robowarrior

The essense of the problem is your decision making. For everything that you want in life, there are consequenses attached to it. In the adult world we call this 'responsiblity', we take note of our actions and avoid the negative consequenses because this is the responsible thing to do. You see it might take a girl to get pregnant, but it takes a woman to raise a family. All your decision making and actions displayed immaturity, because you simply 'do' without having thougth very deeply about the possible consequenses of your actions. Taking a baby,getting drunk reclessly , kissing other guys, betraying your bf, you lie, then you are forced to fill up one gap of lies, with another gap of lies. Its like your constantly trying to fill the one bottomless pit of despair your only creating another bottomless pit, or in other words 'lying is useless because it cannot hold any ground in real life' Its a bubble that eventually will pop. Its no wonder you lost all of your friends in this manner. Im currently already treating a woman who is a mental wreck over her last abortion, that was the result of a dysfunctional relationship. I would not like to see you end up like her on the long run. What i want you to do is to. -Bring your life in calmer waters, take a pace back. -First THINK before you do. -Be honest to yourself and to others. -Life is precious to give , and to receive. Forget about your previous group of friends, you pretty much ruined it maby for good. And if you ever see them again, just tell them that you are trying to become a better person. If i where you i would try to re-establish a new group of friends. But personally i don't think your ready for that yet. You first have some serious 'self' reflection to do. In a sense that you will forgive yourself for what happened. And not in a sense that you will blame yourself for what can't be changed anymore. So here is my advice before you make a decision think' carefull , carefull, carefull'

Think for yourself, or put your life in another persons hand. If someone calls you fat and worthless, even if you where fat and worthless, who is the one rowing backwards in the darkness. The place where you go wrong is' omg they are right i am fat and worthless, while you should have said to yourself. Someone who calls me fat and worthless isn't worth wasting my listening ear on. You see people should love you 'unconditionally' those people who live in darkness and don't love you no matter even if you where skinny or fat, these are the kind of people that you need to cast out of your life. Negativity leads to nowhere. You see your boyfriend loves you unconditionally, even if you gained a few pounds, basically the people who called you fat in the past, have made you feel insecure towards how others perceive you. You thought something in the lines of 'if im not skinny they won't love me'. I think what you did wrong, is not protecting yourself and exposing yourself by opening yourself up to demonical opinions, of individuals who where only out to destroy you. You see you need to be like a castle gate, closing yourself to bad/people/things events. If that was the case, you would have said to yourself , guys like girls not skeletons, a few pounds is ok, why? Because i say so, not because of what others say. The only reason why you shouldn't be fat , is purely because its bad for your health, nothing more. Same reason why you shouldn't turn yourself in a skeleton, its bad for your health. You need to stop exposing yourself to bad people, but in retrospect you need to open yourself up to your boyfriend who has good intentions with you. That way you could show him your full comittment. So the lesson here is open and close yourself to the right people, as to shutting yourself off to negative comments. As said their negative remarks only lead to nothing, wow what a hero for calling someone fat, can you see how empty headed and uncaring these kind of individuals are? These people contribute nothing to your life, their comments = 0. So trash it. Start defining your own life, and be who you want to be. Start working on your condition for yourself, Start saying i love myself for who i am. And even if the whole world doesn't support me, i support and believe in myself. And you know, what do looks matter? Looks only matter to people who are superficial to begin with. They don't value nor know you for the person who you are. Even in the bible it says 'do not judge' so anyone who judges you is wrong to begin with.

Basically you have to aknowledge your handicap. That isn't a nice thing, i know i know. But not being able to hear is a daily irritance. Besides many people with eye sight problems wear glasses which is quite a lot more of a sightseeing spectacle then a hearing aid.

Firt three words of a famous chessbook are 'carefull carefull carefull. I suggest you think 3 times before you make a move, remember couples are supposed to make eachother happy not miserable.

Humans seem to detest any fluid that flows out of the body, hence some people fainting when seeing blood, and are disgusted. Probably this is some sort of evolutionary thing which makes us want to go away from things that are useless or dangerous, maby he has a distorted kind of view on it.

*cries happy tears* , im so glad such an amazing experience has befallen to you. It definitly seems you are on the right track in achieving amazing musical talent.

Seems we got a little self esteem problem here at hand. I'll easily solve that, you see i've won and lost many times in my life. Its not about failing or winning that is important, its about the determination to go on. There's a nice ww2 quote on this There is no failure except in no longer trying. There is no defeat except from within, no really insurmountable barrier save our inherent weakness of purpose. So what do you care if you win or fail? Just set your goal on to keep on moving forward in your life. You know life throws so many things at you its obvious not everything is going to work out. And this is where a positive attitude comes in to play. You see if you keep stamping with a negative attitude on the soil you want to grow something, how can that seed ever come to grow if you keep on pounding it in the ground? Creativity is delicate and needs a positive protective ground to sprout on, you see negativity leads to nowhere in your life. You can go down,up or stay at the same place where you are in your life. Only going up brings you to a new level of better life, the others just bring death,or a state of limbo. So what matters really is that you keep on climbing the mountain in your life no matter how many times you fall, don't care , so here comes my life lesson for you. "Persistance is the key to succes" I got my truck drivers license after 12 attempts, because of this line i just wrote above. I bloody hell refused to give up , i came to a point that i rather die then give up. Now although i want you to keep on applying logic as to what the best path should be taken, but once a path is taken you should keep on going, i have some more life lessons for you. work fast and efficiently. pick a skill & stick to it. The transitions between switching skills add up to a huge waste of time. figure out the most efficient methods to raise your skills mainly. exp rate when considering the opportunity cost of time don’t get bored and be too stubborn when it comes to achieving goals you set for yourself. Same thing , set challenges for yourself. severely hate having things incomplete. Life Is more of a test to challenge your abilities... set a goal and see if you can achieve it. Enjoy and have fun mainly in the constructive things you do. Set challenges for yourself and test your limits. It might even relax you. Impossible ambitions tend to disintegrate in the face of reality. You have to give more meaning to your meaningless life.

A relationship requires time to invest into eachother. If you don't have the time for eachother, don't initiate a relationship to begin with.

Lower your standards, and be more outgoing. Or in other words, don't be your own worst enemy in finding a girl.

Don't forget to mention the side effects =\ Saint john's wort might work for some, but not for everyone. Its like a chemical bomb and has a wide variety of effects as wel as side effects and much of it is still unknown. I personally disgress that such a thing would simply be adviced to one and all. I believe that you got benefit from it, don't get me wrong, its just not an all cure for everyone out there.

Just keep on bringing love and light into eachothers lives, and if one starts an argument refuse to give another spin to that wheel of hatred. Remember you aren't together to make eachothers lives miserable, also make sure that you solve what has lead to the break up in the first place, because if that problem resurfaces you'll just end up breaking up again.

I created my own lines. Life is like a boxing game, being afraid that you are going to get hurt is useless because you WILL get hurt. So might as well go for gold and punish the hell out of your opponent , which is life.

I wouldn't bother playing hard to get. Don't go into a relationship expecting it will work out just because it concerns your case. Reality is that a girl can pack her bags and leave any day. You don't own a person. You can love them but you can't keep them hostage. This because life is like sand, eventually everything will slip from your hand. She has a free will to decide with whomever she wants to be. Even tho that can be painfull, you should respect what she wants in her life. You can't always have it your way in life. So its better to bend like grass sometimes then to break.

I think your perspective is wrong , there definitly are ways to salvage some relationships, if there weren't any strategies, then people wouldn't need bothering to come here to enotalone in the first place. I never was a great fan off NC ing, i think its better to replace the ex with a new love. I personally think its good to always love that person, but to come at the realisation that your relationship has come to a dead end, and that you have to turn around your car and head back to the highway of life and find another road to follow. Basically the NC ing comes in effect automatically if you put a dot behind the relationship that you had with your ex.

You don't have a right to interfere with their relationship. It was her choice to be with him, and vice versa. Even if it becomes a big mess, then it was their choice to be together. Your jealousy may not interfere. Why not? Well imagine if you were with someone you love, and another guy did everything in his power to make you break up, how would that make you feel? Always be able to reason the forthcoming consequenses from another persons shoes.

The neglace isn't a sign of affection, its to keep you happy (on the fishing hook so to speak) while he goes around with that other woman. Its non-sense of course, basically he is dissatisfied with the relationship you two are having, he wanted to bail out, to see if the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. Personally if i where you id say, if im not your nr.1 then get the hell out of my life, never come back. (bootkick) end of story. The 'giving him time and space' was just utter non-sense, if he isn't totally devoted to you, then he's not worth your time in the first place.

Reading your other post id say give him up. I think that the issue cannot be overbridged. If he isn't into you, it means you two don't correspond, in the end love has got to go both ways ALL the way. In this you need to be realistic and not emotional because emotionally you want him back, but i think you lost him years ago, i think you have been friendzoned for quite a long time. And what is there to improve? Its non-sense, he should love you in a passionate way for the person who you are. Obviously there are now all kinds of layers and conditions before that's possible. To me i cannot imagine this having a good end. If a guy isn't interested in you sexually, then its 99,99% the end of the relationship.

My guess is that they are going to look how you deal with trouble, so expect trouble. This because an 8 hour interview is the most rediculous thing i have ever heard off.

People question their own intentions all the time. But some people don't know when to stop. Its important that you are realistic in life. And when it comes to long distant relationship, they only work out if people decide to come together, because if you are away from eachother in that you never see eachother, you might as wel consider yourself separated.

Wars are made by people not by God, mixing politics with your marriage is a bad thing. Couples are supposed to love eachother, and arguments are like poison to the relationship, in which you two only have brought darkness and hatred into eachothers lives. Breaking up with her because she is Israeli = rediculous, you do that just because your family pressurizes you to do so. Your family hasn't been supporting your happyness, nor did her family do so with her. So no wonder she is depressed, all you do is make eachothers lives miserable (counts for entire Israel and palestina by the way) We are all humans and should treat eachother like God has asked us, namely by loving and helping eachother. Your wife is depressed, and it is time see sees a psychiater to deal with her depression, and you should support her in times of need , not abandon her. Don't listen to your family, they have no right to critisize with whom you want to be. God is love, not hate.

Negativity leads to nowhere, and instead of summing up doom scenarios, try to be the best man you possibly can be lin life. This because the future is flexible, anything can happen. Jobs don't mean all that much,and working is never fun no matter what you do, so you don't have to worry about that, and if it its a great job, well fantastic another bonus, but not something you should let your life be about. Its just a formality. Its better to settle for the brass in your life, and be happy. Then going for the diamonds and be overstressed. For me it wasn't really about choices, rather self improvement. I mean at the end of day when your 80 years old and are about to die, you look back at the quality of your life. You have to do those things in life today that will make you look back with satisfaction when your 80, and not discontent. The best thing you can do is get a job where you can love and help other people. I mean then you have a meaningfull job. You don't have to think about the future per se, you can live your life day by day. I mean think about all the days you waste away worrying, then later think i should have utilized those days to be happy? I mean c'mon stop the self torture and enjoy life for a day will ya? All the people who worry will die just the same as the people who don't worry. Or in other words the end result is the same. Life is more like busses, if the right bus comes along you jump on it, if it was the wrong bus jump out of it, and wait for the bus to come along that brings you to the place where you want to be.

Don't care about the what if this what if that, just go for gold, first talk about lab stuff then about fun stuff, going out, and if she would like to come etc etc.

Just as long as you really love that woman its perfectly normal and ok.

Im happy for you that things landed on their feet again. Hopefully you two will have a long term invested love into eachother.

You dream about him at night because during the daytime your constantly thinking about him. Or in other words you should do things that keep you occupied and keep you away from thinking about him. Replace your ex with a new love.