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Back story: Dear friend, female, who lives far away. She's in her 40s. Long time complicated relationship with food and has had BED -binge eating disorder -for last number of years. She is herself a therapist and she attends support groups, does her best. Husband, three kids under 10, mom lives with them but she is um a handful. One month ago husband was diagnosed with late stage cancer. He just started chemo, he will be needing surgery, I think. (Her Mom is helpful to supervise kids if they need to go somewhere especially now -chemo treatments require an hour trip each way, mobility services might not be available right now due to covid). She told me today…

I have yet to discuss and send pictures to my doctor but I am pretty sure I have sun allergy. There are multitudes of allergies in both m’y families across many generations and I have a lot of allergies and intolerances myself and a run away immune system.

I'm am very uncertain if I should ever go to see a therapist or anyone tell my doctor I might be falling into a hole im not sure very often I tend to beat myself up when things go down it can be something like I said the wrong thing to my buddy and I instantly apologize or it can be a day where I don't speak/text them because I feel like I will bother them or I just don't have the energy to do so and I have this feeling of loneliness that I think is just me wanting attention but in fact I don't like much attention from others as I feel I will become a burden to them. When I do end up talking to them I feel like I am not really communicating with them about anything and ju…

I don't know if I should bring it up to my family doctor or my therapist... I brought it up to my therapist in passing and we didn't expand on that, but I feel like I'm having physical effects from the memories of the past year in particular. I believe my husband is narcissistic and was emotionally abusive to me... I feel like I should feel relief during the divorce process, but I continue to have disturbed sleep, feeling like I'm back in the moments of being bullied, and extreme fear at even seeing his family members texting to check on me. Also, I lost about thirty pounds before leaving my husband. The last several days with him, and the first few days away from him, I …

I’ve been struggling with mental health for a while now. Ive been extremely sensitive my whole life and started experiencing unstable emotions in high school, and self-harmed back then. My romantic relationships were hell because of my tendencies to sabotage them for attention, being really emotional and dependent, etc. I’ve struggled with general depressive episodes for a while too, sleeping too much and eating poorly, terrible hygiene, no organizational skills, always feeling super drained and jumping around from hobby to hobby. I have some impulse control issues too with spending ridiculous amounts of money to fill a void. My mood swings are terrible and exhausti…

I decided to cancel having the Bariatric surgery in September. I have given it much thought and it doesn’t sit right in my gut having surgery. I’m instead getting a personal trainer and going to loose weight naturally. I don’t think surgery is the answer. I found a woman trainer who is supposedly one of the best in my area. I have a consultation with her Tuesday June 29th.

It's weird to do this, I've been putting it off with my doctor but I cant anymore and have made an appointment. But here's the issue I cant eat, I'm having the absolute worst time being able to make myself even take a single bite of things. I'm a hard working woman, and I dont pull punches so everything gets my 100% but I have in no way ever been anorexic, I love food too much and am 100% comfortable with my body. I fell into a 6 year relationship with a narcissist and the stress wrecked me. I have chronic anxiety and depressive episodes and PTSD as a result, but I think that may be part of the problem! At the beginning of the year I was attacked and left with…

Fingers, actually. Pointer fingers, specifically. The first and second knuckles. First knuckle moreso than second knuckle. Right hand moreso than left hand. It woke me up about a week ago. Heat and massaging the knuckles seem to help. But it's annoying to rest the knuckles on a heating pad or massage them because I need my hands for important things, like fidgeting. I think the pain is mouse-related. I've started noticing myself clenching my hand around the mouse. Switching from right to left helps a little, BUT I'm much slower with my left hand and I can tell already that I'm not going to spend the time to learn. I also use my ring finger and po…

So, I say lonely and confused for various reason which I will explain below. One I deal with depression and so many things put me into this state. I have no real friends. I have aquaintances, those that were friends but I never hear from them. I do have one or two friends, but they live about an hour or more away, so I never see them. The rest I never hear. I feel I could die tomorrow and they would never know if I passed away. That is how much I feel disconnected with most of those I know. Ok, so I know you are probably saying, that I should reach out the two friends I have. Well, yes you are correct and I have. But they are married, have kids, and liv…

I wish I was pretty. At school all my friends are drop dead gorgeous. Everyone has changed their look coming back prettier than ever, while I have looked the same for basically all my life. Sometimes my friends say that I'm pretty when I self-doubt myself. But I don't think it's true. Every morning I look into the mirror and see all the things wrong with my face. My face is too long, my nose has a huge bump on it, my eyes are to far apart, I have too much acne. I hate everything about it. My cousin is extremely pretty and I always wish I looked like her. My sister is so pretty and always gets compliments. I'm a person who always preaches self love and confidence when…

Hi everybody....So I'm currently in a very strict COVID lockdown and as I feared I started to get heavy on drinking the bottles of wine. I feel really ashamed because I was in this Zoom SMART Recovery meeting two days ago and it was a good meeting. The facilitator was nice and the people were mostly older than myself but they said some very relatable things. In SMART Recovery you set week to week goals. My goal was not to drink alcohol for one week but pretty quickly I failed it. I drank a bottle of wine last night and also drinking one now. I do get help for my drinking the last 14 years so I know at least I try. My drug and alcohol counsellor sometimes did point ou…

Anyone got any advice on how I can stop myself being too hard on myself at work? I constantly kick myself and feel I am being judged if I forget to do something or get something wrong or don't know how to do something etc... I feel incompetent and that everyone thinks that if i don't know something or make a mistake that I am incompetent. I constantly worry what others think of me and it really affects my confidence. I have been bullied in the past but I have some good days where I can get a lot done and feel good but sometimes not. Just wish i could care less what others think and stop being nervous around certain people. I worry people are saying …

So I'm 25, my sister is 22. We haven't talked in about 3 years now. That reason being her boyfriend. They started dating when she was 18 and he was 35. He is a gigantic creep, has come onto me, cheated on her, had her using heroin. ANYWAYS, even beyond that, one time him and my sister made sure that I walked in on them having sex when my boyfriend at the time was out of town. They knew I was home and chose to act like that with the door wide open. Anyways, called my then boyfriend, be called and confronted her boyfriend about it and it was a big ordeal. Because they didn't "understand why that was wrong". Fast forward 3 months, my boyfriend was sleeping prio…

This is probably a long shot, but does anyone here have an arrhythmia? I went to the ER a couple weeks ago because I kept having episodes of my heart speeding up, pausing and then going back to normal. I’ve had very brief episodes like this before, usually right before my period or when life is really stressful, but this day it just kept coming. Im pretty sure they thought I might be a hypochondriac, but then they finally got to see it on the cardiac monitor. I also saw a cardiologist last week. She said I have SVT. And that because my heart rate does not go very high for extended and frequent periods of time, and I’m basically asymptomatic(no fain…

I have been suffering depression since last year. Also, I was diagnosed with ADHD,OCPD, and bipolar disorder. Contrary from the past years before pandemic, I was a highly discipline with my diet. But since last year, I have been experiencing emotional/stress eating. Definitely my mind knows what to do but it has been really a struggle to come out from this status. I am now alone and gained my independence finally after so many years from my toxic family, I am now focusing on finding job and self-development. But struggle is real. I have been taking care of my granny for five years. It was very exhausting. Now, her absence in her home makes me feel sad. I can …

Do you feel as if the beauty industry is destroying our women's confidence in themselves? Do you believe they are in business moreso because of insecure women?

I gained a lot of weight back and then some these past few months. Granted I had really lost 30 pounds from my heaviest. But gained 15 of that back. I have struggled with obesity not even being overweight for the past 15 years! I’ve tried everything you can think of, Nutritionist, Weight loss plans all of them and appetite suppressants. I thought I was doing good and even posted here about my loss. Only to yo yo back up and down. I have considered weight loss surgery off and on for the past five years. I finally bit the bullet and got a consultation with a Bariatric surgeon. I saw him two weeks ago. I told him my struggles and I was quite candid about…

So I went to the hospital at 2:30 AM. They gave me a 30mg shot of Toradol. That only reduced it a bit. They sent me home. I took 2 Tylenol 1 and got in bed at 5:45. I woke up before 7:30 screaming in pain. My husband took me back to the hospital. This time it was another dr. He said he is sure I have Trigeminal Neuralgia and gave me another shot of Toradol 60mg. He gave me 200 mg of carbamazepine . I have to take 400 mg a day. It is an anti seizure medication that will relax the nerve. And he have me hydromorhone 2 mg for pain. They have me lined up to see a specialist. Sorry I am not making much sense I am taking 2 medications which make you very very sleepy and conf…

My doctor suggested it to me last Spring as they want me off my current anxiety med. It also currently doesn’t handle my anxiety issues. Daily exercise does help a lot . I have a phone appointment with my doctor for my diabetic check up next week. I am thinking of asking to try Effexor . I do have a severe SSRI allergy but as an SNRI it might be a little different.

To cut a long story short, I stopped drinking for nearly two years as I was drinking every day and started even drinking in the mornings when I wasn't working. It nearly ruined my marriage and I wouldn't have my child if I didn't stop as my hubby refused to start family while I was drinking. I started drinking socially again and it started well but old habits crept up again when my kid was at grandmas for the weekend and hubby at work. Was drinking the night before and woke up to start drinking again and all day. Cue me really pissed and then really ill for days. Had a chat with an annoyed hubby and we agreed that maybe i find it hard to admit i can't control …

Just having an all around crap day. I found out there is a confirmed COVID case 5 doors away from me. How this affects me? Their children go on the bus with some of my daycare littles. The mother of said daycare littles said she was told by the school to pick up her children immediately from school and they must isolate. So now we are “ exposed “ I had to contact all my parents and the health dept. My husband gave a piece of very expensive equipment to be returned to someone who works in supply and they didn’t fill out the proper paperwork and it is STILL on his docket and he might need to pay $1500. And I got a call from my mom saying her doctor thi…

It's been almost a year now since my depression and anxiety started to get worse and I feel like it's getting out of hand - and honestly? I can't take it anymore. I feel like after being so lonely and remote from anyone I forgot what it's like to be a social creature. Last year I started university and I moved out of my parents' house. I felt so good, I honestly enjoyed the independence so much and I think that for the first time ever in my life - I finally felt like everything is going well and I wasn't suspecting anything. But then Covid-19 happened and honestly no one could have seen it coming. Not a good enough writer in this world to write such a surprising script, …

Highly embarrassing but here goes- had a bit of an itchy bottom the past few days, and over the past 24 hours whenever I use the toilet there's a little blood on the tissue. Took a look in the mirror earlier today and there's a red line down my bum crack- it's obviously a sore/split. What can I do to make it heal? It's uncomfortable and stings a lot but I can't get to the doctors due to work. It's such a hard area to keep dry too, anyone experienced this problem?!!!

I often feel a pressure in the front of my brain when struggling with anxiety or intense emotion. I'm heavily repressed and conditioned from childhood that any outburst from me, no matter how minor, is abnormal and a sign of instability. (Nevermind my mother's frequent past outbursts.) My father acted disgusted when I asked many years ago for him to buy me a punching bag; I knew I needed some way to relieve stress. I moved back in and don't even feel I could buy one with my own money without my parents having something negative to say. I started jogging recently and the higher activity level seems helpful, but I doubt it's a substitute for venting aggression. There's plen…

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