robowarrior

All of your actions in life are a display of nothing but absurd fear. What is needed in life is not fear, nothing can grow from that. What is needed is determination, go forward,move forward, retreat and you will age, hesitate and you will die. Although there are some gray area's ,its best that you mainly think in black and white, yes or no. Show some spine in the decisions you make. Put your hands in the fire for what you stand for. First off all quit the weed, its scientifically proven that usage of it messes with your head, and since you are already mentally confused, the last thing you need is something that only makes you even more confused. Just go for gold in your life, imagine two boxers who fight, what will hesitation lead to other then the boxer getting his head being punched to the ground? If you can't make a choice and stick with it, you can never move forward, which is basically a state of limbo that disables you to pursuade a direction. For instance you are on a side road, you can goto LA or NY , you will never reach any of those places if you don't make up your mind. You are going to NY and you will finish what you start ,and when you reach your destination, then you have completed your goal. Never start something that you don't intend on finishing, always complete what you start, be too stubborn to give up, and same counts for relationship. Go for gold, all the way with this girl by your own choice. Don't worry about the things you can't change in life, only think about the things YOU can change. You have to accept and let go that there are some things in life that you cannot change or have influence over, and since you don't its needless to worry about it. You do what you can do. Just make sure you do something positive and constructive.

He had sex with you and moved on, or in other words he said all those things to get you into bed with him. Its nothing that you should regret tho, its because of your inexperience with men on how to deal with it that you fell for all the non-sense he spouted to you. So the next time when you meet a guy, who says he wants to marry you, say to the guy ok but non sex after we get married (for your supposedly religious reasons) if the guy dumps you great, then he was only after sex, if he is willing to wait to have sex after you two get married, then you got the real thing, this because if a guy really loves you he doesn't want to lose you. This guy you were with dumped you like trash after he used you. Again no regrets, you see love makes blind, and because we want happyness in our lives, we are all too eager to let the wrong people into our lives who supposedly are in love with us. You have to be like a castle gate, close yourself for bad people/things/events and open yourself up to good people/things/events, there's no reason why you should let yourself be destroyed by horrible people who are only out to use you. Because you are basically the one who lets them in or not. So be carefull next time ok?

Don't start a relationship if you don't have the time to invest in it. The extreme busyness better be over real soon and you two settling down within a relative extend of time so you two can live for eachother instead of your jobs/school/studies and whatever. This because if you never see eachother, you might as well consider yourself separated. So in all of this time is of the essense ,make sure you have enough of it to spend on eachother, or bail out.

You need to invite him in for a romantic dinner , (note that you must state (just for the two of us)) and lure him into having an awesome night with you. Just say he has to find an exuse or something, and that you don't mind him spending with friends, but you also have the right on having private occasions with him. If he refuses it be time to let him go.

Instead of standing in the shadow of your mom, be a person that has her own shadow. I also learned the painfull lesson that in life you cannot go thru in continueing something that makes you dead unhappy. Your parents should love you unconditionally, and not just because you have grade x,y,z or diploma a,b,c. Even if you have no diploma's or whatsoever your parents should love and support you, and there comes the fundamental error. You should have made yourself happy instead of your parents, and you should have worked on your own future or having your own shadow if you liked instead of standing in that of your parents, with the fundamental understanding that its ' YOU' who in the first place is working for your own future. Becoming independent is another part of becoming mature. (but take this in aspect) Your parents didn't do this to torture you or anything, they simply wanted their own child that they love to have the best possible future imaginable. However you weren't compatible nor prepared for such a future and weren't thinking on the same frequency as your parents did , hence that you wanted something different for your future. Keep silent towards your parents on what you are going to do for your future, do this because you do not have to justify yourself towards your parents, you only have to justify your actions towards yourself. That you want something different in your life then your parents, is definitly nothing to kill yourself over, rather all the more reason to live to forfill your own dreams instead of those of your parents.

I can assure you that simply being there for him is enough. You can't take away the pain your bf is and will experience...however, you can assure him (with your actions of just being close and helping out when needed) that you are there for them. Opportunities will present themselves, you don't need to go looking for them. Just be open to helping wherever you can.Ask if they'd like you to(help with this or that) .... They may say no but at least they know you are willing to help. And don't get offended if they resist you efforts to help....every family is different and deals with these issues differently. Also, it's normal for them to tell the same stories (about the loved one) over and over....it helps with healing. Smiling and being patient with them while they do this can be an enormous benefit. Your bf's emotions may swing wildly from one minute to the next. One minute they are laughing and carrying on like nothing is wrong, the next second they are bawling uncontrollably. That's part of the grief process and it's ok to simply give hugs and say you're sorry. There really is no perfect way to help....just be kind, patient and open to the process. Good luck and God Bless.

Hurry and ask him out tomorrow , today if you can, before some other girl notices him and dates him. If you have his phone number, call him now, and ask him out on a date. Do it because you'll be regretting it forever, don't be shy you KNOW he wants you, so that's all the more benefit for you to hurry and take it to the next level.

Sometimes you have to say to yourself ' im satisfied with what i got ' And that's the whole thing, instead of constantly looking at the things you don't have in life, start looking at the things you DO have in life. That way you can be more appreciative of the things that you do have. Walking to the kitchen is for us an ordinairy event, but it would be a fricken miracle for a handicapped person, that shows us that we often don't appreciate the miracles what we have until we lose them. Basically i say this to myself ' im happy with what i have, but i strive to be the best person i can possibly be in life' , that way you can be satisfied and still improve yourself.

When you start thinking you worry , so the answer is put your mind on zero and ask him out. Its a win win situation for you, if you ask him out and he says no, you can move on with your life, if he says yes you got a date. You always miss if you never shoot right? Since guys are direct, you just have to ask it directly in his face. Something like ' hey you don't have to answer immediately but i was wondering if next week you would like to goto the movie(x) with me' Stop worrying , stop thinking ,act instead of regretting. Ask yourself, what has being shy ever gave you for reward? Zero so trash it.

All you guys have been making selfish and downright terrible decisions which consequensially have lead to you all forming a disfunctional family, people committing suicide, suffering,creating unneccesary dilemma's,alcoholism,annorexia and 1000% blind to the fact that life is DANGEROUS, and making the wrong decisions can lead to Life Threatening consequenses. To make this fact even more clear to you. Life is like a minefield, you have to reach the finish in the end, without stepping on the mines, if you make a wrong decisions an explosion will follow and you will have to reach the finish line while having lost a leg or arm, methaphorically so to speak. So what it means is that you can choose for 'harmfull' elements (representing the choice to step on a mine and exploding) as following -the drugs -the alcohol -the sigarettes -the selfishness -the non caring attitude -refusing professional help They all have to go , so yes your trading harmfull elements which you all grab to in the expectation that you will experience joy from it, while in reality they are only devastating the very foundations of your family. My advice is the following -all of you will seek psychiatric help,including you. -all of you will quit the harmfull elements as described above FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE!!! However there's one fact that has to be dealt with first. Which is your father, you see a soul that has comitted suicide cannot find rest in the afterlife, and is bound to the consequenses of its sins, even if you don't believe that. What i want you all to do is to 'forgive' your father, for what he has done. After you forgave your father, you have to convince your mother and your sister to forgive your father for what he has done to your family. That way his soul can rest in peace. The next thing that needs to be avoided are ' making stupid decisions and making sure everyone including you will think at least 4 times about the consequenses before you make a decision to do something. Or in other words THINK 4 times first , act 1 time later. The whole ' putting a blindfold on, and teeheee lets use drugs,beer,smoke sigarettes, getting pregnant ,random sex with random people,without thinking or even considering the bad consequenses and other harmfull decisions has GOT TO GO. its of the OUTMOST importance, that that kind of lifestyle is trashed. You worry me also, please do NEVER EVER go the same way your sister has gone. And about the annorexia, guys like girls, not skeletons. So please be of normal proportions, and that counts with all the things in life, as we say here' act normal, then you act crazy enough' bring stability back into your lives. Do this by visiting shrinks, performing yoga(even tho you think that goes far, its great to balance your life) Read books of barbara ann brennan to spiritually balance your life, read books of Dr.Phil to bring function back into your family. Apart from the individual visits to the shrink , a group session would be nice too, this so you guys can hold hands and forgive your dad altogether, and discuss how you all can form rebuild yourself to a functional family. Again get rid of the harmfull elements, get professional help, don't make random decisions and think ahead of wether the decisions made will bring stability or havoc in all of your lives,and avoid choices that create disability. If you doubt over a choice made, come to e-notalone and discuss it , we are here for you. When your young your also easily influenced by bad friends, watch out! You guys don't have the luxury anymore to grab towards alcohol,drugs,sigarretes simply because you people cannot handle it, and in reality these things won't give you happyness in the first place, what gives real happyness and is the meaning of life is the following. The meaning of life is to love and help others. So instead of being selfish, and making selfish decisions that are for the self forfillment of your desires, strive to love and help other people in your life. This because loving and helping other people is the only thin in life that can make you REALLY happy. This because love is for our souls what gasoline is for a car, without love we are truelly meaningless. So give meaning to your life and love others.

If you have a mobile camera, and just videotape it that your entire car is egged, and when they call you, record the message. Then with the recordings goto the police and ask for a restraint order, its like this. You KNOW there will be more attacks in the future, the only thing you have to do is to record it, for instance if the phone rings, and you know its them, put it on record and say things on the phone like ' please leave me alone' in quite a desperate (but natural way) and something like ' i told you over and over not to call me again' , if you goto the police with stuff like that, and ask for a restraint order and file charges, then the police has to act. Remember you are the only one who can make efforts to convince the law that they have to put a restraining order upon them. Its harrasment .link removed

If you don't use the pill the build up of placenta will take place in a far bigger amount then when you do use the pill, when your body has discarded all the mess your peroid has ended. Personally i think there was still a fair amount of residu left in your body, and with all the shaking while being intimate, that stuff came loose. In your next period the buildup shouldn't be that much if you continue to use the pill, however for safety reasons i want you to contact a gynecologist and have some tests done.

You shouldn't have initiated a break up if you want to be with her, you should solve the internal problems that you two have together, if she is constantly bored, you two should do fun things, you shouldn't be quiet, that's no fun. Imagine a person just staring at you without saying anything =\ , or in other words no action = no reaction. So make sure you invest some efforts, call her and say that you want to come back on the whole breakup thing you initiated, if that's too risky just call her and ask her if she wants to hang out, and keep doing that. Make things fun,exciting and interesting, and make sure that it isn't one sided love, if she's not been making any effort in the relationship in the past then i wouldn't go thru all of this again, and find myself another girl.

Depends on what the reason behind the NC ing was of course. To put it bluntly if you can't be together for a longer period of time, or basically stay together forever, then i wouldn't waste an effort on it. I know its tempting, but its only worthwhile if there would be any future of some sorts.

Oh yeah i have another great tip. If you really want to improve your talking, just download winamp and listen to comedy central on it for one hour a day and do this every day. This way you can discover talking as a great way to have fun, instead of it being it a torture.

What benefit has being shy ever gave you? Zero so trash it! Look, talking isn't meant to torture you. Its normal for people to talk to eachother so no one will blame you if you do, and if they do, then talk to someone else. However don't let yourself be your own worst enemy in meeting new people. What is stopping you? worry this worry that. So that means that if you start thinking you are blocking yourself from talking, the answer? Put your mind on zero , and just spit it out. Just pretend your a cow and have no mind of your own and can only say MOO! i mean that's what talking is all about ,99% is unimportant stuff. So just talk about anything,even garbage will do. Rediculous of course, but better then not talking which is even more boring.

What a great way to make yourself happy. She lied to you about choosing for you instead of her annorexia. Not that you should blame her for that, because you know she has a mental illness. And another thing what is important to understand is if what a person says and what a person do can be two entirelly different things, of more contrast between day and night. People who cut, are people who feel that they are unloved and do not get attention , but there's more then that. Imagine you are in a prison, what helps more to get out, cutting yourself or a prison key?What you need to understand is that you need to invest your energy that you use in cutting and redirect it towards finding the prison key that leads you out of the situation of misery that you are in. Do yourself a favour and look up towards the light and walk out of the dark tunnel that you are in now. Step out of things that hurt you, here's what i always use. You have to be like a castle gate, close yourself to bad people/things/events , and open yourself up to good people/things/events. A bad relationship will only make you suffer. Both of you shouldn't be in a relationship , and instead find people who care for you instead of hurt you all the time. The first and foremost important thing that you need to understand is that you should NOT be in a relationship with someone who has a mental illnes (NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU LOVE HER) that person doesn't need to be in a relationship, but needs to see a psychiatrist. You also need to step out of this relationship which (because you are blinded by love you don't see that ) is destroying you. And see a psychiatrist.

Don't bother with people who don't love you back. You see love has got to go BOTH ways, plus there has to be time enough for both to invest into the relationship. This is clearly one sided love,you'll receive more affection back from hugging or kissing a wall , i know your in love but you have to stay realistic in the fact that she is not interested in you. You need to find a girl that considers you as her nr.1 in life, because you deserve to be nr.1 in life, she however brushes you away like a flie, its not funny and if you ask me you should drop her like a brick and stop wasting your efforts on beating a dead horse. Do yourself a favour and find someone else who is at least interested in you.One sided love is a dead end road, this because love has to go both ways.

You don't know what you got until its gone. You don't deserve her, you treated her like trash and you expect her to take you back. Couples are supposed to make eachother happy, and bring love and light into eachothers lives. So remember... If you neglect a flower, it will rot and die. What will happen if a farmer who doesn't take care of his vegetables and fruits? The harvest will FAIL. Basically you are that farmer, you've put yourself on the throne and only thought of self pleasure self forfillment and self interest. This is why you neglected her, because your world revolves around you. Nope, if you want something from life then you will have to sacrifice something of equal value of yourself to gain it. In this case, you should have invested time and attention in making her happy. Now that the flower has died its too late, what will watering and feeding it on that moment do any good? Nope you have to water and feed and invest time into the flower BEFORE it dies. Before it is too late you need to give your life a swing back into the right direction. Basically i think you need to replace this dead flower with a new seed in the ground. My advice although you won't like it, is to find yourself another girl in which you do spend time,love, and making her happy in terms of a long term continues investment.

Woman who laugh even over your horrible jokes, can mean only one thing... She is in love with you. Remember Jesus warned about wolves in sheep clothes, in those terms calling yourself a Christian means nothing,, only the love and help that you display towards others counts. So even tho many people call themselves Christians, a lot of it is show and not displayed in their actions, anyway This girl seems to be traumatized in her youth and closed herself, but seeing how interested she is, she is trying to open up , and if you dont like her then you have to reject her in a way that is firm but without incassating emotional damage, or the least amount of emotional damage. If you do like her, say that you like her and ask if she wants to come to your place and play video games. Or talk about video games ,and don't be ashamed of your megaman t-shirt, as long as you can withstand the critics its definitly ok to wear =)

Its easy to interpret, you don't even have to look at the words spoken, look at the body , if its moving towards you its interested in you, if its moving away from you it will display disinterest. This guy with no doubt whatsoever is in love with you. And if you are in love with him too, then you two can form a couple. However if you want something from a guy ask it directly in his face, and avoid subtle signals which no guy on earth understands, ask him out. The whole mess that you couldn't interpret is induced by alcohol, and everyone acts weird when having too much alcohol so don't try or make an effort to understand what people intend when they are drunk. This guy has been all over you, if you want him i suggest you get him by your own hands.

With guys you always have to be direct in what you want so ask him out directly in his face, say something like , you don't have to answer immediately but i was thinking if you would like to go out with me next week to the movie(x) I definitly think you should try to bring it to the next level.

Although its possible that you two can get to be together, its going to have people staring at you, if you can live with that, and if you find out that she isn't crazy in the head, then you could give it a shot.

If you want something from a guy ask it directly in his face, just say that you want to move the relationship you two have to a next level and become bf/gf and if he would agree with that. Knowing what is in his phone, you'd have 70% of knowing what the answer will be. Still be prepared for a let down, but don't stop , ask him out, you always miss if you never shoot right?

No, what you shouldn't do is give him false hope that there's still anything between you two. Its all about wether you want to be together with him or not, if its no, then don't rip open old wounds or initiate contact which would make him believe that you want to deal with him. If you do want to be with him, then you should give him direct and clear intentions. Try to see the situation black or white, yes or no, instead of keeping on pendeling in the grey area that you are now in. Don't do that because it will only make you look insecure, show some spine. Either this or that, instead of looking insecure, look forward, move forward, retreat and you will age, hesitate and you will die.