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  1. michelemybell
    The pill can be taken up to 72 hours after unprotected sex. It is more effective the earlier you take it. Is there any other place you can go to take it??
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    Despite your feelings Angsad, he is the father of your child and has rights to the child. You also can't keep a child from their father (unless of course, he's doing something illegal). Have you ever heard the saying "When you lay with dogs, all you get are fleas"? I know you have feelings for this guy, but unfortunately love isn't enough---You have to look at the entire person and their history. He has a DUI. He left a wife with four children, and had another child with someone who is fighting for child support. THIS ISNT A GOOD GUY. He is selfish and a liar, and likes his cake and eat it too. He knows how to play women, so they end up confused like you and they sympathize with him and want to save him. Despite your feelings that it is different between you and him from the other women, it isn't. My suggestion is that you seek help with dealing with this and to look at the situation and who you are dealing with realistically.
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    The definition of rebound is "to recover from setback or frustration" so his relationship may be classified as a rebound. I think he's in the honeymoon stage of the relationship, and is up for a rude awakening. He doesn't really know this woman. Life is going to suck for him really soon. I'm sorry you are going through this Tigronette. I agree with the other posters--This is a blessing in disguise for you, even though it doesn't feel too good right now. All I can say is that you're better off without him--Any guy who does this doesn't sound like a winner to me.
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    Honestly, if I were in your shoes I'd not go back to her. For several reasons: 1) She left you for another guy. Sure, maybe she just needed to see what was out there to appreciate you, but who can tell that she wont do it again? You wont be able to trust her. 2) She needs to get her act together. She doesn't sound like she knows what she wants and sounds very confused. And I'm sure she has a lot of issues you havent listed here. You need a healthy woman as a girlfriend. Until she has it together, I guarantee you will wind up being dumped again while she once again tries to figure herself out. And she left you to date a psychopath (and if that story is false, than she needs some serious help). Need I say more?? You dont need that kind of drama in your life. You can be a friend, but honestly I wouldn't get back together with her in hopes of saving her. I know you want her, but what you really need is a healthy girlfriend who knows what she wants and isn't lost and confused. It never works out with someone like that. Just my two cents!!!
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    NB, I absolutely am not suggesting that. I think women now just have more options and are using them. Not all women are like that. You just have to weed through the bad ones. Just like women do with men. Men dump women all the time because the sexual chemistry fades, even if everything else is good. You can't generalize.
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    Oh how we can all relate to that one!!!! Thanks studygirl for posting it!
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    It's interesting reading your posts because men have always done this to women!
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    Hi Salmon, The thing is you wont be able to click it away from your brain instantly. It's unrealistic to expect that. A healthier approach is to start getting back into your normal routine, even if your still carrying feelings for your ex. You might always carry a little something for him---but if you're able to function while doing so, then you're on the right path to "moving on". I dont understand why some people (including myself) had relationships that were making us feel bad about ourselves, yet we miss it?? It sounds like your life is 100 percent better without this guy. He would've destroyed you. I know women like that and they wonder where their lives have gone and they end up wishing they did something better with their lives. I've seen women give up their whole lives for a bum like your ex and all they have are deep wrinkles and major depression, and nothing much else to show for it. Your ex might've been cute and sexy and made you feel good temporarily and all that, but do you really want to give up your whole life and happiness for someone who is going nowhere fast, doesn't care and probably wouldn't do the same thing for anybody else, including you?? Let someone else deal with him and try to fix him. Let them make it a mission of their life. You got more important things to do. Take care, Michele
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    allmessedup, I hope you didn't mean you are too old for even college (which offers counseling services)! I'm back in college right now for my second degree and I love it! I'm 34. School might be something to look into to get your mind off of your breakup, and will give you hope and something to look forward to.
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    Thank you Bella Donna for the info.
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    I remember reading somewhere that it took Gwyneth Paltrow five years to get over her breakup with Brad Pitt!! Yikes!! Hopefully it wont be that long, but it will take some time for you to heal. The pain wont instantly go away--You just gotta keep on doing things and slowly getting out there, even if the pain follows you around. Eventually it gets easier.
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    True true DN--That's why I said it depends on the situation.
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    I guess it's more common than I thought--I heard a story that a friend was so drunk, he got up and took a piss on his best friend who was sleeping on the couch!! No one ever told the guy who peed what he did to his friend (to save him the embarrassment) and apparently, he didn't know he did it either since he never mentioned doing it--He was that drunk!!! My friend's boyfriend also peed in the bed when he was totally drunk. I guess it's a lesson learned---Dont sleep near someone who is that drunk!! And in case you are peed on, remember that urine is sterile and wont kill you---as gross as it may seem!
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    It depends on the situation DN---but in all honesty, if he is giving her "come here, go away" mixed messages, it sounds like he wants his space. Guys who are sure they want to be with you and want to work it through, wont do this. She can try to work it through and try to get him to a counselor, but I highly doubt it he's going to want to do that--not right now. Honestly, if I was in this situation (and yes, I have been!) I would take Hoppy's advice. There is a very good book on how to deal with an "ambivalent Man" (one that is starting to give you ambivalent messages--one minute he wants you, next minute he's not too sure)--It's called Dont Call That Man by Rhonda Findling. It explains why NO CONTACT is good in this situation--and might actually save the relationship. Trying to work it through at this point might actually drive him away.
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    If it's a one-time thing, who cares. But if he does it consistently while drunk, then I would break up with him for the fact that he has a drinking problem. One added thing: When you're in a long-term relationship with someone, you'll begin to notice a lot of things about that person that may gross you out. For example, your "knight in shining armor" will fart and throw up and have bouts in the bathroom that YOU WILL HEAR. You have to learn to accept flaws in others to have a relationship with them.
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    I have the BFL book for women, but I've only skimmed it so far. However, it does seem different from the original BFL book---It doesn't seem as intense with the workouts, and it doesn't plug the BFL products (at least I didn't see it in my quick skim of the book). One of the main things I didn't like about the BFL program was it's promotion of its products, which contain creatine. I've heard different stories about the benefits/side effects of using creatine--I'm sure people have had positive experiences with this supplement, but I wont use it. The BFL program does give an alternative to taking creatine--it's actually combining protein with a carb/starch six times a day. I may be mistaken, but the book for women seems like a maintenance program for women who went through the original BFL program. I would start with the first book if you really want to follow the program. Also, I think the BFL book for women is based on a lot of common sense. From your post it already seems like you're doing the right things. Maybe work in some new exercises and sports into your routine.
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    Depends how much you can tolerate being there. I would advise the same as BellaDonna, but if the job is that bad (and you can't control your anger there) and you have money to fall back on for awhile, then make your full-time job looking for another job. You will find another job. Get access to your school's career center listings. Maybe instead of looking for jobs outside of your field, why not look for other job titles. Maybe you can't find managerial jobs because the jobs you are seeking want someone with more work experience? (I dont know your background, so this may not be the case). Congratulations on graduating! Dont let this one bad job get you down.
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    Good post Smickey. I'm glad that you got out of that downward spiral. Just be glad that you found out what you were really dealing with and he's not your problem anymore. I'm glad you are doing better. Talia, I agree with the other posters. We want you to get out of this mess and be healthy. We think you have more potential than this guy. We want you to go down a better path.
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    Very true Jordan--It depends on your pace. There are some songs from Linkin Park, for instance, that are way too "aggressive" for a casual jog!
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    Yep, Green Day is a good one. Black-eyed Peas is a good choice. I also like U2 and Linkin Park. My favorite workout song is Fighter by Christina Aguilera.
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    An added note: Two books I highly recommend are Don't Call That Man from Rhonda Findling, and Ten Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up Their Lives by Dr. Laura Schlessinger. Two wonderful books describing how to get through the experience you are going through now, and how to make the right choices in men.
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    pizza, what scares me about your post is that you said he kicked you off the bed and "sorta" choked you...and you still want to be even 10 feet near a guy who does this? I urge you to speak to your parents about why you feel compelled to be around a guy who does this, and seriously consider getting some counseling. This isn't right, and it will set the tone for your future relationships and how you allow men to treat you. Instead of being upset, you should be able to walk away from this kind of relationship with relief and confidence that you did the right thing. As far as heartache, the only thing you can do is stay away from this guy, and after some time you see this relationship in a realistic light---that this guy wasn't right for you (or any girl for that matter!). You will get through this. Just remember, you deserve waaaaay better than this!!!
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    Hi Rhonda, Thank you for coming to this board. I frequented the message board on your Web site (link removed) and I wanted to thank you for getting me through a rough period in my life with the WRONG person. I got married to a wonderful guy and I'm doing well in school. There is life after an ambivalent man!! Michele (michelemybell)
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    pianoguy, This is a huge lesson you gotta learn to stay sane: Stay strong in your beliefs, but dont let other people get you down. It doesn't matter what you do in life--Someone is always going to have an opinion about it or not agree with it or not like what you do. We all go through it with everything. Just accept that you wont be accepted by everyone...and you'll be fine either way. I've learned it's an impossible task to be liked by everyone, and will only destroy you if you try to do so. You cant live for others. Accept that others disagree and walk away.
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    I'm a woman responding to your post...but I think that guys (and girls) who just do it screw over themselves in the long run. When you just do it, the meaning and value of sex gets lost. It just becomes sex, nothing else. It's a huge difference when you have sex with someone who you care for and love, then with someone who you dont have deeper feelings for.
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