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  1. New to this forum but have actually read quite a lot on the ex back and NC topics. Long story very short... 6-year relationship, she's 19 years younger... call me a cradle-snatcher, but we really understood each other for most of those 6 years. Lived together for 2 years. I should have seen it coming as all the signs were there and she actually tried to tell me many times - only I didn’t (want to) hear it :-(. She moved away in March this year but we saw each other every couple of days and she’d spend at least one night of each week. 8 weeks ago she just called it quits. Was a very cold shower and total surprise. I was upset at first and didn’t talk to her for two days, then we texted some there and back. But she was suddenly a different person - cold, non-understanding, not willing to talk about anything. All the usual stuff that you read about that a dumper does after the fact. I called her once but all I got was a brick wall. Sent a long email asking for some explanation and if we could work it out. Not sure she even read it. As I suspected, there is also a guy at play that she has been seeing / flirting with (maybe) since April. Not sure I would call this a rebound but I believe at some point in June, she would be torn between the two of us - more inclining to the new guy (for all the obvious reasons). She did keep in irregular contact a few times a week after that - saying she wants to stay friends as she cares too much for me and I mean a lot in her life. Kept telling her I am not her friend because simply I feel more than that. I went and read tons of stuff (never really been dumped in my life, haha). Went NC 4 weeks ago. Immediately started doing stuff - I’m not short of hobbies - do lots of sports but added a gym and personal trainer to occupy the mind and tire the body. Been playing the piano and guitar a lot lately (after many many years), been playing computer games in the evenings, reading advice on this forum and elsewhere. She contacted me after 2 weeks, asking to see me, which I (a bit reluctantly) agreed to, I said I would bring her magazines that were delivered for her to our place. I was never mean to her, only a bit cold I’d say. We met at Starbucks and I was trying to be upbeat and not display any sense of urgency, pleading or anything. Tried to look real busy at work (which I actually am now). She didn’t say why she wanted to meet - maybe she didn’t feel the situation was good or maybe she just wanted to meet as buddies over coffee, don’t know… She acted a bit annoyed, especially later when she asked if I was going to come to our sports trainings and events and I said I didn’t plan to. She also seemed a bit pressed for time towards the end, though she said she had plenty. I am sure she went to see the other guy right after that and maybe didn’t want to keep him waiting. We parted ways with a hug. I wanted to kiss her like I used to but she just wanted a friendly kiss, which I said no to. So we just hugged a bit more and she left. I texted her later saying it was good to see her and she should stay in touch if she wants to. She texted back that obviously I can’t have contact with her now so it’s me who needs to stay in touch. I said maybe she could come over one night to watch our favourite TV show. She said she’d like that. I left it at that and went back to NC. She texted again a week later (yesterday actually), calling me my sweetheart name and saying that a new series of our favourite show would be screening next Monday. I replied (nicely) that I would definitely watch! And she said - “you definitely should”.
  2. It's been some time but I'm lightly seeing my ex (not the resent one, but the ex b-4 her). It seems like just under 2 years ago, I would have done anything to get back with this girl. (even distroy a relation ship that deserved a chance) But now that she's calling me all the time, I see how much wanting what we can't have can mess with what we need. For those of you out there who know you will move on, remember this is only a small set back. Pick your self up and move in your direction, for you. For the rest of us who aren't sure, think of it this way, all this wanting and needing may just be in our heads (to a point). We all know loosing someone is hard and it's going to hurt, but the amount we let it hurt may be in our control. I guess it's like climbing a big mountin. At the start all we see is this big thing in our way casting a shadow on our lives. Cant see over it or around it. But on the way up you'll start to see the land around you and where you started and once at the top, you can see all. How far you've come, everything around you that this big rock was blocking and where you want to go next. For those of you that are half way up this moutain and still think thay need that one someone to go any further, stop. Keep looking up, theres still a ways to go. Dont give up or give yourself limits n-till you've reached the top, and by that time you will see. That you are the only person you truly need back. The one you're missing is you. We loose ourselves in others so often it drives me crazy. I've just now reached the top, so I still have much to see. I just want so much to let everyone know it's not so bad. Just give it time. Things will come around and when your YOU again, you will know where to go and what you want to see next. There are people who fall and wont get back up. I was one of those people, but this site picked me up and got me half way. I owe every one a big thanks. Don't give up on the ones you love, but get you back before you try to get them back. Your mind may change. PS sorry if this is crazy, I had to type very fast. It's time to go to lunch. phoenix
  3. Hey guys! I stumbled accross this tonight and I am glad I did. I have been in turmoil for the past few weeks and need some advice. Here it goes. I am 35 and mother of 2 young children. I recently went through a divorce due to the fact my ex husband had a DUI accident and accidently killed a man. He ran instead of facing court. I have been raising my children by myself since May. I met a man on link removed in August who lived 50 miles from me. It was love at first sight. He too has two children 9 and 10 and for first 4 months we drove back and forth almost daily. The relationship went fast. He had a ring on my finger by October and I sold my house and paid off debts and moved down into a rental place (which i hate) 2 months ago to be near him. I should have seen it coming because since I moved down it has gone down hill. He started talking about issues he was having - mainly us not disiplining our children the same. He also had issues with other things, but nothing I saw that we could not work on especially if we went to counseling. We have intense sexual chemistry and for the most part got along fine. We had plans to marry May 14th of this year. Two weeks ago I was away on a work trip and he told me before I left he wanted to postpone the wedding. I was upset because we had deposits down, invitations printing but I told him let's think about it while I am away. I decided to give him time while i was away but he thought I was out doing something I wasn't so when I called he told me all my stuff and my dogs are back at my house - it was over. Here is where it gets tricky. When I got back, he and I called eachother and he decides he wants to be friends - slow it down and go from there. He states he doesn't want to date anyone else, but thinks he needs to be apart and that I need time to become independent and not have a man. He was feeling "pressured" to get married and felt like I leaned on him too much to help me with my children. He didn't want to replace what I had with my ex and he didn't want to rush down an aisle, even though he put the ring on my finger and told me what month he wanted to get married. Last week, I went on link removed and saw his profile back up and was furious. I called and laid into him and he hung up on me. He states he went on to see if I was on. Anyways he then wrote me an email threatening me to give back his ring in which i wrote back and threatened in return. It got ugly and things were said. We both said don't contact me again but we both have been calling eachother. I saw him this past weekend at my son's t-ball game and he came up to me, talked and gave me a kiss. Then later that night, he went out with friends, came over and we slept together. Now he said he regrets it but still wants to be friends. I know we have that strong chemistry when we see eachother. I don't know what to do. I still love him but one moment he still loves me and the next he doesn't want me. He doesn't want me nor wants me to move on with anyone else. Right now I don't want anyone else if I can't have him but I am getting mixed signals left and right. He says don't call, but calls on Sat from a concert because he thinks of me. I don't know how to move on. I am depressed that I now live 1 mile from him, don't have money to move back up, don't have any friends here in his town and have him yo yoing me back and forth. I would be lying if I said I don't want him back despite our parents both don't want us to. Too much damage has been done. But having sex keeps that string in me and gives me hope. Question is, how do I move on? It is so hard not to call him or email him. Even tonight I called him regarding the Bachlorette show and we talked about it. It ended with him saying I will call you later. I hate that I can't just cut this off and move on. Any advice on what to do? BlondOne
  4. hey um i got dumped almost a month ago and here is a poem i wrote the other day about how i felt tell me what i should fix and what not lol enjoy!! .>!* As i sit here Alone All i think about is you I have no clue Couldn't you see i needed you I loved you I wished you were still my boo I'm differnt now My world is full of sadness I'll be full of happyness sometime But its your own miss I use to miss you so much My heart was broken But right now i just want to give you a punch You have moved on And so will I But right now I just want to eat a pie Ihope you realize what you left I'm not the best but i was the best i could ahve been And you acted like you were ten.tell me what u think of it !!!
  5. Ok well I am going to post because I need to let some thing's out as of right now and vent and hoping someone out there can help me out,The other day I called my ex he told me to leave him alone that he dont want to talk to anyone that he dont need friends that he just dont want to talk to anyone until he get his head straight I understand and respect that but at the same time I love him and dont want that to be the last conversation we ever have... Another thing that bothers me is that I was just there lastweek,He called me ask me to come over to spend sometime with him,When I got there he told me that he missed me and asked me to stay tonight,He was the biggest sweetheart that I had ever seen to me,I ended up staying the night and we ended up sleeping together that is another reason why I do not understand why he is acting all mean towards me and dont want to talk to me now? I was with this man for 2 1/2 years broken up for about 11 months now and I know you might say move on and dont call get over him I realize this what I want to do is move on and then when we are both are better get back with eachother.That is my heart I cannot just walk away from the one person who made me happy.I know people might think im stupid for being there for him but I am very distant about it. I have not picked up the phone to call him since he said leave him alone but he has not called me either but that's normal for him,He is mean one minute and nice the next,He shows and tells me interests of getting back together in the future but does not treat me like the woman he wants to marry one day like he says,He is riskin our love our relationship and possibly our friendship and that is why I fight so hard for him because I dont want anything to jeoperdize none of the above..... What should I do now?Can someone give me some insight on what I can do and how I can deal with the fact that he just simply does not want to talk to me now because he is unhappy?He keeps telling me he is unhappy and that is the reason he is snappy also! I dont know sometimes I put so much into and put so much of me out there with him and dont get the same....Any advice on what I can do and how I should go about looking at this situation????This has been going on for 11 months now on and off but when it's on I love how it is!
  6. We all have different scenarios in our dating lives right now. Some are starkly unique, some are very similar. But we all can stand up and be proud about many things. We can be proud of going of there and be willing to put our feelings on the line. If we are freshly out of a relationship and moving on, we can be proud of ourselves for taking a bold step with the rest of our lives. We can look forward to great days ahead, whether its with the person we are currently dating, or with the knowledge that we can do it. We can meet people and find value in them as well as share ourselves. We can remember to have fun! This is supposed to be a great time in our lives. Have the right attitude and enjoy the process! We can learn more about ourselves in taking time to learn about a new person in our lives. There uniqueness now becomes a part of us (I know - "resistance is futile"). We learn more about how to treat other people and our own boundaries and flexibility. Lets feel good about our experiences, wherever they take us. This is a time where we can just let our hair down (with apologies to the follically challenged) and just have fun....
  7. Okay everyone - about a month and a week ago me and my girlfriend broke up after 2 years about 5 months of dating. This wasn't a hasty breakup at all.. the *only* reason we broke up is because neither one of us wanted to do long-distance anymore. I was in Atlanta for a year, and now I'm in Columbia away from her again. We still love eachother, just long distance was becoming too hard. A month or so went by and I was very close to getting over here, but then last week she came back to me and we got back together. She called me and said she didnt' want to live without me, and it seemed so for the first two days. Then after that she started changing - college is changing her. She usually tells me everything.. but something became weird. I'm not a jealous guy at all, but I checked her AOL info and she was speaking of some guy in there, saying how great it was to get to know him, and how she hoped it would get better (???).. then she got offline with me one time, and said she'd talk to me later because she was going over her friends house.. then she left another message for the guy to call over her friends house (???).. she also smoked weed with this guy (and another girl and guy) for the first time two days ago.. and I'm like.. what? That's something I could never see her doing.. but hrm. err, but whatever, I blew it off. Yesterday we broke up again, she says she thought it would be better this time, but it wasn't.. and how she couldn't see herself cheating on me.. and stuff like that. This got me to think that she'd rather break up than cheat on me, which is good. I respect that - or better yet I think she's confused right now. Like I said before, she's not the kind to just start smoking weed like this with people she's only known for 2 weeks.. and change all of a sudden.. so I think she has to get her mind together before any more relationships. This is long, I'm sorry.. but here's the thing, we were broken up for a month, I was almost over her, then we get back together for a week (we didnt' even see eachother) - and then break up again!! So now I kinda have to go through it all over again.. but not completely. This breakup didn't hurt anywhere near as much as it did a month and a week ago.* So - any advice on anything I said above? ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ *edit* also.. even when we broke up.. she still took all my pictures to her dorm and put them on her ceiling so I'd be the first thing she'd see when she got up.. and all on her walls. It's strange, she loves me.. and so do I, but both of us know that it just shouldn't be right now.*
  8. I've been thinking lately how i still hope that my ex gf might want to reconcile someday. What am I thinking? She broke up with me about 4-5 weeks ago, and went directly to another man. She has not even shown a bit of remorse, and she only contacted me just to get some of her things out of my house. So basically, she has moved on so why the heck do I have hope? Has anyone else been in a situation where your ex doesn't want anything to do with you(and was seeing someone else), and out of the blue they call you back maybe 3-4 months down the road? I doubt it. But if so, please share (See, I still have a slight hope - what an idiot i am)
  9. Hi there guys, Ok i will try to keep this short and simple even though to me it seems so damn complicated. For the last 4 months I have been seeing this girl who has a boyfriend and she lives with him. I met her at work and it started just as friends where we would go for hiking and just hang out. I have never dabbled with a girl who has a boyfriend before. I knew she was not happy in her current relationship as she told me. As time went by I could sense it was becoming a more than friends thing. When she used to have fights with him she would call me up to be a shoulder to cry on. We shared the same days off from work so we used to hang out and one day on a hike we kissed. Things kinda moved on from that and we slept together a few times, she would stay the night and then make an excuse to her boyfriend that she stayed at her mums house. I felt really bad to be honest about the whole thing but I started to like her more and more. She said she was feeling guilty about the whole thing but couldn't help herself. We tried to cool down until she sorted her stuff out, she was always saying she was gonna break up with him soon. So I stuck by, we cooled it a little, didnt make too much contact for about a month. But then things started moving again and we made a decision that we were gonna move out together. Then a week later she tells me that she is unsure if she wants to leave her boyfriend. Having enough of all this and being emotionally drained I said I have had enough and didnt want to play this game anymore. For a week we didnt speak I actually felt better for it in a weird way knowing where I stood. I even went out on a date with another girl. Then a girl from work had a birthday party and Kelly (the girl in question) got her to call me and invite me. I pretty much knew it was her doing and decided to go. I really like this girl and care for her, i knew it was a bad move to go but I thought she may have sorted her stuff out. We had a huge chat and she told me that she didnt think I could offer her the security that her boyfriend does and that I am a bit unstable (I have backpacked extensively around the world, just finished my uni degree and still live with my parents at the moment). I was willing to move out with her I told her I was commited to the cause. Anyway she stayed that night, her boyfriend kept ringing during the night, I felt so crap about it and decided to drop her home(that was last weekend). She still tried to assure me that she was gonna sort it all out. She came round a few days ago, we watched a movie, nothing much happened, didnt talk about it at all. Have not spoken to her since. I think its time to cut my losses and move on and then I really do like her. Not sure if there is a right answer to this dilemma but any thoughts woudl be very welcome. Sorry if the story is a tad long. Thanks
  10. I have posted a few time after going through hell with my bf for 3yrs we broke up a few days ago. He gave me no reasons told me he was over it and that he didnt love me and hasnt for a long time. He was very distant when i asked why he jus dismissed me. So i thought i had better not make a fool of myself and went on my merry way. Needless to say it feels like i have been crying for three days i have forgotten what food is and when sleep does finally come i dream of him. Anyway he rang me yesterday on a private number and said that he is sorry and the reason he broke up with me was because he could never marry me anyway (he is muslim and i am christian) and he was making up excuses to make me let go. This hurt me even more because he dragged me along for so long so i politely excused myself from the conversation and am hoping he doesnt cause any trouble for me. Im finding it so hard after 3yrs of being togther every day to nothing. I kno i am better off without him, he cheated on me, he called me names and he was abusive. But i got so used to hanging out for any scrap of affection i became more attatched. How do i stop crying and move on with life and forget about him?
  11. Hello to all, My boyfriend of two years asked me to move in with him 2 months ago. On Sunday night out of nowhere, he told me that its not working out. No further explanation, no reason or fight that initiated these feelings, nothing. On monday, I had to move back into my parents house because I had nowhere else to go. I am going with him today to remove my name from the lease, and I know it is going to be so difficult. I almost have a feeling of relief right now because I get to see him, but I know once it is time to leave I am going to feel like he's breaking up with me all over again. When I talk to him on the phone, he says he misses me and still calls me sweetie or honey - it still feels the same as when we were together. My heart cannot accept the idea that he doesn't love me. He has also done this to me before, with no explanation, then came back crying for another chance. My life feels like it is in shambles because I have lost the love of my life, my best friend and my home so unexpectantly. I love this forum because everyone seems so supportive. Any advice on how to put my life back together??
  12. I recently moved temporarily to be with my ldb for a few months. It is great and stressful at the same time. We had talked about it and decided that we want to be together and he will be applying for jobs in my area and move with me. This was decided and two years ago. Whenever we get back on the topic (I initiate it he confirms that that is what he wants). He has sent one application only (?!) which was not successful. He sent the application after the deadline for submitting applications had passed. Now everytime I mention applying he refers back to the application and tells me that he is doing something about it and that I do not trust him to apply. I am frustrated. He does not want me to move to his city because my job is better and pays twice as his (his reasons). I would also not leave my job and just up and go. But recently his company offered him placement in another city and he is keen on going. I am frustrated because he would not apply to be near me. What shall I do? We have talked about it many times. Does talking again and again help?
  13. Hi, This is more about post break issues but hear me out anyway. I came out of a long term(7 y) relationship about 9 months ago, those who remember my moniker will remember my situation. Anyway I initially kept contact with all our mutual friends who where very good about respecting our NC and we kinf of shared events so to say. However I kept on getting this feeling that everything I did was being reported back to my ex and that even though she initiated the breakup she wanted to keep tabs on my movements and how I was. I made the decision to cut off most contact with all friends as I came to the conclusion that in order to move on totally I would need to do this as there where too many associations and memories. I was a hard thing to do but I feel it has helped. I am now involved in another relationship where the cultural differences are huge but in many ways more satisfying than my previous relationship. I sometimes get feelings of a loss of indentity and a sense of loss about the life I had and the life I now have. Its not always bad as sometimes its new and refreshing but I am no longer mixing with people who come from the same country as me and I sometimes feel that I yearn for conversation with people that have a common ground. I do have my own friends but we are scattered all over the globe and I dont really have s set of good friends where I am now. I feel I have lost a lot but at the same time I am gaining but at the same time I am a little confused as to how I feel about all this Would anybody else care to comment on expereinces they have had post breakup with friends and moving on?
  14. Ok, in my case my girlfriend left me after 6 years for reasons of confusion and so on, Now, I know I should move on and try to heal but me knowing her so well and her really being a great person. I know she is just confused about life and me, and I know she will come out of it and choose wisely, since we had Almost 6 years of madly love for each other, so my question is, in this situation should I give her a chance to come back Or just go full throttle and leave her in the dust? thank you.
  15. I ended a 3yr relationship a week ago. This was a huge and heavy decision on my part. It took guts to do it for my heart screamed for me to stop and reconsider. What brought on my change of heart was I began to sit and observe that he could only do things for me that dovetailed with his own needs or desires. He was incapable of doing even the most simplest thing simply because he loved me. He has kept me on eggshells demanding I change to accommodate his expectations and if I failed he'd end the relationship. Like a carrot dangled in front of a mule he'd taunt me. I found I made all the compromises and sacrafices while his greatest sensitivity was to him self. Im intelligent and bright so this made me angry that I have put up with this for so long. I have felt great shame that I have settled for such a partner who has neglectrd me. His emotional blackmail has been cleverly disguised behind critism, threats of rejection, with holding affection, and no intimacy. Perhaps my own desire for marriage and love blinded me so that would explain why its taken me 3yrs to finally end this relationship. For months now its been on life support and going no where. I simply just pulled the plug. How do you move on with life when your mind tells you he never loved you to begin with and your heart weeps for your loss and wants him. I failed to take notice that the one thing I was most quilty of doing was seeing him as the man he could become, but failed to see the man he had became.
  16. I am not going to be a pessimist any longer! I can't take it any longer, so I've decided to move on. I have an idea of what Im going to do I just wanna see what some people think about it. What do you girls think about guys who are always happy and very confident? I want to try to be happy as much as possible, put on a smile and act friendly, but Im not sure if this will scare people away or not.
  17. This is just an update to my previous post in Long distance relationship forum with a subject: My bf doesn't care anymore. I tried the NC rule but it didn't worked for me, so, I just tried to communicate with him for I want to know the status of our relationship. Still, he did not make any effort to reply to my text messages and he keeps on rejecting my calls. For me to know what have happened to us and where I should stand in this relationship, I decided to wrote him a letter. In my letter, I told him everything that I feel , all the rejections that I've been receiving and how I still want to make things work for both of us. I even apologized to him for falling short of his expectations and then I told him that he's free. I set him free not because I don't love him anymore but because I know he's not happy with me anymore. Although, I'm still in love with him the relationship that we used to have will no longer work knowing that he doesn't feel the same way anymore. I'm sure he got my letter and still he didn't do anything. Then, after 2 days, a common friend of ours got a chance to talk to him and guess what? He told her that he has a new girlfriend and when he was asked if we have already talked about "us", his reply was " I don't want to waste my time talking to her or explaining to her". Whew! I never expected him doing this to me. Everything happened so fast! How can a love that is so sweet vanished in just 3 weeks (the problem with our communication started just 3 weeks ago when he transferred to his new work)? I know that I should start moving on but I don't know where and how to start. ..I still feel I deserve his explanation. I want to know what went wrong… Should I start moving on or should I still wait for his explanation? Please give me your views and opinion about this matter, I know I'll get something from it. Thank you in advance.
  18. theres this girl...kinda like my best friend...i once had a crush on her and she once had a crush on me but it never work out because of the bad timing...recently like...3weeks ago, she said no to me when i told her i was in love with her...then i backed off because i wanted to move on! then a week ago, i started to talk to her again but i realize that i didnt get over her...and still have a little something something or her...what should i do...
  19. Hello everyone, Breaking up is very painful and moving on takes time. I just want to tell everyone that I do practice what I preach. I have kept myself busy and have gone on with my life these past few months. I am now being very actively persued by a new man. I don't know where this will go, but hey, getting there is half the fun ! I know that if I had shut down and just kept myself where I was I would not be healing well at all. Whatever happens now--I know that my future relationships will benefit from all that I have learned. Thanks to everyone. A
  20. For those of us trying to get back with or move on from an EX and the emotional roller coasters, did everyone make it thru the holiday Easter weekend OK??? I hope so. The weather was awful yesterday, but it was a good day all in all.... I feel pretty upbeat today, got alot of decisions to make, but I feel ok today!!
  21. Me and my ex were together for 3 plus yrs, nothing could tear us apart But things turn for the worse we both did sumthings during the relationship that we shouldnt have. N we were like the weather off and on, one day things were great the next day it was a bad storm. It got to a point where I was wrong.. But I was also going through things in my life that he couldnt understand. After overcoming and excepting my faults I knew I had to change. At that time he decides that he doesnt wanna be wit me. He claims that i needed to grow change my ways n bad habits. I agreed and at the same time him saying that if he sees change then we may get back together. So Ive been bending over backwards to show him that Im capable of being the one he needs and anything he wanted changed Ive done. However But bc of our past he still assumes and accuses me when I dont do anything wrong. We not even together n I havent even put a guy in front of him. I try so hard and I feel like now hes taking my kindness for a sign of weakness. But through it all comes to find out that he doesnt want to be wit me. That he still hasnt a change of heart. Then hes like well look i still think about us. so we may get back together lets jus relax then see where it goes from here. THENNNN!!! Now hes yelling,screaming and cursing at me to leave him alone. to let him be so that he can move on. tells me tha hes gonna start seeing other people and that its gonna hurt me. Then at the same time he wants to come over hes telling me how much he loves me and cares for me. he even said that he was trying to get rid of me by pushing me away.. I mean how harsh was that. I mean he doesnt even act like my friend and we was so close. I dont kno what to do should I keep in contact wi him or dont. He also said that he wants me to act like he dont exist so that I can leave him alone. WHAT should I do? What he tells me gets worse but im keeping it short its rediculous and it hurts alot at times... Im so confused I dont kno wha he expects from me anymore.. Should I jus act like he doesnt exist or what.. One of my favorite quotes(everyone can relate to it at sum point) "I cant live with you, but I cant live without cha. Not breathing wit you.. its hard to breathe without cha."
  22. When I found out about my wife cheating on me and confronted her, I wanted to hear ever little detail about what happen, her feelings, why she did it, what she did, etc. I thought this would help me in understanding her, but now I have more uncertainties than I did prior. I dont understand alot of what she did and how she acted. I dont understand why she lied to me when I brought it out? I dont understand how she could not consider my feelings? I dont understand why she did not protect herself or us? I have many things that I am hung up on, mostly because I believe I dont understand, which is preventing me from moving on. Would you want to know the details? If so, how do you try and understand the mindset of your partner? How do you let go and move on???
  23. So i had a thing 4 this guy...ok more like my best friends bro. We were always attracted to eachother but we just flirted and kissed and held hands...basically we were together but notreally. He was a year older then me so he wasnt at the same school as me 4 a year. We still talked. One night we talked and he said I really like u and I think this thing between us could really work out!! We talked but people kept bothering us so we ended the talk with I get back to u. Life went on and all my friends told me to just go 4 it and ask him out. MAke it ofical and stop wasting time. So i did and he said yes. Heck I thought it was offical but later on he said now isnt a good time...i freaked. The next thing I knew it was Valentines Day and I was on cloud nine thinking that we were an item until his sister told me he is goign out with this other girl!! I creid and was upset...i didnt undersatnd what happened!! We didnt talk 4 like a couple months but hen he made it clear to me he was going to saty with this other girl. I tried to move on...it was hard until the summer came and I had a heart to heart talk with him. He confessed to me that he was going to end the thing they had. He only told me though. SO i waited.... it took a while but it ended...we went out then 4 a week but then something happened again...I yelled at him 4 spreading rumors. It was not a good talk. I next day I wanted to apologize but he was the that other girl again! I thought it was over for sure...but when I think wbout it I cant get over it! What happened? To this day (it was a year ago) it bugs me. When I like someone new I feel like I betray him...i don't know why though. He still makes passes at me and when I told him I had a boyfriend he flipped! He got angry...i dont know y though....so I broke it off with my boyfriend. I feel like there is still this thing between us...i dont know for sure but it feels like it. Just by the way we act together when we are alone. My friends tell me to move on but...I can't!! How am I suppose to get over something that never really happened?? HELP!!!!!
  24. i've been with him for 15 months and we ended it 2 weeks ago... it was a nice relationship with ups and downs... but i'm still attached to him... i want to forget him and move on with my life... but i can't seem to do it... if there is a pill that will make me forget about the whole thing i would do it... help out here... how can i just forget the whole thing and move on... tips please...
  25. why is it so hard to get over someone. why does it make us do stupid things ? i was with a guy who was awful to me so controlling and talked to me like dirt, forced me to do things and was so insecure he thought i was gonna run off. yet he ended up leaving me and i cant take the fact he has always had control, all thro the relationship he had to have control and now hes moved on like i meant nothin to him. i prob didnt. on his profile hes already put himself as "single and looking". why am i so weak??? i keep doin stupid things like txtin him and the other day i wrote him a letter and sent bk a ring after 2 weeks of no contact and he txt me today and was so mean i wrote really nice things yet he was jus blaming me for the break up and told me to basically get lost. i jus want him to know how much hes hurt me! i want him to jus once feel guilty about how hes made me feel! its like i suddenly meant nothing yet he told me he loved me in the first 2 weeks and brought me an eternity ring, let me into all his family (who he was very close to) lives etc etc but jus was so insecure. when we broke up he had to come over to drop off a cd instead of posting it to me whcih opened all my wounds and i guess i never recovered from that. i feel so weak cos id still take him back! how much of a fool am i? why cant he jus be hurtin so i know im not so stupid its whats stopping me moving on the fact its like i meant nothin to him
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