Leon

I'm going with some friends to some kind of anime convention. Eh, I'm not too big on the cartoons and stuff, I mean I'll catch an episode or two if time allows but... I thought it be fun since I've never been... It's not like I'll dress up or anything. I mean I'll admit I'm a dork, but you gotta draw the line at some point... Anyway the girls that like this kind of stuff tend to like my quirky personality more and I mean like I mean LOVE. But eh, I'm kind of not sure how I can flirt or start convos with some of these women, considering I don't know them. I'm not shy, but I'd just like some ideas ya know? Just need as much ammo as I can, even though I already have a MAJOR advantage. My goal is to at least get some numbers, emails or ims out of this.

Yes, this is true! I swear it! My friend is VERY confident because he DOES NOT look for serious relationships. He views them all on equal levels. He moves on becaus she views no one special. Why do girls make assumptions like that? Right down to messing up the meaning of "nice guy". They make it hard on themselves and us and they blame us for it! Anyone should be able to give someone one indiiferent a chance. I have and have turned out to like them, but it was too late. And I know it was my own fault.

Wow... this is the first time I've met a girl with this problem..welll...yeah... That's about all I can say I geuss... It sucks doesn't it?

Or I could say that most womens' standards suck, but I shouldn't... Oh wait, too late...

Which is what screws over people like me, which is what has coated my heart with a hatred and rage I have never experienced before... I know it's wrong, but there is nothing that can be done...

I refuse to change who I am, I refuse to. It's not right, it's cheating myself. If I have people who like me for who I am, if I can make friends and make a difference in people's lives why do I need to change for people who don't know how to appreciate people and what they do in general? (I even fully appreciate it when a complete stranger smiles at me while I'm working. It's just the type of person I am.) If I have to do that it's not worth it IMO. How can you say having certain standards that can potentially unreasonable, maturity. How can people define higher education? What is higher edication? There is no one way to obtain it, there is no one way to define it. It's people who value shallow qualities like this that erk me. I have changed people by he way I view the world and people in it and I have even changed people's way of obtaining eduation. I don't have time explain everything, but I geuss I was right. Most people are the same, and it's kind of sad for people like me, who don't want to be stereotyped, who don't want to fall into a category. Maybe that's why I'm having trouble... I don't fit in. People are uncomfortable with what they can't categorize, they hate and fear what is different... Heh...people...why do I even care so much in the first place...?

What I'm getting by reading this, people are still using the same cliche' words of advice. It's easy to give advice, but it's not easy to use or become effective. I did not find the regection of those "nice guys" funny at all. They did their part, and I personally would be curious if someone asked me to do something with them? Wny not? I don't know them, they could be fun. I give them that chance, because I would want the same from them. I think the girls didn't think about that. Not that I'm surprised, as I said before, I am commonly seeing a lack of respect in females. They want to be given respect but they have trouble efficently returning it... That is why I'm done... I'm tired of dealing with it, and I'm tired of hearing the excuses.

This is flawed, people who do this usually wind up friend zoned. Like I said, nice guys who are easily neglected are pretty much screwed from the start. They have qualities that are usually not popularly/strongly admired or appreciated.

No, I mean honest as in telling the truth, not so much as being open. So there will be no excuses for jusifying lame reasons this time.

Same here guys...Same here...

Yeah I understand how you feel, I had some problems too, so I understand. Seeing a friend get rejected because their "too honest" doesn't help either... I seriously wanted to just knock the girl over the head with a bat when my friend told me that... What is wrong with people today? I kinda took a break from looking for a girl cause I got tired of the games and excuses and I got to the point that I was gonna have to start hurting some people's feelings. And I didn't wanna have to resort to that, I really didn't... So I took a break, for their sake, aswell as mine (but mostly theirs ). At least until some get their act together...

Lol... I'm sorry... but some of the things you said detroys the conclusion you made. NOTHING in this life in garunteed. Every opportunity in life is fragile; one wrong move and your plans could be ruined, by ANYONE, including yourself. Whether it be on purpose or accident.

Sorry for double post but I just gotta say I agree with your way of dealing with the girls that hurt you, by trying to hurt them back. I'm sorry... but sometimes pain is the only way for people to learn.

Umm, it's things like this that do that to "nice guys" they are negative because of people who critisize them and make them feel like dirt. They get neglected, their greatest qualities are ignored. They ask for help (looking for that small amount of hope) and get the same cliche' lines. They feel like there is something wrong with them but can't figure out what it is or how to solve it. And it goes on...every single day... How would you feel? I know I wouldn't be bouncin' around if I went through it.

Heh... I remember when in highschool in class I overheard, these girls complaining about all the good men being taken while they had the left-overs. I laughed. It's kind of sad, if they only they used the time they were complaining to go LOOK. Stop expecting them to fall infront of you. That's not how life works at all... Kinda funny thing... I met up with an old buddy and he told me that his GF was looking for someone to hook up with her friend and that I was desperately in need of this opportunity. Well we meet his GF and she actually chose my friend who shows no interest in relationships and being tied down and is extremely picky. Our taste are very different I met more requirments than him. Both my friends asked her why did she not choose me... She had no reason she had no answer... It's like there is something horribly wrong with me... I'm starting think I'm not the problem after all...