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  1. No matter how many girls you have sex with you are afflicted. A cursed soul of someone who really loved and lost. And that hurt was so bad, so tremendous that you can never love again. You may not even survive it. You just want things to go the way you picture them in your head, but that’s not reality. You want it so bad you long for it; you want her to be this person in your head so badly but she just isn’t. Yet why does this feel so wrong. Why do I feel so lost , and as if I have this gaping hole in my chest where my heart used to be? It’s been years and I’m still not over this. It’s been a
  2. Hi everyone. I posted on here recently...about my boyfriend being so moody that it is very upsetting. We have lived together for about almost two years now... However, the other night we had a small minor argument as he said he was going through problems and he didnt know what they were and that he feels like he is overwhelmed with everything. I tried to be supportive and offered to talk through his issues with him however he got rude and snappy and shouted at me that he didn't know what was wrong and that it could be more than his issues and it could be the relationship or me. I then a
  3. I haven’t seen any posts like this so I figured I’d start one. They say that its important to take away lessons from relationships, whatever kind they are. This last one made me realize that it’s ok to be myself and that I can make someone happy just by being that. I dont need to hide behind work, material things, and selfishness. Before she left she helped me change jobs (something I wanted to do and should have done years ago) and helped me understand that there is no such thing as “perfect.” She made me realize how important it is to give back also. Taking care of myself is the most imp
  4. I am a heavy introvert and find large group settings draining. Whenever I have a party/clubbing event I try my best to fit in by talking a lot and acting extroverted. I don't like drinking and everybody knows this. The problem is I feel left out when others binge drink to get drunk around me and become loud and obnoxious. I see those people (who are my very good friends) as selfish and their behaviour as unhealthy. It puts me in a position of spite and I usually refuse drinks and become designated driver because of it. I assume my stress and judgement for these people is out of jealousy.
  5. Met a guy at an open mic night about a month go, who was very unambiguously into me at the start and asked me to ask him out. I thought he had a nice face and I was a bit interested but he's not my usual type and I was still shaking interest in someone else. On our first date he concluded I wasn't interested in him and wasn't worth it, I walked away with the opposite impression and wanted to see more. Next time I saw him in the first 5 minutes he'd told me I don't know what punk music and, upon hearing that I'd gotten a bad performance review from work that I alienate people (totally not th
  6. Hello :) I need some advice regarding my best friend. We've known each other over ten years ago and we've been friends ever since. She has many great qualities, I trust her completely, we are really supportive to one another and we never argue. I know she has some insecurities (who hasn't ?) : she's very possessive so she feels threatened when I meet someone who I get along with because she doesn't like to "share" her friends with someone who's "not worth it" and she has a fear of abandonment. Anyway to set the context, 6 years ago, we were both trying to enter med school but I was th
  7. is it selfish to tell someone that you want to be alone to work on your self over and over again to heal from your previous relationship (the relationship before that) and mental issues? They've been doing it for 4 years they claim they love you and want to be with you. The problem is I need to work on these issues. I also just want to wrap myself up in work hopefully get a second part time job and use my spare time to focus on my kids. Is that selfish? It's not that I don't want to be with the guy. I just don't see how it's possible.
  8. So it was my birthday a couple of weeks ago (quite an important birthday not just any old number) and I’m not sure if my expectations were too high or if I’m just being ungrateful? Basically nothing happened, we did something a couple of days before, but it was something we do every weekend whether it be a special occasion or not. So I figured ‘well nothing happened over the weekend so maybe somethings happening on the day’ Bare in mind I already know there’s no cake so I make my own, no problem, I love baking. The day arrives, I wake up, no happy birthday, no card, no present, no
  9. From few days, I have been getting ill feelings towards every human being. I don't know what is happening to me. People just wanna criticize me. I try to help them but they don't wanna help me. I asked for some advice but only 2 persons helped me. Others just listened to the problem as if they are joining what is happening in my personal life. I feel as if they are so selfish. They just wanna take help but don't wanna help others. Even if they don't have anything to advice,at least words of comfort may help, isn't it? I literally avoid asking for help from people because I don't wanna disturb
  10. My girlfriend left me one year ago, now my best friend left me recently, my family is demanding me time with them because I barely dedicate it to them. I have 4 pets, one a little kitty and they are very demanding. A little more of context: I'm a university student and this semester I'm taking too many courses, so I have my time really strict, although I can withdraw some of them to decrease the academic load. So I'm very conflicted right now because 1. My beat friend left me because I'm not a good friend, I'm selfish and it is VERY hard for me to think about other people, and I hate it.
  11. My fiance dumped me. He stated that to him we are still together and he isn't looking for anyone else and that he love me. We hang out and still communicate. Sometimes we have really good days and forget that we aren't "offical". But that don't sit right with me. I get angry and i feel like if we are going to act like we are together than why can't we be together. He said he is at a mental standstill in his life and need to work on bettering himself and i should do the same. That's cool and all but it don't make sense to me. How are we supposed to better ourselves apart but still be involved i
  12. so 5 and a half weeks ago my friend reversed her car and swung it around and hit my parked car. she damaged the bumper and she smashed the washer housing. she said she would fix it so i didnt go through insurance. now 5 weeks later i told her i was getting impatient and i wanted the washer fixed as i can get points on my license for driving around with no washer if i have an accident. She told me to chill out and that im being OTT....this obviously wound me up. Anyway 2 days later she fixed my washer and now thats ok. but the bumper still needs fixing so i said id like it done in the next 2
  13. Ok so I'm sure some of you have read my post in the relationship thread about my fiance working out of town and us barely talking and so on. Basically what this boils down to is I'm unhappy. I have been extremely stressed due to the fact that he still has not been able to contribute to the Bill's at all. Except maybe $50. Now granted I can see where some of you would say he shouldn't have to pay for any of the bills here, if he's not currently here which I understand. but he's not even trying to help pay our cellphone bill. His solution to the fact that our phones are going to be shutoff is
  14. so I have this guy friend who likes to flirt with me and then do the same to other girls but then he wants that girlfriend treatment from me. I'm wondering why someone would expect that,when you haven't even communicated that to me..smh.Anyway,he likes to talk about other girls he likes and things he'd like to do for them and all that. He gets very paranoid/ curious of any of my prospects.I mean, you are going about talking to other girls and you even have the 'STUPID NERVE" to tell me about them;I think that's selfish Onetime,he asked me to be his wing lady and am just like 😡 But I agreed a
  15. Hey all, First of all I'd like to thank you guys and girls for you advice in advance, it's appreciated. So, me and this girl started seeing each other last year around November time. We started officially dating at the end of December. Everything seems to be going well, but I feel like now maybe the honeymoon period has started to fade and I find myself questioning whether this is going to be the girl for me for the rest of my life. In the past, she has had horrible luck with guys, including someone she spent 4 years of her life with who hurt her physically and mentally, cheating on
  16. I would love to settle down and get married but I'm at a point where I feel I'm carrying a lot of baggage from previous relationships. I'm quite jaded if I'm being honest, I feel like any relationship will just end badly. I don't think it's fair on myself or anyone else to get involved until I feel more optimistic. At the same time I feel if I stay single for years on end I will get selfish and used to having my own way and not be a very good partner in future. I want to have fun and enjoy the company of a partner on a more casual basis but I'm not sure I can pull that off without getting a
  17. Although i've been in a very loving and caring relationship for the last year a pattern is slowly emerging. On a few occasions I have gotten a too drunk with mates and changed plans for the next day because I'm hungover or because I stayed over at my mate's house. These occasions have then led to arguments that seem to be about more than me getting too drunk etc. During a couple of fights we have had, my girlfriend has mentioned how selfish I can be, how I never ask her how her day at work was or social things, and that it's usually always the 'me show'. I've heard this stuff before
  18. I've been wanting a new job but my bf said im selfish and I don't care about him because I didn't think of him and tell him about it before I started looking at new jobs, like if I have to wake up earlier to take the bus I'll wake him up or if he has to drive me there it'll be harder for him, so he wants me to talk to him first before applying to any jobs or getting a new job but this makes me feel controlled... cuz I can't do what I want and I have to pass It thru him first? Doesn't seem right to me, the way I think would be right is to find a job talk to him about it, go for an interview and
  19. Is it normal for me to be in the stage right now where I am so angry for how I am being treated right now. Is it wise to let it be known to my ex how angry and hurt I am and it is for the things she did to me in the last bit and how insensitive and ignorant and selfish they were....Or do I just let it pass...? And How can I be angry and still want her at the same time?? Advice?
  20. Our Guidance Like a pedal, we are fresh and tender, untouched yet so close to ruination Like spirits, floating forever, unaffected by touch, Yet, we are people. Still... in the dark we wander, in light we comprehend. For now we slumber with disregard. When time comes to rise, little light is wanted in these carverns, to guide us towards the light. But ingrained in our culture, influences push us Sacrifice and selflessness, or selfishness and egotistic, we will all reach the light, the passage adjudges us. Your presense makes me flutter, you
  21. we've been broken up for 5 months. we both had faults and i know i hurt him bad but he hurt me no less. i apoligized for my actions and hope that we can be friends but he ignored me for the last 5 months. somehow i still cannot accept him as this selfish person that only thinks of himself and still think of him as a caring person. wat is wrong wiht me?
  22. Hey everyone! I was discussing with my boyfriend when he suddenly asked me in a sarcastic way if I know what’s going on in the world because he knows that normally I’m not interested in hearing the news (specifically politics) or in other words I don’t check them out. Of course sometimes I hear people talk or someone tells me about something or the news just randomly pop on my phone screen. So when he asked me that I said I don’t care about the news and I told you this many times, but recently I’ve heard this and that. Then he started saying that I’m selfish and just think of myself!!! Then
  23. I wonder mostly about long-time members who decided to be a part of this community. Has this forum enriched your lives, and if so, in what way? Sometimes as I write a response here and think "dammit... I should listen to that advice myself!". I had already a couple of revelations, especially when talking to people about self-respect and putting your own needs first. But sometimes I also realize my own past selfishness from another perspective that I was blind to. In this way it works for me like a group therapy - but better, cause it's written and you can always go back to it! When individu
  24. Hello all, First time posting here. I need some opinions. I've been with my bf 3 years. I just moved in with him and recently discovered that I can't stand the idea of sex anymore. I think the reason may be some of the ways he's treated me that I just can't get over. And I don't know if I'm being unreasonable or what. He doesn't have a ton of experience in sex. He was married a long time previously but claims they rarely had sex and I don't think he's had many sexual partners outside of the marriage. We hit it off sexually at first because we are both into kinky stuff like Dom/
  25. Hey guys it's been awhile since I posted on here but I wanted to know if my girlfriend is being wrong for being selfish. So my girlfriend and I recently just started college with full time schedules and part-time jobs as well. We both love our classes since we are Juniors and the campus is amazing to be on. Since the start of the semester she's been upset at me for not having any sexual intimacy or sending sexual texts. She says that she gave up trying to sext me when she's horny since I don't respond in the right way or the conversation doesn't last longer than a minute. Now my issue is t
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