinks I'm doing, (as if I'm talking to another guy assumptions). We would be texting after I missed a call, and he would take really long to text me, and I know it's because he gets mad at me for not picking up just from the recent situation that this has been happening, it's happened today as well. I just know that this gets really aggravating, and everything I say he does not want to believe but after a long talk we are good again, but it's every time I miss a call, he starts tripping and acts this way. Any advice on this???
  6. So I have had a rough start with this guy I liked, at first things were going really well but then I kinda messed everything up when I introduced him to my friends, they started spam calling him, texting him a photo I took when I sat next to him (I took it bc they wanted to see him, I know I shouldnt have done that). I just really like him a lot for some reason and I cant seem to get over him he is almost always on my mind. When Im in the hallway he looks directly in my eyes and then when I look away hes still looking at me, is he looking at me out of hatred or something? One time I was walking with my African American friend and he said black people am I right. I was so confused and I didnt know what he meant by that, he walked by us and then ran away after saying it. (He isnt white but at the same time it was really weird). I know I did some pretty messed up things but I still kinda like him (slowly getting over him). Im pretty sure he does not like me: One time I was walking and he looked back at me twice and I thought it was a sign or something 😞 so I went up to him after class to try and talk to him and he walked away mid-convo. I felt humilated. What is going on and what should I do?
  7. So I'm interested in this girl (never spoken to her or seen her in real life) and she is the best friend of a female friend of mine. I asked her about her, how she is like and if she is single. But it seems like she is talking to a guy. What do I do from here? Do i still ask her out, wait, forget her and move on? For the info im 22 and shes 19/20 Thanks for reading and replying in advance
  8. Hi all Please be kind:) I started seeing a guy earlier this year - we met on a dating app, he was really interested in me. I kept pushing him back, but eventually gave in. We got along really well, and were committed really quickly. First month, he was super warm, and then started pushing me away - I wondered at the time what had changed. Having established myself financially, I wanted to make sure he was not left behind, so I encouraged him to purchase a property, and given I work in real estate I started helping him out, and spent countless hours on this. Whilst I work really long hours, there was this expectation that no matter what, I would deliver to him on this, and speak to him as and when required. At the 1 month mark, he mentioned that his business was struggling. This was not an issue for me as such, going out with someone - I wasn't looking for money or how much they have, I was looking for someone who cares for me. We went out for 3 months. In the 2nd month he asked me if I could contribute $200 - $300 toward a course, which I refused, as he has savings. Then he said that for his birthday he wanted me to pay for a doctor's appointment. When I mentioned to my family and friends, they were horrified. I told him I couldn't do this for him, and I wanted to decide for myself what to get for his birthday. At the time he got so annoyed at me that he cancelled lunch on me. In the 3 months we went out, I saw him 6 times only. He was always too busy, and his priority was study (as he was doing a university degree). In those 3 months he cancelled me a number of times. We broke up. He didn't even see my last set of messages to him for weeks - apparently he was 'scared' - not sure scared of what. I missed him a lot, and we started speaking again after a couple of months apart. He told me he loved me... I had an appointment near his way, so we decided to catch up. We planned this catch up over a long period of time and I was really looking forward to it. After the catch up he started acting really weird, it took 2 weeks of asking what was wrong with him and what had happened and how he wasn't being the same. He said that apparently when we caught up he didn't have the 'right vibes' when it came to paying for lunch and that I (ie me) didn't seem to want to pay - which I find rather bizarre. I had assumed I would pay (he had made a point in the past that I must pay for every time we go out). He started acting weird pretty much the day we caught up. I am not sure how he made all this up, and how he felt this way. He was also annoyed that I offered to pay for a package which got stolen from his mail box the day we caught up - I did this because when we were together my makeup had rubbed off his white shirt and he had made a big deal out of it and had told me he was struggling and couldn't afford to take it to a laundromat (note - he had specially taken a picture of this the night we caught up, and sent it to me the next day) - I had just reacted based off my previous experience with him. There was another thing he raised...but I won't add here, as its complicated. I wanted us to go on a trip as friends, but he told me he couldn't go halves and expected me to pay for the entire overseas trip as I am doing well financially. I have worked very hard over the last decade or so, and paid a big price to be where I am financially. I do like nice things, and do spend on nice dresses and shoes. He complained how I didn't have the light-heartedness to spend on him, like I do for myself. I asked if he was my fiancé or husband that I am expected to do these things for him? Note though in this time I knew him - he never once got me flowers or did anything for me vs what I was doing for him (investing my time and resources helping set him up with a property purchase). My family could see that he was barely doing anything for me, whilst I spent hours on his well being. THEN, shortly after the last heated chat messages, he came back and asked me to lend him $600 - he was testing me as he wanted to show something was wrong with me - he had lent $600 to his ex girlfriend. I told him that he was saying this after me spending countless hours on him, and wanting his well being. He got really angry and told me he was off the app, and he never saw my last set of messages. This is very typical of him - he did it before when we broke up, and he did it again (even though we were no longer going out, we were speaking every single day, so it has been like a break up). My research has indicated that he is a narcissist and I am an empath. I know if I ended up with him for the longer term, he wouldn't care for me or give two hoots about my emotional needs or well being. I have been blessed with a lot, and I wouldn't mind buying gifts for my partner or doing nice things for them - but in this instance, it seemed forced, whilst he was doing very little for me. I didn't feel emotionally supported. I am still missing him and care for him. But perhaps we may never speak again. He has locked me out of his life again. Its been 2 weeks. Just like last time, he hasn't seen my last messages. I can't put a finger on it on how someone could expect financial benefits, when they haven't even committed to you, and continue expecting it after breaking up? Is it odd for a man to expect this? Btw he is 40yo. I know I should have better self esteem and let him go. I have been pretty inexperienced with relationships as I have been just focussed on career and work for a very long time. All I know is I genuinely cared for him, and wanted to provide emotional support to begin with - but he seems to just measure things I do in dollars - if its not monetary it doesn't count. Thank you for reading.
  9. Should I break up with my girlfriend? Tldr: I found out my girlfriend has been lying to me for over a year and recently came upon a video of her having sex with another man. She doesn't want to break up. Her father is visiting us and I have to make a choice. Background: We moved in together really quick because at the time, I needed to move out of the country for a new job. After the first few months of us living in the new city, she started meeting black men (I am black she is white and we live in a predominantly white country) During the course of a year, we have had fights over this, because these black men she would freely give her number kept growing in her contact list. I estimate about 25 black men were in her contacts, she estimated 15. At the beginning she was telling me that she was meeting this black man named Carl for coffee with his girlfriend (always the 3 of them she said, but I could never confirm the existence of such girlfriend). In order to calm my nerve, she invited him over for lunch. I could tell from the way he was looking at her that he was eye ***ing her. One day at night, we were both looking at her phone for some reason and Carl sends her "I love you". I get mad, she tells me that he said it in a friendly way but agreed with me to stop seeing him. That's just one out of the 25. I kept growing more and more paranoid and suspicious about her. I woke up one morning at 2 am to see that she went to the kitchen to chat with a black man. We had a fight and the conclusion of that fight was that she would not delete her conversations with men. She would receive random messages from a man saying "ok". She would tell me some lie about how men send her random messages with no sense. I knew she was lying and just kept deleting the preceding conversations. We kept fighting for over a year. She should have seen how this was affecting me. I caught her in a conversation with a man that was saved under a female name on her contact list. She deleted the conversation but I took her phone and started recording all the suspicious numbers of men on my phone. She was trying to prevent me from doing this but I use my force to keep her from reaching my phone. She eventually got my phone and locked herself in the bathroom. She deleted the numbers I recorded from my phone and her phone. While I was trying to get into the bathroom I got so mad that I punch the door of the bathroom bloody. I broke the door. She promised me things were going to be different. Fast forward some time, there was a period where we didn't fight over this for two whole months (it was nice). One day I woke up and went to the living room. Saw him talking to another man. She ran to the kitchen and deleted the conversation. I took her phone by force and ran outside the house with a shirt during winter (it was very cold). I saw that the man sent the message "text me when it is safe so I don't get you in trouble". So I texted him that it was safe now. Long story short I managed to get pictures of all the little dates they had together and pictures of then kissing each other on the cheeks (she claims this was innocent) I get mad and then we had another fight. I asked her before confronting her whether there's something I should know about. She said nothing. She said absolutely nothing. When I confronted her, she told me the pictures were innocent and nothing else happened. She blamed everything that happened to her being out of medication. She hit her head when she was little and has mental issues ever since. She stop taking medication around the time we moved in together. I accepted that until the man send her a porno of the two of them having sex. Threatening her that if she doesn't talk to him, he would send this to me. She claimed that it wasn't her. When she saw that wasn't working, she claimed that it was her in body but not in mind. She claims she was raped by this man. I took the matter to police. She claims she was drugged. There are some weird stuff around her explanations. They were both having coffee (in secret, without telling me) and he gave her a pill for headaches which he put inside the drink and she just drank it because I guess that's normal. Then she felt sleepy and instead of going home she decided to sleep it off at a stranger's room because I would ask questions if I saw her sleepy at home (because I guess she couldn't make up something like I am tired, she has been very skilled at lying so far). Then 30 minutes after she passed out came home made lunch, had lunch with me, I was none the wiser, and then she left the house again that day during the afternoon, came back around 18:00 left at 14:00. To do what? Have a walk. She is not employed or studying full time. She only studies English, so that she can join the university when she ready. But then covid happened. She would go out every day, every morning between 09:00 to 11:00. But lately she added also going out between 14:00 and 18:00. I suspect this addition was to accommodate the work schedule of one of the men she meets. Since all of that happened, she has gone on to medication. An antidepressant and taking therapy. She tells me now she doesn't feel the need to go out every day and that with therapy and understanding her mental issues she hopes to never lie to me again. She says I shouldn't break up with her now because now she is getting help with her mental issues that lead her to behave this way and that she will improve. My job is very stressful. I make good money but that's because the work is tough. While she was going out meeting men I was always working. I need time to rest after work but I told I would go with her so that she didn't have to go out alone if she waited for me to finish work. She always refused. The stress of her behaviour has been damaging my health and my throughput at work. I sympathize with her mental issues but I cannot understand why she wouldn't stop seeing the effect her behaviour was having on me. I am breaking apart I fear the rape is just another lie to cover up what she has done. So far she hasn't admitted to willfully cheating on me. The 25 black men were there just to make me jealous she claims because I was too busy with work and rest to give the attention she deserved. Any advice would be great. I need an objective voice because in my state I can't think clearly.
  10. My ex-girlfriend and I broke up three months ago after five and the half years of relationship. We are both in our forties. She said she doesn't love me anymore and that she doesn’t have any feelings for me for a longer period of time. Our relationship wasn’t perfect, but there were a lot of beautiful moments as well. We share a lot of happy and nice memories. She had a lot of issues and I was always there for her to help her and support her, and moreover to love her in that moments. At the end of the relationship, I had issues and instead of getting the same support from her, she found another guy and dumped me. She forced me to move out from our mutual apartment. During this last three months, those beautiful moments we had were all over my mind, more or less every day, and I feel regret that she has left me. But I managed to move on and worked a lot to improve myself and I made a progress. But at the same time I kept calling her to come and visit me in my new apartment. And then, last Friday she came to my apartment, we had a good time and we had sex. She stayed overnight. Yesterday she came again and we had a really good and passionate sex. But all the time she was telling me that she is satisfied with the new guy and that she is going to stay in the new relationship. When I asked her for the reason, she said that he treats her good, he is funny and that she is in a way taking advantage of him (something like he is paying for all the food). When I told her that I’m seeing someone else too, she started to cry and she said that she likes me the way I am now and that she feels regret I was not like that before when we were together. I told her that she can leave him and that we can try something again, but she categorically refused that. She said that she wants to be with him and maybe one day in the future, who knows, we are going to be together again, but not now. I'm also sure that she came to me and cheated on him, because she doesn't care about him at all. But she said that is not the truth and that she fell in love with him. I was quite fine, but now I feel distressed almost like three months ago. So this just brought me harm. So why did she come to be with me? Does she really know what she wants? Who does she love?
  11. Hi So ya, to start with my mom found out that that my dad has an affair with another woman and they always meet. Almost every day actually. To be honest I am torn with respect toward my father and hatred. Now my father wanted to take that woman as a second wife ( my country allows polygamous relationship ). Of course, I hate that woman and to make it worst, she went to my house and bang on the door this morning because my mom won't let my dad take his phone or take a step outside without her this last few days. I mean how shameless can she be. My maternal grandma said that mom should go back to her house if dad decided to take that woman. Jokes on you, I hate that woman so much. You see my father was one of the biggest shareholder in a company and that mean he has this tons of authorities in this company. My mom found out that my dad is trying to take that woman as one of the staff there. So my mom went to see the company CEO and well at that time she could not control her anger. You know what my dad did? She scold my mom. That woman also blame my mother's friend for telling her about their affair. I mean she goes around with my dad calling her honey and stuff. They even met each respective family to get blessings and she goes around telling everyone my dad is her boyfriend and they are waiting for my mother approval. Are my mom a jokes to you? It broke my heart to see my dad acting like nothing ever happen and mom keep on crying. You see my mom is a housewife. She said that she become a housewife when my dad coaxed her to take care of the children. If not for dad, she will have a brighter life. After she married my dad she got an offer in one of the biggest company in my country, but she turned it down because she said that she does not want a long distance relationship, later she fell into depression then she got better, then she got a job somewhere closer and later she quit to become a housewife. I am the eldest out of 5 siblings and I am a first year in college with full parents support. So I could not do anything except for the mental support to mum. I am still living with her. Mom said that she is trying to hold herself and ask me to study and get good job, so she can be at ease. My mom is well she is crying almost every day and she only slept for a few hours last night. I am thinking of getting a job, but I know mom and dad will object. I just cant focus and my younger siblings does not know anything. It pain me seeing them and mom. Well I am venting here since I'll stay anonymous here. My mom only told me, her parents and some of the close friends. I will take any advice on what can I do now. Thank you.,
  12. first of all thank you for your time and, my english may not be that good but im gonna try my best im a 15 year old girl and i have a 4 years older sister (19) who literally starts punching me on the face and pulling my hair whenever i ask her to, for example; move away when im sweeping the floor or when i ask her to clean the mess she made with food on MY bed... like im not even asking her to do me a favor she just refuses to act like a decent human being, she takes "dont tell me what to do" to a whoooooole new level.. she gets so easily offended by literally nothing and thats her biggest insecurity i once called her a snowflake and she almost broke my nose lmao i regret nothing. and because of what. because she pushed me away when i was sitting next to her holding the laptop, reading the news about the BTS meal, and i asked her to search for the price and she got offended thats why i called her a snowflake and she was TRIGGERED 🙂 when it comes to decent respect to family members or people in general, shes a complete a*hole. shes not participating in the chores (i always have to do her part of the chores) plus she always act like we owe her something; using my things without permission and throwing it on the floor when i want it back... and much more. our little sister is 12 and she never interacts with her cuz she knows how of a psychopath she is, and our older sister sometimes try to pick on her as usual but i often stand up for her because im the one who knows her weaknesses and i just cant let her win. this s**t didnt happen overnight, she used to abuse me physically and emotionally when we were kids and i learned how to use it all against her, shes just projecting her insecurities on others and i make sure shes always reminded of how weak she is to act like that.. sounds manipulative i know, shes one of the mostly people on earth that i have 0 empathy left for her, i would say that is my coping mechanism, i always win at argument, so her only comeback is the hitting and thats the only thing she wins at, but that doesnt affect me as much as it affects her, i dont really feel anything when she hits me it just gets old.. no f*cks left to give thats it, and i know how much words trigger her so i would never keep my mouth shut bcz i can 🙂 neither of us is mentally stable at this point, but i try as much as i can not to let people go through what ive gone through, something she does the complete opposite of, and i love making the people of her kind have a taste of their own medicine the most important part, are my parents paying attention to this? yes and no. i feel like theyre doubting themselves for her being like this, because... no need to sugar-coat this, child abuse is so normalized in our culture and my older sister was so mentally affected by which made her ego so fragile... are they doing anything to help? hear me out, when my sister and i get into a fight im "the only one who they can communicate with, safely" and i just need to ignore her because "im more mature"... like she always throws a tantrum like a f*cking 2 year old, crying and screaming whenever they try to discipline her saying that "they are the reason why she is like this" no b*tch stfu youre just a snowflake and you trying to make us feel bad while youre the one who always starts it off and tries to get away with it like a weak ass bi*ch like how can any parents expect and consider the victim who is also the youngest, to be more mature? how does that make you feel about yourself as a f*cking 19 year old? it bother me most when i see them not incharge of all of this, it makes me think: "when is she going to cmmit dead and leave us all in peace?" i even get death threats from her and i get bruises on my body and my scalp is hurting af its literally a miracle that she didnt break any bone in my body yet and MY PARENTS ARE NOT HELPING I SWEAR SOMEDAY IM GOING TO CALL THE POLICE
  13. I've been depressed for years and then this year I met a uni classmate on Zoom who made me feel good for the first time in awhile. I haven't had friends in a long time ever since my depression hit. We became friends and I developed feelings for her after some months. She felt the same. However, we're no longer in the same class in the new semester and I can feel her pulling away. I don't know if it's paranoia or just gut instinct but I also feel like she's falling for someone else in her new classes (recently came to know this person exists through an extra curricular group we happened to all be in), which hurts, even if I don't have concrete proof of it. I feel myself sinking back into that depressive state and it's affecting my coursework. Couldn't even bring myself to attend classes this morning. What do I do?
  14. First of all i think I'll have to give a warning because this might be a heavy subject for someone. Hello everyone! Me and my bf are dating for one year (long distance) , everything was fine until yesterday. He came to my hometown to see me and everytime we see each other we have sexual intercourse. Yesterday I wasn't really feeling it, he gave me the signal that he wants to do something and I said "I'm not im the mood today" he said "okay" and after 5-10 minutes he started touching me even when i clearly stated that i didn't want to do anything sexual with him. He was grabbing me inappropriately and I just froze and didn't say anything at that very moment (that was my fault). He didn't go any further than that but it still felt wrong. After he went back home he started texting me and "joking" about how I didn't give him what he wanted, even if it really was a joke I was offended (he's that kind of guy that almost jokes about everything) I confronted him about it and told him that what he did was wrong. He told me that he didn't know that I felt that way and said that he was very sorry that he hurt me in that way, and that he'll never do that ever again. One part of me wants to forgive him because I still love him but the other part is still confused about the situation that happened. I really don't know how to feel right now, if anyone has advice i would be very happy to hear about it.
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