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  1. robowarrior
    ah its the typical want to marry you then dump you and then live in america kind of thing. They only want you for permananent living in america. Dump dating sites, and get yourself a real life with a real girl within your inner circle of reach. No more virtual love.
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    Not important, what matters is that you do your own thing in life. You can't base your own life on that off others. Imagine im a thousand times better then you. What benefit has that for you? Nothing, you still have to work and walk your own path in life. So forget how great others are, you have your own boat, and have to row in your own pace. You are the captain of your own ship, you have to set your own course in life. So stop looking at how the grass is greener in another persons garden, because in that time you could have made efforts to make the grass greener in your own garden.
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    i would have sworn i replied to this post =\
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    Couples are supposed to make eachother, that's easier said then done. But since he's the one who's making all the trouble. Its first important to see where all of this comes from, as you said its from his work, and he's emitting his work related stress on to you. So i think you two need to discuss with eachother that he needs to change his job to the point where he's more available to you, and where you two form more of a couple, you dont' deserve it that he's angry with you. However a discussion of such sort at this point if anything is not possible,this because he's unreasonable and blaming you for everything. What you can do however is temporarily leave , just as a signal that you don't allow him to walk over you like that. This will hopefully make him realise how bad he has been treating you. And you know if you'd stay at your parents for a while ,and don't make any attempt to call him or anything, maby at one point he'll call you and that's the hopefully the point where he's more reasonable and willing to discuss things. And that would be the point where you'd have to complain and say that his job changed him, and that he needs to change his job and pay more attention to the hurtfull things he says. If he doesn't comply then stay out of his life. Because loving someone is one thing, letting someone walk over you is another. He completely devasted your self-esteem, while a partner is actually meant to love and support you, and make you feel more confident and having more self esteem , he's doing the complete opposite. Your right on not giving another swing to that wheel of hatred and starting an argument, but you have to stand ground and don't let him walk over you. Show him there are negative consequenses to his bad behaviour. And if he doesn't stay in your life, great then you made the right decision as it was one sided love anyway. So give him a chance to change, but if he doesn't stay out of his life. Show some spine,even tho its hard its the right thing to do.
  5. robowarrior
    You aren't allowed to interfere with their relationship. How would you like to find out your gf was messing around with another guy? Not nice so stay out and respect her free will of choice to be with whomever she wants to be.
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    Well can't have life always going your way, if it doesn't go your way, you will have to dig with the spade that you have towards victory.
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    Both males and female's are affected, this because the medication not only works on your brain, but also on your sympathic nervous system. (Basically spinal cord nerves) although technically it also belongs to the brain/connected to. As long as you are on the medicines its something you need to deal with it. Although you could change your medication, stricly in terms of depression, if its working against your depression effectivly i wouldn't be all that eager to switch. Why not? You know the problem with anti-depressants is that they are problem suppressors and not problem solvers, as long as the root of your problem remains, the thing your dealing with will not be solved. The idea that you can solve everything with a pill is ludicurous, they are just accessoires to keep us functioning. And you shouldn't concider it as any more then just that. Rather solve the problem what is really bothering you for real. Also, another BIG reason for me not to be happy with the use or abuse of mental medications is this. The brain is a very sensitive electro chemically balanced organ. Messing with it is like messing with your Windows xp operating system, if things go wrong it won't function properly anymore. So be very carefull with that precious organ. I know people who've abused mental medications, and have constant panic attacks, although that's no reason for you to already panic, please be carefull not to abuse them , or mess around with your brain too much. You want stability in your life.
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    If your apartment is ruined, then you can do two things. Cry over the ruins, or rebuild your life. The first option leads to nowhere, so you can only try to rebuild your life. Life is like a bus station, if you accidently get on a bus that you don't want to be in, you get out as soon as possible and get on the buss that brings you into a direction where you do want to goto. And what safety conserns, as long as you are alive you are at risk. You can only reduce the risks, by living near a police station,only travelling in groups,and insure yourself,and defend yourself as much as you can against natural or man made disasters. If then something happens, then you can say to yourself ' i did all i could do' and can't blame yourself. Don't let your life be led by the fact that your bf is there or not, in the end you only have yourself. And have to try to make the best possible situation for yourself as you can.
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    Ah its easy , make a disadvantage into an advantage, if you trip over your words, make something humorous and funny out of it. Besides girls love it when you make them laugh, it will make her more interested in you.
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    I know the type of guy, once heard a story of a guy always drunk having sex with different kind of girls and the girls getting emotionally upset when they find out they where being used. Its not that he's over you, he was never into you in the first place, a guy like that isn't worth shedding one tear over. You have to quickly realise that in this world there are people who dont' care wether you live or die , and live for self gratification only. If you would listen to my advice i would tell you to avoid guys like him like the plague. He doesn't need a relationship , he needs rehab, psychiatric councelling, and help himself to get out of this mess.
  11. robowarrior
    Advice him to seek psychiatric help, along with councelling. He's in a rut and a real friend would try to get him out however in the knowledge that he's in need of help of a real medical expert. Would leave it into the hands of those, and giving a supporting shoulder while at it.
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    Yeah, don't listen to the words of a woman, look at where the body goes. If its moving away from you, then its not interested in you, if its moving towards you, then its interested in you. She has done nothing to show interest in you , so in other words you are more into her then she is into you. What you have to realise is that you deserve to be her nr.1 in life, and if you aren't ,then its better to abort and let the one sided love for what it is. You see love has got to go both ways, and words without action = 0.
  13. robowarrior
    Sounds like a shy guy,so wouldn't wait for him to move, take the initiative and ask him out directly in his face.
  14. robowarrior
    Supply management sounds like a more stable job then marketing. So if i where you id go for stability.
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    Yeah he's unstable, and can't provide you with a decent future (that's what he thinks and is afraid off) which is making him uncertain about the whole relationship, which is why he dumps you , rather then being involved into something that doesn't have a future (in his eyes) to begin with. That's why he's saying 'its not you' , its because you really aren't the problem, im basically thinking he has so much on his mind that all those things that he needs to sort out, prevents him from being there totally devoted to you. But im not saying that's entirelly true, i mean if you are totally financially stable and what not then maby there is a future out there for you, it would just need time for him to become stable again.
  16. robowarrior
    What you want is not the most relevant, what you can is more of the essense. Bottomline: You shouldn't try to initiate a relationship if both of you don't even have time for eachother. She is unwilling, and you working on strange hours = incompatible situation. Im having zero hopes for this relationship, in terms of being realistic there isn't much to go on here. So my advice is to let her go.
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    I wouldn't waste a reply on him at all.
  18. robowarrior
    Its just utter non-sense. You create this imaginary world or image inside of your head that he is the perfect guy,and that since he is your first that everything would work out fine. Reality is that you should NEVER go into a relationship expecting it to work out great just because it concerns 'your case' , reality is that a guy can pack his bags and leave, or cheat on you on any given moment. You are simply blinded by love, you should put of the blindfold, and aknowledge that he's the reason for your unhappyness to begin with. Do yourself a favour and step out of this dysfunctional relationship. OPEN YOUR EYES, and be realistic. What you imagine and how reality really works can be 2 entirelly different things.
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    Times can change, what you need to avoid is interference. For some sort of universal curse or something, the moment you have exams just everything seems to want to bother you. So you have to stay low profile, do as i say and goto the library every day. Focus everything on your exam and just let your parents, and that guy go. Its an important life lesson to understand that you only have control over yourself. You might be able to steer others a bit into the right direction, but now is not the time. Besides if you do it all at once it will become an unbearable burden. So take my advice, stay out of your home as much as possible chase everything away that can interfere with your study, and get angry and shoo away at everyone and every thing that wants to prevent you from studying,including yourself. Once you have your exams done and graduated, you can focus your energy on restoring the ruins. You might want to move out and start leading your own life. Respect everyone's free will , and you just go your own way.
  20. robowarrior
    Your taking too much time. You need to take initiative and ask her out.
  21. robowarrior
    I know more guys who complained about the girl being immature, however i think if you keep on acting mature around her, that she will copy and eventually mature also.
  22. robowarrior
    You want a friend, not a lover. Sex is the most important thing to a guy, its the way how he shows that he loves you. Rejecting him, translates to him as ' you don't want me ' , that's why you got the ' i don't think you love me ' Clearly both of you want to totally different things out of this relationship. He wants the sex, you want the romance. If you want to make it compatible, then plan that you do something very romantic first , and then something sexy. If he likes something freaky don't reject him. All the comments you make of , "im not into that, im not into sex, im not into you ' can you see how all these signals towards him act as the message ' i reject you!' ? Accept him, accept his love, accept the romance, accept the sex. If you do not accept it(and you can be totally honest to yourself about that) then for heavens sake leave him, guy + girl as friends = impossible, unless both are gay or lesbian there will always be attraction to eachother. You are putting him in the friendzone while he has put you in the ' i love you and want to be with you zone' . You have to make up your mind and work it out, as you have seen by now the whole ' lets just be friends' thing is an impossible situation to keep up. He already took it up to the next level in terms of wanting a relationship with you. The question with keeping in mind that you can't keep him as a friend is, what do you want?
  23. robowarrior
    Bottomline: YOU DONT WANT TO BE WITH A LIAR. You threw your future away for someone who has been only out to destroy your life. Only God knows wether this still can work out on her being serious with you two marrying eachother. Basically this is the price you pay for bringing the devil inside of your home. You need to be like a castle gate, close yourself to bad people/things/events, and open yourself up to good people/things/events, if you let the enemy enter your castle they will only bring it to ruins, leaving you crying over the crumbled stones. From there's only 2 options, keep on crying on trying to rebuild your castle. Now if she is 'serious' about stopping with cheating on you, then heck you might consider giving it a try. However you have to understand that couples are supposed to LOVE eachother and make eachother HAPPY . She's young, wild and wants to have fun in her life. Maby just maby she matured a little bit, and maby just maby you could give her some more space to settle down, even if you don't trust her you could try it it. Most importantly , take your future back, get yourself something to look forward to instead of to be let down off. Secure yourself against all the misery that might come at you, and don't let anyone including her destroy your life.
  24. robowarrior
    Your not worthless, he's acting this way because he found another girl that he's more attracted to. It happens vice versa too, girls leaving the rebound guy because they found someone even more handsome and richer. But where does it leave you? You need to finally realise that love has to go both ways, , what once was is no more, and the road that you two have been travelling has come to a dead end. The only thing you can do is turn your car around and head back to the mainway of life. Respect his choice that he wants to be with other girls. You can continue to love him, but you will need to move on and find yourself another significant person in your life who puts YOU as their nr.1 in life. With him Its over..
  25. robowarrior
    Your immediately off to a psychiatrist and rehab. You are in no position to be in a relationship because you are mentally unstable , and bottomline is: You don't want to be with a LIAR!. You quickly have to understand that 'there are things that destroy you in life' 'there are things that build you up in life' Drugs,alcohol,sigarettes etc , this only ruins your life, you need to trash all elements in your life that do nothing that destroy you. What you need to realise is that these things that 'supposedly give you fun' are in really shallow means that add nothing,no even destroy your life. Or in other words ' LIFE IS DANGEROUS ' you can make life and death decisions. So you need to be fricken carefull with the decisions that you make. If you knew what drugs would do to you, you would probably never touched that garbage in the first place. In the end of ends there's only 3 ways to go. You can go down the drain where only death and more misery awaits you. You can stay in the rut where you are now, or you can improve yourself to be a better person. The first two options are worthless, so there's only one way to go, and that's go up to be a better person, and continue to going up to make yourself into the best possible man you can be.
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