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I have two kids that were not my ex's kids. They were very attached to him and even knew that they were going to be in our wedding. When we broke up I knew it was best that they have no contact with him. So I just explained that while he loved them very much he wasn't going to be around anymore because he decided that he didn't want to marry mommy. It's hard, but it is for the best. He's not her father and if he doesn't ask to see her, then you shouldn't put that on either of them.

I was with someone else after my ex broke up with me. I wish that I hadn't been, but he was with someone else too. If we get back together, I hope we can both get over that. Sometimes you do stupid things when you aren't sure of what you want in life. Two weeks is a short time, but if that's a deal breaker for you, then this wouldn't work anyway. If you really love her and want to be with her, you'd get over it.

I'm glad you ignored this. He is feeling lonely and wants to make sure you are too. Don't let him know either way. Delete it and don't say a word!

I saw that movie right after my fiance broke up with me! Not the best time to see it! LOL! I loved it and I loved the ending. It just goes to show you that people can change, everyone makes mistakes, and only we know how much we can forgive.

I wasn't arguing with you, I was just stating is so that other people know that it is not $50 now. Also the release date is October 1st 2006 so it hasn't been out for that long. I don't think that the creator of this movie and book thinks that she is presenting anything new. I also checked out quite a few of the teachers individual websites and they all seem like very intelligent people. I listened to a sermon by Dr. Michael Beckwith and it was riveting.

It's only $29 on the secret website.

I only paid $25 so I don't know where you bought it for $50! I don't really recommend the DVD because I think the images are a little silly, I prefer the book which has the same material without the nutty images.

I'd say as someone else did that she is more in love with the idea of getting married, than being married. I think that this is a big problem and I'm not sure I'd want to marry this woman. I have been married once and engaged twice. My second ring was much larger and much nicer than my first, but I loved both rings and didn't care one bit about its size. I jokingly told my second fiance that my ring should be nicer than my first one, but I would have taken a ring from a soda bottle if he'd given it to me. He even offered to upgrade it later and I told him I was never taking it off. It's very selfish of her to demand a better ring and tell you that she was unhappy with the one you gave her to express your love. It sounds like she has a lot of maturing to do before she is ready to get married.

Perhaps you could use it to ask that the universe allow your ex to see you as you are now and not who you were then?

Well I felt like I needed to start with the "if" to make sure I was not messing with his free will. I put out into the Universe that I wanted to know that he still loved me and that he hadn't moved on. I found out by doing that that he does. So now I say that we are going to be happy together forever. I have complete faith that we will be together. I feel like you have to be careful when dealing with a specific person. I don't think you can change someone's free will, but since I don't know for sure, I didn't want to risk it. I have written out what our life will be like and what will change for us to make things better. I'm very positive about the whole thing. Funny thing happened to me at the gym last night. My ex does some MCing for a local baseball team and I always went to all of the games with him. I got very attached to the team and some of the people involved with it. I was so upset over not going there with him this season. I saw a guy at the gym who is involved with the team (he does not know the ex and I aren't together) and he said something about it getting close to baseball season. I said, "Yes it is, can't wait to go to the games". I'd never be able to go to the games if I wasn't with my ex, it would be too painful. But since we will be together, I had no hesitation

You said it all perfectly Lady00 and its a lot of what SuperDave has said for a very long time. One of the key things you mentioned was desperation. I watched an Oprah After the Show on the Secret and one of the panelists mentioned what desperation does for you...which is nothing. If you "need" the person in your life, then you are projecting the desperation and will only attract more desperation. That's why I think a period of NC is important. You need to evaluate yourself and what you really want. You need to forgive and thank the other person for the experience. You need to learn from it. You need to see that that person does not define you or your life. Once you have done that you will be putting a different vibe out into the world and you may attract your ex back through that.

I know!

I wasn't trying too! Just want people to know that yes they are making money off of it, but they aren't trying to spin it as something new! LOL! Hope I didn't offend! I find the DVD a little odd, but I think the message is still a good one. I like hearing it in the way they present it. I have the DVD and the book, and personally prefer the book.

Well Dave once you watch it you will see that they don't claim that it is new. The creator of the DVD just wanted to make more people aware of it so she put it in a form that was more accessible.

See I believe that my ex was already in love with me. I created my reality of losing him because it is what I feared most. I asked to hear from him again if he still loved me, and the universe delivered. I don't think I would have heard from him if he didn't still love me. I have not asked him to come back or attempted to manipulate him in any way. I only used the LOA to see if the feelings were still there. I do not want to manipulate him in any way.