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He says that he's embarrassed that she has to see us fight. he's ashamed and doesn't want to see her for the rest of the time she's here...

this friend is my best friend since the fifth grade. She will be here for 3 more days...hope this helps

my bf and i got into a fight over something very minor. my friend is here visiting me from out of town and since we fought over the little thing, my bf has moved himself into the living room. he doesn't want to talk to me much. He's sending me mixed signals. He has said i love you, but i'm not in love with you, but he says that he will go to couples counseling with me. i'm not really sure what i should do because i feel like i have no choice but to wait around for him. he said that as soon as my friend is gone things will be back to 'normal'. it breaks my heart that he's extremely depressed, but everytime i suggest that he go talk to someone, he doesn't want to, he'd rather work it out on his own. Unfortunately, this hasn't been working. Does anyone have any ideas for me? i'm not sure what i should do at all...

hi everyone, thanks for the support, at least i know that I'm not the only one with a shady bf. Sorry to hear about your situation devious. They always say boys will be boys. With my bf nothing that i know of has happened that would make him really upset. when i ask what's on his mind, he tells me everything is fine, but then he doesn't want to spend time with me or hang out with me. I don't want to be suspicious, but he's been hanging out with this girl from his work alot because they work the same days and they've been getting close (taking the bus home together, etc.) I would like to think that she's more my friend than his because i've spent more time with this girl one on one outside of work(we work for the same company. My bf and I have been having money problems and i b!tch a lot when things are bad, but even when after i've stopped that things, in my opinon haven't gotten better. tomorrow it makes one week since we started fighting. It's never ever been this bad. Please help!!!

Does anyone else have anything advice for me?

We've been together over 2 years and we're living together. We're practically engaged. I say practically because we've agreed to get married, but he hasn't officially gotten down on one knee and asked me with a ring to give me. I know lots of people who aren't necessarily married that need to go for couples counseling.

Hi everyone, Me and my bf are fighting again. For the past 4 days we've been fighting and I have no idea why. When I ask him what's up, he says that he's fine, but he's not acting like everything's good. For instance, when things are going good, he's very touchy feely-likes to cuddle, etc. These past few days he hasn't even touched me once...seriously. He keeps going over to friend's houses to help them out with their computer problems. I don't suspect him of cheating, but he is acting shady. Last night, i tried to just chill and do my own thing and only talk to him when he talks to me, but he seemed to enjoy that. I'm seriously considering leaving because this problem always comes up. What should I do? We have an appointment for couples counseling in 2 weeks, but i'm not sure if i can wait that long for things to resolve. Please help me!

Thanks so much everyone for your input. I'll suggest that we should start exercising more together. I was worried that it was me, but i realize that it isn't me. If anyone has anything else to contribute, don't hesitate. Thanks again! i'll post again and let you guys know how it goes.

hi, my bf and i have been dating for 2 years and things have had it's ups and downs, but things have been going good for awhile. the only thing is that when we have sex, sometimes my bf can't cum. he gets all sweaty and over heats. we have a fan that we use, but lately this hasn't been cutting it. can anyone help me?

hi, I can relate to thinking about your ex even after things go bad. My ex used to hit me and sometimes i still think about him even though i'm with someone that does make me happy. Whenever there's a break up, the best thing for you to do is to keep yourself busy. Hang out with your girls or try something new that you've always wanted to do. Just do something and you'll feel better, i promise. you can pm me if you need to. Take care!

hi everyone, it's been awhile since i've posted on here. I have since moved to San Francisco to be with my bf. I found a good paying job and things seem to be moving forward. But this morning, we had a falling out over something seriously stupid. Since the argument, i have calmed down thanks to a good friend, but my bf is still not here. I know that guys feel like they have to get away sometimes and they go for walks or whatever to calm down, but what do girls do when they are in this situation? I have already taken a shower, talked to a friend and that has helped me a lot, but I'm kinda out of ideas. i have guilt issues where if i have fun right now that i'm not being a good enough gf. if anyone has ever been in my situation or if you have any ideas with what i could do feel better, please let me know! thanks in advance!

I agree with Empathy. I do that too sometimes...but I can see from a guy's point of view how much that can hurt.

I know that it irked him a lot when i said that nothing is wrong because he would like me to just be straight-forward with him and i understand that. I tried telling him that he needs to let go of the past and really give me a chance, but he says that he can forgive me, but just not forget. I still don't know what to do. He called this morning, but i didn't answer my phone. I'm questioning whether or not I should give my 2 weeks at work. I want to be with him and i know that it can work out, but we really need to sit down and talk about stuff, but i don't know if he's gonna go for that: guys hate it when we say, "We need to talk" so yah. Hopefully he'll be nicer to me today, but seriously i don't know where this relationship is going. I'm willing to leave my friends and family and move 3000 miles away, but i'm not willing to go somewhere that i'm not safe and somewhere that i'll worry about whether or not this is going to work... thanks for your replies, any more questions, comments or ideas would be super helpful.

my bf and i are in a LDR and soon I am moving into his apt. If you have followed my posts, you know that I've been going through a lot these past few weeks. I got into a fight with my grandma today because she was verbally abusive and i told her to stop, I hate my mom's bf, and my bf and I were in a tough spot. My bf and i resolved our issues and we were doing good. We were happy for awhile and I thought that things were definitely looking up for us. I bought my tickets to move to be with him and everything. Today started out really good. But then, after getting into a fight with my mom about whether or not I should go to san franciso, everything got turned upside down. I called my bf to tell him that I loved him right after the fight because I was upset. He said that he needed to go and that he'll call me back later. Later I found out that he had told me he needed to go because he was reading a book and I was seriously irked by that. When he did call me back later, i was super annoyed at the whole world. Does anyone else get like this? When he asked me what was wrong, i said nothing. (is that a lie?) but then everything came out about what was wrong. He said that I lied to him and basically now everything is a huge mess. On top of that, my best friend is having issues with her land lord so i was trying to keep it together so I could help her out, but I don't think i did too good of a job. My bf called me several hours later and really gave it to me. He said that I have a serious problem with lying. I don't think that I do. I mean, everyone lies once in awhile, but i would never lie to him to hurt him. I'm supposed to give my 2 weeks at work tomorrow, but i'm not sure anymore. My bf also said that he can't marry a liar but he's not gonna leave me and he is going to give me another chance. I'm feeling like he's just keeping count of every single time i lied to him. I know that i've hurt him in the past many many times. I even kissed another guy and didn't come clean and one of my "friends" ratted me out. My bf tells me that everytime I lie, even if it's the littlelest lie ever like nothing's wrong when there really is something wrong, it's still a lie and that triggers memories to when i first lied about kissing the other guy. Does this make sense to anyone? I told him that he needs to work though his issues with that because it's not relavent to this issue, but he said that it is his issue. He can totally trust me when we're happy, but when he finds out that i lied, he has absolutely no trust and i have to start from ground zero. I know that i should pay for my consequences, but isnt' there a time when he should somehow be able to seriously forgive me? I don't rub his mistakes in his face at all. I try to just resolve them and move on, but that's not what he does. What should I do? I really need insight and advice. If you read this far please drop me a note. Thanks a lot....

It seems to me that he really does like you, but he's just been busy. I do know that sometimes guys pull away when they feel they're getting too close so this may be it, but I think you should just be patient. He obviously likes you, but he just has a lot going on right now.