jenna1012

keep it up with the no contact, it's the only way to truly heal. and truthfully, there is no 'easy' way out of this, it's going to hurt and it's going to suck. i've been in your position and it's takens MONTHS to get over him, but it does happen and all you can do is stay strong and stick it out. good luck.

Through middle school I was kind of the ugly duckling and I was teased...A LOT...it helped me build tough skin and now I don't care what people think about the way I look or dress (to some extent). Peoples comments about how I wear my hair or how my feet are too big roll right off my back. At my high school, I'm on the volleyball team and orchestra (cello) I'm 17, but I can't seem to deal with criticism. I'm at the top of my team in volleyball, but in orchestra I'm pretty mediocre. I'm in this quartet and yes, I am the least experienced of the bunch. Long story short, they talk about kicking me out behind my back...they talk about how much I suck...it bothers me that they can't say things to my face (I tend to take things better that way), rather than have me find out and pretend that I don't know. I just have a problem with this...I could be joining a different quartet or doing my own thing if they would just say things to my face... maybe this was just more of a rant....

My boyfriend and I have been going out for a year and recently he's been getting closer to my mom. My mom is 50 and gorgeous, one of those older women who look like they're 30. There's nothing wrong with thinking my mom is gorgeous, but my boyfriend has fantasies about her...I guess that's somewhat ok being that he's into the whole older women type deal, but then just for fun i asked him, "if my mom asked you to have sex with her, would you?" and he honestly said yes. and he kind of laughed it off, but his answer was honest. it kind of bothers me, i mean of course if he really did it we'd be through, but that he thinks about it and thinks it somewhat funny/okay bothers me...i mean i know i can't get rid of his fantasy, but i know i satisfy him in the bedroom, i just don't have that older woman factor for him... input/advice?

Hey all, I have this guy friend I've been friends with for 3 years now and the first year I had known him we were only 14, and he confessed his feelings for me, that he had feelings for me as more than a friend and he wanted to go out with me, but I declined because personally i wasn't ready at all at 14...So now we're both 16 and he's kinda had those feelings on and off for me, but today we had a study session with a bunch of our friends and he and I sat accross from each other...the WHOLE time we were eyeing each other and I had never felt so attracted to him...it was a weird feeling, like at that moment I was like, 'Wow, I wanna be with him...' I think that my feelings have changed, just because we're both older and I think we can handle a situation like this...I know he's gonna ask me out again...I want to do it, but I'm still afraid of the 'our friendship will never be the same', but also i'm 16 and i wanna take a chance at something...

interesting topic, i think that neither gender has an advantage over the other, i think it just depends on the individual and their confidence. i personally think getting dates is all about the confidence that the individual has.

A guy friend who I've just been getting really close to lately because we have alot more classes together this year asked me if I wanted to see a movie with him tonight, and I said sure. Then, he asked if I wanted to go to dinner (my favorite restaurant) I couldn't refuse. So in about an hour I'm leaving to meet him at the movies. I'm not sure how to act because it's jsut me and him and it's not a date....at least in my eyes. I'm just scared he sees it as one because of the Friday night movie and dinner. So my question is...how do I act...in the theater....during dinner? Split the check? I'm totally freaking out because I don't want him to get the wrong idea or make it seem like I'm coming onto him...

In addition to PrettyBoy's reply, some sports drinks do have a lot of sugar, but drinks like Vitamin Water and the Sobe Life Water don't have too much sugar and them and they are an alternative to some juices and water.

i just got my braces off a few months ago and boy do i miss them (oddly enough). of course i really ate soft foods, but small bites is they key. i think i had the same appliances as you, it's like a separator at the roof of my mouth and my tongue couldn't touch the top of my roof (made me talk funny and all), i just got adjusted to it. the pain will go away eventually, and the 2 years you have to wear your braces will fly. goo luck!

I've never used a tampon before and I'm not sexually active either. It just seems like a tampon would be way cleaner and i could wear jeans without being self-conscious about being on my period. i'm also active in sports and that would be way more comfortable. i'm a little apprehensive about it though because i'm afraid i won't be able to get it in because i'm a virgin and i'm so afriad that it'll hurt or i'll break something down there. i do masturbate, but i only do clitoral stimulation and i don't penetrate myself. so advice please!

real friends don't let you feel uncomfortable, no matter the circumstance. i understand you get anxious and nervous around others, but that's no excuse to give into something that is going to make you uncomfortable. put your foot down, say no. you have the right to make your own decisions in whatever it is, and if he is let down and gets mad at you then he's an .

I am in the same boat as you! In person, I can carry a conversation great, but on the phone with family, friends, whoever, i freeze up and i don't say much, it ends up that the other person does most of the talking and they have to ask me questions to get me to talk! a while back, i met a nice guy on the internet, one night i had the guts to call him and he kept saying, "you hate me! you aren't talking!" i told him i'm awkward over the phone. for me, just finding new ways to keep the conversation up and practicing it helped me, now i'm not so bad.

I was shy growing up, but as I got older I started growing out of it. I never had a problem having dates...some are just intrigued by shy people, they're a mystery and they want to figure them out.

It's your typical best friend relationship between a male and a female, but one starts to have feelings for the other and admits them, but the other doesn't want to go beyond friends because they're afraid of ruining the friendship. The friend who likes the other friend, respects their decision, but cannot help but have feelings for them. What's the person who is being liked to do? So, yeah, my best guy friend, whom I've known for 7/8 years, but just gotten really close to in the last 2/3 years has feelings for me and lately he's been falling really hard for me, I make sure that we stay best friends because our friendship is amazing, even though everyone talks about our chemisty and how cute we'd look together, I still want to stay friends, but I know, I know, there's always that "what if" factor and how he could be the most amazing boyfriend ever, but I never tried, but I don't want to try. So I KNOW for a fact, that he's going to ask me out again, within a month....I hate letting him down everytime, but it's how I feel, what do I do about him?

hey all, i'm 16 and a junior in high school, our school had a christmas party tonight and somebody mentioned how someone still looked like a virgin, and then everyone started asking each other if they were virgins. i was completely taken back by this because i cannot even imagine having sex at such a young age, i mean 16 is still sooo young and we are still figure out who we are as individuals. so then someone made a dirty joke and everyone started laughing and then one of my friend's turns to me and says, "stop laughing jenna, you don't even get it, you're so innocent, it's not like you've done anything with a guy anyways" it kind of took me back, i mean why are girls who are 15/16 talking about oral sex and sex and are actually doing it. so i guess in a sense it would be nice to fit in with the other girls and have a boyfriend to "do stuff with", but i mean I've kissed a guy, I go on dates, I happen to think I'm a regualr teenager, I just choose not to get involved and try to grow up so fast. Yet, I still feel so left out, like being 16 means I'm SUPPOSED to have sex, and not be innocent anymore. So i Don't know why this bothered me so much, but they comment kind of made me feel like I'm not normal...I need your thoughts

I got my braces off about a month ago and I had been wearing my retainer religiously, but I lost my bottom retainer last Thursday night and right now it's Sunday night. I am not able to see the orthodontist until Tuesday, but my teeth are very very sore right now and I can tell that there is a little movement. When I see my orthodontist on Tuesday they are going to take a mold and then I will have to wait a week for the actual retainer to come. Will my teeth move a lot more in that week? Will the pain stop? Will my teeth go back to how they were before I lost my retainer?