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  1. lonelyandblue
    You need to do something to show her you will not accept this behavior anymore. If it comes to cussing at her so be it. But I would try other ways first. I had a similar ordeal with a cousin of mine. Always putting me down for stupid stuff. So finally, I stopped avoiding it and I started calling her on it loud and clear. And she got pissed and stalked off and guess what? No more probs. Also, I stopped hanging around this person at all. And life is better for it. Good Luck. I hope you find the right solution for you. But do something for you. Even if it is just, "Grandma, I like myself as I am thank you very much." And say it strong and then leave it alone.
  2. lonelyandblue
    oh, I do the same thing. I wish it would stop because some dreams are so intense. Only, I dream of my ex because things, in my opinion aren't going well in my marriage. Not very compatible. And this other person and I were more compatible. I am so glad I am not alone, even though I am sorry you are in this situation.
  3. lonelyandblue
    I wonder if you could search for your biological family and if so, if that would be a good option? Also, I was molested as a child once by a family friend and once by my own dad. And my dad's family do everything within their power to reject me. I was wishing I was adopted so at least everyone had a solid reason (no reason is good) for me being different/disliked. So I know all to well how you feel. Counseling didn't help me either as she sat and looked at me with no emotion/understanding. YOu may IM me anytime if you want an encouraging word or support. I also agree with bi_pusseecat, you have to take back your power and give life all you've got. We only get one ride around.
  4. lonelyandblue
    I wonder if traveling is an option for you. You could learn a lot and have a lot of fun. And when you come back home, you'll have new stories to tell.
  5. lonelyandblue
    That is strange. You would think that if she was bi, she would have told you in the beginning. I wonder if she made a bi friend, and wanted a way to fit in with them better???
  6. lonelyandblue
    You guys both sound confused as to what you want. But if you do decide to get back together, then talk a lot first.
  7. lonelyandblue
    Sounds like you are real lonely. Sometimes you just have to create your own place to call home. You are probably a nice guy and you just seem depressed. I hope that things get better for you.
  8. lonelyandblue
    Yes, kissing is a strong way to show your affection for another. It is so nice. When you try it, you will see. And someday you will get your chance.
  9. lonelyandblue
    Could you consider moving? That way she wouldn't be right next door all the time as a constant reminder. If she won't talk to you alone, then that's not a good sign. Sounds pretty mean. I'd move on, and look for someone a little more respectful.
  10. lonelyandblue
    Congradulations! Sounds like good news. I hope that all goes well.
  11. lonelyandblue
    It sounds like she likes you and is shy. Does she ever blush when she looks away?
  12. lonelyandblue
    I don't think I would say anything, seeing as how he already has a girl friend. You should apologize for the rude behavior though. Just say you were overwhelmed at the time you spoke with him. Later, if he brakes up with his girlfriend, you might have an opportunity. But for now, try to get your own boyfriend and enjoy your new life.
  13. lonelyandblue
    It sounds like she does want you back. The best way to get her back would be to keep doing what your doing, but kiss her. But, if she is still with someone watch out. That should be resolved first.
  14. lonelyandblue
    All I can think of for advice would be to try and not take advantage of anyone. You don't know how long you will be on this planet for. And you don't know when the last time you'll see someone is. So try to make every encounter as nice as possible. This includes family and friends, not just potential girlfriends/wives.
  15. lonelyandblue
    Sorry to hear about this Gav. Who knows why people do what they do? I would like to encourage you to use this time to yourself to your advantage, though. Like re-discover your likes and dislikes, self improvement time. That way maybe you can be more of a "whole" person when you enter a new relationship farther down the road.
  16. lonelyandblue
    May I suggest trying to find someone nearer your own age? It is a possiblity you are looking either too young or too old and need to look for someone closer in age. Maybe then you will find someone a little more compatible.
  17. lonelyandblue
    I think part of life is learning how to deal with loneliness. I think everyone experiences it. About this girl though, try to quit letting her know how you feel. And don't always be open to what your friends are wanting to do. That way you let them know you have your own things going on, too. (even if you really don't). Hope that things get better for you soon.
  18. lonelyandblue
    Definetly break up with him and initiate no contact. I can tell he is very unhealthy by the temper flares and him cursing at you. Back out now.
  19. lonelyandblue
    To give you some background, when I was a child I lived with a controlling mother who had multiple mental problems and a father who ignored me. I had a brother that I practically raised myself due to these facts. I was molested by a family"friend" at church of all places. And once again later as I was a teenager by my own father. So, now, I feel like I married my current husband to "escape" my horrible plights at home. I only feel like this because down the road, I find we have NOTHING in common and we argue about what kind of meals we are going to eat! Only to end up where? You guessed it. In the same place pretty much. Friday/Saturday Night,my husband was upset because he can't stand my 2 3/4 old daughters crying and he gets in her face to tell her to stop, and I told him to back off. Anyway he grabs me by the "scruff" (SP?) of the neck like a cat and says if I ever get in his face again, and I said then what? And he said something like he'll hit me, etc. And I said then I will grab my daughter and myself up and we will go for a long drive. And that was that. Except for after he did that to my neck, it was very sore, and it turned into a headache. So I had to go to bed early,and from then on I haven't felt normal. I feel like he kind of made me retarded in a sense. I know it sounds nuts, sorry, but it's true. I feel like I am thinking a lot slower than I used to be able too. After all of this, I feel crazy too, because then he acts like nothing happened and we are perfectly normal.
  20. lonelyandblue
    My husband and I had something like this happen ( I was the bad one, too) But anyways, things like this don't die easily. It still bothers both of us what happened. So as hard as it is, I would make a clean break on as good of terms as possible. Keep in mind I sould be wrong and to follow your heart. Just trying to give a little insight.
  21. lonelyandblue
    Laugh Out Loud!! That is so true! How funny!
  22. lonelyandblue
    This man is obviously just not ready for any relationship right now. He is worried about relocating and making some money for his livelihood. If you need intimacy right now, I would look elsewhere. Later, if you still are single and he comes alive, you might have a chance. If not, there are a lot of fish in the sea.....
  23. lonelyandblue
    I agree with Dave. You've invested enough time into this man. Move on. Be happy. Find someone who wants to give, share, and be loved also.
  24. lonelyandblue
    She is very wise. I never thought that it would change between my husband and I, but seven years later, I am very unhappy. Things do change. Things you wouldn't even think about.
  25. lonelyandblue
    First and foremost, don't bring it up to your friends anymore. It is hard to learn but you must;it is not good to hsare what is going bad in your relationship unless say it is abuse or something very serious. Otherwise, they will keep doing this. For now, maybe ignore any statements made and change the subject whenever they try to bring it up. Or say something like the past is the past, let it go already, I have. Hope that helps.
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