Honeybeans

I talked to him about it and said well I would only care and want his attention and told him I would never be disloyal to him. I’ll make sure to talk to him again about this topic because I don’t dress for attention but for myself and most of the time I don’t think he understands that. It’s incredibly weird and honestly hurtful because my family seems to have a problem when I wear ‘boyish’ clothes now my boyfriend has a problem with my more ‘womanly’ clothes so that left me wondering well what should I even wear, lowers my confidence, and cause panic attacks (in extreme cases) when I do wear more feminine clothes in public it’s very hectic I would say.

We have met in person we’ve been together for maybe half a year now or just a little less. I think rather than approval I kinda got it in my head that when you get a significant other you’d a lot of attention and compliments from them especially if you’re excited over something. Idk maybe that is me seeking his approval?

Hi what is everyone’s opinion on their partners clothes. Mine doesn’t like it, I recently showed him outfits that I thought looked really cute but all he seems to think about is that I wouldn’t be with him since we are long distance and that I would be getting attention from other guys. I don’t generally appear feminine in my opinion so these outfits were a change of pace and I personally liked them. We ended up in an argument I got incredibly sad and it just made me wonder do other people have this issue and if I’m the one overreacting. (I’m simplifying it down significantly but it’s okay you get the gist I hope)

So September 23rd I was asked out on a date by a nice guy who I would categorize as one of my friends. Well as you can see it’s November now so more than a month has past. During the confession I panicked as I’ve never really went out with someone I think I rejected him without meaning to reject him I can’t remember if I blatantly said no or I’ll think about it. Okay on to the point I have been thinking about it literally the entire time and do wanna go on the date however my lack of experience and timidness when it comes to romantic relationships has caused me to be scared in telling him that I did wanna go on a date. It’s getting closer to the end of the semester and we’re nearing finals week and end of classes. I’ve literally been trying to muster up some courage for over a month. But I guess I’m here to ask, do you think it’s too late now or I should go for it?

Personally I think love is a mutual understanding of each other’s personalities and boundaries. This can be for all kinds of relationships if you guys understand each other and respect each other’s space when it’s needed then It’ll work out but without it it’ll eventually break off. Then again this is speculation and I don’t think I understand what love truly is yet since I tend to set distances with people.