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  1. Over my adult years, I have a lot of women in my life from dating and girlfriends. Its not really a good or terrible thing. Which brings me to this post. I need to know what I'm doing wrong. I usually flee from relationships. Usually because i know not all woman act in a certain way. So here in my situation. I'm in a relationship with a woman that I care about a lot. I really do. In most areas, she is wonderful. Clearly not perfect of course. The problem that I'm struggling with is how she acts in regards to the house not being clean. If the bed isn't made, trashcans par
  2. I've been officially single over a week but in reality after not seeing my ex since September Ive been emotionally single a lot longer. To summarise breaking up came about due to covid restrictions, growing apart during the lockdowns and just not being the right fit for me. We started dating around this time last year but haven't spent tons of time together due to covid. She is heartbroken and I'm upset about that part of her being upset but personally I feel fine about breaking up, I know I made the right choice and I'm on the right path for me and excited about the new chapter in my lif
  3. I'm a guy, 32, and I've known this girl for four years. I consider her my best friend. She'd been in a relationship the entire time I've known her, and I've never been "pining away" or hoping for an opportunity some day. I've just been enjoying our friendship, and in fact, over the last couple years, I had become buddies with the guy she was with. But, their relationship recently ended, and he has moved away out of state. And that's gotten me thinking, and I've realized that I actually really like this girl, and would like to potentially explore more. But, I understand situations like this
  4. Hi Everyone, So my GF broke up with me 4 months ago now. She said we're both very young (20) and she was overwhelmed by how serious it was + not experiencing life independently yet (we'd been together since school). For the last 4 months we've been in limbo, seeing each other most weeks, sharing a bed, kissing etc. but none of it has worked and we're still not together. I said last week that i'd had enough and i wanted to do NoContact until she comes to a realisation/ decision about our relationship or I am comfortable seeing her solely as a friend (and not trying to win her back like i
  5. Hi everyone, need some advice from a neutral perspective, will try and keep it brief. I met a girl 7 years ago, we were the best of friends but both married. Then one day 4 years ago she told me her relationship was over, that's when I realised I had feelings, I could feel the blood draining from my face and my stomach turned. My marriage was also on the rocks, we drifted apart and separated over 2 years ago. After some time we decided to make a go of it. It had always been a turbulent friendship, little did I know that she loved me the whole time and suffered quite a lot with seeing family
  6. Hi all, I’ve been with my partner for over four years but recently found out that she cheated on me while overseas last year. In short, we’ve agreed to work on our relationship and move on. I found out this week that she’s been talking to one of her ex’s about our relationship problems and it make me very uneasy. She says it’s “not like that” but after everything I just don't know that I’m comfortable with it but I can’t exactly push the issue with her because I don’t want her to feel like I’m controlling her or telling her she can’t speak to people. I feel like it would be different if I
  7. Hello, The reason I'm posting is because I'm struggling to pinpoint why I'm so angry with my ex. We've been split up for 7/8 months. The break up happened about a month before the COVID 19 pandemic hit the country hard. Living in Europe so it's been pretty nasty over here. I don't know if this matters but I'd also like to add that we're both in our early 20's. I've had an extreme mix of emotions due to the break up over the last few months. It's been a cycle of feeling sad, angry, numb, happy and still to this day that cycle has continued. Really they're normal emotions to have after a b
  8. I’ve (24F) been seeing this great guy, J (24M), for about a month now. When we’re together, everything just clicks. We talk for hours, share laughs, and are physically intimate. The sex is fantastic and we have so much in common. He’s introduced me to his best friends, slept over a few times, took me to retrieve my car when it was towed, and makes time to see me every weekend. The thing is, when we’re not together in person or making plans, there is almost no contact. He rarely ever reaches out (an occasional Snapchat here and there), and never calls or texts unless I initiate first— although
  9. I had posted on here last month as I was feeling quite down about a long term relationship break up, I have been feeling a bit better since then but recently I feel I am going back the way and I dont know why. It has been 8 months since the split and it was a 6 year relationship, I am trying so hard to stay positive and I am saving to buy my own flat and i have lost weight and healthy but i am just getting frustrated that i am not totally over it. Does anyone else ever have felt like that?
  10. Hi! So the short version of the story: we both met at university, we started to see each other outsides, he had a lot of personal issues, he ended up telling me he wasn't ready for anything after approximately 1 month. We kept in touch, we talked a lot through summer. I sent to him a letter telling him I wasn't ready for anything either, yet I had strong feelings for him. Then I blocked him but I regretted it. We didn't talk for one month and last monday, we ran into each other. We talked for 1h30 and the day after I messaged him telling him that I was sorry for blocking him after sending
  11. Just came out a 7 month relationship, we were so close but decided it wouldn't work as we both work together and couldn't stop the mix between work and pleasure. We were both in relationships when we first met but we grew closer and closer. We ended our relationships as we knew they were not right for us before we took anything further. Im 36 and she is 24. When we broke up, we decided to remain close as friends. We were and still are hurting. The love is still there. She messaged me to say she can't stop thinking about me. In the same messages she says how she went on Tinder and has met s
  12. Today is a bad day. It's raw, and i feel like I'm back at square one. I'm struggling to cope with how i feel right now. I know it's normal to feel hurt after a break up, this isn't the first time for me. However, I have never felt a love like the one I had for her/still have for her. So it makes sense that it hurts more than past break ups, but I feel like I lost more than just her when she broke up with me, I feel like I lost myself too. I cope okay most days, but days like this make me want to give up. I push myself to make it through these days, but I feel like with each bad day I e
  13. Okay so me and this guy have been seeing each other for about 3 months but we recently ended things and I just can’t seem to let go and move on :( Everything between us was great and I really felt like the two of us had a good connection, we are literally the same person. He talked a lot about me meeting his friends, becoming a part of his life and finally putting a label on what we were. Throughout our time together he told me how much he liked me and that I was the first girl he’d liked since his ex (2 years ago). He generally gave me good vibes and I thought that we were progressing int
  14. I would appreciate a lot your opinions and advices about what should I do, thanks in advance, every answer is appreciated. Summary: Girlfriend (23 y.o.)broke up with me (23 y.o.), but I and everybody of our friends thinks that was because her stress, should I move on, or give her some space so she can think about it? First of all, I have to say that this was our first serious relationship for both of us, so we don't have experience. It all began in New year's night of 2017, that night Tracy (not her real name) and I met, and after an all night long conversation I really felt something sp
  15. I (28F) am really conflicted as I have been struggling to move on from a guy (29M) I was seeing for only 2 months (!!!), 1 year ago. Things were going reallllllly really well. e chemistry and connection was like nothing I'd experienced in my life and he felt the exact same way, so our time together, when it was good was extra nice. He was a very cold person with a big front, but when we were together all those walls came down and I'd see a completely different person who could be so loving and kind. Unfortunately the following occured during this time- He would blow hot and cold and it w
  16. Hi everyone, This is a long one.... My ex boyfriend/fiance of 12 years broke up with me and moved on in a matter of weeks with his 20 year old coworker. He is 32 years old. We had been fighting on and off for a few months before the final breakup in January where he actually moved to another room in the house. We've been talking this out for 2 months now as I have had to continue living with him (we live with his parents) due to winter weather, my job, packing etc. I am originally from a different state 4 hours away and moved here to be with him over 10 years ago. Everything I have is her
  17. Hi, before you think I am blaming her for leading me on, I am not. I am very well aware that it takes two people to do that, and I am as responsible as her. When I was 16 and she was 14, though I was not the one who made the first move, I told this girl (let me call her Annie), who I knew since I was a kid, that I had feelings for her and she replied saying that she also had feelings for me. We talked a lot about the future (the ideal marriage, the ideal family, the names of children we'd have, blah blah). Since we both come from religious families, she said it was best if we stalled (and I
  18. My BF of 9 months broke up with me during a heated argument in October, saying it was a culmination of how our fights escalated. We both did some things wrong but i accept fault for how bad this last one got. I apologized, asked him to reconsider and give us a chance, that I know what I need to do to improve. I didn’t beg, but we talked two weeks later and he was still mad and said he did not know if he wanted to try again. I asked if he just wanted to end things for good and I would walk away but he said no, but that he couldn’t give me a timeline. I left him alone but reached out again tw
  19. I still think of my ex most days... and I don't want to. It's not a case of longer to be back with her, I've moved on, she's moved on. But I still think of her nearly every day. I have no contact with her at all, except she follows me on insta, I don't follow her back. why is it that she still comes in, nearly every day. Some things are good, some things are bad, there isn't any longing there. If anything, there is a part of me that doesn't want her to be happy. Which I don't like either. I don't want to be back with her, but I don't want to be that ex who wishes ill of her...
  20. Self blame and no closure is haunting me. Not an exaggeration when I say daily. On a good day, I might think about her briefly a few times... because work is busy and there are some cheerful things. On a bad day, it will paralyse me, especially either side of sleep. I decided to write this after kneeling in the shower and crying. Over the 4+ years since break up, I have dated numerous girls (2 for 1+ years) and I have given everything to those relationships, but nothing is right. Some facts: - we dated from 2011 to 2014 (3 years) and we were engaged for half that - the passion and l
  21. A few days ago my ex boyfriend and I got into an argument (except he was kinda just talking at me while I was quite) and he ended up calling me a . I told him to get out of my car and I drove off. Initially he seemed sorry, and I guess he still does. It’s not that he doesn’t care about me either, he just has a really bad temper and can’t handle himself. I miss him a lot, and I love him a lot. But today he called me and told me that although he loved me, he was not going to change for me and that for me was just a clear sign that I have to move on. I so badly just want to call him and tell him
  22. I broke up with my ex a few weeks ago after months of considering it. He loved me deeply but he kept doing things that hurt me as he wouldnt reflect or consider my feelings. He was never abusive (emotionally or physically), but overtime, after seeing that he lied to me about some things, said the wrong things, and realizing we were both in different waves in life, i couldnt see a future with him anymore. We broke up but he kept trying to get me back. I was always very communicative with him during the relationship, he knew everything that bothered me, but only after we broke up did he re
  23. I just still don’t understand how someone can tell you they truly and really love you like no one before, then be able orbit you and not ever talk to you or even check up on you after breaking up with you. My ex broke up with me in February because she feels she’s not ready to be in a relationship due to her self esteem and her not being good with her emotions. She doesn’t know how to fully express herself because she was never taught to. I truly believe this is why because she was completely honest throughout our relationship and through the breakup. There wasn’t someone else, or anything
  24. I am a 23-year-old man and I broke up with my girlfriend that i have been with in 4 years, we planed to get married and stuff. The first time we decided to break up was 6 months ago but we become together again shortly after that. Finally we decided to cut the contact with each other 2 months ago. We dont have each other in social media anymore. The problem is that i stalk her all the time because i have the password of her social media accounts and i see that she is talking to other guys, meeting them and maybe having sex .its haunting me. I know that our relationship will never work maybe
  25. My ex boyf and I have only been broken up for a couple of months. We were together for 5 years and have a baby. He already has a new girlf, 7 years his younger. I am devestated and really struggling to let go of the future I saw for us as a family. He comes round to spend time with Little One...well he sees her a couple mornings for an hour or two. And i have just been to his parents house for the weekend, with all his extended family (little one is under 1 and he has never had her for a full day on his own. He has been a rather absent father - although loves her dearly) I am struggling
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