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  1. Hello I am new here and have thought about going to see a counseller for my problems, but have decided to try online first and see other peoples point of view. My problems started last year when I became pregnant. I had been with my partner for 18 years and we never thought we could conceive, so were very excited about it. That was, until I had a miscarriage. This was the start of my problems. My partner had never really had a very big sex drive (once a year if I was lucky since he started his own business) and I put it down to stress of work. After the loss of the baby, I became very depressed and hormonal and he didn't know how to deal with, so confided in another woman (I only found this out later - the cause of a huge row). He had been texting her two or three times a day and I thought there was something going on. I confronted him about it and he said that she had relationship problems and was asking him about them. He said there was nothing going on and I should trust him. So I did. Their relationship seemed to fizzle out, but his business started going downhill and sometimes he works at the same building as her part time to bring some extra money in and I am eaten up inside thinking he is there with her. She has a boyfriend who (so he tells me) she is happy with and there is no relationship between them except for being friends. Now that would seem enough of a problem in itself (to me anyway - I felt betrayed that he was confiding in another woman about our relationship). He threatened to leave me about six weeks ago as he said I didn't trust him (and it had got to the point that I didn't feel that I could), but the shock of the potential break-up brought me to my senses and I battle with my feelings every day when he is working there, thinking they are laughing at me behind my back. Next thing I know, I find out that he has been looking at porn and downloading porn videos from the internet. I found this out quite by accident, but ever since, have been watching his activity online to see if it was a one-off (which it seemed to be). This was eight months ago. More recently I found a link to a porno site that he had accessed and then several more to other sites which he seems to look at on a regular basis after I have gone to work (I leave early and he doesn't start work until later, so has time at home on his own). I have confronted him about it and he seems to think I see him as some kind of deviant. I told him I feel that I am not enough for him (he is still not interested in a sexual relationship with me, although when I lost our baby, he had said we would try for another) and I feel that he is getting his gratification for looking at these graphic images on the internet. I don't know what to do or where to turn as I don't know if this is normal, but then why am I not enough for him? I feel like I want to break up the relationship over this as whenever I ask about it, he goes silent and moody and will not talk about it, full stop!! Sorry to burden people with so many problems, but I don't know where to turn or what to do and have felt suicidal over this as he has been such a huge part of my life for the past two decades. Confused, depressed and in need of help fast ...
  2. Okay, I am new here and just want to hear everyone's thoughts abou this... My husband dated this girl online 6 years ago. They never met. She actually turned out to be fake. He said he should have seen that all along, considering she sent him pictures, and all the pics she sent him were of DIFERENT people. He found several of the pics a few years later on a porn site. He says he was in denial. She also constantly asked him to send her money, which he never did. This was obviously before we met. The problem is, he still makes mention of her on his AOL profile, stating: "I have went into a dream I never want to wake up from." We have been together two years and I think it's about time he erased that. It's been SIX years since he had this cyber relationship. When I first moved in with him and he helped me set up an aol screen name, he updated his profile right in front of me. He explained that that line was about her, and he liked the quote so he was leaving it there. I didn't think too much of it then, I thought after so long of being with me he would change it out of respect if nothing else. Now almost two years later I have told him this bothers me, and he won't. He keeps saying "I don't update my profile that often." and stuff like that. I thinks thats a pretty dumb excuse. He also keeps telling me it's not that big a deal and I'm making a mountain out of a mole hill. I am very frusterated with this. What does everyone think. Do I have a right to be upset or am I just being silly? What do you think I should do? Comments please...
  3. Hey, on this thread, I want no comments about my age, ok. point blank, do girls masturbate? By girls i mean 18-. I only want to know because it seems that men see the world in more sexual terms than women, and at school, whenever the guys talk about porn or whatnot, the girls seem to disapprove. I only know one girl who masturbates, so i guess my question is, "When do girls start to thiink about sex as much as boys do?"
  4. Recently, I was on my boyfriend's computer when I found a HUGE stash of porn sites. It ws kind of surprising. I mean, I knew he watched porn or looked at it from time to time, but this just bothered me tremendously. Looking at it made me feel so inadequate to the point where I was almost in tears . I've always heard that porn is just a "guy thing" so I'm afraid to voice my opinion on how it's bothering me because I feel as if I'm expected to accept it and just be thankful that he's not cheating on me. I guess it just hurts me to know that he desires sooo many gorgeous women that I could never begin to compete with. I'm not really sure if this is something that I have a right to tell him not to do or watch or whatever, and I would never want to to overstep that boundary to be that controlling girlfriend, so I don't know what to do. It's a problem, because now, every time we're being intimate, I feel like he's thinking of or wishing he was with one of those perfect, gorgeous women. I know he loves me, but it terrifies me to think that he desires other women (whether accessible or not) and it makes me think that he would be likely to cheat on me since he's already desiring other women. Is this assumption completely unfounded? Please help.
  5. My friend spent the night at my house and we were just messing around all day having fun blah blah. We got home from basketball practice and played a game of charades with my parents and then they went to bed. Me and my friend stayed up and got on the computer and we looked at a little bit of porn but got bored with it.... so we made a deal that we would both go lay under the covers on a separate couch and masturbate without eachother seeing eachother. Then we were talking while doing it and we were wondering who had the biggest penis and I said I'd show him if he would, but he didn't want to show his (he wont take his shirt off or socks or anything so i didnt expect him to). he told me come over here and show me, and i set beside him and after about 5 minutes finally pulled it out and then I started masturbating in front of him and he watched me. He kept doing it to but he stayed under the covers. He touched my penis with his foot 2 times because I told him to, that i didnt care. I liked it and he was laughing about it. We talked about it later and he said it was cool and I could do it again, I wanted him to show to, I am not gay but I feel like I want to compare and masturbate with him, it seems like fun. I asked him if he wanted to do it any at all when I did and he said "yeah.. i wanted to really bad for a minute .. until i came" What do you all think? do you think he wil eventually do it in front of me If i keep doing it in front of him or what?
  6. Why are some men turned on by rape porn? Have you ever had any rape fantasies? My friends hubby will only watch that type of porn and it's really starting to irritate her. Also are these actual rapes,or just role play for the camera? Thanks
  7. okay i didnt even know what to title this because its different than my boyfriend just looking at porn. there is a site called myspace, that has plenty of dirty pictures on it but its not only used for porn. the site allows you to post pictures of yourself, make friends, and contact people you meet. recently i was looking through my boyfriends email, (he had left his house to pick up some things, and he always looks through mine so i was curious) unaware he even had an account with the website and found that he had messages waiting for him at the website. when i read the messages it was from girls with pornographic pictures on their page. he had sent them messages that said "i wana f*ck the hell outa you" and giving them his screenname... around that time my boyfriend, for no reason deleted ME out of his profile. his girlfriend for more then a year. the girls were not even good looking, they were mostly not in shape, had cellulite, i am very physically fit and i knwo for a fact that i am more attractive then these girls. whats the problem! why does he feel the need to talk to them. PLUS. are sex life is very healthy and he has pictures of me nude.
  8. I have some friends at my school. They are good kids, and I really like them, but sometimes they get into conversations about sex, attraction etc. I don't mind these conversations, but I have never looked at porn, seen a lady naked, or felt someone's boobs. They also have girlfriends; I don't, and they are always touching each other. So a lot of the time I feel very awkward in these situations. Am I wrong for not having seen nude photos or having touched a girl beyond hugging or shaking hands ? What should I do?
  9. First i'll give you a bit of backround info. My boyfriend and I have been happily in love about a year now. We have a pretty good sex life, i think, although lately i am not so sure. We have sex at least once on MOST days sometimes two or three times a day. It used to come much more naturally but lately i feel like i need to practically beg for it, and we only have sex if i initiate it myself, its next to never the other way around. We are very open with each other on most sexually related topics, and have tried alot of different things. The problem that i am having lately is that even though we have daily sex, i think he still masturbates at least a couple of times a week. Sometimes over porn (which i HATE) sometimes not. He'll lie about it too, deny it, but sometimes i will catch him red handed, and sometimes he'll admit it. It makes me feel like i can't satisfy him, or that our sex life is not good enough for him. I just can't get my head around why he needs to do it, when i know i certainly don't. We often use masturbation as part of foreplay, so its not like he doesn't get to touch himself. I'd understand if we weren't having so much sex, but as it stands now, surely its not normal to wank that much? The worst part is, that although we can talk about most things, he gets angry at me whenever i bring up the topic of masturbation. It's not really open for discussing with him most days, he'll just roll his eyes and walk away. A few months back, i even caught him masturbating at night, in bed with me, whilst i was sleeping. I didn't come right out and say i'd caught him in a nasty way, i kind of made a joke of it instead, and i haven't caught him since. But i also haven't been waking up at night as much lately so who really knows. I just hate the way it makes me feel to know that no matter how hard i try to please him sexually, he still finds he needs to please himself too. In recent attempts at discussing the issue, he says he does it most often after we have sex, because he's thinking about it as opposed to doing it if we had not had sex. That actually made me feel far worse, because surely the sex must be bad if he has to do his own thing afterwards. He says he's happy with our sex life, but is he lying and this is his way of getting the satisfaction i can't offer him? Is this a problem or some kind of addiction he has? Or am i just over reacting and beating myself up over something i shouldn't? Should i get help or should he? Confused!!
  10. Asking all guys out there… Could someone explain what is so appealing in checking out other women? And I mean women walking down the street, girls on TV, … mags… porn … everywhere… (Are there any difference between those?) Cause you guys do that, don't you? What I would like to know is what kind of pleasure you're getting from that, where's the kicks in it, what exactly do you feel and how does it affect the way you look at your girlfriend? What do you feel when checking out absolutely gorgeous women – who looks so much better than you girlfriend? Don't you wish your gf looked like that? And, how important is someone's appearance to you? (The fact that you're looking at girls regularly suggest that it is pretty important – is that true?) And please, don't take me wrong, I am not trying to criticize you, I'm just trying to understand it! My boyfriend really enjoys looking at other women – and I know he finds some of them more attractive than me, he told me so himself when I asked him. He doesn't see anything wrong with it. But it really bothers me. I, on the other hand, feel totally inadequate, ugly and unattractive because of him doing that. I know it might have something to do with my own insecurities, but please, help me to understand HIM better… Thanks heaps P.S. He always sais he adores the way I look and compliments me all the time! When other men look at me, he commets how they would like to have me and things like that. Does that mean that he wants all those women that he admires?
  11. OK. I am currently in a relationship coming up on four years. My boyfriend has stopped having sex with me, and keeps turning me down. However, he looks at porn and "pleases" himself whenever I go to bed, go to work, or anytime I leave the house. I think this might have something to do with him gaining a little weight, and not feeling good about the way he looks. I have tried to talk to him about this, but it only results in him getting mad. I always tell him, "It doesn't matter to me what you look like, I love you..." This has happened several other times during the relationship, but never this long of a time. He says he loves me, but I just don't know what to do...
  12. I have a problem with my boyfriend looking at porn, but... I think it... actually I pretty much KNOW it is because I have problems with my self esteem that are due to my bad sexual past and other issues dealing with my body image. It's not that it bothers me that he looks at it because I don't think looking at it is wrong, hell I look myself sometimes. But what hurts so much is that the second I find that he does look at it, I feel like I am not good enough, not pretty enough, not giving him enough and that he has to look elsewhere to find what's lacking with us. And I know this is not really the case! I don't know what to do to get over this because I have put pressure on him in the past and it has caused a riff and he hides it now which hurts much much more than him looking at it. I want to be one of those girls that doesn't sweat the small stuff like this. We have a great sex life, I am never lacking for it. I just don't want to feel like I am not good enough. Please, if anyone has any decent advice to give. How can I feel better about myself? My problems have never stemmed from not knowing what my problems are, they come from not knowing how to fix them. I want the trust back in our relationship. He is a good guy and he deserves to feel comfortable about looking at porn, it never hurts our relationship and he is far from being an addict. Help me please...
  13. Okay so I like porn with women only...sometimes men....I think women are so beautiful...when Im ya know, doin gmy thing, I think about another women being there with me..I think women bodys are beautiful..am i bi or is this just normal...
  14. My boyfriend and I have been together now for 10 months and approx. 2 months ago I moved into his apartment. I’ve known from the very beginning of our relationship that he looks at porn and we agreed that as long as it didn’t affect our relationship that there was nothing wrong with it. Shortly after I moved in with him I discovered a suitcase that was packed full of several hundred c.d.’s that he had burned off of the internet that included porn pictures and movies. He also hid several hundred porn pictures on his hard drive. We discussed this problem and he agreed not to download anything else and to destroy all that he had burned and downloaded. Just recently however, I discovered that hidden in his favorites were 30 or 40 porn sites that he has visited (including some teen sites). I confronted him about this because we have his 17-year-old son living with us and I didn’t feel that he needed to see what his dad was looking at. He got angry and accused me of snooping. Now the real problem here is that since the beginning of our relationship we only have sex approx. once a week, which is just not enough for me. He and I have discussed this issue on numerous occasions and he just always made excuses……too tired, too busy, low sex drive. Well recently this has become an issue AGAIN and this time he freely admitted that he looks at porn and masturbates very frequently, thereforeeeeee he feels this may be why he doesn’t want me on a regular basis. I had suspected this for a long time, however I guess I just tried to deny it hoping the problem would go away. Of course this news was somewhat of a relief, because I was thinking that there was something wrong with me but on the other hand it just really hurt me knowing that this has gone on for so long and knowing that he can get off looking at a computer screen when he has the real thing wanting him regularly. He said because he loves me so much and he doesn’t want to loose me that he would stop doing this. I’m afraid however, that he is addicted and that he won’t be able to stop. Should I insist on him getting counseling? Should I stay with him or end our relationship now? Is this something that he can stop doing on his own? I’ve noticed that other people on this site have had similar problems and would like to know what you all think?
  15. Hi, my name is Lucy and I am having extreme psychological issues after I found out my boyfriend looked at porn. I seem to not be thinking straight and seem to have an identity problem. I think i might be going crazy. Everything I feel is depression, sadness, and confusion. By identity problems meaning I think insane thoughts of being not me, but truly somebody unnattractive. Am I going crazy?
  16. the guy im dating is very effiminate. one would assume he is gay when they meet him. hes a pretty boy and the gay men love him! anyhow, i have recently learned that he enjoys watching gay porn. i know in the past he has fooled around with a guy, but says he didnt enjoy it. maybe just wrong person? anyhow, he also enjoys straight porn, and seems to enjoy sex. he has never been unable to maintain an erection, comes every time we have sex (not too fast, and not too slowly), and gives great head (i come every time!). now, i really doubt he is strictly "gay." if anything, id guess he was bi. but, maybe not? i mean, in nearly every porn there is, women get it on. and, though i am not bi or lesbian, it does make me arroused. same difference, right? but, still...given that there is such a stigma against gay sex, maybe its not quite the same...then again, maybe given the fact that he is effeminate, has had to get comfortable with this, has made him more comfortable with his sexuality, and makes him feel okay with enjoying the fact that in gay sex its total raw sex...no pretenses, no fake love...hard, heavy, and hot. okay...now its your turn. i need some input.
  17. I am 29 yo and I have been in a relationship with my fiance for just over 4 years, I am currently 6 months pregnant with our first child together and I have an 8yo daughter from a previous marriage. He is a wonderful caring father to my daughter and she adores him but he has been physically abusive to me in the past and we have had alot of up and downs in our relationship, we moved interstate 10 months ago and everything has been perfect since then, he is never abusive towards me anymore and he has been very caring and loving towards me. In the past I was constantly finding hard core porn magazines and videos that he has bought and hidden from me and I have even found phone calls to sex lines and chat lines on our phone bills (one bill even came to over $2000) the phone calls were rare but the magazines and videos have been constant for the past 3 years, whenever I confronted him about it he would always turn it into an argument and become violent and abusive towards me and then afterwards he would apologise and promise that he will stop buying them and even used to throw them all out, but a few months later I would always find he has snuck behind my back and stocked up on his collection yet again, even though he knows how much it hurts me. Ever since we moved and I have been pregnant things have been different and I thought that all this porn stuff had stopped but yesterday I found a new stash of magazines and videos. I have always been a very self conscious person and I find it so hurtful when I find that he sneaks behind my back and buys a secret stash of videos and magazines that he brings out when I am not around. I am a very open minded person, we have watched porn together in the past and we even have a large collection of "toys" that we have bought together, we have always had a very passionate sex life and we are both quiet adventurous and like the same things so I cannot understand why he needs all this porn when I give him everything he has ever desired in the bedroom. Before becoming pregnant I was a size 6 and I am now a size 14 so I am feeling even more self conscious at the moment, we never use to be able to go a day without having sex and now I am lucky if he wants it once a week and when I ask him why, he says he is tired or he is worried about hurting the baby. I really don't know what to do anymore in the past I have given him the choice between me and his porn and he always chooses me, so why does he continue to do it behind my back. I want to confront him about my recent find but I am scared of him reacting violent like he used to in the past, but also I am not willing to put up with these constant lies and broken promises and at the moment I don't even think I can trust him. What should I do?
  18. My boyfriend looks at porn on the internet quite regularly, which is OK, as I know it's normal for men! We talk about it sometimes and just agree that men are different to women, which is fine. But this morning I went on the computer and found that he had been looking at animal porn, i.e. a dog and a girl. This really upset me - I felt quite sick, and don't understand how that can turn him on! He hadn't tried to hide it or anything, it was there in the media player when I opened it! Should I be worried? I mean, it's not as bad as looking at underage girls or anything like that, but it just seems sick to me. I'll talk to him about it when he gets home from work, but I was just wondering if there's any men out there who can explain what he's doing, or and women who had had similar experiences. Knowing that he likes watching such things (he also likes watching anal sex) sticks in the back of my mind and resurfaces when he tries to initiate sex, leading to me not wanting sex on most occasions! I usually feel at my horniest when he's not here! Help!
  19. well my sexual orientation is not well known to this house i mean every time i use the computer i have to erased the history, im bi i like girls and boys, i just broke off with my girlfriend last two months and never open the issue to my parents or to anyone else but to my bestfriend who is bi too. im planning in moving out find a place for me close to my job which is very important to me but the thing is that my dad needs my financial support from me cuz im earning already but the thing is how about me? ive been longing to have my life alone do i have to hide my self till the day i die! my stupid brother is not talking to me for a month already since he found out accedentally the gay porn site i was surfing on the net when i forgot to erased the history forlder i mean do i have to erased my history every time i finnish using this comp do i have to hide forever?
  20. My husband looks at porn every day. I had a problem with it in the beginning because literaly any spare minute he had he was on his computer surfing. Now he only looks in the morning and before I get home from work. And it goes in cycles kind of. I had looked at his computer in December and found a secret email acct that he has used to send some sexual emails to his best friends wife. And it also was part of a group that had pictures of a, maybe 12 yr old girl, in a ballerina outfit in various poses. Now she was dressed but I think it very strange that he would sign up for her group ~ to see her do the splits? So finally we got the best friend and his wife out of our life and I explained that as long as it wasn't a huge secret him looking at porn wasn't a big deal I just didn't understand the secretcy. (He shut the door and closed the browser when I was around) BUT that in no way should be have any pictures of young girls, even dressed, they were in inappropriate poses and I told him he should be very careful. Well I was doing a google search with the email address just this week ~ just goofing around ~ he had been closing his door again. I found where he had asked about a MSN group. The page I saw had pics of a mother (not very attractive) and a young 12-13 yr girl (pretty) in a bikini in some cheesecake poses. It make me sick that some man took the pictures and then posted them and even sicker that I believe my husband wanted to see those pics and not the woman. I don't understand. WHY would he want to see young girls, with their breasts just growing, in that light? Could someone please help? I know he does look at adult porn. Our sex life is okay and I don't think he masterbates to the porn. I don't know.
  21. I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason... like me finding this website today! I hope that I can get some good insight to my dilemma. I was dating a great guy. He was starting college and I was in my mid 20's and working by the time we had been together for almost 3 years. He was so sweet to me and we never argued. We had a great physical and emotional connection. But was that good enough for me.... NO! I was screwed up in the head. I felt a lot of pressure to "settle down" and get married. I spent all my time projecting into the future and trying to "hurry fate". I had found someone else and broke up with Mr. Nice Guy. Me and Mr. Someone Else dated for one month, got engaged and in a year and a half's time, got married. We had a lot of emotional struggle throughout the planning process and I had what I would now consider many "red flags" from Mr. Someone Else. But, I felt it was the right thing to do to go along with it anyway. I thought that once we were married it would all change. I thought it was the answer to everything. I was a real woman now, I was validated because I was married. I wore that ring with pride and felt that it made me whole. Then, real life happened. He couldn't (or wouldn't) keep a job, he had manic episodes that made him pick fights with me in order to take off..sometimes for days. He was addicted to porn, spending hundreds of dollars a month on PPV movies and websites. Our intimacy suffered and dwindled down to nothing because I caught him in lies about the porn. Fast forward... it is 8 years later... we have been married for 6. We spent our wedding anniversary this year arguing... It has probably been a year since we were intimate and who knows how long the time before that. I feel betrayed and hurt and angry. For a while I felt responsible, now I know that it is his problem, not mine. I am trying to give some background to get my point accross, however there is SO much more to the story. I always had it in the back of my mind that things would get better and that I had to tough it out. Throughout our marriage I never stopped thinking about "Mr. Nice Guy". I always wanted him to know how sorry I was for hurting him and how I had made an awful mistake. 3 days ago, I asked my husband to leave after he (once again) picked a fight with me (on purpose) and took off for the whole night and never called to let me know where he was. He showed up at his job for work the next day and he called me. He came to our house to talk and I told him he had to leave. I was tired of this life and felt that things would never change and that I was worth more than that. He agreed and we are separated. I also, was able to recently find Mr. Nice Guy's email address (that was something!) and I sent him an anonymous email (having some fun)... he wrote back, intrigued and I finally let him off the hook and let him know it was me. He was so surprised! Initially I thought it was going to be a "closure" letter, to tell him that I hoped that he had forgiven me for hurting him. We have been instant messaging each other every day for a week now... exchanging pictures and talking about old times (and new times). He is in a relationship and is aware of my current status. We have never talked about reconciling, but he did tell me that he had been looking for me online too and that he never stopped thinking about me. He also said that he knew sooner or later we would find each other again. I want to think it means what I want it to mean, but I dont want to read too much into it, and I certainly do not want to put any pressure on him or myself. My husband has no idea (especially since he is now living outside the house). I know that might not be the most honest thing to do, but right now it feels right. I have spent so many years caring for him and putting him first that now I have something that is just my own. I think that I got married for the sake of getting married, not because it was with the right guy. OK... Im fragile so go easy on me with your comments
  22. I am a 32 year old married male with 2 wonderful children. I have a great job, wonderful wife and a mini-van. Ok....so the van is not that cool. But the family couldn't be better. Here is the kicker. I have a wife that is sexy as hell and would do anything for me. And what did I do...I have become addicted to porn sites, emailing various people from the sites, uselessly wasting our families money and worst of all...lying about it all to her. She has always been an intelligent woman, so, me hiding it became useless. She did eventually find out and this is now our second time apart. Apparently I learned nothing the first time. I have come to grips (pardon the pun) with the fact that, yes I am a porn addict. Did I ever like it...no. Did I ever get off on it....no. Did I ever stop....no. There is no rational reason behind the whys of it. Or at least i have never found any. The only thing I can come up with is, I have little or no respect for myself or others around me. The porn is something that started a while ago (2 years) the rest started a long time ago. Before we met. I don't really think I was ever really honest with anyone.....including myself. I have this image of myself that on the outside I try to uphold (big brave strong confident blah blah blah guy) but the truth could not be further from that. I have never had any confidence in anything I have done. I stayed in a dead end job for years simply because I didn't think I could do any better. My wife showed me I could. I did alot of drinking in my youth....and I mean alot. Got to a point I would consider myself a recovered alcoholic. As far as now....I think I just replaced one crutch with another. My wife constantly tells me how great I am and how much I am loved. And honestly I believe her.....but in my sad pitiful mind I think I am too convinced that I am not worthy of her....her love...her respect. So what do I do....I get online and do the dumbest thing possible. Chase her and my family away because I have to look at naked women on the net. When in reality, I love to look at her, feel her, touch her. She has a pair of eyes that can just take you in and leave you begging for me. unfortunately those beautiful eyes no longer light up when they see me.....they only show the disgust I deserve. I don't know if anyone else is going through this as well, perhaps I am a loner. In anycase, if I can't help myself to a point where I can become that confident strong man she used to see....at least let my words help someone else. I only have a few words of advice....well lets just say, they are do as I say, not do as I did. If you are married and you love your wife.....stay off the porn. If you feel you are addicted to it, tell her, seek help. Do not block her out. You will miss her everyday, as I miss mine now. And above all be honest with her. After all, she is the woman you married, the one you waited for, longed for, would die for, why would you need to look at others.
  23. Hi Guys. Do porn chicks turn you on more than your partner does? Does viewing porn make your partner seem less attractive to you?
  24. Can you trust a man that has been to strip clubs 4 years in a row? And a man who watches porn online? Does doing these things mean he wants a lot of different women and not just one woman? Then why would he do these things if he's not a player or a cheater? I dont understand strip clubs and online porn at all. Can he still be a good guy and faithful if he does that or is he cheating in his mind or lusting for others?
  25. I was just wondering if it is irrational to be jealous of porn. My husband usually leaves for work before I get up, but this morning, I thought I'd wake up and spend a little time with him before he went to work and I caught him looking up porn. Normally, I don't think that would bother me (even though I am a jealous person) but he always says how disgusting it is, and what not. He doesn't seem like a person to do that type of thing. He doesn't even look at girls when we go out. He was a virgin when I met him, and didn't even have many serious relationships before me. We got married when he was 20 and I was 19, so we were pretty young, and part of me thinks that he doesn't only want to be with me since I was the only person he was with. Should I be worried about him cheating on me? This is really bad timing considering my ex has been on my mind lately, but thats a totally different post. I guess I feel like I'm not good enough for him, or that I don't satisfy him anymore. Is this irrational?
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