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Hi all, how do you truly reflect on yourself and whether you’re truly happy? I don’t mean a front I mean happy with who YOU are. Ive come to realise self love is important for many aspects of life. I know it’s not possible to be happy 24/7 though it’s letting go of insecurities that we have. how do people do this? I know the usual advice ‘take time for yourself’ ‘sit with your feelings’ ‘meditate’ ultimately you have to be happy being by yourself/alone especially before seeking a relationship. I just find the concept of ‘being truly happy’ riddled with confusion and uncertainty. do people have stories about how they turned themselves…

I have a big sacral fat pad over my booty, it makes me look a bit strange in all my pants. I’ve been grappling with this insecurity for years, and the only way I see out of it is liposuction. But I don’t want to go under the knife, yet I feel like I can never be loved with this deformity. It’s probably a bit dramatic but I’m just super upset about it. I feel trapped and like I can’t ever change it because it’s one of those things you can’t get rid of permanently but it’s so hard to look at, i never feel nice. does anyone have any idea how to fix this or have any idea how to not draw attention to my butt?

Hey, so I am going to keep this short! I'm 25 and I have been single for around 2 years now. I feel ready to date again and I have been speaking to a guy for a couple of months now, he seems really lovely and he is being extremely patient with me as my confidence just won't allow me to meet up with him. (I keep making up excuses - but I know this will only work for so long!). I've always been a little insecure about my body, but this is something I am actively working on. I am currently a curvy size 12 and in clothes and I am slowly starting to like how my body looks again for the first time in a long time. My biggest insecurity is that I have rather aggre…

Hello guys, I just wanted to ask if someone knows what kind of personal disorder is when person has constant need to give you tasks, I mean you talk about every day life, and this person always tells you what you need to do, or what you could do better. One of my friends is doing that and I am really curious how is it called in psychology? For example ,I have flat mate who constantly cook, I tell my friend on the phone "she is cooking again" in a way it is funny and friend tells me tell your flatmate this and that about cooking?!?!??!Why would I? Or I don't know what banal example, she always has snt to say what I should do, it is starting to be impossible to ha…

From childhood I have doubt in my gender , at first I thought it's temporary , I have always treated like a boy thanks to my dad , I won't blame him but he was the reason I have a question mark infront of my gender , forcing me to address my gender as a boy and think like a boy , I think he wanted me to be more confident but it just made things worse Now I am stuck in between being a girl and a boy , I have no interest in girly things and act like a girl ,at first I thought I am just a Tom boy but this desire of changing my gender end me up in several depressing episodes , I recently cut my hair and I liked it . But here is the thing I like boys ! If I am a bo…

So I found out from the sexual assault I contracted an STD. The detective told me before I found out when I asked him by law I don’t have to tell the assailant. I feel I should have the detective let him know in case he does this again and gives that person the STD he gave me! Chances are he may already know he has an STD but there are no symptoms for males. how should I proceed? Should I tell the detective the guy who raped me gave me an STD so the rapist is aware? or does it not matter?

Hi all 🙂 Looking for advice on the following: After a few tumultuous years (no details) and a lot of lesson learning, I am feeling better than I ever have been. I've lost weight, have gained confidence in all areas of my life, I feel emotionally and mentally stronger than ever (I actually am the sanest person I know!) and like my old self again. I have realised that being autistic is a gift and am finally at peace with who I am.:) In the last few months, I have mindfully and intentionally worked towards raising the love vibrations with small acts of kindness, advising those around me on relationship issues, making a point of smiling and saying hello to ever…

Hello Everyone. I have quite the long history of mental health issues that I have battled with for most of my life. I guess with it being RUOK day, I wanted to start a topic about mental health and just how bloody important it is. Where I live, I assumed that my country had a decent health care system. But reflecting on my previous treatments, I realised that it's really a wheel that keeps on spinning. I realise I am getting bad so I seek treatment. I am put onto a waiting list of up to 8 months, and by then I am a bloody mess. I go to treatment, explain my problems, get "treated" with the same treatment methods that I explained haven't worked for me in the past…

The packers are here for our move today and the power is gone to our entire town. Making it hot and sweaty due to no AC. My cat was so terrified of the packers he peed himself under my bed. It is the year anniversary of my father’s death. And my anxiety is epic right now . Just sitting here sobbing

So I went to the hospital at 2:30 AM. They gave me a 30mg shot of Toradol. That only reduced it a bit. They sent me home. I took 2 Tylenol 1 and got in bed at 5:45. I woke up before 7:30 screaming in pain. My husband took me back to the hospital. This time it was another dr. He said he is sure I have Trigeminal Neuralgia and gave me another shot of Toradol 60mg. He gave me 200 mg of carbamazepine . I have to take 400 mg a day. It is an anti seizure medication that will relax the nerve. And he have me hydromorhone 2 mg for pain. They have me lined up to see a specialist. Sorry I am not making much sense I am taking 2 medications which make you very very sleepy and conf…

So I have generalized anxiety disorder. I've been off and on meds since I was 11. I'm 29 now. I was on prozac for 5 years and it worked great and I've been able to have a normal life. I thought I didn't need it anymore so I slowly tapered off and its been maybe 8 months to a year. Then some things in my life happened and the panic attacks and depression came back. So I started taking my prozac again back in July. They were a year old so Idk if they were even effective but I got my dr to get me a new prescription and it took like a week for me to start taking the new ones. I waited about 4 weeks and decided to increase my dose to 40mg (which I was on before) and I started …

Hi, so I'm 16/f and I guess you could say I'm generally a pretty good kid. My parents have never had to ground me at any rate. Plenty of people I know have been grounded though. A girl I know from school is actually grounded right now for an entire month! Maybe I'm nuts, but I'm genuinely curious about what it's like being grounded. Like, I want to know just how difficult it would be to get through each day when all of my privileges have been taken away. I'm actually thinking of asking my parents if they'd be willing to ground me for a week or two so I can have the experience. Just take away all my privileges (phone, TV, computer, music, driving, seeing friends, etc.…

Hi Everyone, just wanted to see of anyone has had any of the symptoms I have. It all started when I over reached for my dropped phone & broke my rib. It literally popped, and I had extreme pain. After an xray it was confirmed I had broken it. Since then I have had numerous blood tests, a bone density scan, a chest CT, spine CT and I'm going to have a colonoscopy & endoscopy. It was discovered that I have very low iron. I am a 4, when I should be 64. I have had 2 iron infusions in 6 weeks, and still have immense fatigue. I can sleep for 8 hours & still wake up exhausted. I have been through menopause, so the low iron isnt from periods. It …

Back story: Dear friend, female, who lives far away. She's in her 40s. Long time complicated relationship with food and has had BED -binge eating disorder -for last number of years. She is herself a therapist and she attends support groups, does her best. Husband, three kids under 10, mom lives with them but she is um a handful. One month ago husband was diagnosed with late stage cancer. He just started chemo, he will be needing surgery, I think. (Her Mom is helpful to supervise kids if they need to go somewhere especially now -chemo treatments require an hour trip each way, mobility services might not be available right now due to covid). She told me today…

I have yet to discuss and send pictures to my doctor but I am pretty sure I have sun allergy. There are multitudes of allergies in both m’y families across many generations and I have a lot of allergies and intolerances myself and a run away immune system.

I'm am very uncertain if I should ever go to see a therapist or anyone tell my doctor I might be falling into a hole im not sure very often I tend to beat myself up when things go down it can be something like I said the wrong thing to my buddy and I instantly apologize or it can be a day where I don't speak/text them because I feel like I will bother them or I just don't have the energy to do so and I have this feeling of loneliness that I think is just me wanting attention but in fact I don't like much attention from others as I feel I will become a burden to them. When I do end up talking to them I feel like I am not really communicating with them about anything and ju…

I don't know if I should bring it up to my family doctor or my therapist... I brought it up to my therapist in passing and we didn't expand on that, but I feel like I'm having physical effects from the memories of the past year in particular. I believe my husband is narcissistic and was emotionally abusive to me... I feel like I should feel relief during the divorce process, but I continue to have disturbed sleep, feeling like I'm back in the moments of being bullied, and extreme fear at even seeing his family members texting to check on me. Also, I lost about thirty pounds before leaving my husband. The last several days with him, and the first few days away from him, I …

I’ve been struggling with mental health for a while now. Ive been extremely sensitive my whole life and started experiencing unstable emotions in high school, and self-harmed back then. My romantic relationships were hell because of my tendencies to sabotage them for attention, being really emotional and dependent, etc. I’ve struggled with general depressive episodes for a while too, sleeping too much and eating poorly, terrible hygiene, no organizational skills, always feeling super drained and jumping around from hobby to hobby. I have some impulse control issues too with spending ridiculous amounts of money to fill a void. My mood swings are terrible and exhausti…

I decided to cancel having the Bariatric surgery in September. I have given it much thought and it doesn’t sit right in my gut having surgery. I’m instead getting a personal trainer and going to loose weight naturally. I don’t think surgery is the answer. I found a woman trainer who is supposedly one of the best in my area. I have a consultation with her Tuesday June 29th.

It's weird to do this, I've been putting it off with my doctor but I cant anymore and have made an appointment. But here's the issue I cant eat, I'm having the absolute worst time being able to make myself even take a single bite of things. I'm a hard working woman, and I dont pull punches so everything gets my 100% but I have in no way ever been anorexic, I love food too much and am 100% comfortable with my body. I fell into a 6 year relationship with a narcissist and the stress wrecked me. I have chronic anxiety and depressive episodes and PTSD as a result, but I think that may be part of the problem! At the beginning of the year I was attacked and left with…

Fingers, actually. Pointer fingers, specifically. The first and second knuckles. First knuckle moreso than second knuckle. Right hand moreso than left hand. It woke me up about a week ago. Heat and massaging the knuckles seem to help. But it's annoying to rest the knuckles on a heating pad or massage them because I need my hands for important things, like fidgeting. I think the pain is mouse-related. I've started noticing myself clenching my hand around the mouse. Switching from right to left helps a little, BUT I'm much slower with my left hand and I can tell already that I'm not going to spend the time to learn. I also use my ring finger and po…

So, I say lonely and confused for various reason which I will explain below. One I deal with depression and so many things put me into this state. I have no real friends. I have aquaintances, those that were friends but I never hear from them. I do have one or two friends, but they live about an hour or more away, so I never see them. The rest I never hear. I feel I could die tomorrow and they would never know if I passed away. That is how much I feel disconnected with most of those I know. Ok, so I know you are probably saying, that I should reach out the two friends I have. Well, yes you are correct and I have. But they are married, have kids, and liv…

I wish I was pretty. At school all my friends are drop dead gorgeous. Everyone has changed their look coming back prettier than ever, while I have looked the same for basically all my life. Sometimes my friends say that I'm pretty when I self-doubt myself. But I don't think it's true. Every morning I look into the mirror and see all the things wrong with my face. My face is too long, my nose has a huge bump on it, my eyes are to far apart, I have too much acne. I hate everything about it. My cousin is extremely pretty and I always wish I looked like her. My sister is so pretty and always gets compliments. I'm a person who always preaches self love and confidence when…

Hi everybody....So I'm currently in a very strict COVID lockdown and as I feared I started to get heavy on drinking the bottles of wine. I feel really ashamed because I was in this Zoom SMART Recovery meeting two days ago and it was a good meeting. The facilitator was nice and the people were mostly older than myself but they said some very relatable things. In SMART Recovery you set week to week goals. My goal was not to drink alcohol for one week but pretty quickly I failed it. I drank a bottle of wine last night and also drinking one now. I do get help for my drinking the last 14 years so I know at least I try. My drug and alcohol counsellor sometimes did point ou…