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  1. We met a year and a half ago at work. We pretty much immediately started hanging out as we had the same circle of friends. We then started sleeping together. Neither Of us was wanting anything serious it was purely casual. We both had recently gotten out of long-term relationships. We have created a strong bond between us and I consider him a good friend. To the point where when we both needed a new place to live we decided that we would move in together to help each other. (Que the alarm) it was originally going to be three of us in the apartment. Him and I and one of his friends. That
  2. I know this story is long, I'm sorry! So there's a girl(18) in my(21) class. About a month ago I got her snap and while we were talking that night, I asked if she'd want to do the homework together that week. She said yes and that friday we did just that. We met up at the library, did the homework and talked for a little. I don't think it went bad by any means. Come the next day I replied to a selfie that she posted on her story and we talked for a little until she just sent a picture with nothing. We did that for a little and I eventually just left it on opened. The next day one of my fr
  3. Hi all, Hope all is well. I've been facing something rather interesting with the new roommate. She moved in 2 months ago. During the interview process, she advised that she was living on her own, her lease was up and she wanted to have roommates during the pandemic as living on her own drove her a bit crazy. She was fine the first week and I noticed some odd things: 1. A week after she had moved in, she already asked if she could bring people over during the pandemic. Although not ideal, she invited a person over and then kept inviting her boyfriend unannounced every Thursday evenin
  4. Hi all. I just moved in as roommates with a fellow graduate student a month ago. I am just editing this to simply say that I think I am taken advantage of financially. At the same time, we go to the same school, work with the same people and have the same professional cycle. As a matter of fact, I had felt kind of manipulated into accepting this arrangement. My original plan was to move in a different apartment in the same building, and live alone. I could afford it and still can (his situation is more complicated), but he asked in a way that implied that my continued admission in this profess
  5. This is going to be a long one, I'm sorry but I have nowhere else to turn to. I'm 33, divorced, single for six years, no children, and an extremely small circle consisting of less than a handful of people. For most of these six years I've been okay being single, I get lonely occasionally but as of lately it's really been bothering me. I don't drink so going to a bar is not an option for me cuz I don't enjoy being around people who are drinking, and there doesn't seem to be anywhere else to go to to meet people. I can have conversations with people online, but when it comes down to mee
  6. I (24f) met this guy, J (24m), at a party a week ago. After chatting for the majority of the night, he asked for my number and set a reminder on his phone to text me the next day just in case he forgot (we were both very inebriated). The next day he texted me right when his reminder went off, and we both agreed to get together over the weekend for drinks. I suggested a place and a time, and halfway thru the week he reached out to confirm if we were still on. We ended up having a great time and extending our “date” to a full blown night out with both his friends and mine. His friends all took a
  7. I posted a while back about finding myself in a situationship with a 47 yo divorce with 4 kids. Much of the advice for myself was to steer clear and find a new roommate which for various reasons did not work out. I stayed, and yes-i did continue to sleep with him from time to time, mostly because of validation, being somewhat attracted, feeling insecure doesnt really matter at this point MONTHS AGO A small part of me thought it would lead somewhere, it did..basically into an wildfire that burned everything down. First it was him getting more and more distant, no conversation (hes very
  8. I could really use everyone advice on this… I will be using a FAKE Name Amy for the protection of person whom I have an interest in. So I now have a neighbor who lives next to me. She’s around my age group and she was living with a guy but now has a roommate. When I first moved in I had a friendly meet with her as I let her know that I had just moved in and I was just trying to get to know my neighbors. A few months from there went by with her and I saying hi in passing. One day, I come home and was expecting my amazon package to be at my door and it was stolen. So I made some adjustments b
  9. Hey all, First thread in a really long time. I will keep this short and simple. Recently I met someone who is amazing in so many ways. We were acquaintances for a while. Then she was looking for a place to live, and my previous roommate had just moved out. So I messaged her and told her I have a spare room I rent out if she is interested. She moved in about a month later. Well, in the time she's been living here we have gotten really close. There are nights we've sat out on the porch until 4am talking. She is my age. She's lived a really interesting life. She is intelligent
  10. Alright so I have had this friend since the 7th grade and we have been to high school together and college. Last year was pretty rough because we both went through hard times and didn't speak to each other for 8 months. I also stopped talking to her and even blocked her because of some bad blood with her and old friends we hung out with. However, during this coronavirus pandemic, I decided to reach out because I was concerned about her. So i emailed her and she surprisingly replied back and we have been chatting back and forth since March of this year. She has also been going to counseling so
  11. Am I just being too sensitive? We all just moved in together and mind you, it is our roommate's birthday today. My boyfriend said he was going to call me back after work, but he never did. Lately, its been bothering me that he never calls me after he gets off like he use to. He now just goes straight home and he and our female roommate get off at the same time. I get off later so I usually come home to them hanging out. He forgot to call me back, didn't read any of my texts. He went straight home, gave her the wine for her birthday that we were going to give her together for her birthd
  12. Okay, about 3 weeks post BU and almost as long NC (well...direct NC). I'm hitting alllllll the stages - the highs of feeling like I'm okay, I'm taking the steps to grow my passions and work on understanding/bettering my own personal problems and role in relationships, and feel I can handle this grief process head on, and then all the other chaotic and sometimes conflicting emotions of denial, sadness, anger, compassion, distraction, and so forth come crashing in. So, so exhausting. Anyway, a common denominator is RUMINATING. I am a regular meditator and I STILL cannot stop obsessing over 'si
  13. I recently broke up with my GF of ~5 years. We had had a long distance relationship for much of that time. A bit over a year ago we moved to the same state, though not the same city. I moved here largely at her urging -- I was just beginning graduate school, and I had been planning on going somewhere else, but she convinced me that we needed to be near each other. So I moved to be near her and she started giving me the cold shoulder as soon as I get here. I was not allowed to meet her friends, and within six months of moving here I get dumped. This is, to be honest, not really a surprise.
  14. So, I have a friend who I love dearly, partially as a good friend and partially like a son. He's a really, really sweet guy who cares about others. But he's making some bad decisions and is constantly going back and forth about what he wants to do with his life. The going back and forth doesn't bother me much...he's doing pretty well in his current position so I don't see that as much of an issue even though he seems to change his mind every five minutes about what he wants to do with his life. It's his life path and whatever career he chooses or wherever he wants to live has no beari
  15. I'm really questioning whether or not to continue this friendship. He's been like my best friend for 25 years. We used to hang out every day. Things started getting different after we bought a house together (his idea). After only living together for 2 years, he suddenly tells me he is going to buy a house with another friend, this guy that he only knew for a few months. So it's been about 10 years since that guy came into his life, and we have still hung out, just not as much. I have noticed over the years that my friend doesn't seem to care what is happening in my life, he NEVER asks how
  16. I'm 28 still live with my parents . Even though I make almost 19/hr. I only make about 2000 a month after taxes/ health insurance . I saved about 7000 and am looking to move out. I live in Southern California , so the rent is sky high . Can I survive renting a place that's 1050 ? My car is paid off . So after bills/ food might be left with like 200 bucks . I don't really want a roommate but that might be more of a realistic choice
  17. So I'm really stressed and sad. It all started 3 days ago when o came home from a long day at work and fell asleep after my shower. I left my keys on the table and didn't think nothing of it because I never had any problems with doing that. I woke up the next day and found my keys in the same spot I had left them. I got ready for work and went out to my car and noticed that things were in my car that I didn't leave in there. The first thing I did was checked my wallet ( I keep my wallet in my car because I feel safer with it in my car rather than in the house & I will later tell you why),
  18. I am about to start my second year of college. Last year I stayed in a dorm with one roommate. For this year, three friends invited me to live with them in their apartment, so long as I buy my own food. They also recommended that I sign up for meals at the dinning hall. My odd quirk is that I eat a lot, so much that it sometimes annoys my friends. I grew up in a family that ate a lot. We ate five meals a day which didn't seem odd to us at all. It didn't seem odd to me at the time. We had breakfast, lunch at school, lunch after school, dinner, and a bed time snack. None of us are fat. It may
  19. A few months ago, I was having difficulty finding a place to live and my best friend offered his place as temporary housing. We've known each other for 5 years and we get along really well so naturally I've become really close with him. He has had a girlfriend while we were friends and there has been nothing remotely romantic about our relationship. The apartment that I moved into had two rooms - my best friend's room and his roommate's room. He gave me his room to stay in while he slept in his roommate's bed. This was really nice of him but it's not odd because he is in general a really n
  20. We've been together for five years and we're still really close, but the romance is almost non existant. We never cuddle, if I try to kiss him he'll give me a peck but nothing passionate and we barely have sex. He says he's tired and I understand that, but I'm worried he's not attracted to me anymore. I've brought it up but he gets defensive whenever I say anything is wrong. When we argue he always talks down to me and has these little comments that just bring me down to the dirt and make me feel awful. I know he cares about me and he's a good guy but he lets his anger get the best of him and
  21. I've been with my fiancé for over 4 years now. He proposed to me a year and half ago and I'm not quite sure if there is enough substance to actually make any wedding plans in the near future. I realize that there is no perfect relationship and one must be strong when times are rough, but I've got too many unanswered questions. I'm just not sure what to do... He is a bit of a mystery to me. Elusive, withdrawn, empty, cold, and aloof are all words that come to my mind when I describe his character. We both are not big talkers, so communication is not our strong suit. However, I would like to h
  22. I'm starting college in September and I'm having really bad social anxiety all of a sudden. I've never had any type of social anxiety before so this is extremely new. I'm attending a very liberal college that is known for trans students and their LGBT scene. I got assigned a roommate and this person flat out said they weren't comfortable with straight people and then changed rooms. I was really planning on whoever is assigned my roommate to be my friend for the first few months since its all very new and now I don't have a roommate and it's giving me anxiety. There's a online forum for
  23. Hi guys, I'm not feeling too well today and I am in serious need of guidance because I cannot assess the situation properly/rationally at this stage. A few months ago, I moved to a foreign country for work after being stuck at my parents' abusive home for nearly 8 months of unemployment. I left on bad terms and I therefore have since cut ties. It was a relief when I finally landed a temporary position abroad. During the first two months of me being here, I had a successful interview with a major company which later gave me a verbal offer. The ordeal started when the company did not mana
  24. My girlfriend that I've been with for the past 4 months told me tonight that it was kind of heated between her and her roommate so she didn't want to go back to her house for the night. It just so happened that her friends (a married couple who she met at work about a year ago waitressing) came into town to visit since they live quite some distance. She met up with them and then she tells me she's going to get a hotel room with them for the night. Is it me or is that strange?
  25. So, I live in an amazing 3 bedroom, 3 bath house near the beach. I have an awesome teenage son that lives with me for one week on, one week off. Even when it's my week, he's rarely home. So I found myself alone a lot in this large home, just me and my dog. I had a friend who had a friend that needed a place to stay pretty much right away. We met, we clicked and decided she'd move in. She pays a reasonable rate for the area, etc. She's in her 30's a really nice girl. When she first moved in she went out a LOT, she'd leave on Friday and I wouldn't see her again till Monday. Well, late
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