barbie16

i have had a similar situation i dated a guy who was my friend first who i met through my best friend. bcos we had a REALLY bad ending my best friend now hates me and its affected me badly im depressed and miss him all the time. the decisions i made were stupid and irresponsible so i know its my falt thereforeeee dont feel i even deserve forgivness. they still occasionally contact me to say mean things and they often slag me off behind my back. basically all ive done is create myself a new life, with new ppl new job. i dont reccomend this until you feel you are ready though i hope things work out x

your heading caught my eye as this is a similar problem its so spontaneous and you feel like you have to lie to make things ok or protect somebody i know! its horrible. i have recently lost m best friend a boyfriend and various other close people because of one huge missunderstanding which i have now lied about to get them to leave me alone. i dont know how to fix it. just honestly tell atleast your wife before she leaves as i am having a really hard time coping knowing my hurt is all because of myself and knwing i dont deserve forgiveness. if you dont take advice from anybody else take it from somebody who's experienced the downfall

i had this great groups of friends one being my best friend despite me being the only girl in the group we all had a laugh. i ended up going out with one of the males who then started acting off with me and i had heard he was going to leave me, i went out and stupidly got drunk i ended up kissing another guy and my boyfriend found out through word of mouth. he remained supporive and we stayed in touch and it didnt affect my friendship with the others. i then fell pregnant and told him he was fine and very very helpful to me. until his best friend convinced him i was lying and after my abortion i had no proof i was destroyed. he texted and calls hurling insults at me and i insisited and stuck by my word as i had no idea what i had done wrong he then told me that if i told him i had lied about it and explained why he would leave me alone and maybe gain a little respect for me. i thought about it for a while and i was so desperate to keep him in my life that i was prepared to do anything. i then lied to him and told him i had made it all up which resulted in me having to lie to everyone else and telling then the same. this has lost me my best friend and all the guys mates i had! i am gutted. they constantly speak behind my back and they seem to keep dragging me down everytime i try to move on. losing my best friend is awful i feel that im not the same and im really alone. i dont know what to do, i sitll have other friends but these were something special the people who would ALWAYS make me smile almost like having a big group of brothers. anybody help?