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  1. robowarrior
    Well you don't even know if , ehm i rephraze that, you know that your friends will accept you no matter what you choose, so keep loving eachother and bring light into eachothers lives. Its unusual but maby the 3 of you could be in one big relationship with eachother? I would only do that if you all can equally go along well with eachother, but seeing how this is becoming a tad private i'll skip out right here.
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    Don't be your own worst enemy in preventing yourself from meeting someone wonderfull, just do it.
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    Show some spine and ignore this call. You broke up for a reason, and if that problem isn't resolved then you only break up and go into nc again for the same reason.
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    Its worth giving a try to grow back together again, catch up with him on what he's been doing, don't linger in it however, try to make something beautifull between you two, and bring love and light into eachothers lives. You can always break up again if things go wrong.
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    Life is what you make of it. Besides non of these events struck you directly in the sense that you got injured fysically, so to say that you are an omen of bad luck is exaggerated. Its more due to the high crime rate in your town that people are getting killed then your personal influence. And if you think your hometown is dangerous, then i would indeed advice to move away from it.
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    Continue to visit your therapist, talk it all out, and understand that not all men are like that. I would like to advice people in generally only to travel in groups for safety reasons.
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    Don't ruin their valentines day just because you are having a hard time. Kitty hugs for everyone
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    You moved too slow, and when you didn't ask her out someone else did. Don't blame yourself however, its an experience thing to know when to make your move. Its important that you learn when oppertunity appears you need to grab it with both hands.
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    Ok halt with everything that you are doing. Currently You are making MAJOR mistakes in this relationships. -Show you have a life of your own to live. Bring the power of your life back where it belongs, namely in YOUR hands. -Never go into a relationship expecting it to work out just because it concerns 'your case' , reality is that a girl can pick her bags and leave any day. -Denying her free will is a big NO NO. Not only will you send her into her friends arms (because she will stand up for who is picked on) The more you fight about her friend, the more she will like her and see you as the trouble maker. Not only that, she can decide for herself to be with whomever she wants to be. You are being possesive, you need to learn that you can love someone but you don't "read "do no own"" a person, she is her own individual. - Sending her valentine stuff only shows that you are clingy and need her. She'll get the impression that you can't live without your mommy ,she doesn't want to be your mother, she wants a man with a life of his own to lean on,she wants to find support in you, not vice versa. -Ask yourself, am i with her so i can make her unhappy? Is she with me so she can make my life miserable? OF COURSE NOT , couples are supposed to make eachother happy, arguments poison the relationship and even small fights can lead to BIG break ups, so NEVER EVER give another swing to that wheel of hatred when arguments arise because it will only make the hate go on forever, you can't fight hate with more hate, it will only stop if you pour love in it. Anyway life is something that in itself is very messed up (better get used to it), for all you know she might be a Lesbian with her friend. So you already have to be prepared for that, because those fights over a female friend would be rediculous otherwhise. Anyway stop being afraid of her going with other partners, you cannot extort such kind of control over her that will make her do what you want. As said you can mostly only control your own life, and the control that you do have over others is not meant as a means of imposing your will on others and deleting that of her own.
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    J is moving on, so obviously go out with L.
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    You can't change the past, but you can try to make the best of the future. By deciding to let the enemy into your castle it will get reduced to ruins. Then you have two choices , you can either cry over your ruined castle or rebuild it. Rebuilding is the only option, but you must also have learned from the past. You said you obtained wisdom, but i will give you some more ,just in case. You need to be like a castle gate, close yourself to bad people/things/events, and open yourself to good people/things/events, push the evil out of your life, and bring the joy and happyness in. Remember its your choice to bring evil into your life, that may well go hidden as a wolve in sheeps clothes. Be carefull and recognize the evil that people want to bring into your life to merely satisfy their own selfish desires, you need to dispose of these kind of people like garbage.
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    Don't commence a relationship if you don't have time to invest in it.
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    Just keep on pursuading her,eventually she will give in, and if not then at least you can say you did your best to try to make this all into a valid relationship.
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    I think the question would be, ' how can i be the one who can make her happy instead of someone else?' The answer is you can't, she decides with whomever she wants to be, because just like you she has free will. That being said, its better to confess your feelings to her now , even if you lose her as a friend its better because you would go nuts if only stays with friendship, that way you could say at least i tried and be able to move on with your life, then that you let the situation linger for years only to ask that same question then and be rejected, id say save yourself some time and heartacke by just confessing your feelings to her.
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    Yep, don't make your heart a murderhole, go to see a therapist and let it all out. You see a problem that isn't discussed cannot be solved, you still not even stating here what exactly that bad memory was that brought back all that pain, of course i won't force you to tell private issues, but i already commend you on at least stating your emotions which is a very brave and enduring task to do to say the least, in the relationship sense, you aren't the only one who needs theraphy, your partner needs help for his alcohol problem. You see what you need to take in aspect very deerly is this. Bring in positive constructive things into your life, and ditch all the things that are out to destroy you. Now personally i don't blame you for going a night out all alone to sort out your feelings, but you can imagine from your partner who was left out, that it means that you aren't sharing your emotions with your partner , this is bad because couples are supposed to support eachother, communicating and telling what's on eachothers mind so that they are able to 'feel' eachothers situation and that is important because that makes both parties aware of the care and the situation that they have for eachother. Because it revolves in the past relationship, you don't have the feeling that you should talk and discuss this over with your partner, and in a way that is correct because the ex-life is something that lies on a different level, and is better to be discussed with someone who can relate but will not be effected relationshipwhise by you lifting your issues that you have on your mind. People close themselves up if their trust has been violated in the past, you have to be like a castle gate and only open yourself up to good people/things/events, and understand that its ok to open yourself up to good people. To bad people/things/events you have to close yourself up with, because they are only out to harm you even more. So opening your heart here, and to a therapist is a good idea, because your emotions are protected in those places. But i really think that this is an unresolved issue that needs to be dealt with before you can aquire happyness with your partner, so just spit it out on what happened.
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    Face the consequenses, you told him you liked him now you should stay with him wether you like it or not. Will you finally make up your mind on what you want? You can't pendle on in the gray area for the rest of your life, look at life more black and white, you either do this, or you either do that. Of course its rediculous, i can't make you stay with this guy if you don't want to, but don't you see that all of this is as a result of your chaotical thinking? Put order in chaos, make up your mind, the golden rule for hesitating is this. If you aren't sure, then don't do it. oh i love you i love i love you. Great want to get married then? Ehm whoa, geez gosh, ugh i actually like that friend of yours. (just showing you how rediculously undecisive actions can be) They say that the person who says A. should also say B. But what matters even more is that you are aware that after you say A , a B might occur, so if you aren't prepared or willing to go for that, don't speak up to begin with. This because you now have to tell him the news that you want to abort the relationship, which isn't nice for him, but its better if you tell him now, then you two being engaged married, having 3 kids and then saying ' honey i never loved you ' , its a smack in the face like you have had in the past, i urge you not to pass on such hurt to others.
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    What are you? Glue? Show some spine, and put your hands into the fire for what you stand for, because if you don't it will make you look weak, and that allows other people to use you as a doormat, including yourself because you don't abide by what you say, who's going to take you serious? My man not even you yourself can take it seriously what you are saying. SO man up, and remember Words without action = 0
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    You need to be like a castle gate , close yourself to bad people/things/events. Letting the enemy into your castle (even if its your bf or parents) will only lead your castle to be left in ruins. Your emotions devasted read ' doormat ' Cut these people out of your life, if it where me then the dog stays , this because if you have this much time to goto the gym then you can walk the dog too, better yet combine the dog walking with your training, that way both of you get exersises. Its not the dog's fault that your ex is acting like an animal. Anyway do you put garbage in your house?, or do you put it on the street? Same counts for garbage people ,dispose of them for the trash that they are.Your parents are just strangers who happened to be related by blood, your ex doesn't need a relationship, he needs theraphy and you aren't a professional to help him with that, or in other words distantiate yourself from him. Only bring love and light into the lives of the people that you know, and refuse to give another spin to that wheel of hatred.
  19. robowarrior
    Bottomline is: YOU DONT WANT TO BE WITH A LIAR!!!
  20. robowarrior
    Ehm no ,that's not how you do it. If you do something in your life go for GOLD!!! Although you should be like a castle gate and close yourself to bad people/things/events, you shouldn't be your own worst enemy in achieving your goals. Just ask him out directly in his face if you like him, don't stop yourself , you have nothing to lose, since you don't have him already it means you have no, and you might get yes by asking him out.
  21. robowarrior
    Wondering if your attracted to who she is or to what she has, would you rather claimed that position and to be that woman yourself? Anyway if she isn't in a relationship/married or what not you could go for it, HOOOOOWWEEEVER That you are neglecting the rumours is a bad bad thing. You see rumours (although often not 100% correct) usually do have a underlying core of truth behind it. So be prepared to deal with a heavy drinker, chain smoker, mentallly challenged woman before you engage in a relationship with her. Under no circumstances can you have a go at her if she is married or in a relationship already , you are selfish in those terms because you only state your own feelings, and do not perceive things from another persons shoes, namely that of her husband and how he would get hurt when you deceive him with her (just a theorethical situation) or with the kids they have, or other woman in her life or what not. But hey if she's free you have my blessing, maby you can gossip a bit around to get some info on her?
  22. robowarrior
    Rediculous, honymoon is just a word, bring the power of your life back where it belongs namely into your hands, you are the one who can make things romantic or boring too, ever thought of contributing it yourself to continue to invest effort into making things romantic for both of you, have you ever communicated this to him? How did he respond? etc etc, so make sure you understand that life is what you make of it.
  23. robowarrior
    It depends, if he's not gay sexual you be prepared to lose a friend. Not everyone is indulged with happyness as i can say from experience, it happened to me and im not gay. At the time i wasn't too open minded and when a guy confessed to me i wanted to grab an axe and kill him! So what you better should be looking for is for true indications from his side on wether he really is interested or not.
  24. robowarrior
    Go for divorce,that'll show him that cheating on your wife isn't without consequenses.Bottomline is that you don't want to be with a LIAR!
  25. robowarrior
    The kid is a problem child ,obviously the awfull education his mom gave has made him into a monster that cannot bring up any kind of empathy for others, him being in juvenile only makes him more messed up. When he comes home, he'd be sure to have counselling sessions ,and you need to buy a lot of Dr.Phils books who has exellent solutions for disfunctional families. It doesn't replace the trips to the psychiatrist that the kid has to make, but if you build a strong foundation and educational atmosphere that represent and let everyone know that there are rules in the house that have to be obeyed, they have to know there are consequenses to bad behaviour. The kid is like a derailed train that needs to be put back on his tracks again, but with work the whole family can become functional again. I want your husband also to play an active role. Basically giving with the belt isn't appropriate, you need to read the books on to see what is appropriate. Don't let it go out of hand, if a situation goes out of hand (kids fighting) don't wait and let it all go, immediately take action and separate them. Kids always test you to see how far they can go. You are a parent first, a friend later. You need to set the example on what is tolerated and not.
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