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  1. So I've been in a relationship with a girl for nearly 5 months. I'm a 29 years old and this is my first serious relationship. To give some context until age 23 I used to be a hopeless romantic. Since then however I'v focussed on getting control of my life and I'm in a far better place, mentally, physically, financially and personally. I'm very clear on my goals, what I want out of life, and I'd like to believe mature enough to recognise the insecurities from the past when I have them. So, I started to see this girl from a conservative family and she still lives at home being from such
  2. Hello all Im sure this isn't a new unique situation to some people, and I'm sure everyone will be screaming the same answer at me. I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for nearly 4 years now and things have been getting progressively worse under the surface while remaining happy in the outside. I'm in a total rut right now and honestly, the prospect of what I have to do terrifies me. Arguments are a regular accurence now, and honest communication between us is impossible now because I have to be so careful about what I say as she gets very verbally aggresive towards m
  3. I am a 45 year old woman professional and in great shape. I recently met a 23 year old male at a restaurant that I frequent (he works there) and he has been pursuing me. At first I was bit freaked about the age difference, but now find him quite attractive. Im really out of the dating game, but want to check this guy out. My last relationship was with a man, similar to my age who is gay and has never come out. Im looking to have some fun and enjoy life while you can in these crazy Covid times. I find engaging with this man a little odd. Is this what 23 year old do? FaceTime f
  4. Greetings, enotaloners! This is the first time I’m gathering up the courage to post a message in here, although, like so many of us, I’ve been lurking around for ages, parsing through topics and messages and soaking up the wisdom you beautiful people are always kind enough to share. I must admit there have been many dark moments in my life over the years when the enotalone forum was a virtual lifeline keeping me afloat. The issue that brought me here today is probably as trivial and cliché as it can get. But for some reason, it’s starting to get the better of me, and clouding my judgem
  5. I'm in my early 20s and am absolutely fed up with the way my male peers treat and look at me. I've only been with one guy in my entire life but before and after our relationship, I was always ogled, groped, and treated like a sex object. I never understood why guys would perceive me this way because I am incredibly shy and introverted. People mainly describe me as shy and sweet as well because of my youthful appearance. Ironically, guys my age and older will sometimes lead me on after socializing with them by asking to pick me up to their apartments, go out on dates, and eventually spend t
  6. Okay - question time: I have tried to rekindle things with my ex. It's been rocky to say the least. He reached out to me after being dumped by his girlfriend late Jan 2020 (I had been in NC since October 30th). I determined I wouldn't make the same mistakes as before - given that we're long distance - I committed to actually seeing him in person. I succeeded in visiting him twice. Both times - they were rough. We had our differences. I had difficulties dealing with his hot and cold behaviours. It was really hard on me. He admitted that he was being mean to me - and felt bad about it.
  7. I was with my ex for 4 years, we split up 9 months ago. For the past 9 months we have been meeting and sleeping with each other. He knew I wanted him back and still loved him but he didnt want a relationship. He started to go cold on me a couple of weeks ago not taking hours to message back not really commiting to any meet ups saying he was busy. I did go round his house and found another girl there. I did lose the plot and screamed a lot. He said she was just a friend he was helping. I asked him to never contact me again and was heartbroken. I have since spoke asking if we can work things out
  8. Today my boyfriend of a year and seven months broke up with me over messenger. He said due to Corona virus and it affecting us being apart he had time to reflect how we’re two different people. He’s not wrong I want a relationship that’s more settled where he’s more of a nomad. Besides logistics though he never wanted to get engaged to me. He said he wasn’t ready to be married. I’ve been down this road before and it’s not my first rodeo where a guy leads me on but keeps making excuses to why he won’t commit. I’m just older and wiser to cut it off before it progresses any further. I
  9. Many of you know the story of my life. I can’t seem to place my dad on a level of abuse scale. He did deny us necessities of life like food and clothing . He heaped mental and emotional abuse on us but 99% of the physical abuse was saved for our mom. He did try to sexually fondle me once but saw the look of horror on my face immediately stopped and never did it again. ( non of my family knows that detail) He committed parental kidnapping. I have no emotional feeling about any of it most of the time due to treatment, occasionally I get angry when he adds strife to my life. I feel though
  10. A three year relationship of mine just ended, again, and I'm really emotional about it now. I'd seen this looming and thought I could handle it, but as soon at she came to pick up her things, I felt overwhelming grief. All of the things I'd thought were too much work to do toward the end of the the conflicts I'd let go unresolved, all the petty annoyances that I'd let build, all the complaints or cries for attention on her part, became deafening. Obviously, I've reached out to see if she'd like to try again, but shes done, and I don't blame her. I have this pattern of becoming distant or aloo
  11. I have been seeing the same guy for about 6 months now. About 2 months in I learned that he recently ended a 5 year long term relationship 3 months before we met and he didn’t want anything serious right now. We started out as simply friends, but had already moved past the friend zone before knowing this. I considered ending what we had at that time, but something intuitively told me otherwise. I thoroughly enjoy spending time with this person and we both are in our early/mid 20s still going through school and figuring out life. To me, it was worth spending time and enjoying each other’s compa
  12. Yesterday I met with a guy I’ve been on/off dating for about six months. He’s a doctor and had been dealing with Covid patients, so for the last few months we’d been texting but not much more. (I’ve posted about this before) So we met yesterday morning for a walk. He is finishing his current medical rotation at the end of the month, and starting a new, challenging position in a hospital about an hour away at the beginning of next month. I asked him where he saw dating going for him with all the changes he’s got going on at the moment, and we had a very open and honest chat. He said at t
  13. I have been hooking up with a friend of mine for the past two months. We were already good friends before we started sleeping together. Yesterday he joked and said that he never put any effort in the sex. I was quite hurt by that and started to ask what was really going on. At first he didn’t want to tell because I probably wouldn’t understand. He told me that it took him effort and commitment to sleep with me. During the act he enjoyed it because he likes sex a lot in general. I am trying to understand what he means, because this sounds pretty bad to me.To me it sounds like he only did it to
  14. I’ve been dating my girlfriend for a year and we’ve been an exclusive couple for just over 6-months. We’re both in our early 30s and she has a teenage daughter from a previous relationship. Reflecting back, it took me a while to commit as I had reservations about taking on a step-dad role, and I wasn’t 100% convinced we had the passionate spark we all look for. Although I enjoyed the bachelor life and all the associated perks, 6-months in I decided to commit fully. I concluded I was be silly not to. She’s attractive, incredibly kind and extremely fun too. She really is an incredible pe
  15. So... this is my new journal. I am writing with double vision while I wait for my new scrip to arrive. I don't know if I will use this space. Or how. No commitments. Came here to say Wow. He steps up in so many ways, he works hard to understand me, I am so happy in his company, and I am happy to have him as my partner. He has met my boss at work, my besties are hearing about him and meeting him, and I am comfortable with all. My bff with most familiarity is telling me not to screw it up; his bff is saying the same to him. I am so happy with my choice.
  16. Hey peeps, Hope everyone is well here, so i have been chatting to a few girls, going to pubs with friends, gyming 5 days a week which is going good but I still cant connect with female wherever I go :-( Man, women are always complimenting me on how good looking I am, how dedicated I am to keeping a healthy lifestyle, some even wanted a serious relationship lol but here's the thing, as soon as a woman gets close to me I pull away and shut myself off from her, and I had a few they could have me so happy, the one I really liked, who knows my back story, now has bf :-( we still friends but
  17. This is not going to be a rant as I have already had my share of ranting offline, this is more of a unanimous decision from the unbiased online audience, while this maybe subjective but I will just try to keep it short and simple I have been "seeing" this girl for a good 5 months now and in the beginning it was all very casual, I didn't have any hopes or wasn't even seeking anything but things started to develop, that's how usually things happen to me -- you don't expect it or want it but eventually it does happen and I fell for her While she stated in the beginning she is a free spirit
  18. How do i start. A friend passed away about a month ago now, some say he committed suicide, some say it’s suspicious. Who knows. And it was hard to accept because life was just starting to look up for him and all... so you know, like why do it right? And that’s when it started. My own attempts were about 20+ years ago. And i guess ever since then it’s been about really trying to move forward and making life better and blah blah blah. And then it hit me. What’s the point? It seems like i fell into a hole of everything is meaningless. All i want is love. People are horrid to each other. Nobo
  19. Hi All, I'll give you a bit of a background first. I met my girlfriend almost 4 years ago and she is the nicest and most genuine person I have ever known, she is the perfect partner and I can see a long life with her. Previous to meeting her I was single for a good 4 years. We both have young children from previous that get on amazing well. She moved her life to be nearer me and fully committed herself to our relationship. Rewind 3 years from now and I did the worst thinkable thing to our relationship, I was unfaithful twice within the first year of dating, owning up to kissing at the time
  20. Hi all, I’m 25(M) and she is 24(F). To cut to the chase, I dated a girl for about 13 months. During this time, we developed a deep love and care for each other, but ultimately ended things *somewhat* mutually (I initiated it) predominately due to the fact that she refused to open up with me and connect as she was afraid to (both because of her holding on to and amplifying our past conflicts, in addition to her overall announcing that she has commitment issues). She still cares for me very much, and vice versa as does her whole family. I have ALWAYS blocked my exes on everything, but in this
  21. So long story short.. ish. Me and my ex were together for a year and half.. well I say together, he was somewhat on and off with me. We met in a house share and were the best of friends in the beginning before taking it further. He hadn't been in a relationship with a woman for 4 years before me, hadn't even been with a woman in that time so I understood his desire to take things slow. He never really wanted to take me out, didn't want to do the little things, didn't care for me in a way i clearly cared for him. Nonetheless he told me he felt he's met the one, he was struggling to let
  22. I dated a girl for about a month recently who I met online. She lives fairly close, 40min drive and on average we saw each other every other day. She has two kids. We hit it off instantly and our relationship became emotional intense very quickly. In my 35 years I've never experienced anything so intense on an emotional scale this fast and neither did she. We never became intimate. We both have anxiety issues. She definitely has major relationship issues having been cheating on multiple times, admitted to never being in a healthy committed relationship, and she revealed she had recently had
  23. Hi there, My partner and I have been together for ten years now, and are yet to have sex. We are both committed to each other, and love each other very much. This issue has been very hard to deal with for a long time now. My self confidence is always shot, and paranoia always takes over, but we have both been faithful to each other this whole time. I don't want to sound like that is all I want from this relationship, because if that were true, I would have moved on a long time ago, but it is a step I want for the both of us. But she has no interest. When we are intement, (which is v
  24. Hi, I am currently in a relationship with my boyfriend for a little over a year now. The first 7 months were great. We went out a lot and really enjoyed each others company. We also got to know each other's past during this time. Me: My status was recently divorced, have 1 child, and went out on a few dates with one other person before I met my current boyfriend. The first person was never a hookup nor did it get any further than a few dates. It was just an interest that didn't go any where. My current partner: He's had several relationships that were broken up due to infidelity. H
  25. My ex broke up with me two months ago. At first there was no contact, now we see eachother about once a week. She broke up with me because she suffers from poor self image and depression after being cheated on by her former partner, and raised by emotionally neglectful parents. She feels she is also selfish and emotionally neglectful, and that she's doing best by letting me go. She believed that she made me unhappy, and that I was better off finding someone better. No amount of discussion, demonstrating how I want to be with her, supporting her through her own struggles etc. would convince he
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